life is so fragile, with illnesses and problems
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life is like a never-ending race.
a race to the finishing line
the finishing line of wealth, happiness and health
we are constantly fighting, trying to be the best or at least one of the top people ever since young.
but how many of us really made it?
how many people has already given up hope and bow down to reality not fighting for what they deserve?
how many of you are helping other people (employers) to build their dreams?
how many of you are helping yourself to build and achieve your own dreams?
still remember the topic which we wrote back in primary sch topic - my ambition.
when we were young we have unlimited choices to think and dare to dream.
as we grow older, our dreams becomes smaller and smaller due to the choices that we made in the past that determines what we are today.
due to the choices which we made in the past, we have already forgotten on the ambition that everyone of us have. what is the deciding factor that made us who we are today - CHOICES!!
everyone of us are stucked in the rats' race - for 1st -wealth. 2nd time 3rd health. how many of us while we are chasing after these 3 keys, in the process, made even more choices which made us have even more regrets?
words in green as per below are just problems faced in life. it's okay to skip the green section for much faster reading.
- being back-stabbed at work?
- fighting over family heritage before and after a funeral?
- bad-mouthing somebody just for small minor things?
- trying to gain some attention when you don't deserve it - selling the lime-light from someone?
- claiming credit for some other's people work when you didn't do anything
- just to climb the corporate ladder?
- trying to find means and avenues to seek a better and brighter future?
- when you attain some level of wealth and happiness / status at the expense of somebody, how good does it feel?
- trying to act hero when you know nothing?
- seeing a friend/ family member who needs your help but you can't do anything?
- how many of you have seen your friends leaving you having passed away?
- have you ever felt helpless yourself?
- have you felt the real feeling of what's hunger?
- do you know how hunger can drive a person to his/her limits? (be it good or bad, it's all in the mind)
- have you felt that you deserve a better chance to be having a better opportunity to really show your talents to the people around you?
- are you binded to the fact that without education, even if you have talents, you also can't go anywhere without the basic few credits need in paper qualifications?
- do you feel that you need a good environment to really achieve something that doesn't require your paper qualifications?
- do you have a illness or problem which restricts your real potential?
- how many of you are still in the wonderland not knowing of the cruel facts of live?
- how many of you actually felt usless to need to ask for help from others?
- how many want to succeed but can't find a platform?
- even if you are hard-working, the top management will find faults with you?
- how many of you are being over-worked yet under-paid?
- are your life getting nowhere - yet you have to work like a water buffalo with never ending work?
- how many of you wants to give up and just die but can't do so
- how many of you are the only pillar to the family currently or in future?
- have you ever lose someone you love and cherish to a illness?
- have you ever fell out with your friends over money or relationship?
- have you ever felt the fear of having losing control of your body? (maybe certain part of your body lose control, no sense of control over it? have you experience that kind of fear before?)
- have you have had friends who mentally collaspe and almost attempt sucide in front of you?
- how many times have you broken/disappointed your love ones, your family members and friends?
why are there so many problems in life?
did you feel like dying yourself?
why are there so little solutions to help solve all the problems?
when was the last time you really felt happy when you helped a person?
when was the last time you really felt stress free?
when was the last time you felt you have 1 less bunden off your shoulders which is so heavy and is happy to be able to let go?
when is the last time you are happy with what you are doing, the direction of your life and the future of your life?
when was the last praise/appraisal that you heard from your parents/love ones/ colleagues/ employees?
life is full of problems - it's how you want to face the problems
positive - be a problem solver
negative - be a problem maker and complain and blame this and that blah blah blah
how many are really willing to change and learn how to really enrich their lives with meaniful things?
when was the last time you put a smile on other's people face?
all these problems, I have seen it all, being through it. have you?
are you on the verge of collasping yet don't know what to do?
how many of you want to help people, but when you offer a helping hand, only to have people doubting you if it's for real and some even slab or reject your helping hand and say don't be hypocrite?
some times i really want to help, but how many are there willing to be helped?
although i have being rejected numerous times, but at least, i know what i'm doing is correct, and will also persist on. -
oh my gawd... so long the post..
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thats part and parcel of life.
if you are at the wrong end of it, everything sucks.
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if every thing isn't going your way, than what do you do to go about facing the problems or do you avoid the problems?Originally posted by dragg:thats part and parcel of life.
if you are at the wrong end of it, everything sucks. -
Life is like that, whether u smoke or not.
