Help!!
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I like this gal in my class. Even though have a crush on her ever since like i started poly, i only get closer to her during 2nd sem. Like findin every opportunity to be with her like, accompanying her studyin in the library alone though i hate openin the bio book
. smsing her to keep her company durin elective. (we took different elective). Did ask her whether she's single or not and she says "yea".
However, recently borrowed her thumb drive to store our project work. Accidently open some of her private folders and saw some pic of a guy with her. Did ask one of my friend who use to be in the same sch with her bout the guy. They use to be together. Not sure bout now. The thing is, she just bought the thumb drive like 2 week ago. (i was there when she bought it) and soo fast got that kind of thing inside. Maybe im jealous. i donno.
even though i havent really make my feelings known to her, i was very obvious till ppl arnd me and her can feel it.
Wad should i do? -
1. Take it slow. Fools rush in. She may not be ready for a relationship. Though she said she may be single, it could mean that her previous relationship is in suspended animation - neither here nor there.
2. Remember that she's not your girlfriend yet - so if another guy swoops in for her, there's really nothing you can do about it. And for all you know, those pics were in the thumb drive just because she wanted to send them for developing.
Cheers. -
You sure u accidentally open it anot?
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developing?? so that she could print them and burn every photo of him... I really hope sooOriginally posted by fudgester:1. Take it slow. Fools rush in. She may not be ready for a relationship. Though she said she may be single, it could mean that her previous relationship is in suspended animation - neither here nor there.
2. Remember that she's not your girlfriend yet - so if another guy swoops in for her, there's really nothing you can do about it. And for all you know, those pics were in the thumb drive just because she wanted to send them for developing.
Cheers.
btw, i dont understand ur suspended animation part...[/code] -
No no you sound like a very possessive guy. Are you sure you are ready for a relationship? Can you control yourself emotionally?Originally posted by ifish:developing?? so that she could print them and burn every photo of him... I really hope soo
btw, i dont understand ur suspended animation part...[/code]
doko -
Date her. School don't count.Originally posted by ifish:I like this gal in my class. Even though have a crush on her ever since like i started poly, i only get closer to her during 2nd sem. Like findin every opportunity to be with her like, accompanying her studyin in the library alone though i hate openin the bio book. smsing her to keep her company durin elective. (we took different elective). Did ask her whether she's single or not and she says "yea".
However, recently borrowed her thumb drive to store our project work. Accidently open some of her private folders and saw some pic of a guy with her. Did ask one of my friend who use to be in the same sch with her bout the guy. They use to be together. Not sure bout now. The thing is, she just bought the thumb drive like 2 week ago. (i was there when she bought it) and soo fast got that kind of thing inside. Maybe im jealous. i donno.
even though i havent really make my feelings known to her, i was very obvious till ppl arnd me and her can feel it.
Wad should i do?
doko -
how i wish i open the correct file... at least i wont know bout thisOriginally posted by Patrik:You sure u accidentally open it anot? -
Suspended animation - meaning that they aren't really together, but haven't really broken up.Originally posted by ifish:developing?? so that she could print them and burn every photo of him... I really hope soo
btw, i dont understand ur suspended animation part...[/code]
The very fact that you wish she would develop those photos and burn them speaks volumes of your maturity, or to be more brutally frank, the utter LACK of it. Shucks man - what did that guy ever do to you?
Forget it. You're not mature enough to be in a relationship with her. -
i was just kiddin... of cause i dont want that to happen...Originally posted by dokono:No no you sound like a very possessive guy. Are you sure you are ready for a relationship? Can you control yourself emotionally?
doko -
Please, if she finds out you have changed after assumingly you do manage to get her, she might reconsider her relationship with you. If you are nice to her from the get-go(because you want her to be your girlfriend), be nice all the way.Originally posted by ifish:i was just kiddin... of cause i dont want that to happen...
doko -
hmm maybe... i dont know... ohh well... maybe ur rite... im just not good enough for her...Originally posted by fudgester:Suspended animation - meaning that they aren't really together, but haven't really broken up.
The very fact that you wish she would develop those photos and burn them speaks volumes of your maturity, or to be more brutally frank, the utter LACK of it. Shucks man - what did that guy ever do to you?
Forget it. You're not mature enough to be in a relationship with her. -
Denial of the matter doesnt mean it never happened b4.Originally posted by ifish:how i wish i open the correct file... at least i wont know bout this
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No, it's not that.Originally posted by ifish:hmm maybe... i dont know... ohh well... maybe ur rite... im just not good enough for her...
It's just that if you exude your possessiveness to her, it's such a turnoff. Everyone has a certain amount insecurity and that's understandable. You need to discipline yourself and control it.
doko -
ohh okae... maybe i should work on my emotion first...Originally posted by dokono:No, it's not that.
It's just that if you exude your possessiveness to her, it's such a turnoff. Everyone has a certain amount insecurity and that's understandable. You need to discipline yourself and control it.
doko -
Now I see you're starting to show signs of maturity.Originally posted by ifish:ohh okae... maybe i should work on my emotion first...
