Disappointed and Sad
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hi guys, yup i read above the above comments, especially bigdeal situation. i am truly like him. he truly understand how i feel all these.
we both cant bear to let go. we know the correct way is to let go, but we cant let it go.
the lastest update that i have now is that, her cousins also find there is somethin wrong with her and they are tryin their best to talk to her.
meanwhile over at my situation, i am better alittle. din know i can lost like 64 to 57kg in a week. hard to believe.
well, what if she really come back to me now ? will this lead to another break up in future ? i am so scared. but yet i really wan her to come back. my family is sayin i am gone case. i am truly and madly in love with her.
i told her yest, no matter what u had done, no matter what mistake u did with this guy, even if to the extend of endin up together on the same bed, i know myself, i WILL and i mean i WILL accept it and i WILL TRULY forgive her. cos i juz love her too deeply that all these doesnt mean a thing to me.
Well, definately i will lose some trust in her, and we need to build this up. but i hope god will be fair to me. she is really my ideal partner.
i am feelin abit better now, i am startin to face the fact that she is gone, but yet sometimes i will also feel there is still hope. everythin i do today still bring me memories.
i am still havin the wishful thinkin that she might wake up suddenly and call me to tell me she finally wan to be with me again. but i knw it will not happen and it is only like 0-5% she will say that. BUT at least 5% is still a % and there is still hope.
I think i am gone case for now. i am really gone. i am taken away by a girl. -
There is nothing wrong with her. There is something wrong with you. She just doesn't feel for you anymore. She is displaying signs of low feelings towards you. Can you understand the situation now?Originally posted by mitgalant:hi guys, yup i read above the above comments, especially bigdeal situation. i am truly like him. he truly understand how i feel all these.
we both cant bear to let go. we know the correct way is to let go, but we cant let it go.
the lastest update that i have now is that, her cousins also find there is somethin wrong with her and they are tryin their best to talk to her.
meanwhile over at my situation, i am better alittle. din know i can lost like 64 to 57kg in a week. hard to believe.
well, what if she really come back to me now ? will this lead to another break up in future ? i am so scared. but yet i really wan her to come back. my family is sayin i am gone case. i am truly and madly in love with her.
i told her yest, no matter what u had done, no matter what mistake u did with this guy, even if to the extend of endin up together on the same bed, i know myself, i WILL and i mean i WILL accept it and i WILL TRULY forgive her. cos i juz love her too deeply that all these doesnt mean a thing to me.
Well, definately i will lose some trust in her, and we need to build this up. but i hope god will be fair to me. she is really my ideal partner.
i am feelin abit better now, i am startin to face the fact that she is gone, but yet sometimes i will also feel there is still hope. everythin i do today still bring me memories.
i am still havin the wishful thinkin that she might wake up suddenly and call me to tell me she finally wan to be with me again. but i knw it will not happen and it is only like 0-5% she will say that. BUT at least 5% is still a % and there is still hope.
I think i am gone case for now. i am really gone. i am taken away by a girl.
Let me tell you something. You can go and beg her. She MIGHT want to come back. After that you will come back to this forum and complain again. It will prove us right again. Everytime you go against our advice you will find you are wrong again. Can't you understand? Women seldom tell the guys they have no interest in them anymore. Sometimes they will give a bit of hope. They know guys cannot take the pain. Be strong.
Did you know that when you say if she comes back after bedding the new guy you will forgive her, you sound like a wimp, a pussy-whipped guy? Which self-respecting guy will take a woman back? DuMp her! It's over. Let me tell you something again. If you ever forgive her, she will treat you like a dirt. You know why? Because she did not respect you! You can't give her the chance to respect you! You remind me of a similar predicament most guys are in when they are so madly in love. They keep giving excuses to their women whom. They are not tough enough. They cannot even respect themselves! Self-respect is what most men needs. More so than the so-called love. Most importantly, ask yourself: will she sacrifice as much as you do huh?
