I love my boyfriend but...
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it gets harder and harder to feel good around him. I know he loves me too but still i feel insecure. Sometimes i think im not good enough for him and since he's such a good guy he could do a lot better than me. He could find a smarter, prettier and more adventurous girlfriend. I dont know why but i feel he compares me with every gorgeous girl he meets. Paranoia?
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How many relationships have you been in?
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since u are still his gf he probably dun mind at all... maybe u should start improving urself so u can be proud of urself...Originally posted by green_mile:it gets harder and harder to feel good around him. I know he loves me too but still i feel insecure. Sometimes i think im not good enough for him and since he's such a good guy he could do a lot better than me. He could find a smarter, prettier and more adventurous girlfriend. I dont know why but i feel he compares me with every gorgeous girl he meets. Paranoia?
I hate feeling like this. I wish i could stop it but i cant. -
1 serious relationship, all together 3
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I understand how difficult for emotions to be tamed.Originally posted by green_mile:1 serious relationship, all together 3
If he could do something to stop all your insecure thoughts.
What would it be? Just share your thoughts.
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he doesnt mind much but sometimes i get really upset and then he doesnt know what to do with me. i dont know what i should improve. i think the real problem is that im not happy with the way i look and there's not much i can do about that.Originally posted by BrUtUs:since u are still his gf he probably dun mind at all... maybe u should start improving urself so u can be proud of urself... -
Could it be he is goodlooking that why u feel insecure?
My ex used to joke, luckily i found her, if not doomed to remain single le (Meaning i m ugly la)
den i will reply Ya lor. So Heng, must be previous life done gd things -
I really dont know. he's tried talking to me about it. his words work only for a certain amount of time...after a lil while im back being my old self.Originally posted by M©+square:I understand how difficult for emotions to be tamed.
If he could do something to stop all your insecure thoughts.
What would it be? Just share your thoughts.
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Instead of fearing he will leave u
why dont u tink first of the possible reasons that will make him leave u
if becoz of looks den Bu Yao Ye Ba
maybe minor characteristic that you can make minor adjustment
Tell him nv to make ani comparisons in ur face
and lastly u must start to have trust in ur bf
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Did you feel the same from your former relationships?Originally posted by green_mile:I really dont know. he's tried talking to me about it. his words work only for a certain amount of time...after a lil while im back being my old self.
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i beri tempted now to put 7-11 in my reply when i see cheersOriginally posted by M©+square:Did you feel the same from your former relationships?
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I seriously think u should have some self-confidence.
All these thinkings are on ur part only. Maybe he doesn't feel the way you do leh? Scarly u think too much le.
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actually, think of it this way, if he minds you being the way you are...
he wouldn't be with you in the first place...
you should learn to trust him a little more and have more confidence in yourself...
if your own insecurity gets too much for you to handle, maybe you can have a talk with him on how to make your relationship better with each other...
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You arent making things easy for him too, you know?Originally posted by green_mile:he doesnt mind much but sometimes i get really upset and then he doesnt know what to do with me. i dont know what i should improve. i think the real problem is that im not happy with the way i look and there's not much i can do about that. -
Green Mile Darling,
Stop these mind games with yourself, there are no bigger turn-off for men (me at least) than an insecure woman. It puts you in a subservient position in the relationship, ready to be exploited, like a piece of meat on the chopping board ......... sure die.
What you need to do is, assert yourself in a relationship, don't just focus on him. You make up 50% of the r/s why short sell yourself.
Let me assure you, pretty girls come and go, there'll always be someone younger , prettier, nicer body, fresher looking, etc...... Remember looks and tits attract men they don't keep them.
To keep a man it takes you dont need to be pretty, you want to be attractive it comes with poise, confidence, intellect and a positive outlook to life.
I'll go for someone I can have a intelligent conversation with anytime. So chin up and take life by the balls, maybe then u find ur bf not that great afterall.[/u] -
i see lots of good looking guys with dead ugly girlfriends but they love them with so much passion,
secret?
sex!!great sex!!man are suckers for great sex
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This is so not agreeable.Originally posted by Space1999:i see lots of good looking guys with dead ugly girlfriends but they love them with so much passion,
secret?
sex!!great sex!!man are suckers for great sex
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im a sexist, what can i say?
but at least its a suggestion -
my dear sister.. just wanna tell u.. in this universe that ONLY ONE U.. no one can compare with u.. i can tell u other gers has their good points... U too Have YOUR GOOD POINTS TOO.. no point being insecure.. u gotta break free being insecure.. u are who u are.. GOtta bE pROUD Of Yourself.. regardless how many 'beautiful creatures which you think they are to be'. do you know not all pretty creatures are nice... BE YOURSELF!Originally posted by green_mile:I really dont know. he's tried talking to me about it. his words work only for a certain amount of time...after a lil while im back being my old self. -
Originally posted by Space1999:im a sexist, what can i say?
but at least its a suggestion 
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Originally posted by green_mile:it gets harder and harder to feel good around him. I know he loves me too but still i feel insecure. Sometimes i think im not good enough for him and since he's such a good guy he could do a lot better than me. He could find a smarter, prettier and more adventurous girlfriend. I dont know why but i feel he compares me with every gorgeous girl he meets. Paranoia?
I hate feeling like this. I wish i could stop it but i cant.
You got to work on your esteem a little - if you are feeling inferior in his presence, then what are you going to do about it apart from just acknowledging it?
I mean of course, it's natural and politically correct to say that we should always be ourselves - but we cannot eliminate the fact that there must be some sort of self improvement/s so that it would allow us to feel empowered and better in whatever love/life we are pursuing.
I believe that one must always be themselves at all times, but that shouldn't be an excuse not to exercise improvement in our life and relationship.
Nobody other than yourself can make yourself feel good.
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And it's a BAD suggestion...Originally posted by Space1999:im a sexist, what can i say?
but at least its a suggestion 
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Perform MEAT vision?Originally posted by Devil1976:And it's a BAD suggestion... 
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No one is ugly, Unless their self-esteem is down they will feel un-beautifulOriginally posted by pierre^^:Could it be he is goodlooking that why u feel insecure?
My ex used to joke, luckily i found her, if not doomed to remain single le (Meaning i m ugly la)
den i will reply Ya lor. So Heng, must be previous life done gd things -
HUH..Originally posted by hudax1:No one is ugly, Unless their self-esteem is down they will feel un-beautiful