mid twenties- losing friends stage?
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Are sgf organsing any outing soon? These few weekends are so boring...
All my friends are so busy with their partners, work, or gaming. I know I must make new friends but seems like most of the people around my age (24) are so crazy about getting that degree, climbing that ladder, winning the girl's heart, or keeping the girls happy.
Anyone having the same problems? I miss my old sec sch friends. Always see them online but so busy. Assignments, work, gf. Is life that shallow? Or am I mixing with the wrong crowd? I work but I'm not crazy over a promotion.
Recently breakup makes things worse- all promises but all aeroplanes by "closest friends".
Is this the norm? -
thats really lonely
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i sense loneliness inside a deep empty void......
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Its not really sad, but just fustrating. I can make new friends, but most of them are like so busy. I have alot of frends online on msn but most are busy, cant talk for long.
so am I mixing with the wrong crowd? I dont think my attitude suck leh. No BO oso. -
army friends??
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try joining some courses from CC or RC or something...
like take up yoga, or learn badminton or take up computer course etc...from there can widen your circles of friends....
Or alternatively, join your friends in the company after work, like pub, or sports or hobbies or like walkathon or something. -
get a gf soon, if not, take ur parents, uncles or aunties out for a meal. i enjoy time spent with my grandma and auntie. I used to think that's so uncool haha
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or go join SDS
or lunch actually. -
army friends= uni life. wait for them to hit holidays loh.Originally posted by used:army friends??
I have no problems making friends, just that everyone is so busy? even some of the jobless friends are busy-ing looking for work... -
I've been thinking about that oso. Lunchactually are so professionals only lah. Hahaa. sds I also join before, not bad. Wait for events/gatherings they will call.Originally posted by nightzip:try joining some courses from CC or RC or something...
like take up yoga, or learn badminton or take up computer course etc...from there can widen your circles of friends....
Or alternatively, join your friends in the company after work, like pub, or sports or hobbies or like walkathon or something.
Thnks for all the suggestions. My dept are all family people- rush back with family type- I like jogging cos dun need to jio anyone
Anyone have the CC or RC website so I can check the courses? thnks -
This is part of life. But you can make life as fun as it was in the past, only if you willing to get some people to chat, go out, slack, etc, etc. Even if most dun wanna do it, at least 1 will consider and you can start with that 1 friend. Slowly you can build up and then start to go out or have fun or anything more loh.Originally posted by The Den:Are sgf organsing any outing soon? These few weekends are so boring...
All my friends are so busy with their partners, work, or gaming. I know I must make new friends but seems like most of the people around my age (24) are so crazy about getting that degree, climbing that ladder, winning the girl's heart, or keeping the girls happy.
Anyone having the same problems? I miss my old sec sch friends. Always see them online but so busy. Assignments, work, gf. Is life that shallow? Or am I mixing with the wrong crowd? I work but I'm not crazy over a promotion.
Recently breakup makes things worse- all promises but all aeroplanes by "closest friends".
Is this the norm?
Outing mah... dis 1 you have to see see loh.
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I think I'm approaching that stage pretty soon....
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Ya... mostly I can get one or two to go... but seeing there are so few people... they cancel the kopi session altogether.. "due to lack of people", happens all the time for yearly sec sch gathering, each yr fewer and fewer ppl...Originally posted by Bontakun:This is part of life. But you can make life as fun as it was in the past, only if you willing to get some people to chat, go out, slack, etc, etc. Even if most dun wanna do it, at least 1 will consider and you can start with that 1 friend. Slowly you can build up and then start to go out or have fun or anything more loh.
Outing mah... dis 1 you have to see see loh.
btw I'm happy to hear that this is "part of life", 'cos my closest friends starting to lose touch, going out lesser and lesser... it's quite hard to accept 'cos not many people can joke that us when we are together.. -
Just keep trying, and as long as you don't give up, slowly they will also feel they losing touch with closed ones and they will recriprocate.Originally posted by The Den:Ya... mostly I can get one or two to go... but seeing there are so few people... they cancel the kopi session altogether.. "due to lack of people", happens all the time for yearly sec sch gathering, each yr fewer and fewer ppl...
btw I'm happy to hear that this is "part of life", 'cos my closest friends starting to lose touch, going out lesser and lesser... it's quite hard to accept 'cos not many people can joke that us when we are together.. -
Mixing with the wrong crowd / not using the suitable method to friends / no follow-up.Originally posted by The Den:Its not really sad, but just fustrating. I can make new friends, but most of them are like so busy. I have alot of frends online on msn but most are busy, cant talk for long.
so am I mixing with the wrong crowd? I dont think my attitude suck leh. No BO oso. -
Join an online fan club, join the gym/aerobics class, get involve in fandom and games... get yourself glued to a community with people that is.
Doesn't have to be your age. You just need to mix around.
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Me just complaining to my friend about this issue ..
All going towards their own direction..
seldom get to meet up with them..
oh well..
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If you need friends, join me at Villa Francis la.
Help out and give companionships to the residents there... they would love to have a chatting session with you.. -
Villa Francis- an old age home right? U a volunteer there?Originally posted by mhcampboy:If you need friends, join me at Villa Francis la.
Help out and give companionships to the residents there... they would love to have a chatting session with you..
*Devil org new outing lei -
Its all about whether you and your friends have the determination to keep in touch. Work, relationships, family matters are all excuses if they do not want to meet up with you. If u want to meet up with someone, surely u will find every way possible to meet up.
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Originally posted by The Den:Villa Francis- an old age home right? U a volunteer there?
*Devil org new outing lei
I started to volunteer there when i was like you years ago. I suddenly feel lost and thinking whether if my friends are really my friends or not...
so i occupy myself with the work and soon, friends started to miss me and they are the ones who called me up..
so better than go outings go makan, watch movie or wad... might as well go and entertain the residents there right... -
*Interested.Originally posted by mhcampboy:If you need friends, join me at Villa Francis la.
Help out and give companionships to the residents there... they would love to have a chatting session with you..
Tell us more leh. -
Ermm I think its normal voluntary work. Never do before ar?Originally posted by Bontakun:*Interested.
Tell us more leh.
You can organize games or just keep the residents company or clean the place up.
But when I do go there, I will help the residents in their occupational and physical therapy...
siggh.. I miss some of them already.. -
well sometimes, it takes quite a bit of wk to keep in touch with friends...Originally posted by The Den:Are sgf organsing any outing soon? These few weekends are so boring...
All my friends are so busy with their partners, work, or gaming. I know I must make new friends but seems like most of the people around my age (24) are so crazy about getting that degree, climbing that ladder, winning the girl's heart, or keeping the girls happy.
Anyone having the same problems? I miss my old sec sch friends. Always see them online but so busy. Assignments, work, gf. Is life that shallow? Or am I mixing with the wrong crowd? I work but I'm not crazy over a promotion.
Recently breakup makes things worse- all promises but all aeroplanes by "closest friends".
Is this the norm?
I know. i'm also struggling with the juggling act....
if u say u miss your sec. sch friends, call them out. take action...
as for knowing new friends... join in activities... take up hobbies, courses... that way u'll know new friends -
Wah... Liddat I oso join in my local RC liao.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Ermm I think its normal voluntary work. Never do before ar?
You can organize games or just keep the residents company or clean the place up.
But when I do go there, I will help the residents in their occupational and physical therapy...
siggh.. I miss some of them already..