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Originally posted by NUS_Superst@r:Life is like that, whether u smoke or not.
so you will just admit that your life is bad and bow down to fate?
have you thought of changing the lifestyle and live a better life? -
i read the last line can le.Originally posted by mhcampboy:oh my gawd... so long the post..
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too long leh ur post.. read halfway give up liao.
life is very fragile, and there will be problems till u die.
so, live ur life to the fullest and be happy. -
how to live life to the fullest?Originally posted by browniebaobao:too long leh ur post.. read halfway give up liao.
life is very fragile, and there will be problems till u die.
so, live ur life to the fullest and be happy.
my friends are happy with the way they are clubbing, toxifying themselves, damaging their ograns and their health. the rest just virtually wasting their youths away on un-neccessary things.. others gaming, none are actually planing for their future.
any suggestions on how to actually live life to be the fullest as well as be happy? -
Every Obstacles or challenges that we face in life is a chance for us to learn something and walk out a better person, it may or may not come in handy but at least something is learnt.
Life's not meant to be easy, it should be worth.
If we spend too much time wonder that if we've done something different or if we've done something more will things be different we'll never be able to move on, our life on the planet is short, there's is no point wasting it on all these questions, by doing that, you are actually holding yourself from improvements .... -
everyone knows life sucks. its so fragile, with illnesses and problems. if ur rich and handsome you at least have it better but still dont feel joy or peace or satisfaction or meaning. now a few billion people (trying to find the above by a dogma to believe in and live for), believe its because you have that void in your soul to be filled by.... god?. if you believe in god and gods plan to create humans that have to spend eternity somewhere (a torture in itself) after this sucky life plus make everybody by default born a sinner WITH A 'DESPRATELY WICKED NATURE' and then have to go to hell because he hates sin and its punishment is eternal pain and death. imagine a billion years never ending burning in pain and darkness and your toungue cleaves to your jaw and melts in your mouth. and still a billion years more to go eternally regretting! earth but a forgotten dream. now go research that ALL hundreds of other things the bible said are proven true by modern science, history or current observations.
and DONT say its human's choice, nobody has a fair chance to choose never to sin in their lives. you sin once and you will go to hell unless u pray to jesus to save ya. NOBODY can manage to not sin once in their bloody lifes. adam and eve did not have a fair chance either, god knew what would happen in his plan even before he created adam or eve. not that they have anything to do with me.
and dont bother to mention pompous hypocritical vulgar asshoIe youths who think that they are christians. 90% of all of them are NOT, and they are going to hell.
This is satans world
OH OOPS this thread isnt about god
its about life sucks, everything sucks, everyone's fu cked. theres so many PROBLEMS. you'll never feel peace or satisfaction or joy or meaning. -
by just walking ahead without looing back or ask ourselves these questions, how am i going to reflect on the mistakes which i did or the things which is either correct than upgrade, if wrong then correct my mistakes?Originally posted by MiX Metal:Every Obstacles or challenges that we face in life is a chance for us to learn something and walk out a better person, it may or may not come in handy but at least something is learnt.
Life's not meant to be easy, it should be worth.
If we spend too much time wonder that if we've done something different or if we've done something more will things be different we'll never be able to move on, our life on the planet is short, there's is no point wasting it on all these questions, by doing that, you are actually holding yourself from improvements ....
if i just keep on moving, than would it be closing myself refusing to learn more? -
if u have a family to support.. it is a must then u move on... cause.. w/o u ur children.. wife.. how?Originally posted by the_fallen:by just walking ahead without looing back or ask ourselves these questions, how am i going to reflect on the mistakes which i did or the things which is either correct than upgrade, if wrong then correct my mistakes?
if i just keep on moving, than would it be closing myself refusing to learn more?
surviving is better then refusin to learn more u r a man and u muz support ur family... -
I'm not saying that we should just move on and not reflect on our mistakes, but ask yourself what you've done wrong, learn from it on move on....Originally posted by the_fallen:by just walking ahead without looing back or ask ourselves these questions, how am i going to reflect on the mistakes which i did or the things which is either correct than upgrade, if wrong then correct my mistakes?
if i just keep on moving, than would it be closing myself refusing to learn more?
