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Don't turn back.Originally posted by mitgalant:guys,i already told her le. i tell her nvm ba. lets break. i regret doin it. yet i knw i muz do it.
she say ok. and still wants to treat me as her fren. she is goin to be single now. she told me"but i duno how true it is" she will nt be goin into a relationshop now.
i dun mind waitin for her. cos she say maybe end of the day, we might still be together in future. she's waitin for me to mature, after my NS there might be hope
Tats y i am clingin to this hope now
i duno if i am doin the right things, but somehow i juz cant forget her. i duno what i can do to, am i waitin like a fool ? or am i juz lettin her play along. she told me she wont be goin together with tat guy ? tats the truth ?
anyway i am so so hurt. i will do anythin to get her back. -
huh? u said u broke up with her le but u still said u wan to get her back?Originally posted by mitgalant:guys,i already told her le. i tell her nvm ba. lets break. i regret doin it. yet i knw i muz do it.
she say ok. and still wants to treat me as her fren. she is goin to be single now. she told me"but i duno how true it is" she will nt be goin into a relationshop now.
i dun mind waitin for her. cos she say maybe end of the day, we might still be together in future. she's waitin for me to mature, after my NS there might be hope
Tats y i am clingin to this hope now
i duno if i am doin the right things, but somehow i juz cant forget her. i duno what i can do to, am i waitin like a fool ? or am i juz lettin her play along. she told me she wont be goin together with tat guy ? tats the truth ?
anyway i am so so hurt. i will do anythin to get her back.
Make up your mind man
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Hi,Originally posted by mitgalant:guys,i already told her le. i tell her nvm ba. lets break. i regret doin it. yet i knw i muz do it.
she say ok. and still wants to treat me as her fren. she is goin to be single now. she told me"but i duno how true it is" she will nt be goin into a relationshop now.
i dun mind waitin for her. cos she say maybe end of the day, we might still be together in future. she's waitin for me to mature, after my NS there might be hope
Tats y i am clingin to this hope now
i duno if i am doin the right things, but somehow i juz cant forget her. i duno what i can do to, am i waitin like a fool ? or am i juz lettin her play along. she told me she wont be goin together with tat guy ? tats the truth ?
anyway i am so so hurt. i will do anythin to get her back.
See... I told u.... once the moment u say break, she has no hesitation to say ok.
Let go boy, U will find more excitment in life when u enlisted to NS, u will meet all sort of frens and ur life will be full of excitment.... and lots of girls too, u will forget her eventuallly.
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NS got a lot of gals meh? tell him something easier to believe leh ;pOriginally posted by bazi:Let go boy, U will find more excitment in life when u enlisted to NS, u will meet all sort of frens and ur life will be full of excitment.... and lots of girls too, u will forget her eventuallly.
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I mean when he hv NS frens, he will hv chance to meet more girls when he go out partying with them ma....Originally posted by blu_sky:NS got a lot of gals meh? tell him something easier to believe leh ;p -
Originally posted by bazi:I mean when he hv NS frens, he will hv chance to meet more girls when he go out partying with them ma....
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Broke up liao, she tell you she 'single' also none of your business liao right?Originally posted by mitgalant:guys,i already told her le. i tell her nvm ba. lets break. i regret doin it. yet i knw i muz do it.
she say ok. and still wants to treat me as her fren. she is goin to be single now. she told me"but i duno how true it is" she will nt be goin into a relationshop now.
i dun mind waitin for her. cos she say maybe end of the day, we might still be together in future. she's waitin for me to mature, after my NS there might be hope
Tats y i am clingin to this hope now
i duno if i am doin the right things, but somehow i juz cant forget her. i duno what i can do to, am i waitin like a fool ? or am i juz lettin her play along. she told me she wont be goin together with tat guy ? tats the truth ?
anyway i am so so hurt. i will do anythin to get her back.
Somehow I can't help this feeling that she might be trying to have you 'hooked on' and under her control ('spell'?)...
Ask yourself why ya broke off with her in the 1st place.
What you're clinging onto should be what we topically called 'clinging onto false hopes'....
If you know which direction you should be walking then DON'T turn back...