I know I was harsh on you - simply because rushing into a relationship when you can't sort through your own feelings is a really bad idea. Having jealous thoughts over those pics is one thing. It was your reaction to those thoughts that spoke to me of your maturity level. Like I said, the guy did nothing wrong to you, so why would you want to condemn him in such a manner?
Like I said, fools rush in, and you really wouldn't want to be a fool. Get to know her better first. Sort through your feelings for her, and whether you're really emotionally mature enough for a relationship with her. If you're going to curse some guy you don't know for taking pictures with her, then I predict that you're going to be highly possessive if you do get into a relationship with her.
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IF you want to test water a very easy way is to ask her out for a meal. Just a meal, don't date her or do movies. Give some shitty excuse so it doesn't look like a date.
If she totally refuse u even for a simple meal outside, you're screwed! -
maybe she just kept the files inside for memories leh?
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nah its okae.. at least u show me the light. Just realise that im indeed somewhere wrong up there. Should get my emotions right first. For the time being, like u said, friends first. afterall i just want her to be happyOriginally posted by fudgester:Now I see you're starting to show signs of maturity.
I know I was harsh on you - simply because rushing into a relationship when you can't sort through your own feelings is a really bad idea. Having jealous thoughts over those pics is one thing. It was your reaction to those thoughts that spoke to me of your maturity level. Like I said, the guy did nothing wrong to you, so why would you want to condemn him in such a manner?
Like I said, fools rush in, and you really wouldn't want to be a fool. Get to know her better first. Sort through your feelings for her, and whether you're really emotionally mature enough for a relationship with her. If you're going to curse some guy you don't know for taking pictures with her, then I predict that you're going to be highly possessive if you do get into a relationship with her.
I trust that you will do the right thing. -
then im not that screwedOriginally posted by username0:IF you want to test water a very easy way is to ask her out for a meal. Just a meal, don't date her or do movies. Give some shitty excuse so it doesn't look like a date.
If she totally refuse u even for a simple meal outside, you're screwed! -
she know ur intention la... she probably still love him alot... but jz go ahead n ask her out n get to know her more...Originally posted by ifish:I like this gal in my class. Even though have a crush on her ever since like i started poly, i only get closer to her during 2nd sem. Like findin every opportunity to be with her like, accompanying her studyin in the library alone though i hate openin the bio book. smsing her to keep her company durin elective. (we took different elective). Did ask her whether she's single or not and she says "yea".
However, recently borrowed her thumb drive to store our project work. Accidently open some of her private folders and saw some pic of a guy with her. Did ask one of my friend who use to be in the same sch with her bout the guy. They use to be together. Not sure bout now. The thing is, she just bought the thumb drive like 2 week ago. (i was there when she bought it) and soo fast got that kind of thing inside. Maybe im jealous. i donno.
even though i havent really make my feelings known to her, i was very obvious till ppl arnd me and her can feel it.
Wad should i do? -
Friends? Come on, lie to who haha?Originally posted by ifish:nah its okae.. at least u show me the light. Just realise that im indeed somewhere wrong up there. Should get my emotions right first. For the time being, like u said, friends first. afterall i just want her to be happy
Are you looking for a friend or a lover? If you are looking for a friend, there are tons of guys around who wants to be your friend.
You don't accompany her. You date. You ask her out.
doko -
well... seems like i need to settle my emotion first. Like wad fudgie has said, "fools rush in" im not goin to make things complicated by trying to settle both at the same time... afterall, i just want her to be happyOriginally posted by dokono:Friends? Come on, lie to who haha?
Are you looking for a friend or a lover? If you are looking for a friend, there are tons of guys around who wants to be your friend.
You don't accompany her. You date. You ask her out.
doko -
Yeah you need to discipline that as well.Originally posted by ifish:well... seems like i need to settle my emotion first. Like wad fudgie has said, "fools rush in" im not goin to make things complicated by trying to settle both at the same time... afterall, i just want her to be happy
For now, if you still want her to be your girlfriend, you should be taking some actions. You need to know if she likes you. What if she likes you? If not, then there's no point in "wanting her to be happy". Other guys will do it if you don't.
doko -
hmm.. action? lets say i follow ur suggestion and tried to date her... What if I got reject? Not that im afraid of rejection or anything. Just that if it really happen, how am i going to work with her in future? I still got 3 more years in poly lehOriginally posted by dokono:Yeah you need to discipline that as well.
For now, if you still want her to be your girlfriend, you should be taking some actions. You need to know if she likes you. What if she likes you? If not, then there's no point in "wanting her to be happy". Other guys will do it if you don't.
doko -
hmm...then you continue to work with her and observe how she treats you.Originally posted by ifish:hmm.. action? lets say i follow ur suggestion and tried to date her... What if I got reject? Not that im afraid of rejection or anything. Just that if it really happen, how am i going to work with her in future? I still got 3 more years in poly leh
doko