IMPT OPINION..SBeing single is good actually..
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Actually...nowadays l see guys and gals stead...outcome is always bad de..is Most cases...So what for stead rite?
l tink when we are young...we shld enjoy ourselves..love ourselves..and do the things we want to do...and not always thinking of gals and having a stead..
l hav already think of all the cons of having a stead when u are young...that is my own thinking la...juz sharing with others..
1st of all..is abt the $ problem...altot some forumities say here that can pay dutch mah...
But think of it...isit possible? having a gf...u let her pay herself everytime meh? Sometimes u oso hav to pay for her mah..Worst still is those gals that hav the concept that guys shld pay for gals..then the guy who is still studying..let say he is those that nver work...not very rich. How? And thus u will be troubled about where to get $ and etc..which is a hassle...
2nd..Is the Putting in efforts.. Okie..if she is those loyal type of gals..and u can gurantee that she will be the one u will be marrying nxt time...Fine that is still good...But if u and her juz stead..and then break after sum time...dun u tink is a waste of efforts and also time? l rather u channel this type of effort into some other things..
3rd is...being in a r/s...is kinda complicating..u need to noe alot of things..summore u hav to learn and understand alot of things
What l suggest is...to stead at a young age is kinda stupid and waste $ and efforts...l tell alot of my frenz..y dun u wait till u finished ur Ns and get a job..at that time ...u maybe in ur 20+...then u find a gal that is single, oso in the 20+...and then u jio her...stead and be together for 1 yr...then go marry..which is more pratical and better mah...rather than u stead at a young age...with ur gf...then u and her hav to wait for several yrs before u all can marry with each other...and summore...u nver know..how her feelings or heart will change wor...a few yrs time......
Find a gal at the suitable and mature time.. stead 1 yr...marry...1 yr expenses and costs
Compare to
Find a gal at young age...Hav to waited for 2 or 3 or more yrs...Several yr expenses and costs
Which is better ne? Which is more pratical ne?
l tink when we are young...guys shld not keep on focusing on gals...summore l tink is the more u dun care abt gals..do ur things in ur style and having ur own way of things..u tend to look more attractive and cool... there are alot of other things to concentrate and do...when u are young..rather than channelling ur focus and energy on gals... -
x2Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Actually...nowadays l see guys and gals stead...outcome is always bad de..is Most cases...So what for stead rite?
l tink when we are young...we shld enjoy ourselves..love ourselves..and do the things we want to do...and not always thinking of gals and having a stead..
l hav already think of all the cons of having a stead when u are young...that is my own thinking la...juz sharing with others..
1st of all..is abt the $ problem...altot some forumities say here that can pay dutch mah...
But think of it...isit possible? having a gf...u let her pay herself everytime meh? Sometimes u oso hav to pay for her mah..Worst still is those gals that hav the concept that guys shld pay for gals..then the guy who is still studying..let say he is those that nver work...not very rich. How? And thus u will be troubled about where to get $ and etc..which is a hassle...
2nd..Is the Putting in efforts.. Okie..if she is those loyal type of gals..and u can gurantee that she will be the one u will be marrying nxt time...Fine that is still good...But if u and her juz stead..and then break after sum time...dun u tink is a waste of efforts and also time? l rather u channel this type of effort into some other things..
3rd is...being in a r/s...is kinda complicating..u need to noe alot of things..summore u hav to learn and understand alot of things
What l suggest is...to stead at a young age is kinda stupid and waste $ and efforts...l tell alot of my frenz..y dun u wait till u finished ur Ns and get a job..at that time ...u maybe in ur 20+...then u find a gal that is single, oso in the 20+...and then u jio her...stead and be together for 1 yr...then go marry..which is more pratical and better mah...rather than u stead at a young age...with ur gf...then u and her hav to wait for several yrs before u all can marry with each other...and summore...u nver know..how her feelings or heart will change wor...a few yrs time......