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haha...dudeOriginally posted by mitgalant:guys,i already told her le. i tell her nvm ba. lets break. i regret doin it. yet i knw i muz do it.
she say ok. and still wants to treat me as her fren. she is goin to be single now. she told me"but i duno how true it is" she will nt be goin into a relationshop now.
i dun mind waitin for her. cos she say maybe end of the day, we might still be together in future. she's waitin for me to mature, after my NS there might be hope
Tats y i am clingin to this hope now
i duno if i am doin the right things, but somehow i juz cant forget her. i duno what i can do to, am i waitin like a fool ? or am i juz lettin her play along. she told me she wont be goin together with tat guy ? tats the truth ?
anyway i am so so hurt. i will do anythin to get her back.
I think you should read this thread. You sound like this puppy.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=215120
All these over a girl? If you are so unhappy already when attached, I think you will be happier without a girl/love. Perhaps the path for you is singlehood, if you can't drop this girl and go find someone else.
Everybody likes your ex-gf. The more important question is, whom does your ex-gf like? You or the other guy? You cannot hope for his feelings to go down. You can't control feelings.
During the time when you mature, she is in the arms of some guy making out.
The reason she gave you this BS is because you are not MAN enough for her! You are boring, predictable and a lovesick pooch. No offense to you, she still like you as a friend but she cannot fall in love with you.
You made a correct decision by breaking up. In fact, you did not break up. You two already broke up during the cooling period!
Do as much as you like because at the end of the day, you will still find all of us saying the right things again. Don't come back crying when you asked us to give you a lot of practical advice. The amount of time you spent waiting for her is the amount of time you have wasted that could have been used to hustle other chicks.
doko -
hi guys, i am back again. juz came back frm my 21 bbday chalet. it's hurtin. i did nt enjoy my time there. i am pullin a black and gloomy face on my most impt day.
when i called her, " i ask her where she is, she replied he fetch me here"
my mum called her without me knowin and ask her her if she is comin with tat guy, and she replied he is fetchin me here. she even told her aunt. i promise **** i will come, but actually i dont feel like comin.
the reason y she broke off with me pior to my bbday is becoz i keep askin her for an ans and tats y she broke off with me a day b4 my 21 bbday.
today she called me again, and ask me, abt some road direction. i straight away knew she was with that guy and i cant help but keep thinkin if she is there to hurt me or does she really doesnt mean it ?
guys, still worth it ? i keep harbourin the hopes that she will return to me one day. when she have finally woken up frm this guy. i dun wanna see her kana cheated by some ppl -
She wake up...? I think you're the one who needs to WAKE UP...Originally posted by mitgalant:hi guys, i am back again. juz came back frm my 21 bbday chalet. it's hurtin. i did nt enjoy my time there. i am pullin a black and gloomy face on my most impt day.
when i called her, " i ask her where she is, she replied he fetch me here"
my mum called her without me knowin and ask her her if she is comin with tat guy, and she replied he is fetchin me here. she even told her aunt. i promise **** i will come, but actually i dont feel like comin.
the reason y she broke off with me pior to my bbday is becoz i keep askin her for an ans and tats y she broke off with me a day b4 my 21 bbday.
today she called me again, and ask me, abt some road direction. i straight away knew she was with that guy and i cant help but keep thinkin if she is there to hurt me or does she really doesnt mean it ?
guys, still worth it ? i keep harbourin the hopes that she will return to me one day. when she have finally woken up frm this guy. i dun wanna see her kana cheated by some ppl -
Originally posted by Devil1976:She wake up...? I think you're the one who needs to WAKE UP...
one needle see blood
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guys, r u all able to tell me what can i do now ?
i am at a total loss. i am still tryin my best. tryin not to get sad over it. tryin to do what i can to make myself happy buy its very difficult.
i knw the fastest way is to get to knw another girl and then try to forget this thing. BUT i dun wanna hurt another person cos i knw i dun truly love her. But yet i dun knw wats the fastest way that i can do to get over her. how ?
i knw i need to wake up. i knw i knw. BUT HOW ? -
You wun get well so fast.Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, r u all able to tell me what can i do now ?
i am at a total loss. i am still tryin my best. tryin not to get sad over it. tryin to do what i can to make myself happy buy its very difficult.
i knw the fastest way is to get to knw another girl and then try to forget this thing. BUT i dun wanna hurt another person cos i knw i dun truly love her. But yet i dun knw wats the fastest way that i can do to get over her. how ?
i knw i need to wake up. i knw i knw. BUT HOW ?
