You treat your gf as your best friend? Something is wrong.Originally posted by gnehp:I feeling very guilty now about being in a very deep crush with my female colleague. I've a girlfriend of 6 years and our relationahip has been wonderful, we've been travelling the world together many times and she's my best friend. Recently I had to work with this female colleague of mine on a project. Not sure how it happened but I just can't stop thinking about her.
During the project, we had drinks every night and we seem to get along extremely well. So well that I thought she was my girlfriend. I think she likes me as well, but I'm not sure. She would come to me to chat very often. As we drank, she would rest her head on my shoulder. I just feel so comfortable with her around.
Even in office today, we would chat like friends and make fun of each other. Nothing that hints that we are close. I can't help but look at her each time she walks past my desk. She would look at me and give me a sweet smile.
I'm feeling really in the pits right now. I know it's wrong. I don't want this to happen and I treasure my relationship with my girlfriend. I need the strength to break free of such feelings but can't seem to find it.
I'm ashamed to talk to anyone about this but to share it anonymously here.
Nothing wrong what, my gf is also my best best best ever friend.Originally posted by dokono:You treat your gf as your best friend? Something is wrong.
You talked about how much crush you have on her but does she feel the same way? Have you asked yourself if it is one-sided on your part?
Doko
gf is not the same as best friend.Originally posted by Rock^Star:Nothing wrong what, my gf is also my best best best ever friend.![]()
I do appreciate if u can respect how other relationships work differently and are experienced differently from yours.Originally posted by dokono:gf is not the same as best friend.
gf is lover material. I make romance to her. Big difference. If you treat your gf as your best friend, she might take you for granted or vice versa, the r/s may go bad.
I dun do that to my best friend. A best friend is still a friend at best.
doko
I forgot to tell you in my definitionOriginally posted by Rock^Star:I do appreciate if u can respect how other relationships work differently and are experienced differently from yours.![]()
With due respect, maybe you give me a few specific examples of how you treat your gf as best friend?Originally posted by Rock^Star:I do appreciate if u can respect how other relationships work differently and are experienced differently from yours.![]()
Originally posted by gnehp:I feeling very guilty now about being in a very deep crush with my female colleague. I've a girlfriend of 6 years and our relationahip has been wonderful, we've been travelling the world together many times and she's my best friend. Recently I had to work with this female colleague of mine on a project. Not sure how it happened but I just can't stop thinking about her.
During the project, we had drinks every night and we seem to get along extremely well. So well that I thought she was my girlfriend. I think she likes me as well, but I'm not sure. She would come to me to chat very often. As we drank, she would rest her head on my shoulder. I just feel so comfortable with her around.
Even in office today, we would chat like friends and make fun of each other. Nothing that hints that we are close. I can't help but look at her each time she walks past my desk. She would look at me and give me a sweet smile.
I'm feeling really in the pits right now. I know it's wrong. I don't want this to happen and I treasure my relationship with my girlfriend. I need the strength to break free of such feelings but can't seem to find it.
I'm ashamed to talk to anyone about this but to share it anonymously here.
will u all be meeting less after the project? If yes probably there's more chance of stop thinking of her. If u still see her everyday, then sorry u won't be able to stop thinking about her.Originally posted by gnehp:I feeling very guilty now about being in a very deep crush with my female colleague. I've a girlfriend of 6 years and our relationahip has been wonderful, we've been travelling the world together many times and she's my best friend. Recently I had to work with this female colleague of mine on a project. Not sure how it happened but I just can't stop thinking about her.
If you can't handle it, maybe you should just learn to keep your distance away from her?Originally posted by gnehp:I feeling very guilty now about being in a very deep crush with my female colleague. I've a girlfriend of 6 years and our relationahip has been wonderful, we've been travelling the world together many times and she's my best friend. Recently I had to work with this female colleague of mine on a project. Not sure how it happened but I just can't stop thinking about her.
During the project, we had drinks every night and we seem to get along extremely well. So well that I thought she was my girlfriend. I think she likes me as well, but I'm not sure. She would come to me to chat very often. As we drank, she would rest her head on my shoulder. I just feel so comfortable with her around.
Even in office today, we would chat like friends and make fun of each other. Nothing that hints that we are close. I can't help but look at her each time she walks past my desk. She would look at me and give me a sweet smile.
I'm feeling really in the pits right now. I know it's wrong. I don't want this to happen and I treasure my relationship with my girlfriend. I need the strength to break free of such feelings but can't seem to find it.
I'm ashamed to talk to anyone about this but to share it anonymously here.
gnehp. you must sit yourself down and ask yourself who do you really want.Originally posted by gnehp:I feeling very guilty now about being in a very deep crush with my female colleague. I've a girlfriend of 6 years and our relationahip has been wonderful, we've been travelling the world together many times and she's my best friend. Recently I had to work with this female colleague of mine on a project. Not sure how it happened but I just can't stop thinking about her.
During the project, we had drinks every night and we seem to get along extremely well. So well that I thought she was my girlfriend. I think she likes me as well, but I'm not sure. She would come to me to chat very often. As we drank, she would rest her head on my shoulder. I just feel so comfortable with her around.
Even in office today, we would chat like friends and make fun of each other. Nothing that hints that we are close. I can't help but look at her each time she walks past my desk. She would look at me and give me a sweet smile.
I'm feeling really in the pits right now. I know it's wrong. I don't want this to happen and I treasure my relationship with my girlfriend. I need the strength to break free of such feelings but can't seem to find it.
I'm ashamed to talk to anyone about this but to share it anonymously here.
wats wrong with treating gf as best fren?Originally posted by dokono:You treat your gf as your best friend? Something is wrong.
You talked about how much crush you have on her but does she feel the same way? Have you asked yourself if it is one-sided on your part?
Doko
erm...dun tink so.Originally posted by dokono:gf is not the same as best friend.
gf is lover material. I make romance to her. Big difference. If you treat your gf as your best friend, she might take you for granted or vice versa, the r/s may go bad.
I dun do that to my best friend. A best friend is still a friend at best.
doko
HEAR HEAR!!!Originally posted by rainee:erm...dun tink so.
A best fren means someone I share everything with. I share a lot of things about myself with my dear. He does the same to me as well. Whenever any of us has a problem, we will let each other know and will try to help each other out.
Of course, we are more than frens as well, we do have our intimate moments etc that frens do not have, but that does not mean he is not my best fren. I define close frens as those who will stand by you in the moment of needs and someone I can trust and have faith in.
If I cant find a best friend in my dear, who else can I find it in? I don't think I am that close to anyone else and no one else is always so ready to help me when I am in some deep trouble. And this does not lead to me taking him for granted. In fact it has helped us to appreaciate each other more.
Don't tell me that you do not share your problems with your gf? Does that cause her to take you for granted? Helping her when she is in trouble will cause her to do that to you?
if yes, then I think your relationship might be the dysfunctional one instead.
My definition of best friend: Someone who loves u totally and unselfishly (that includes guys friends). Someone whom u feel totally comfy with. Someone whom u can depend on. Someone whom u can trust. Someone whom there's absolute chemistry.Originally posted by dokono:With due respect, maybe you give me a few specific examples of how you treat your gf as best friend?
doko