Find a gal at the suitable and mature time.. stead 1 yr...marry...1 yr expenses and costs
Compare to
Find a gal at young age...Hav to waited for 2 or 3 or more yrs...Several yr expenses and costs
Which is better ne? Which is more pratical ne?
l tink when we are young...guys shld not keep on focusing on gals...summore l tink is the more u dun care abt gals..do ur things in ur style and having ur own way of things..u tend to look more attractive and cool... there are alot of other things to concentrate and do...when u are young..rather than channelling ur focus and energy on gals...
doko -
Thanks doko =)
haha..glad that u agree too..but however there are sum ppl that l told them abt how l feel..when they told me "ah...how l wish l had a gf now" or say "lonely siah " . Some agree with me while some juz disagree strongly..
haha but in life...sumtimz we juz need to be more pratical and realistic...r/s oso the same ^^ -
different phases of life, different lifestyles, different choices.
Whatever suits you... just be happy -
It is not abt what time to find gf or bf,whether young or reaches mature adult stages then go look for one.
IT IS ABT FINDING THE RIGHT PARTNER...
For example,all the possible problems mention in a r/s is abt finding the right parnter to avoid all those mistakes and reduce failure. A partner which suits u!
If u r a rich guy,u wouldn't care abt a spendthrift partner,right? Cos u can buy her anything u want...
If u r not so well off,find a one that matches yr need. A thrifty and great virtue gal...a gal who really understand yr needs! -
ya...every ppl hav diff views and etc..l cnt say myself as correct too..
is like having sum serious thoughts and thinking...and observing ard..that is what l concluded... -
x3.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Actually...nowadays l see guys and gals stead...outcome is always bad de..is Most cases...So what for stead rite?
l tink when we are young...we shld enjoy ourselves..love ourselves..and do the things we want to do...and not always thinking of gals and having a stead..
l hav already think of all the cons of having a stead when u are young...that is my own thinking la...juz sharing with others..
1st of all..is abt the $ problem...altot some forumities say here that can pay dutch mah...
But think of it...isit possible? having a gf...u let her pay herself everytime meh? Sometimes u oso hav to pay for her mah..Worst still is those gals that hav the concept that guys shld pay for gals..then the guy who is still studying..let say he is those that nver work...not very rich. How? And thus u will be troubled about where to get $ and etc..which is a hassle...
2nd..Is the Putting in efforts.. Okie..if she is those loyal type of gals..and u can gurantee that she will be the one u will be marrying nxt time...Fine that is still good...But if u and her juz stead..and then break after sum time...dun u tink is a waste of efforts and also time? l rather u channel this type of effort into some other things..
3rd is...being in a r/s...is kinda complicating..u need to noe alot of things..summore u hav to learn and understand alot of things
What l suggest is...to stead at a young age is kinda stupid and waste $ and efforts...l tell alot of my frenz..y dun u wait till u finished ur Ns and get a job..at that time ...u maybe in ur 20+...then u find a gal that is single, oso in the 20+...and then u jio her...stead and be together for 1 yr...then go marry..which is more pratical and better mah...rather than u stead at a young age...with ur gf...then u and her hav to wait for several yrs before u all can marry with each other...and summore...u nver know..how her feelings or heart will change wor...a few yrs time......
Find a gal at the suitable and mature time.. stead 1 yr...marry...1 yr expenses and costs
Compare to
Find a gal at young age...Hav to waited for 2 or 3 or more yrs...Several yr expenses and costs
Which is better ne? Which is more pratical ne?
l tink when we are young...guys shld not keep on focusing on gals...summore l tink is the more u dun care abt gals..do ur things in ur style and having ur own way of things..u tend to look more attractive and cool... there are alot of other things to concentrate and do...when u are young..rather than channelling ur focus and energy on gals...
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marrying doesn't mean she won't change her heart. Too late find a gf, too fast has to marry, dun u think there's a higher chance that u two dun really understand each other well?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:2nd..Is the Putting in efforts.. Okie..if she is those loyal type of gals..and u can gurantee that she will be the one u will be marrying nxt time...Fine that is still good...But if u and her juz stead..and then break after sum time...dun u tink is a waste of efforts and also time? l rather u channel this type of effort into some other things..
marry already then divorce, waste money on the marriage and might need to pay maintenance somemore.
also many girls today are perfectly fine with going dutch one lah, dun need u to pay too much for them. -
i kinda agree with what he says. but u date to learn frm experience and not be a nervous wussy at the age of 20+ on ur first and maybe last date if you don't learn right?
also dating is for having a girl/guy to acompany you and have fun.
also some people date for sex. -
No la..l tink sum gals mature at a later age...so if at a later age find...better oso mah...she mature liao..noe how to tink and noe what she wan also...
