why human like this?
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what do u do if your husband cannot accept or don't like your mum, esp when she is sick and neeed to stay over at your house, so i can take careof her, but husband is always angry and upset with her and find her fault in every way even while sh ei ssick, like she took my little gal pilliow he also not happy and all stupid matters, he got angry and we always argue, fight over it, why, what do u do if in this situation.
i thought of havingmy mum to stay at my place, until she recovers,
also thinking of asking her to move in with me, looks like husband not happy, i am so sad, stress.
i am torn apart from mum and husabnd, i love them so so much .if need to chose who do u choose. mum is best, she is best mum i 've , she took care of me when i am sick, husband also good, he took care of me too before . -
ever aked your husband if he is ok with you staying over at your mom's ??
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talk to him over this small matter
seems like your husband is possesive
and is not resonable
i guess if u still can't talk to him about such small matters
just go to your mom's place
afta awhile he cools down and will go look for u there -
Speak to BOTH your husband and your mum. Work things out so that your mum can be more readily accepted within the family.Originally posted by alba:what do u do if your husband cannot accept or don't like your mum, esp when she is sick and neeed to stay over at your house, so i can take careof her, but husband is always angry and upset with her and find her fault in every way even while sh ei ssick, like she took my little gal pilliow he also not happy and all stupid matters, he got angry and we always argue, fight over it, why, what do u do if in this situation.
i thought of havingmy mum to stay at my place, until she recovers,
also thinking of asking her to move in with me, looks like husband not happy, i am so sad, stress.
i am torn apart from mum and husabnd, i love them so so much .if need to chose who do u choose. mum is best, she is best mum i 've , she took care of me when i am sick, husband also good, he took care of me too before .
All I can say is that at least you try? -
spoken a zillions times, spoken and scolded husband million of times, of course mother not to be blame ,she is old and pitiful, but hubby think he is the mightly ones so that the problem, always look for my mum faults, cannot give and take, maybe he is bad person.old ppl already don't know why my husband so bad, how long can live in this world? i hope to be nice to all. but everyday tension between we.Originally posted by Devil1976:Speak to BOTH your husband and your mum. Work things out so that your mum can be more readily accepted within the family.
All I can say is that at least you try? -
At least he allows her in the house.
My friend was in the same position as you and she had given up hope that in the end she had to put her mum into a nursing home, to keep peace -
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Why is my husband like this? 
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you married a very petty man,with no kindness in his heartOriginally posted by alba:what do u do if your husband cannot accept or don't like your mum, esp when she is sick and neeed to stay over at your house, so i can take careof her, but husband is always angry and upset with her and find her fault in every way even while sh ei ssick, like she took my little gal pilliow he also not happy and all stupid matters, he got angry and we always argue, fight over it, why, what do u do if in this situation.
i thought of havingmy mum to stay at my place, until she recovers,
also thinking of asking her to move in with me, looks like husband not happy, i am so sad, stress.
i am torn apart from mum and husabnd, i love them so so much .if need to chose who do u choose. mum is best, she is best mum i 've , she took care of me when i am sick, husband also good, he took care of me too before . -
ya, she should marry a real man. Right?
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Your friend's husband is evil...Originally posted by elindra:At least he allows her in the house.
My friend was in the same position as you and she had given up hope that in the end she had to put her mum into a nursing home, to keep peace
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talk to him in a calm manner.Originally posted by alba:spoken a zillions times, spoken and scolded husband million of times, of course mother not to be blame ,she is old and pitiful, but hubby think he is the mightly ones so that the problem, always look for my mum faults, cannot give and take, maybe he is bad person.old ppl already don't know why my husband so bad, how long can live in this world? i hope to be nice to all. but everyday tension between we.
just tell him right now your mum is not well and u have to be by her side... and if he really don't want her to stay you'll have to go over and stay with her while taking care of her...
slowly help him understand the importance... but all the time in a calm manner.. don't use words like "you always... Can't you understand... can you don't..." -
Nobody's saying your mum's to be blamed.. But ultimately your objective should be to get your mum to move in with you so that you can take care of her yup?Originally posted by alba:spoken a zillions times, spoken and scolded husband million of times, of course mother not to be blame ,she is old and pitiful, but hubby think he is the mightly ones so that the problem, always look for my mum faults, cannot give and take, maybe he is bad person.old ppl already don't know why my husband so bad, how long can live in this world? i hope to be nice to all. but everyday tension between we.
