Seriously, with no disrespect, but I think that is a tad shallow - I don't know how you're going to sustain a friendship/relationship in the long run if the only thing that keeps it going stems from one party finding out stuff just for the sake of keeping the other enthralled...Originally posted by kenn3th:seriously, u need to make her feel that she is comfortable talking to u...
and it takes real practice to do it ba
well, u can start by talking to her and asking her likes and dislikes and the things she loves to do. if u wann create a topic, u needa see what she's interested in, and u guyz can further talk about it. for eg, the korean drama goong seems to be a very popular topic nowadays, so if u know that she's watching, u can ask her about her opinions, and afte sometime, she will get to know u and u are able to communicate with her anytime
tried that, did that, and it worked
in that case, everyone is shallow. All relationships/friendships start from simple conversations, and keep growing by finding out each other's likes and dislikes. Otherwise how 2 substain a friendship and relationship?Originally posted by walesa:Seriously, with no disrespect, but I think that is a tad shallow - I don't know how you're going to sustain a friendship/relationship in the long run if the only thing that keeps it going stems from one party finding out stuff just for the sake of keeping the other enthralled...![]()
Refer to the above - what you're effectively suggesting here is pick up an interest(which you have no inclination for) exclusively for her sake. Try doing that for a lifetime and I'd like to know how you can sustain such relationships(ie.it's always a one-way traffic as far as giving-and-taking is concerned) in the long-run.Originally posted by nanren4ever:if u wann create a topic, u needa see what she's interested in, and u guyz can further talk about it. for eg, the korean drama goong seems to be a very popular topic nowadays, so if u know that she's watching, u can ask her about her opinions, and afte sometime, she will get to know u and u are able to communicate with her anytime
Originally posted by Blahhh:why no tammy
Jeeeezzz... as far as I am concerned, girls are human beings too. Why should I treat them any different? Some of them even like it that way. But if you want a tip..
Use your ears. God give you them for a reason you know. Learn to pick up certain words and continue onto it. Example:
You: You from which [b]school ar?
Girl: Nanyang Poly...
Keyword: Nanyang Poly.
Things related to Nanyang Poly
- Close to Singapore Safety Driving Centre (ask if she's taking her licence)
- Nursing/business related courses (ask about the courses)
- Situated in the North (ask if she lives anywhere nearby)
You: NYP ah? In Yio Chu Kang leh.. quite close to dat driving centre. Ppl say quite good.
Girl: Yah, I now taking my motorcycle licence there mah
Keyword: Motorcycle lessons
- Ask how the lessons like
- If you awknowledgable about bikes, talk about them
- Comment about female riders
You: Wah.. fierce leh. Nowadays alot of gerls wan to ride bikes 1. U want to ride what bike?
Girl: Dunno leh, I just follow my fren take licence, I also take, hehehe
You: *frown* Ok.
There, you get what I mean? Dun always try to have it like an interview where you ask questions every single time. Make a comment, put an input and then ask a question to continue the conversation. With practice, you'll be quite good. You must be good at listening. I've been told that I am a good conversationist and all I did was sat there and pretended to give a crap! Try it![/b]
Originally posted by walesa:hmm, i have a bad memory,but how come the post was attributed to me when i didn't say it?
Refer to the above - what you're effectively suggesting here is pick up an interest(which you have no inclination for) [b]exclusively for her sake. Try doing that for a lifetime and I'd like to know how you can sustain such relationships(ie.it's always a one-way traffic as far as giving-and-taking is concerned) in the long-run.
What you suggested above is totally different from what would have been the case had you both shared a common interest in something(at the end of the day, isn't that what most relationships - not just romantic ones - are founded on?)...
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Haha..why then did you respond to my post when it was clearly a response to kenn3th's post? You confused me for a moment...Originally posted by nanren4ever:hmm, i have a bad memory,but how come the post was attributed to me when i didn't say it?
Let your finger do the talking...?Originally posted by orange88:body language anyone?![]()