Communicate with opposite sex
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Jeeeezzz... as far as I am concerned, girls are human beings too. Why should I treat them any different? Some of them even like it that way. But if you want a tip..
Use your ears. God give you them for a reason you know. Learn to pick up certain words and continue onto it. Example:
You: You from which school ar?
Girl: Nanyang Poly...
Keyword: Nanyang Poly.
Things related to Nanyang Poly
- Close to Singapore Safety Driving Centre (ask if she's taking her licence)
- Nursing/business related courses (ask about the courses)
- Situated in the North (ask if she lives anywhere nearby)
You: NYP ah? In Yio Chu Kang leh.. quite close to dat driving centre. Ppl say quite good.
Girl: Yah, I now taking my motorcycle licence there mah
Keyword: Motorcycle lessons
- Ask how the lessons like
- If you awknowledgable about bikes, talk about them
- Comment about female riders
You: Wah.. fierce leh. Nowadays alot of gerls wan to ride bikes 1. U want to ride what bike?
Girl: Dunno leh, I just follow my fren take licence, I also take, hehehe
You: *frown* Ok.
There, you get what I mean? Dun always try to have it like an interview where you ask questions every single time. Make a comment, put an input and then ask a question to continue the conversation. With practice, you'll be quite good. You must be good at listening. I've been told that I am a good conversationist and all I did was sat there and pretended to give a crap! Try it! -
*scribble on notebook, jots down pts*
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Seriously, with no disrespect, but I think that is a tad shallow - I don't know how you're going to sustain a friendship/relationship in the long run if the only thing that keeps it going stems from one party finding out stuff just for the sake of keeping the other enthralled...Originally posted by kenn3th:seriously, u need to make her feel that she is comfortable talking to u...
and it takes real practice to do it ba
well, u can start by talking to her and asking her likes and dislikes and the things she loves to do. if u wann create a topic, u needa see what she's interested in, and u guyz can further talk about it. for eg, the korean drama goong seems to be a very popular topic nowadays, so if u know that she's watching, u can ask her about her opinions, and afte sometime, she will get to know u and u are able to communicate with her anytime
tried that, did that, and it worked
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in that case, everyone is shallow. All relationships/friendships start from simple conversations, and keep growing by finding out each other's likes and dislikes. Otherwise how 2 substain a friendship and relationship?Originally posted by walesa:Seriously, with no disrespect, but I think that is a tad shallow - I don't know how you're going to sustain a friendship/relationship in the long run if the only thing that keeps it going stems from one party finding out stuff just for the sake of keeping the other enthralled... -
Refer to the above - what you're effectively suggesting here is pick up an interest(which you have no inclination for) exclusively for her sake. Try doing that for a lifetime and I'd like to know how you can sustain such relationships(ie.it's always a one-way traffic as far as giving-and-taking is concerned) in the long-run.Originally posted by nanren4ever:if u wann create a topic, u needa see what she's interested in, and u guyz can further talk about it. for eg, the korean drama goong seems to be a very popular topic nowadays, so if u know that she's watching, u can ask her about her opinions, and afte sometime, she will get to know u and u are able to communicate with her anytime
What you suggested above is totally different from what would have been the case had you both shared a common interest in something(at the end of the day, isn't that what most relationships - not just romantic ones - are founded on?)... -
A Book to reccomend...
A Complete idiot's guide to dating.. -
body language anyone?
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Actually I'm having the same problem with my female friend... we just run out of things to talk about.
"Hey, are you gonna watch the new James Bond movie?"
"Nah, don't think so it looks quite cheesy."
"Orh..."
"........"
"........"
"........"
"Err........ so... how was your weekend?"
"Alright. Just went out with friends."
"Ah I see..."
".........."
"........."
*Stabs myself from the akwardness*
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Most important thing. Be natural.
Girls are very smart in knowing whether you are faking it or really mean it when talking to them.
Actually hor, I also got same problem. That's why I dun talk to girls.
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Originally posted by Blahhh:
why no tammy
Jeeeezzz... as far as I am concerned, girls are human beings too. Why should I treat them any different? Some of them even like it that way. But if you want a tip..
Use your ears. God give you them for a reason you know. Learn to pick up certain words and continue onto it. Example:
You: You from which [b]school ar?
Girl: Nanyang Poly...
Keyword: Nanyang Poly.
Things related to Nanyang Poly
- Close to Singapore Safety Driving Centre (ask if she's taking her licence)
- Nursing/business related courses (ask about the courses)
- Situated in the North (ask if she lives anywhere nearby)
You: NYP ah? In Yio Chu Kang leh.. quite close to dat driving centre. Ppl say quite good.
Girl: Yah, I now taking my motorcycle licence there mah
Keyword: Motorcycle lessons
- Ask how the lessons like
- If you awknowledgable about bikes, talk about them
- Comment about female riders
You: Wah.. fierce leh. Nowadays alot of gerls wan to ride bikes 1. U want to ride what bike?
Girl: Dunno leh, I just follow my fren take licence, I also take, hehehe
You: *frown* Ok.
There, you get what I mean? Dun always try to have it like an interview where you ask questions every single time. Make a comment, put an input and then ask a question to continue the conversation. With practice, you'll be quite good. You must be good at listening. I've been told that I am a good conversationist and all I did was sat there and pretended to give a crap! Try it![/b] -
Guys would do well to READ UP more. Read on anything under the Sun be it body language,the effects of the haze,spa treatments,the latest drama serial,palmistry anything.
The more you read,the more things you have a view about.
Please don't always play computer games or talk about football only(though i am nuts about football myself) -
Originally posted by walesa:
hmm, i have a bad memory,but how come the post was attributed to me when i didn't say it?
Refer to the above - what you're effectively suggesting here is pick up an interest(which you have no inclination for) [b]exclusively for her sake. Try doing that for a lifetime and I'd like to know how you can sustain such relationships(ie.it's always a one-way traffic as far as giving-and-taking is concerned) in the long-run.
What you suggested above is totally different from what would have been the case had you both shared a common interest in something(at the end of the day, isn't that what most relationships - not just romantic ones - are founded on?)...
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This is what you do.
Start talking to girls you have no feelings for. Talk to everyone. Talk to old men, old women, ugly girls, pretty aunties. Be really sincere and friendly.
It's very simple.
People make things complicated because they think it's rocket science.
But it's not. It's like mathematics. You need to keep socialising. Practice, practice, practice until your experience points shoot through the roof. In time to come, you will reach enlightenment.
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Haha..why then did you respond to my post when it was clearly a response to kenn3th's post? You confused me for a moment...Originally posted by nanren4ever:hmm, i have a bad memory,but how come the post was attributed to me when i didn't say it? -
Let your finger do the talking...?Originally posted by orange88:body language anyone? -
well, i think this is borne in some of the guys ba. they naturally neve run out of topics. n gals will keep on talkin to thm, without thm having to stress out a topic tat is ...
for those tat r not like tat, LPPL... hav to hands on lo.. try lo, learn lo..
like wht a lot of thm hav said, trail n errors... thy will help u a lot along e way ..
but pls !!! dun hong too much.............. if not, sumthin bad happen, ANG ZUA GONG !!!