All you need is Time. And maybe some activities to get her off your mind.
I know it is hard now..but persist on and one day you will realize that you have gotten over her -
run against the wall fast and hard ,headfirst!Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, r u all able to tell me what can i do now ?
i am at a total loss. i am still tryin my best. tryin not to get sad over it. tryin to do what i can to make myself happy buy its very difficult.
i knw the fastest way is to get to knw another girl and then try to forget this thing. BUT i dun wanna hurt another person cos i knw i dun truly love her. But yet i dun knw wats the fastest way that i can do to get over her. how ?
i knw i need to wake up. i knw i knw. BUT HOW ?
why do you need us to tell you what to do ?????
you are still trying to convince yourself to go back to her again!
dont give yourself excuses!
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Maybe u need some dose of sedatives to numb your mind..Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, r u all able to tell me what can i do now ?
i am at a total loss. i am still tryin my best. tryin not to get sad over it. tryin to do what i can to make myself happy buy its very difficult.
i knw the fastest way is to get to knw another girl and then try to forget this thing. BUT i dun wanna hurt another person cos i knw i dun truly love her. But yet i dun knw wats the fastest way that i can do to get over her. how ?
i knw i need to wake up. i knw i knw. BUT HOW ? -
i am tryin. but its really too stupid of me to put in so much love into my first ever relationship. she is my first serious gf, and i simply love her too much that sometimes i wonder if i really know what i am doin?
i knw, the standard things will be like, goin for a jog, keep myself occupied.
but whenever i woke up frm my bed, the first thing in my mind is HER. Whenever i slp, i always dreamt we are back together. The memories that i had with her. its everywhere. its always comin back.
even when i am typin this, my head and is her.
i dun know y i am harbourin hopes of her returnin to me. Maybe is becoz of somethings she said that gave me a little hope.
She told me, maybe after NS, when i am more mature, we might still be together. all she wan now is to have fun and be alone. BUT WHERE on earth, will someone that is tryin to be ALONE still go to clubs? still go out with tat guy every nw and then ? Is tat what she really mean by being alone ?
i dun know, but somehow i still think i need serious help now. I had lost so much weight. Frm 64kg to a mere 56kg in like a week. -
First love surely be more painful than anything but pls keep in mind that there are many other more important things for you to focus like your well begin and attending N.S soon. True love comes later.
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i knw i feel so stupid. i feel like a fool but haiz. its so fast. things is so fast. i cant accept it.
she is nt out for a revenge right ? she really change her heart so fast ?
Girls out there, can u all really change ur heart so fast ? -
The fastest way is not necessarily the best way... In this case, it's so very true...Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, r u all able to tell me what can i do now ?
i am at a total loss. i am still tryin my best. tryin not to get sad over it. tryin to do what i can to make myself happy buy its very difficult.
i knw the fastest way is to get to knw another girl and then try to forget this thing. BUT i dun wanna hurt another person cos i knw i dun truly love her. But yet i dun knw wats the fastest way that i can do to get over her. how ?
i knw i need to wake up. i knw i knw. BUT HOW ?
Why would you want the 'fastest way'? How about the more effective way...?
1st of all, STOP giving yourself ANY hope. Do you realise that you're like buying a lottery now...? If you buy a certain number combination, yes... You might have a CHANCE to WIN... A so called 'hope'... Nobody can truly deny you of that FACT.... But SERIOUSLY... LOOK at those people who QUEUE for LOTTERY.... Out of the HUNDREDS, how many of them actually win...?
GO FIGURE. Why cling onto that LOUSY 'HOPE'? It just APPEARS so much BIGGER simply because ya DESIRES IT... It's a paradox error. When you see a small hole on the wall which appears much larger than it actually is because the girl you so much desire is on the other side... And ya try to squeeze your way through with all your efforts... REALISE how MEANINGLESS and POINTLESS IT IS.
2nd thing. NO LONGER YOUR GF means no longer YOUR BUSINESS. You've got YOUR OWN LIFE, she has got hers. The MAIN DIFFERENCE now is that she's already living her life (the way she wish it to be), but you're not... You're SORE. To get on with life and away from her DOESN'T mean you DO ALOT OF THINGS just to DISTRACT YOURSELF. It means you DO THINGS because you ENJOY doing them and LIVING YOUR LIFE as it is. LOVE YOUR LIFE as it DESERVES to be LOVED by you. LOVE YOURSELF. If you can't even claim 'LOVE' from yourself, imagine how much more difficult it would be for another to pass it on to you? BE FAIR to YOURSELF.