She is not your ideal partner. Again, making up excuses for her again just because you are 10000% madly in love with her. You are boring and she has had enuff fun with you in this r/s.
5% chance is not enough. You need 100% chance, I tell you. It's like trying to operate a tumour with 0-5% chance survival.
See the light. There is no ideal/special ONE. But, there are a lot of good chicks out there with good personality. Also, there are evil bitches too. The path to dating is tough, in fact it is a war. A long term r/s is never easy with obstacles along the way. You need a good girl. The girl, apparently has lost it with you and so, is not for you.
In this war of love, you have been gunned down. Go heal yourself. You need a lot of medipacks to heal yuor heart before you set foot in this battlefield again, with increased experience.
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haiz, its so early, i dreamt abt her twice last nite. one time is when we juz met. the second time is when i talk to her and she seems to be tellin me we have hope
i dun wanna wake up every mornin to face this problem everyday. its so devastatin and its so sad. i wanna wake up to be cheerful but i juz cant. i cant do it. i duno knw y.
wat can i do?? how ?? argh, its so fan. i really at a lost now. i juz cant wake up and tell myself its over. i really cant. -
Find yourself a hobby like Bigdeal to pass time....Originally posted by mitgalant:haiz, its so early, i dreamt abt her twice last nite. one time is when we juz met. the second time is when i talk to her and she seems to be tellin me we have hope
i dun wanna wake up every mornin to face this problem everyday. its so devastatin and its so sad. i wanna wake up to be cheerful but i juz cant. i cant do it. i duno knw y.
wat can i do?? how ?? argh, its so fan. i really at a lost now. i juz cant wake up and tell myself its over. i really cant.
Tell yourself this... Some girls are only good to see, love and feel for... But not suitable to be in a relationship with... She's one of them... If you wanna talk about God, God has already given you the chance to escape this net from someone not suitable to be in a relationship with...
Sometimes you just don't get what you're getting now, do you...?
Plus given you the taste of its sweetness... That's it.
Good things let you tasted before, bad things taken away from you.. Sometimes I also don't know what you people want.... -
at the moment you are obsessed, in time if you continue to be like thisOriginally posted by mitgalant:haiz, its so early, i dreamt abt her twice last nite. one time is when we juz met. the second time is when i talk to her and she seems to be tellin me we have hope
i dun wanna wake up every mornin to face this problem everyday. its so devastatin and its so sad. i wanna wake up to be cheerful but i juz cant. i cant do it. i duno knw y.
wat can i do?? how ?? argh, its so fan. i really at a lost now. i juz cant wake up and tell myself its over. i really cant.
you will move into the stalker phase
before you know it, you are a criminal
do yourself and society a favor
snap out of it
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do you want it to be like this?
i want to just hold your hands like this and not let go
can love be simple without pain
you leaning on my shoulder
you sleeping on my chest
quoting from jay chou
you can be like all above but the other party must be in love with you
shes not
go and search for the love like above
beautiful and simple
and of course
great sex
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it is normal to feel this way. it is knormal to 'dun feel like wakin up to face the problem', it is alright. many people have been thru this stage. but one thing you muz do, keep tellin yourself that it is over, keep doin that everyday, in time to come you will accept it as reality, then you can move on. Take your time.Originally posted by mitgalant:haiz, its so early, i dreamt abt her twice last nite. one time is when we juz met. the second time is when i talk to her and she seems to be tellin me we have hope
i dun wanna wake up every mornin to face this problem everyday. its so devastatin and its so sad. i wanna wake up to be cheerful but i juz cant. i cant do it. i duno knw y.
wat can i do?? how ?? argh, its so fan. i really at a lost now. i juz cant wake up and tell myself its over. i really cant. -
some how i feel that you are just another one who despite what we advice you, despite you agreeing with us, you'll still go ahead and ignore our advices.Originally posted by mitgalant:hi guys, yup i read above the above comments, especially bigdeal situation. i am truly like him. he truly understand how i feel all these.
