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thanks bro.Originally posted by bazi:Good Advise....
Bravo 
Ok. The buying food part. I really got no comments.Originally posted by c2on2:hey people thanks a lot for all your kind advice. I really appreciate it. Many thanks once again.
Well tat guy went specially to my gf house to buy her lunch cause she said she was lazy to eat... I know tat they do have long msn and telephone or sms conversations at times and i had told her my concerns already. And she told me that he is just a good friend of hers.
Before he went, she still ask me if jealous anot or shit like tat. and when i say tell him to not come cos it was realli raining badly she said den who buy food for her? and i am unreasonable etc. Eventually the situation was still ok.
I mean i find this thinking quite immature and childish.
Aniwae my gf is having exams now while i am working. And she told me tat she will be going out with him for about 4 - 5 occassions this holiday season. Esp on the day of his birthday celebration with that guy.
I know that my gf loves me from the times we had been together ... but why is this sort of thing happening? Am i too sensitive, jealous or dis trustful?
I mean, she is lazy to eat. The guy offer to buy up. If i am the guy, I would do the same as well when i got all the time in the world to. I mean, who wont when going after a gal?
Going out with him again? Alone? Dude. I sense trouble here. I am going to be mean and tell you the what I THINK. If I am the rival guy, after these few months and the holiday period, MOST PROB I would have already held her hands, maybe kiss even. Anything beyond that is not very me but I aint sure about the guy. Plus, WOW, its my birthday. What a great chance to make my move isn't it?
Think about it. The guy reserved that date just for your gal. And your gal HAPPILY agreed to spend it with him. Any guy would use that chance rite? I am afraid you will lose her on that day. She might not tell you on that day, but you have to be prepared. I dun like to dampen people's spirit. but bro. In your case, you stand like what? 10% of her heart and that guy? 60-70% i think.
I advise you to talk to your gf again. and convince her to tell that guy that she is attached to you. If she refuse and or kick up a big fuss, I am sorry brother. Chances are that you lost her already.
But fret not my friend. Girls like her aint worth your tears. Really. I think most people here would agree.
However, this is what we are assuming. Maybe she really loves you and tat guy is just a friend to her. Maybe she aint saying that she is attached because she cant afford to let her faimly or friends know etc due to personal reasons. You need to know. If that is it and she loves you dearly, then i congratulate you.
Good luck brother.
We are here if you need us.
And to put you at ease. Nope. You aint being too sensitive, jealous or distrustful. If my gf does this to me, I guess i would be even more stress then you. =) -
Bro, you have a great analytical mind and I respect that.Originally posted by angrynor:Think about it. The guy reserved that date just for your gal. And your gal HAPPILY agreed to spend it with him. Any guy would use that chance rite? I am afraid you will lose her on that day. She might not tell you on that day, but you have to be prepared. I dun like to dampen people's spirit. but bro. In your case, you stand like what? 10% of her heart and that guy? 60-70% i think.
I advise you to talk to your gf again. and convince her to tell that guy that she is attached to you. If she refuse and or kick up a big fuss, I am sorry brother. Chances are that you lost her already.
But fret not my friend. Girls like her aint worth your tears. Really. I think most people here would agree.
However, this is what we are assuming. Maybe she really loves you and tat guy is just a friend to her. Maybe she aint saying that she is attached because she cant afford to let her faimly or friends know etc due to personal reasons. You need to know. If that is it and she loves you dearly, then i congratulate you.
Good luck brother.
We are here if you need us.
And to put you at ease. Nope. You aint being too sensitive, jealous or distrustful. If my gf does this to me, I guess i would be even more stress then you. =)
For such girls, you don't have to convince them. Rather, they should do the other way. A princess in the making here.
Take note: she is 21 years old. Old enough to have a boyfriend. Do you know youngsters nowadays as young as 13 are going steady and are sexually active? What more is 21 years old?
Plus, I think the girl must have been a gorgeous woman for her to be stringing two puppies along. And if she did loved him, why would she be doing such a thing? Either she don't love him or she is childish. In either case, do you like to be with people like that?
But apparently, when you are love mad, you can take any pain.
Haha..
doko -
There is always someone who is richer, better looking, more intelligent and the list goes on. U just have to be yourself, if ur gf thinks she doesn't want to settle for u, even if its not this guy it will be someone else.
U need someone who loves u for who u are. U seem like a well grounded, hardworking and generally nice guy (how many fella can say competitor for gf nice guy??) so u will find someone who appreciates your qualities.
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No need post long long to tell u what i think.
I think she is keeping her options open.
That guy is rich and treats her well, can satisfy all her needs and wants.
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Dump her . It is all mind games. Waste of your time to reason with her. She is just f*cking with your head.Originally posted by c2on2:hey people thanks a lot for all your kind advice. I really appreciate it. Many thanks once again.
Well tat guy went specially to my gf house to buy her lunch cause she said she was lazy to eat... I know tat they do have long msn and telephone or sms conversations at times and i had told her my concerns already. And she told me that he is just a good friend of hers.
Before he went, she still ask me if jealous anot or shit like tat. and when i say tell him to not come cos it was realli raining badly she said den who buy food for her? and i am unreasonable etc. Eventually the situation was still ok.
I mean i find this thinking quite immature and childish.
Aniwae my gf is having exams now while i am working. And she told me tat she will be going out with him for about 4 - 5 occassions this holiday season. Esp on the day of his birthday celebration with that guy.
I know that my gf loves me from the times we had been together ... but why is this sort of thing happening? Am i too sensitive, jealous or dis trustful?