3rd thing. If one TRULY LOVES you, there's NO WAY you're gonna be kicking her out of your life.. The REVERSE is TRUE that if she DOESN'T, then there's NO WAY you can cling onto her heart... If you TRULY have DOUBTS for her love... Leaving her behind is one of the better choices.. That if she TRULY LOVES you, she'll COME ALL THE WAY BACK with ACTIONS to PROVE IT... Else you'll just be as 'invisible' if you continue to hang around her... -
i know what u meant all these. hopefully time will heal me in the fastest way.
i try not to grieve over this thing and i will be strong. everythin when i see ppl that scold or give me advise all these, i will straighten out my thinkin. BUT whenever i am alone, the darn thoughts juz all came back to me and its like back to square one. i really really really wish to put an end to this. i hate it but yet i cant stop. i am goin bersek. -
I know I know. She is your first gf. So what?Originally posted by mitgalant:i know what u meant all these. hopefully time will heal me in the fastest way.
i try not to grieve over this thing and i will be strong. everythin when i see ppl that scold or give me advise all these, i will straighten out my thinkin. BUT whenever i am alone, the darn thoughts juz all came back to me and its like back to square one. i really really really wish to put an end to this. i hate it but yet i cant stop. i am goin bersek.
Give yourself time and be patient with yourself.
You will get over her soon enough.
At this point of time, I advise you not to get a new girl unless you are damn confident that you have no feelings for her any longer. Also, getting a gf at this point shows desperation and it's not good for your cause.
Go print out all the pages in this thread.
Whenever you think about her, take out this thread and read everything all over again.
GET THIS INTO YOUR THICK SKULL: IT'S OVER! ADIOS! SAY GOODBYE TO HER! TIME FOR A NEW CHAPTER IN LIFE!
doko -
Don't be alone then. Try to meet up with people. Keep yourself occupied with someone around you to talk to.Originally posted by mitgalant:i know what u meant all these. hopefully time will heal me in the fastest way.
i try not to grieve over this thing and i will be strong. everythin when i see ppl that scold or give me advise all these, i will straighten out my thinkin. BUT whenever i am alone, the darn thoughts juz all came back to me and its like back to square one. i really really really wish to put an end to this. i hate it but yet i cant stop. i am goin bersek.
Like I've said. No point going for the fastest way.
You're 21 already. Give yourself a BIGGER CONTROL over your own life. You'll probably face GREATER CHALLENGES AHEAD.
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after reading so much.. this is what i have to say
1) since u decided to break off with her, no point clinging on to anything. gers are like that, they can say all the funny things, like they wont want any relationship for now and blah blah. it will never be true. what they tell u is just so that they won't feel so guilty, or maybe so that you would feel more hurt.
2) time will heal you, yes, provided if she don't come call u and "disturb" your life. change your hp number if u are serious on coming clean from her. don't worry of such things like "if next time she want find me how?". now friendster link link link can find each other one.... but i doubt she will find you, unless u prove useful to her. girls like to make use of guys.
3) please don't be a spare tyre. i know its easy to say but hard to do, can you accept the fact that the ger you love being touched by some freaking bstard? then what she think? love is not a game to you, she happy will go try other guys, don't feel like sian liao come back find you?? i don't think you want such a relationship.
4) hope all guys/girls who snatch other people's partner kena bang by car -
hi fren, u're currently in the same situation as me. just like me, we had a 1 week cool off period and she had a change of heart. knew the guy 2 mths only. after our vebal breakup, she had a bf the next day.
ok this is wat going to happen if u keep thinking of her and finding her. For my case, she's afraid of me already. she said she's gonna change her hp num and etc. good, at least she can be cruel to me, making myself looking like a fool. i still think of her, but theres nothing i can do.
find urself a hobby, like me singing K every week haha! if u wanna meet up, can always PM me, we can chat about our lives and be frens
my thread is http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=216629
good luck fren, let it go, if its urs, it will come back to u -
if worthwhile to chase ,then go ahead or else
move on