we both cant bear to let go. we know the correct way is to let go, but we cant let it go.
the lastest update that i have now is that, her cousins also find there is somethin wrong with her and they are tryin their best to talk to her.
meanwhile over at my situation, i am better alittle. din know i can lost like 64 to 57kg in a week. hard to believe.
well, what if she really come back to me now ? will this lead to another break up in future ? i am so scared. but yet i really wan her to come back. my family is sayin i am gone case. i am truly and madly in love with her.
i told her yest, no matter what u had done, no matter what mistake u did with this guy, even if to the extend of endin up together on the same bed, i know myself, i WILL and i mean i WILL accept it and i WILL TRULY forgive her. cos i juz love her too deeply that all these doesnt mean a thing to me.
Well, definately i will lose some trust in her, and we need to build this up. but i hope god will be fair to me. she is really my ideal partner.
i am feelin abit better now, i am startin to face the fact that she is gone, but yet sometimes i will also feel there is still hope. everythin i do today still bring me memories.
i am still havin the wishful thinkin that she might wake up suddenly and call me to tell me she finally wan to be with me again. but i knw it will not happen and it is only like 0-5% she will say that. BUT at least 5% is still a % and there is still hope.
I think i am gone case for now. i am really gone. i am taken away by a girl.
I know letting go is difficult.
I know you love her a lot.
I also know that you are In love with the IDEA of loving her. with the IMAGE of a guy waiting patiently pathetically for his love to return to him.
Wake up.
she won't return to you just because you feel miserable without her.
this is just like any other addiction. take smoking (no offence to smokers) or taking drugs for example.
when you first try to quit these addictions, you'll feel uneasy, miserable, and eventually you'll feel like you'll die without it. Isn't it the same case here? only this is an emotional addiction.
but hey if smokers (again no offence intended), and druggies CAN live through the misery, the need, the cold turkey, and sucessfully quit, SO CAN YOU!
I know it's been said before. but this is really the key.... it's mind over matter. MIND over matter. whenever you start thinking of her, drown yourself with some other thoughts, be it plans for holiday, or work, just do something so that you wont think of her.
and like all addicts, you can SAY that you are going to let go, that you'll quit. but you'll never do so untill you DO IT! -
Dont you understand? She wont be coming back, move on to the next one.
You dont have a choice but by waiting for her doesnt mean that she has an obligation to come back to you at all. Its only yourself in this love illusion, as much as you enjoy playing the hurt victim role, as much as you enjoy the fantasy of a love victim and she is the one that is to be blame.
dude you are not the hero or the victim in a music video, this is real life!Nobody is going to look at you and say, he is so poor, look at him
you just going to make your life miserable and its your only choice
my guess, she is not even that hot.
wake up look at her clearly , look at her faults and put in your mind she is not worth it.
go on young man , make something out of your life, make a career make real money dont make a mockery of your life because of one chick!
you owe it to your parents and yourself.
if all fails and you still want to play that cool love victim(which you are not)
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its nt tat i am not willin to try. for example, i went to take a bathe juz nw, then i knw its like over already, so i took a nap.
u knw how painful it is ? when i was slpin, i swear, i dreamt abt her twice on separate occasions. in the dream i was so so so so so happy, but when i woke up, and realise it is a dream, i juz feel so hurt and devastated.i duno what can i do. i am dreamin of her every nw and then. even short naps. last nite it was like 2 separated occasions too. pls ! tell me. i knw u guys are tired givin the same advise over and over and over again. but this thing had happened only like a few days. i cant cope. i think i will be here grumblin every day for the next past few weeks or even mths.
i really duno how to get on with live without her. YET I knw sucide wont solve the problem. i am juz too afraid i cant get the next partner that is as good as her. really. she is very very good in the past b4 her transformation.
nw she is like so . . . haiz it is breakin my heart. -
did u all knw that on sunday, when i was alone at the chalet with a few good frens, she called me and ask me for some road directions, then i asked her, is she with that guy, and she replied yes. we are goin to east coast for dinner.