beside 1 yr to stead and noe each other..still not long enuf meh?? -
Many people want a girlfriend. More like, guys want a girlfriend for a wife. They believe it is the key to happiness. Some might want to get attached to show off their prize. Both genders do. Girls want to show off their handsome hunk to their girlfriends. The guys want to show off their prize or be proud of possessing it. Some might want to get attached because they deluded themselves that the girl is the one after knowing her for a short while only. But do they know the girl at all? Does she have a track record of dumping guys or going after rich guys? Is wanting a girlfriend really the solution to be happy?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Thanks doko =)
haha..glad that u agree too..but however there are sum ppl that l told them abt how l feel..when they told me "ah...how l wish l had a gf now" or say "lonely siah " . Some agree with me while some juz disagree strongly..
haha but in life...sumtimz we juz need to be more pratical and realistic...r/s oso the same ^^
The thing is, people will still be essentially the same with the relationship, if not, more insecure, especially if they can't keep their woman in love with them. Some people just will not stand loneliness. Or they rather be unhappy while still together with a woman.
Have you ever noticed why is it that in this forum, it is usually the guy with the problems with their relationships? Occasionally, some girls will complain, but usually it is the girl losing feelings for the guy, which still boils down to the guy being the victim?
The problem is a lot of guys place too much importance for getting a girl to be happy. Im not saying that getting a girl is wrong or you should start being gay. But you should be happy with your life instead and live your own dreams, with the girl as someone who share your dreams, not make her your dream or your master.
Then you see your friend who is attached. Outside, he is laughing like mad. Inside? Maybe he is worrying here and there. Or unhappy there is a guy trying to bang his girl? Sometimes, there will be up and down.
Like what said, guys should find the right woman for them, except that I don't agree that when you are rich, you can spend anything on her. You are simply spoiling her! The modern relationship is supposed to be 50-50. Women don't exploit men. Men don't do it either. But in reality, it will be different. We try not to take advantage of the opposite sex.
That's my view.
doko -
only 1 yr for dating is really quite short lehOriginally posted by xShevchenkox:No la..l tink sum gals mature at a later age...so if at a later age find...better oso mah...she mature liao..noe how to tink and noe what she wan also...
beside 1 yr to stead and noe each other..still not long enuf meh?? -
being in the right r/s is better.
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every r/s is a different story lah, so u cant really say wat is good or bad.
and i believe everyone should learn something from every r/s. -
l will like to highlite abt sum tinz that doko say ...and l feel that is quite true..
Quoted by doko
The problem is a lot of guys place too much importance for getting a girl to be happy. Im not saying that getting a girl is wrong or you should start being gay. But you should be happy with your life instead and live your own dreams, with the girl as someone who share your dreams, not make her your dream or your master.
Dun always tink of how to impress or make a gal happy..u oso must be happy oso mah..y dun the gal do the other way and make us happy ne?
Gals and guys are of the same rank!! l hav to emphasise on this..we hav the same VALUE!! dun becos she ur gf...and u love her to siao..always plz her, make her happy..this is a whimpy person...a whimpy guy will do all these..and l am not embarrassed to admit that l used to be one in my 2nd r.s... a gf is to show ur happiness and accmpy u to old..Not for u to keep pleasing her and making her happy..
As a guy...we must hav backbone and character!! And one thing nver emphasise a gal as 1st priority or treat her like if u dun hav her..u will die..there are more impt things in life...such as Career and Respecting our parents who bring us up...be filial to them...l will nver put a gal as 1st priority ...used to be one siao kia..who put great emphasis on my gf...But find it stupid la.. -
Being single is good lah. Can do anything without someone calling in the midnight to spotcheck.
About being a wuss hor, I got a guy friend who everyday stick with his girlfriend like flies on shit like that. I see le also buay tahan. Then he follow whereever she goes lor. Knn, more like maid rather than a boyfriend. Then he will get angry if any of his friends including me trying to strike a conversation, fearing we will snatch his girlfriend away like that.
Being loving and caring boyfriend is great but having a henpecked boyfriend is totally cannot make it lah. -
haha...Originally posted by mase101:Being single is good lah. Can do anything without someone calling in the midnight to spotcheck.