There is always something called negotiation, why scold and quarrel with your husband? Do you think having your husband pissed and communication broken down would have solved your problem and in this case, helped your mum at all? Like you've mentioned it yourself, it's about the give and take?
When I spoke about talking to both parties, I meant BOTH parties... Find what are the major points which your husband can't tolerate about your mum... Try to see if you can speak to your mum about those points or have things amended in certain ways so that things might work out..
Give and take, try to work out something which your husband can accept.. Talk to your mum, let her understand that you're hoping to help her out on this one.. But also let her understand that you'll need her cooperations at the same time... -
Alba, you have no other siblings to take care of yr mum? What sickness is she suffering from? Heart problems? long term sickness? senility?
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maybe your husband want privacy with you la.
that is why picking on your mum.
if not then maybe he is the problem in the house. lol -
I'm sorry for you. I think your husband is unreasonable, your husband has responsibility and duty for your mom when he married you.
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damn i hate moms...
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Sounds like you need a break from your husband. Go stay at your mum's and take care of her. If he doesn't like it, tough - it's his baggage to deal with.
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I hve never tired talking to my mum, to me my mum is my angel, she is the loving of my life, cos i've miss her since my parents separated, now she is back to me, so she means so much to me, i would never want to hurt her, and she is very pitiful being verbally abuse by my dad during her young days, so i pitied her so much and she suffered a lot all her life, as she aged i reallly want to help her, too bad my husband is the bad guy that I love, so i am torn in betwwen but i always scolded or blame my husband cos i want my mum badly and he is the black hearted one so i talk alot to him still it never make sense to him, he is still ego, proud and bad guy, no compassion or feelings,hard hearted, i am sure he won't like my mum here, he prefer a maid not old mum, to him she can't help much (maybe), so the conflict stress is every single word that he open his mouth, we fight, it is always he don't like my mum to like on the lights(he say waste electric), sol he controls every of our move, i am lost. truly lost and sad, i am so tired too, cos i can't get a thinking space, and resting space until as i close my eyes, i just felt terribly sleepy and just dozed off like very deep sleep. i am scared i find hard to wake up. maybe i am too tired.Originally posted by Devil1976:Nobody's saying your mum's to be blamed.. But ultimately your objective should be to get your mum to move in with you so that you can take care of her yup?
There is always something called negotiation, why scold and quarrel with your husband? Do you think having your husband pissed and communication broken down would have solved your problem and in this case, helped your mum at all? Like you've mentioned it yourself, it's about the give and take?
When I spoke about talking to both parties, I meant BOTH parties... Find what are the major points which your husband can't tolerate about your mum... Try to see if you can speak to your mum about those points or have things amended in certain ways so that things might work out..
Give and take, try to work out something which your husband can accept.. Talk to your mum, let her understand that you're hoping to help her out on this one.. But also let her understand that you'll need her cooperations at the same time... -
problem is my mum stay in 1 rm flat and no space esp my children need to studdy to teach them and most of my things at my home, and i would llike her to rest and stay in my house that is more convient for her, like bigger space and good resting for her, so i can do housework, while be there for her all day long.Originally posted by udontknowme:ever aked your husband if he is ok with you staying over at your mom's ??
maybe i should try few days to stay over there, but i can't sleep over cos of kids schooling distance. -
Threaten the damned hubby.
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really so sad, can't she fight for her mum? i would like n prepare to fight for my mum , that is why we are fighting and arguing every single minute of the time. very stress really, but i won't think of nursing home, i rather i stayed and take care of her at her house, or to and fro from her place to mine and spend more tkme with her.Originally posted by nightzip:Your friend's husband is evil... -
no other sibling ia m the only one child she got, and we hv been separated a while as she is aging i am taking care of her.Originally posted by Bontakun:Alba, you have no other siblings to take care of yr mum? What sickness is she suffering from? Heart problems? long term sickness? senility? -
Helloe threathen what????Originally posted by missqi:Threaten the damned hubby. -
If your husband really cannot stand it, is the family fianancially able such that you can hire nurse or send her to old folks home?Originally posted by alba:no other sibling ia m the only one child she got, and we hv been separated a while as she is aging i am taking care of her.