U guys knw how hurtful i am at tat time ? U guys knw i feel like shoutin out so loud.
on my bbday, when my mum ask her try nt to come, and she replied she actually also dun feel like comin, she can go CLUBBIN. can u believe it ? at the very least, come and wish me a happy bbday. i knw she is nt such person in the past. but what had happened to her now ? i really dun know. i really need an ans. is it becoz she is blinded by that guy ? or becoz of fun ? or she is juz out for revenge ? or is it becoz she juz wanna hurt me ?
i really hope she dun mean it. but its like, haiz. i am again in the mood. -
let me ask you. when a alcoholic wanna give up alcohol?Originally posted by mitgalant:its nt tat i am not willin to try. for example, i went to take a bathe juz nw, then i knw its like over already, so i took a nap.
u knw how painful it is ? when i was slpin, i swear, i dreamt abt her twice on separate occasions. in the dream i was so so so so so happy, but when i woke up, and realise it is a dream, i juz feel so hurt and devastated.i duno what can i do. i am dreamin of her every nw and then. even short naps. last nite it was like 2 separated occasions too. pls ! tell me. i knw u guys are tired givin the same advise over and over and over again. but this thing had happened only like a few days. i cant cope. i think i will be here grumblin every day for the next past few weeks or even mths.
i really duno how to get on with live without her. YET I knw sucide wont solve the problem. i am juz too afraid i cant get the next partner that is as good as her. really. she is very very good in the past b4 her transformation.
nw she is like so . . . haiz it is breakin my heart.
will he/she go to a bar?
will he/she stare at a bottle of vodka all day long?
will he/she talk and talk and talk about alcohol? -
Why did she call you to ask for direction when she was with that guy?Originally posted by mitgalant:did u all knw that on sunday, when i was alone at the chalet with a few good frens, she called me and ask me for some road directions, then i asked her, is she with that guy, and she replied yes. we are goin to east coast for dinner.
U guys knw how hurtful i am at tat time ? U guys knw i feel like shoutin out so loud.
on my bbday, when my mum ask her try nt to come, and she replied she actually also dun feel like comin, she can go CLUBBIN. can u believe it ? at the very least, come and wish me a happy bbday. i knw she is nt such person in the past. but what had happened to her now ? i really dun know. i really need an ans. is it becoz she is blinded by that guy ? or becoz of fun ? or she is juz out for revenge ? or is it becoz she juz wanna hurt me ?
i really hope she dun mean it. but its like, haiz. i am again in the mood. -
she is trying to discard you from her life, and giving you signals that you are not welcome in hers anymore.Originally posted by mitgalant:did u all knw that on sunday, when i was alone at the chalet with a few good frens, she called me and ask me for some road directions, then i asked her, is she with that guy, and she replied yes. we are goin to east coast for dinner.
U guys knw how hurtful i am at tat time ? U guys knw i feel like shoutin out so loud.
on my bbday, when my mum ask her try nt to come, and she replied she actually also dun feel like comin, she can go CLUBBIN. can u believe it ? at the very least, come and wish me a happy bbday. i knw she is nt such person in the past. but what had happened to her now ? i really dun know. i really need an ans. is it becoz she is blinded by that guy ? or becoz of fun ? or she is juz out for revenge ? or is it becoz she juz wanna hurt me ?
i really hope she dun mean it. but its like, haiz. i am again in the mood.
you should be angry not sad , show her that there is not only her in this world
go out , get laid !!! -
err, because he knows the road?Originally posted by blu_sky:Why did she call you to ask for direction when she was with that guy? -
i also wanna knw y.Originally posted by blu_sky:Why did she call you to ask for direction when she was with that guy?
Maybe i am the fastest source for her to knw the way and she does nt mean to hurt me at all?
Maybe she wanna make me jealous so i can forget abt that her.