Thnigs happen, that's it, whats done its done ....... regrets will not help it'll only make you feel worst ...... -
moving on is good, but exactly what and how to move onOriginally posted by yihao93:if u have a family to support.. it is a must then u move on... cause.. w/o u ur children.. wife.. how?
surviving is better then refusin to learn more u r a man and u muz support ur family...
let's say retrencement for example.
elaborating from your example as per above (highlighted in green)
situation:
Status - Retrenced sole-breadwinner in his 30s.
Current Liabilites : 1 wife, 1 kid, and a house on installment with 20yrs period.
Montly expenses just electricity bills cost $100, education fees how much $?? (i'm not a parent so i have no clues)
Household expenses $?? - $500 average rate rite?
Contribution to parents and parents-in-law : 4 person each $500 = $2000
Transportation: $100 per pax* 7 people = $700
moving on, okay, than with the current situtation, how to survive in current Singapore context? -
double post
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it does not hurt to enjoy while you are young. i dont mean to be pessimistic but you never know if you will wake up tomorrow.Originally posted by the_fallen:how to live life to the fullest?
my friends are happy with the way they are clubbing, toxifying themselves, damaging their ograns and their health. the rest just virtually wasting their youths away on un-neccessary things.. others gaming, none are actually planing for their future.
any suggestions on how to actually live life to be the fullest as well as be happy?
i believe that life sucks more and more with age. -
mmm with regard to your last few sentences, go join a volunteerism organisation. There are many unfortunate people out there whom need help and yet no one helping. So wana take up there challenge? Require commitment and efforts.Originally posted by the_fallen:how many of you want to help people, but when you offer a helping hand, only to have people doubting you if it's for real and some even slab or reject your helping hand and say don't be hypocrite?
some times i really want to help, but how many are there willing to be helped?
although i have being rejected numerous times, but at least, i know what i'm doing is correct, and will also persist on.
Don't expect people to be grateful to you even if you help them for free.
In the first place, they have no obligation to be grateful to you.
And if they don't want to be helped. Respect that and their boundary. Sometime, they have their own thinking which u might not understand...
Whether are u a hypocrite or not, as long ur intention is true. Time will tell everythings. People will notice in the long run that your intention is sincere. Thus there isn't really a overly-concerned abt hw u shld worry how others think of u...
Yes life is fragile.. sometime we need a wake-up call to remind us to treasure what is truly important in us.
What is happiness to you then ?
There long list of u.. reinforce the negativity in life..
How about listing out a list that you should be grateful to?
Have u done a good deed or something agreedable to someone?
Have you say " i love you to some one that matter/hug them ".
Since life is short, it is too short to spend time to be overly-concerned over litte argument and differences. Too little to be prudish and busily brooding; and fail to notice the good things in life... letting it pass u by when everythings will be too late. Since life is short and fragile, so the more u should love the people around u more.
On the other, suffering make one be stronger and wiser. It is not a bad thing too. -
r u worryin abit too much? Yes it is good that you think about it and plan ahead but worrying does not help. There is a difference between worrying and thinking of constructive solutions. If you can do something about it, then do it. If you can't, you will not died of hunger either..Originally posted by the_fallen:moving on is good, but exactly what and how to move on
let's say retrencement for example.
elaborating from your example as per above (highlighted in green)
situation:
Status - Retrenced sole-breadwinner in his 30s.
Current Liabilites : 1 wife, 1 kid, and a house on installment with 20yrs period.
Montly expenses just electricity bills cost $100, education fees how much $?? (i'm not a parent so i have no clues)
Household expenses $?? - $500 average rate rite?
Contribution to parents and parents-in-law : 4 person each $500 = $2000
Transportation: $100 per pax* 7 people = $700
moving on, okay, than with the current situtation, how to survive in current Singapore context?
"worry is a misuse of your imagination" -
How about finding the meaning in life? The purpose of our roles in this mortal realm? Is it simply to comply with many of those highlighted in green so as to climb to the top and show it to the world where you stand? See what Bill Gates did.Originally posted by the_fallen:how to live life to the fullest?
my friends are happy with the way they are clubbing, toxifying themselves, damaging their ograns and their health. the rest just virtually wasting their youths away on un-neccessary things.. others gaming, none are actually planing for their future.
any suggestions on how to actually live life to be the fullest as well as be happy?