Just go straight to her and give her an ultimatum to make a choice instead of hanging on like a pathetic lost puppy. So what if you waited for her ? Means nothing if her heart is not with you. If you break up with her and no doubt you will feel hurt about it , you are at least free to look for someone else who would not do this kinda sh*t to you. -
she 2-timing alreadyOriginally posted by c2on2:Hi people, need some advice. My gf and i have been together for 4 months already. I waited for her for quite long about more than 1 year b4 she agreed to us being as one. There were good and bad times for both of us like for all couples.
A guy who doesn't know that she is already attached to me has been getting closer and closer to her. He is doing sweet things that a bf will oni do for a gf. and it is obvious to me and her that this guy is trying to chase her. I told my gf about my concerns and she shd jus tell him causally that she is attached but my gf did not want to do so and even told him she is single.
I am rather unhappy about this. It is the holiday season and i am already working for 6 days a week. with oni sundays off. Hence i cant realli take out much time for her. This guy is on the verge of asking for her to be his gf liao soon as he hinted he will this holidays. She sort of like inform me as tat she is going out with tat guy.
My gf has also been comparing me to him. He is a rich guy, who lives in a private bungalow. and has cars. but then alhough he is in a way my competitor, he still seems a nice person from the way she describes him to me. This comparison does not really go well with me sometimes.
seriously i think he can be a better provider for her than me. since this guy is rich and kind natured and a ladies man unlike me who is poor and have to work hard for wad i want and i being a woodblock guy at many times.
My gf and him are getting closer and she will be meeting him on some occasions during this holiday season while i am working during the weekdays.
i dun know if this gf is the one i am going to marry already because of the hurt and uncertainty. By the way i am 23 and my gf is 21 and we are both students.
What should i do? Should i move on ? and try to initiate a break up or should i persist to preserve this r/s which i worked so hard for. Is letting go of ur lover for some1 who can do a better job of loving her a more appropriate thing to do for my case?
so let her be, say u want to break up
work hard, study hard, get a bright future IF you DON'T WANT HISTORY to REPEAT Itself Again.
Obvisously both you and her aren't really ready to take this relationship to a higher lvl.
so just break up, either you find a better one, or just study first. -
WHere is yr pride,man? Dump her.. and stop telling yrself she still loves u!
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Try going out with other girls and say they are merely friends.
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hey doko, thanks bro.
However, I dun really like that idea to break people up especially now that things aint cleared and we are not sure what have the girl done. So TS, talk to your girl and let us know ok?
But, if you managed somehow to know that she has betrayed you (holding hands with that guy, kissing etc), i would say dump her before she dump you.
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yoiur gf is jus like my ex, cannot think!Originally posted by c2on2:Hi people, need some advice. My gf and i have been together for 4 months already. I waited for her for quite long about more than 1 year b4 she agreed to us being as one. There were good and bad times for both of us like for all couples.
A guy who doesn't know that she is already attached to me has been getting closer and closer to her. He is doing sweet things that a bf will oni do for a gf. and it is obvious to me and her that this guy is trying to chase her. I told my gf about my concerns and she shd jus tell him causally that she is attached but my gf did not want to do so and even told him she is single.
I am rather unhappy about this. It is the holiday season and i am already working for 6 days a week. with oni sundays off. Hence i cant realli take out much time for her. This guy is on the verge of asking for her to be his gf liao soon as he hinted he will this holidays. She sort of like inform me as tat she is going out with tat guy.
My gf has also been comparing me to him. He is a rich guy, who lives in a private bungalow. and has cars. but then alhough he is in a way my competitor, he still seems a nice person from the way she describes him to me. This comparison does not really go well with me sometimes.
seriously i think he can be a better provider for her than me. since this guy is rich and kind natured and a ladies man unlike me who is poor and have to work hard for wad i want and i being a woodblock guy at many times.
My gf and him are getting closer and she will be meeting him on some occasions during this holiday season while i am working during the weekdays.
i dun know if this gf is the one i am going to marry already because of the hurt and uncertainty. By the way i am 23 and my gf is 21 and we are both students.
What should i do? Should i move on ? and try to initiate a break up or should i persist to preserve this r/s which i worked so hard for. Is letting go of ur lover for some1 who can do a better job of loving her a more appropriate thing to do for my case?
U better get ready to b single!
Focus more on your gf instead of that guy! trust me.
Well if things getting worse, ditch her. -
for the time being... just back off from her and ignore her totally.
you are lucky this happen only after 4 mths she committed to the relationship.
channel all your effort into your career. you'll definitely meet someone more mature in the future. enjoy your singlehood..
cheers.. -
Tell her: Is not u ditch me, I'm ditching u now
this kind of gf bu yao ye ba
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+1Originally posted by RSKeisuke:for the time being... just back off from her and ignore her totally.
you are lucky this happen only after 4 mths she committed to the relationship.
channel all your effort into your career. you'll definitely meet someone more mature in the future. enjoy your singlehood..
cheers..
doko -
exactly.Originally posted by dokono:Then why did she tell him she is single? Can she answer that?
why didn't she tell him that she's already attached? -
Don't give up a forest for a tree. Give up a tree for a forest!
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Such gals..dun wan oso a good thing..
She isnt being faithful..and her thinkings is inmature and being shaken easily..
Most probably her conscience has been eaten up by a dog liao..
juz dun care abt her..and make a firm break
u deserve a more better gal..=) -
Bro, its time to let go .....
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looks like she's going to run soon... u can choose to run first or get prepared for the hurt... sorry dude
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+1Originally posted by MiX Metal:Bro, its time to let go .....
short term pain is better than long term pain if she break it to you.
now u break it to you, you still have your pride and ego as a gentleman, (if you know what words to tell her to retain your ego and pride as a man)