Maybe its part of a revenge and yet also to test if i still show her concern by gettin jealous.
i also duno is which one. only she herself knw but yet, how i wish someone can juz drop me a bomb and tell me all the mystery behind it. -
And did you tell her the direction?Originally posted by mitgalant:i also wanna knw y.
Maybe i am the fastest source for her to knw the way and she does nt mean to hurt me at all?
Maybe she wanna make me jealous so i can forget abt that her.
Maybe its part of a revenge and yet also to test if i still show her concern by gettin jealous.
i also duno is which one. only she herself knw but yet, how i wish someone can juz drop me a bomb and tell me all the mystery behind it. -
that is your answer. only she does not wanna make u jealous but make u realise that YOU and HER are OVEROriginally posted by mitgalant:i also wanna knw y.
Maybe i am the fastest source for her to knw the way and she does nt mean to hurt me at all?
Maybe she wanna make me jealous so i can forget abt that her.
Maybe its part of a revenge and yet also to test if i still show her concern by gettin jealous.
i also duno is which one. only she herself knw but yet, how i wish someone can juz drop me a bomb and tell me all the mystery behind it. -
so correctOriginally posted by smudgey:that is your answer. only she does not wanna make u jealous but make u realise that YOU and HER are OVER
you should have not answer the phone at all, or answer it and say
"WTF? im busy bonking somebody else !"
maybe then she will come back to you -
I myself dun wanna hide anthin also. Let me tell u guys these.
3-4 mths ago, i and her keep quarrelin. we quarrel over everythin. one day i went out with my frens and they brought my exgf along. durin the dinner, my exgf is very concern and very thoughtful towards me. i was so touch by her and also since so long, no one had done this to me. i starts to fall for her.
I AM A BASTARD A JERK OR WHATEVER U ALL CAN CALL ME.
I wanted to play both sides. i wanted to woo my ex and if i can get her, i wanna kick my gf off. my ex got bf also. So this proceed on everyday, and whereas my then gf was waitin for me everyday. like what i am now. Suddenly one day i juz realised what i am doin. I hated myself so much. I tell myself, why is there such a girl around. i told my then gf tat u wan u wait loh. i also duno what i wan.
When i realise what i wan, I WAS SO HAPPY, i knw i was so in love with her, AND I AM DETERMINED TO TREAT HER THE BEST THAT I CAN, i realise my mistake and i am goin to amendments, i knw i am not lyin cos i am so determined.
But all is too late, she told me she knw what she wants on 23/10, and thats me that she want. but on 26/10 i told her wat i wan, it seems too late. i also duno why. she told me she had feelins for another guy now.
and the story proceed frm where i started as a topic.
GUYS I KNW I AM STUPID I AM SHAMELESS I AM BASTARD A JERK OR WATEVER U CALL ME. but i really really realise my mistake and i am determine to treat her the best that i can. but i am not given the chance now.
how ? i feel so so so sad that i cant show her the new me. i am nt a casanova, i juz fallen for temptation at that time. and i managed to woke up.
Thats y i am harbourin hopes of her wakin up now. u guys think it is still possible ????
pls tell me the truth. scold me, or do whatever also can. juz tell me the truth -
yes, i have to agree with him again. have some dignity. giving her and that guy directions so that they can have dinner together?Originally posted by Space1999:so correct
you should have not answer the phone at all, or answer it and say
"WTF? im busy bonking somebody else !"
maybe then she will come back to you
She is not respecting you!
You are not respecting yourself!
Please stop doing this. You are just making her look down on you more! -
Yes, you are a jerk.Originally posted by mitgalant:I myself dun wanna hide anthin also. Let me tell u guys these.
3-4 mths ago, i and her keep quarrelin. we quarrel over everythin. one day i went out with my frens and they brought my exgf along. durin the dinner, my exgf is very concern and very thoughtful towards me. i was so touch by her and also since so long, no one had done this to me. i starts to fall for her.