I remember a few months ago in Channel U showing a drama on Sundays at 7pm where the female protagonist started with nothing to become a powerful figure, only to realise what she had been missing/lacking all along: relationship, kinship, friendship, companionship, the feeling of being "important" in someone's life or something similar...
Being "important" in someone's life? What...? When was the last time you impacted someone in your life to do something positive about their lives? Did they saw something in you that gave them morale, courage and the drive to push forward despite the cruelties and cold realities of the world?
Life is NOT simply about making tons of $$$, being the number one person in the world, having the most beautiful wife or gorgeous husband, being able to groom the future leaders or whatever. Those are just some of the results of WHAT the person's real intention and motive are in this world: To discover yourself and what makes you ALIVE in this world.
Actually I don't even know what I am blabbering about...
All I know is: We are here for a reason. Without reason we would not exist. (Yes I am quoting from the Agent Smith of Matrix Reloaded...) -
This is a juggle between "stuck in the past" and "ignoring the past". What was meant is that: We should look back at the past experiences and LEARN from it while NOT reminisce too much.Originally posted by the_fallen:by just walking ahead without looing back or ask ourselves these questions, how am i going to reflect on the mistakes which i did or the things which is either correct than upgrade, if wrong then correct my mistakes?
if i just keep on moving, than would it be closing myself refusing to learn more?
How to tell when you are stuck too deep in the past experiences or totally ignoring it and moving on? By how you respond to future scenarios. -
life sucks as we aged, this i agree only 50/50Originally posted by dragg:it does not hurt to enjoy while you are young. i dont mean to be pessimistic but you never know if you will wake up tomorrow.
i believe that life sucks more and more with age.
if you look on the dark side, yes, it's more expenses, your spendings increases, but not your income if you're an employee with no control over your salary for you can't write your own pay-cheque, all we are entitled to are based on paper qualifications to give us this price-tag which is no less different from a 'prisoner' trapped in a cell.
if you look on the bright side, as we age, our ability to spend increases, because we no longer eat the same amount, as we grow, we learn to appreciate those fine dinning, better food, better entertainment services thus our expenses increase, it just depends on how a person really spend within their own limits.
I agree, but before i can plan the solutions, i first need to identify the problems, before i can solve my own problems. Identify and solve it.Originally posted by Isis:r u worryin abit too much? Yes it is good that you think about it and plan ahead but worrying does not help. There is a difference between worrying and thinking of constructive solutions. If you can do something about it, then do it. If you can't, you will not died of hunger either..
"worry is a misuse of your imagination"
Life is full of problems, only negative people will create more problems = problem makers
Only positive people will think of solutions to solve problems = problem solvers
I certainly want to do some changes which is why I'm here to seek advices/opinions. -
volunteerismOriginally posted by Isis:mmm with regard to your last few sentences, go join a volunteerism organisation. There are many unfortunate people out there whom need help and yet no one helping. So wana take up there challenge? Require commitment and efforts.
Don't expect people to be grateful to you even if you help them for free.
In the first place, they have no obligation to be grateful to you.
And if they don't want to be helped. Respect that and their boundary. Sometime, they have their own thinking which u might not understand...
Whether are u a hypocrite or not, as long ur intention is true. Time will tell everythings. People will notice in the long run that your intention is sincere. Thus there isn't really a overly-concerned abt hw u shld worry how others think of u...
Yes life is fragile.. sometime we need a wake-up call to remind us to treasure what is truly important in us.
What is happiness to you then ?
There long list of u.. reinforce the negativity in life..
How about listing out a list that you should be grateful to?
Have u done a good deed or something agreedable to someone?
Have you say " i love you to some one that matter/hug them ".
Since life is short, it is too short to spend time to be overly-concerned over litte argument and differences. Too little to be prudish and busily brooding; and fail to notice the good things in life... letting it pass u by when everythings will be too late. Since life is short and fragile, so the more u should love the people around u more.