About being a wuss hor, I got a guy friend who everyday stick with his girlfriend like flies on shit like that. I see le also buay tahan. Then he follow whereever she goes lor. Knn, more like maid rather than a boyfriend. Then he will get angry if any of his friends including me trying to strike a conversation, fearing we will snatch his girlfriend away like that.
Being loving and caring boyfriend is great but having a henpecked boyfriend is totally cannot make it lah.
"Master, how can me, a loyal puppy, serve you? Can I lick your feet?"
doko -
ya...dun bow down to gals...we are men...we shld hav our own backbone and pride ^^.... Treat the gal well..if she has treated u well...Things must be Fair in the r/s...
And sumtinz l notice that..sum gals pms ...like to vent frustration or get easily with their bf...l think this is not an acceptable Excuse...
such gals juz nid a tight slap to wake them up instead of pacifying them
Look at this ...so wad if gals hav pms...u dun really hav the rights to scold ppl juz becos u pms.. is like..y dun u go scold ur parent...
sum gals juz like bully guys... -
This thread is hilarious.
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Which part is funny? I thought this was supposed to be a wake up call for our freedom.Originally posted by M©+square: This thread is hilarious.
doko -
yalor..Originally posted by M©+square: This thread is hilarious.
act MAN..
but i wonder in real life wat they do sia..
god created woman for man, not the other way round.
no one asked men to pamper gfs wat, and be a dog? those men chose to!
and then, it's juz ur luck if u have a gf like that.
not all girls are like that. -
To a certain extent i agreed with you,but everyone will feel lonely no matter if you are attached or not..So having is good,not having is also not bad....So up to individuals...to decide i stand for one life partner but many GFs......friends only no body contact..or creating heat from contact....Originally posted by xShevchenkox:ya...every ppl hav diff views and etc..l cnt say myself as correct too..
is like having sum serious thoughts and thinking...and observing ard..that is what l concluded...
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Sry lor, it's that hormones that is doing the urging. Unless you cut it off lah, you must go through it one lor....
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a flirt is good, but relationshipp.. no wayOriginally posted by xShevchenkox:Actually...nowadays l see guys and gals stead...outcome is always bad de..is Most cases...So what for stead rite?
l tink when we are young...we shld enjoy ourselves..love ourselves..and do the things we want to do...and not always thinking of gals and having a stead..
l hav already think of all the cons of having a stead when u are young...that is my own thinking la...juz sharing with others..
1st of all..is abt the $ problem...altot some forumities say here that can pay dutch mah...
But think of it...isit possible? having a gf...u let her pay herself everytime meh? Sometimes u oso hav to pay for her mah..Worst still is those gals that hav the concept that guys shld pay for gals..then the guy who is still studying..let say he is those that nver work...not very rich. How? And thus u will be troubled about where to get $ and etc..which is a hassle...
2nd..Is the Putting in efforts.. Okie..if she is those loyal type of gals..and u can gurantee that she will be the one u will be marrying nxt time...Fine that is still good...But if u and her juz stead..and then break after sum time...dun u tink is a waste of efforts and also time? l rather u channel this type of effort into some other things..
3rd is...being in a r/s...is kinda complicating..u need to noe alot of things..summore u hav to learn and understand alot of things
What l suggest is...to stead at a young age is kinda stupid and waste $ and efforts...l tell alot of my frenz..y dun u wait till u finished ur Ns and get a job..at that time ...u maybe in ur 20+...then u find a gal that is single, oso in the 20+...and then u jio her...stead and be together for 1 yr...then go marry..which is more pratical and better mah...rather than u stead at a young age...with ur gf...then u and her hav to wait for several yrs before u all can marry with each other...and summore...u nver know..how her feelings or heart will change wor...a few yrs time......
Find a gal at the suitable and mature time.. stead 1 yr...marry...1 yr expenses and costs
Compare to
Find a gal at young age...Hav to waited for 2 or 3 or more yrs...Several yr expenses and costs
Which is better ne? Which is more pratical ne?
l tink when we are young...guys shld not keep on focusing on gals...summore l tink is the more u dun care abt gals..do ur things in ur style and having ur own way of things..u tend to look more attractive and cool... there are alot of other things to concentrate and do...when u are young..rather than channelling ur focus and energy on gals... -
Originally posted by M©+square: This thread is hilarious.
Why do I always see your point?
P.S: Nope I don't see it as hilarious, but I see your point.
Cheers