I AM A BASTARD A JERK OR WHATEVER U ALL CAN CALL ME.
I wanted to play both sides. i wanted to woo my ex and if i can get her, i wanna kick my gf off. my ex got bf also. So this proceed on everyday, and whereas my then gf was waitin for me everyday. like what i am now. Suddenly one day i juz realised what i am doin. I hated myself so much. I tell myself, why is there such a girl around. i told my then gf tat u wan u wait loh. i also duno what i wan.
When i realise what i wan, I WAS SO HAPPY, i knw i was so in love with her, AND I AM DETERMINED TO TREAT HER THE BEST THAT I CAN, i realise my mistake and i am goin to amendments, i knw i am not lyin cos i am so determined.
But all is too late, she told me she knw what she wants on 23/10, and thats me that she want. but on 26/10 i told her wat i wan, it seems too late. i also duno why. she told me she had feelins for another guy now.
and the story proceed frm where i started as a topic.
GUYS I KNW I AM STUPID I AM SHAMELESS I AM BASTARD A JERK OR WATEVER U CALL ME. but i really really realise my mistake and i am determine to treat her the best that i can. but i am not given the chance now.
how ? i feel so so so sad that i cant show her the new me. i am nt a casanova, i juz fallen for temptation at that time. and i managed to woke up.
Thats y i am harbourin hopes of her wakin up now. u guys think it is still possible ????
pls tell me the truth. scold me, or do whatever also can. juz tell me the truth
Yes, you are a fool.
Yes, you are a bastard.
But she has moved on.
So you should learn your lesson and move on too. -
hmmmm, tomorrow night tennish?Originally posted by blu_sky:yes, i have to agree with him again. have some dignity. giving her and that guy directions so that they can have dinner together?
She is not respecting you!
You are not respecting yourself!
Please stop doing this. You are just making her look down on you more!
i can feel you are not happy now, let me address that -
And you, how many times must i tell you no, how many times must i tell you im not interested? You move on too.Originally posted by Space1999:hmmmm, tomorrow night tennish?
i can feel you are not happy now, let me address that -
HAHAHAOriginally posted by mitgalant:I myself dun wanna hide anthin also. Let me tell u guys these.
3-4 mths ago, i and her keep quarrelin. we quarrel over everythin. one day i went out with my frens and they brought my exgf along. durin the dinner, my exgf is very concern and very thoughtful towards me. i was so touch by her and also since so long, no one had done this to me. i starts to fall for her.
I AM A BASTARD A JERK OR WHATEVER U ALL CAN CALL ME.
I wanted to play both sides. i wanted to woo my ex and if i can get her, i wanna kick my gf off. my ex got bf also. So this proceed on everyday, and whereas my then gf was waitin for me everyday. like what i am now. Suddenly one day i juz realised what i am doin. I hated myself so much. I tell myself, why is there such a girl around. i told my then gf tat u wan u wait loh. i also duno what i wan.
When i realise what i wan, I WAS SO HAPPY, i knw i was so in love with her, AND I AM DETERMINED TO TREAT HER THE BEST THAT I CAN, i realise my mistake and i am goin to amendments, i knw i am not lyin cos i am so determined.
But all is too late, she told me she knw what she wants on 23/10, and thats me that she want. but on 26/10 i told her wat i wan, it seems too late. i also duno why. she told me she had feelins for another guy now.
and the story proceed frm where i started as a topic.
GUYS I KNW I AM STUPID I AM SHAMELESS I AM BASTARD A JERK OR WATEVER U CALL ME. but i really really realise my mistake and i am determine to treat her the best that i can. but i am not given the chance now.
how ? i feel so so so sad that i cant show her the new me. i am nt a casanova, i juz fallen for temptation at that time. and i managed to woke up.
Thats y i am harbourin hopes of her wakin up now. u guys think it is still possible ????
pls tell me the truth. scold me, or do whatever also can. juz tell me the truth
you think you are a player
but you got played instead!