On the other, suffering make one be stronger and wiser. It is not a bad thing too. i did think of that before, but at my current situation, i will have to work for some time more before i can do some volunteering, any-takers interested in actually doing volunteering work together maybe next year?
no obligation to be grateful to you this i definately agree, it's just up to the individual to do what he/she likes. In the case of helping, those who help people from their bottom of their heart, doesn't demand for any form of returns, the happiness on the person's face or the organisation is already a reward for the volunteer personal him/herself. the sense of achievement or happiness is something which can't be found nor bought with $$
we need a wake-up call to remind us to treasure what is truly important in us the government has already being hinting us all along, but many people just can't take the cue from the govt. all along they have being trying to get the citizens to be self-independent, and not to depend on the govt for helping hands, for the govt can't really help all groups with their limited no of hands.
govt has already used the CPF to force people to help themselves by saving in CPF retirement, medishield and house if i didnt remember wrongly. but the more govt helps, the more the citizens are depending on govt, is it really helping them by always giving the help, or some-times let the people suffer a-bit and they learn their lessons than will wake up and really learn?
suffering make one be stronger and wiser agree, if not i will not realize the a lot of problems actually doesn't exist in the 1st place, it's just that the decisions that people made caused them to have more problems.
sufferings can make one stronger and wiser, but on the other hand it also can cause a person to have mental break-down and collaspe
it's just solely depends on how a person acutally deals with problems when they face the problems. regarding those that you mention which i highlighted in orange, i will list it in another thread, for there are a lot of points to touch on. -
volunteerismOriginally posted by Isis:mmm with regard to your last few sentences, go join a volunteerism organisation. There are many unfortunate people out there whom need help and yet no one helping. So wana take up there challenge? Require commitment and efforts.
Don't expect people to be grateful to you even if you help them for free.
In the first place, they have no obligation to be grateful to you.
And if they don't want to be helped. Respect that and their boundary. Sometime, they have their own thinking which u might not understand...
Whether are u a hypocrite or not, as long ur intention is true. Time will tell everythings. People will notice in the long run that your intention is sincere. Thus there isn't really a overly-concerned abt hw u shld worry how others think of u...
Yes life is fragile.. sometime we need a wake-up call to remind us to treasure what is truly important in us.
What is happiness to you then ?
There long list of u.. reinforce the negativity in life..
How about listing out a list that you should be grateful to?
Have u done a good deed or something agreedable to someone?
Have you say " i love you to some one that matter/hug them ".
Since life is short, it is too short to spend time to be overly-concerned over litte argument and differences. Too little to be prudish and busily brooding; and fail to notice the good things in life... letting it pass u by when everythings will be too late. Since life is short and fragile, so the more u should love the people around u more.
On the other, suffering make one be stronger and wiser. It is not a bad thing too. i did think of that before, but at my current situation, i will have to work for some time more before i can do some volunteering, any-takers interested in actually doing volunteering work together maybe next year?
no obligation to be grateful to you this i definately agree, it's just up to the individual to do what he/she likes. In the case of helping, those who help people from their bottom of their heart, doesn't demand for any form of returns, the happiness on the person's face or the organisation is already a reward for the volunteer personal him/herself. the sense of achievement or happiness is something which can't be found nor bought with $$
we need a wake-up call to remind us to treasure what is truly important in us the government has already being hinting us all along, but many people just can't take the cue from the govt. all along they have being trying to get the citizens to be self-independent, and not to depend on the govt for helping hands, for the govt can't really help all groups with their limited no of hands.
govt has already used the CPF to force people to help themselves by saving in CPF retirement, medishield and house if i didnt remember wrongly. but the more govt helps, the more the citizens are depending on govt, is it really helping them by always giving the help, or some-times let the people suffer a-bit and they learn their lessons than will wake up and really learn?
suffering make one be stronger and wiser agree, if not i will not realize the a lot of problems actually doesn't exist in the 1st place, it's just that the decisions that people made caused them to have more problems.
sufferings can make one stronger and wiser, but on the other hand it also can cause a person to have mental break-down and collaspe
it's just solely depends on how a person acutally deals with problems when they face the problems. regarding those that you mention which i highlighted in orange, i will list it in another thread, for there are a lot of points to touch on. (give me some time to prepare it, i need to take down some notes and quotes from the books which i have finished reading just a couple of days ago only.) -
i'm not stucked in the past experiences, but just want to recall all the past experiences that i went through to let me and maybe those who wants to know how life is about in the eyes of a negative perspective.Originally posted by Bontakun:This is a juggle between "stuck in the past" and "ignoring the past". What was meant is that: We should look back at the past experiences and LEARN from it while NOT reminisce too much.
How to tell when you are stuck too deep in the past experiences or totally ignoring it and moving on? By how you respond to future scenarios.
from a positive point of perspective, i will write soon to reply to both yours' and Isis's question on happiness and how to reflect and learn etc.