Will there ever be friendship after a breakup?
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with a girl for 5 years, broke up because of long distance relatonship, character difference or maybe because we just grew tired of each other aft so many years.
when breaking up we have a nice heart to heart talk and promise that we shd keep in contact as we know each other too well n can be confiding frens for each other if we have problems in life.
we still write emails to each other but when I came back to sgp n ask her out she give me excuses. I cant say tat I have move on very well but I m those kind who know that one should not dwell over smething impossible. I met up with all my frens during this short stay in sgp to say hi to everybody except her.
so m wondering will ther ever be friendship after a relationship? I feel it is sad that I cant be fren with smeone who understands me well.
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does she have a new bf? maybe she doesn't want him to misunderstand?
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I can't.
I have had two ex-es, both of them I have never even bothered to keep in touch with after the break up.
But that's me. For me, once I have moved on, there is no turning back. And maybe I am a coward as well...because by not even having the friendship, there is lesser chance I will be reminded of the hurtful past. -
i thought it was possible
until i found out she del me from msn when she got new bf
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Why not? Unless you or her do NOT see her or you as a friend.
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Why not?
I am friends with two of my exes.
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Actually depends on how the break up occurs...
like mine did not happen on good terms, both times...so i just deleted them off from my MSN and stopped contacting them...
If the break up is mutual, then maybe still possible to be frens ba... -
it might still be awkward to meet one on one....Originally posted by Tissot1853:with a girl for 5 years, broke up because of long distance relatonship, character difference or maybe because we just grew tired of each other aft so many years.
when breaking up we have a nice heart to heart talk and promise that we shd keep in contact as we know each other too well n can be confiding frens for each other if we have problems in life.
we still write emails to each other but when I came back to sgp n ask her out she give me excuses. I cant say tat I have move on very well but I m those kind who know that one should not dwell over smething impossible. I met up with all my frens during this short stay in sgp to say hi to everybody except her.
so m wondering will ther ever be friendship after a relationship? I feel it is sad that I cant be fren with smeone who understands me well.
thks for readingt his post.
why not ask her and another few friends along... it might make her more comfy... -
There can be if the both of you are clear about your feelings towards each other.Prehapyou would want to tell her you only want to say hi to avoid misundrestandings.If you still have feelings for her its better not to meet her.You can even ask her new bf out to tag along so she knows that you purely want to say hi.
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yes.
it is possible
but of cos, both parties must be open to it -
To answer your question, it can be yes and no. It depends on the 2 parties. If they are willing to be normal friends, then it's possible. But if one party has very serious character flaw than to remain as ordinary friends may not be possible. My intention was to be ordinary friend with my ex. But his serious character flaw affects the friendship, so we are not even friends now. And also depends on what reason the couple break off to decide if friendship is possible.Originally posted by Tissot1853:with a girl for 5 years, broke up because of long distance relatonship, character difference or maybe because we just grew tired of each other aft so many years.
when breaking up we have a nice heart to heart talk and promise that we shd keep in contact as we know each other too well n can be confiding frens for each other if we have problems in life.
we still write emails to each other but when I came back to sgp n ask her out she give me excuses. I cant say tat I have move on very well but I m those kind who know that one should not dwell over smething impossible. I met up with all my frens during this short stay in sgp to say hi to everybody except her.
so m wondering will ther ever be friendship after a relationship? I feel it is sad that I cant be fren with smeone who understands me well.
thks for readingt his post. -
CAn. After he dumped me, we still chat for hours online. XD
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On paper it is possible, but when come to real life, urmmmmm..... I can't say it is impossible BUT it is real difficult bcos of the culture we hv from young. For european, dats is possible..... no offence to european pls...
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Long distance kills the relationship.Originally posted by Tissot1853:with a girl for 5 years, broke up because of long distance relatonship, character difference or maybe because we just grew tired of each other aft so many years.
when breaking up we have a nice heart to heart talk and promise that we shd keep in contact as we know each other too well n can be confiding frens for each other if we have problems in life.
we still write emails to each other but when I came back to sgp n ask her out she give me excuses. I cant say tat I have move on very well but I m those kind who know that one should not dwell over smething impossible. I met up with all my frens during this short stay in sgp to say hi to everybody except her.
so m wondering will ther ever be friendship after a relationship? I feel it is sad that I cant be fren with smeone who understands me well.
thks for readingt his post.
By right, absence should make the heart grow fonder. But long distance makes things very difficult. You don't know if she has been hassled by other guys while you are here in another country.
Plus, have you seen her at all? Rather, has she seen you at all?
When it's over, it's done. Friends maybe but there's no point as far as wanting a lover. You are just wasting your time and youth. There are so many people around to make friends.
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i dun. over is over. unless she wanna remain as my fuck buddy.
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Good example of long distance r/s...... learn from it and make sure won't happen in u. Cherish is the word......Originally posted by rainee:Actually depends on how the break up occurs...
like mine did not happen on good terms, both times...so i just deleted them off from my MSN and stopped contacting them...
If the break up is mutual, then maybe still possible to be frens ba...
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u got a gf jus becoz of sex?Originally posted by monoslayer:i dun. over is over. unless she wanna remain as my fuck buddy. -
of cos not.Originally posted by pierre^^:u got a gf jus becoz of sex?
but an ex-gf is only good as a fuck buddy.
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strongly disagreeOriginally posted by monoslayer:of cos not.
but an ex-gf is only good as a fuck buddy.
break up le doesnt mean u can degrade someone rite -
aiyo.. dun quote me wrong. i jus cant remain frens wif my ex-gfs.Originally posted by pierre^^:strongly disagree
break up le doesnt mean u can degrade someone rite -
okOriginally posted by monoslayer:aiyo.. dun quote me wrong. i jus cant remain frens wif my ex-gfs.
but u say something like f. buddy
who wouldnt get right idea ma
sigh... i wish we can be frens though -
lol.. difficult lah.. imagine someone u loved so much now become ur fren.. u cant even hug or kiss her.. so i rather dun remain as frens.. save the misery.Originally posted by pierre^^:ok
but u say something like f. buddy
who wouldnt get right idea ma
sigh... i wish we can be frens though -
Well but she can be the one who listen to all your heart talk, your problems and worries
There is no need for a hug or a kiss.
A listening ear will do
If you are in the relationship long enuff, you can be totally relaxed and talk about anithing -
it's quite alright for me. It helps if you have the mindset that everyone's an adult and we've got to accept things when they come.Originally posted by bazi:On paper it is possible, but when come to real life, urmmmmm..... I can't say it is impossible BUT it is real difficult bcos of the culture we hv from young. For european, dats is possible..... no offence to european pls...
It helps to have honesty and dialogue throughout, so even when things do not work out, things stay chummy. I see a total snub as a waste of human relationships, unless one party has done something so utterly unforgivable that it's impossible to remain on good terms. -
its jz hard cos when u see him/her in person, it will only bring back things tat hurt... so unless the relationship is ended on very good terms else its jz plain hard...