I'm so traumatised...
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cmon , naked and in your room, is there any question to his motives?
if im your boyfriend, i will go and beat the shit out of him, no matter what the consequences.
its a guy thing!
or possibly trying to initiate you to a threesome
anyhow , he is sick
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Look, I know you are traumatised and all that. But do think twice before you do anything at the moment. Cause any thing you do would have some form of consequences no matter what. This is a marriage we are talking about here.Originally posted by blu_sky:Yes........
In life, there is more to it than what is right and what is wrong, what is fair and what is unfair. Who says life is fair? Who says what is right would be good for everyone? If that is the case, life would be so much easier.
I'm trying to think of the best course of action that is best for everyone's interest.
Are you sure he is drunk or not drunk ? Can you be absolutely sure? Right now, you can claim to be the victim. But the fact is that he hasn't touched you or anything. You can say you are hurt but where? Emotionally or mentally or? You are simply shaken by his behaviour and you claim to be the victim. There is no physical contact whatsoever.
Right now, just try to pretend nothing happen. If you say you are the victim, then the wife believed, the marriage maybe on unsteady grounds. You are in fact causing hurt to both parties and to yourself. If the wife doesn't believe your words, which I don't think is possible since you are the close friend, then it's still ok and hopefully the guy tries to resolve the issue by apologising.
There is one thing Im not very clear. Your friends like to sleep naked ?Or do they sleep naked when they are drunk? What are their living habits like? I mean you have stayed over at their house for 2.5 years, there must be a lot of story you know. For now, it's best if the guy apologises, assuming he is not drunk. If not, I will advise you to avoid them as much as possible, for the time being.
doko -
beat the shit out of him and tell your friend,Originally posted by blu_sky:i went to my best friend's plc for our usual drinking session tonite, and as usual, i stayed over.
in the middle of the nite, i heard the door opened and saw her hubby in my room (i have a room there) naked! i ran over to my friend's room and saw her sleeping naked like a log, snoring away. so i ran up the roof. he followed me to the roof! i had to run down, grabbed my bag and dashed to my car and drove off.
How could this happen? We are friends for years... 6 years to be exact. i was their MC on their wedding and witness for their rom. Supposed to be the godmother of their future child. how could this happened?
Now im torn if i should tell my best friend about it.....
and kick his balls ,
if your bf is too gay to do it
if you need help i ll come over, and beat the shit out of him
a man got to defend his gf honor, talk is cheap -
dude, you seriously think that the husband is by any chance innocent? come on,Originally posted by dokono:Look, I know you are traumatised and all that. But do think twice before you do anything at the moment. Cause any thing you do would have some form of consequences no matter what. This is a marriage we are talking about here.
Are you sure he is drunk or not drunk ? Can you be absolutely sure? Right now, you can claim to be the victim. But the fact is that he hasn't touched you or anything. You can say you are hurt but where? Emotionally or mentally or? You are simply shaken by his behaviour and you claim to be the victim. There is no physical contact whatsoever.
Right now, just try to pretend nothing happen. If you say you are the victim, then the wife believed, the marriage maybe on unsteady grounds. You are in fact causing hurt to both parties and to yourself. If the wife doesn't believe your words, which I don't think is possible since you are the close friend, then it's still ok and hopefully the guy tries to resolve the issue by apologising.
There is one thing Im not very clear. Your friends like to sleep naked ?Or do they sleep naked when they are drunk? What are their living habits like? I mean you have stayed over at their house for 2.5 years, there must be a lot of story you know. For now, it's best if the guy apologises, assuming he is not drunk. If not, I will advise you to avoid them as much as possible, for the time being.
doko
he just want sex, and he thinks by showing his lethal weapon he is going to get some action
he should be punished.either way his wife is going to lose
how would you feel if its your gf that was shown that?
its like flasher!
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i wonder wat a win-win situation is like.
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where got win win situation like this?Originally posted by browniebaobao:i wonder wat a win-win situation is like.
wait till u have come up with a decision like that, let me know ya.
tell me if you found one!
just kick his balls -
Talk is cheap.Originally posted by dokono:Look, I know you are traumatised and all that. But do think twice before you do anything at the moment. Cause any thing you do would have some form of consequences no matter what. This is a marriage we are talking about here.
Are you sure he is drunk or not drunk ? Can you be absolutely sure? Right now, you can claim to be the victim. But the fact is that he hasn't touched you or anything. You can say you are hurt but where? Emotionally or mentally or? You are simply shaken by his behaviour and you claim to be the victim. There is no physical contact whatsoever.
Right now, just try to pretend nothing happen. If you say you are the victim, then the wife believed, the marriage maybe on unsteady grounds. You are in fact causing hurt to both parties and to yourself. If the wife doesn't believe your words, which I don't think is possible since you are the close friend, then it's still ok and hopefully the guy tries to resolve the issue by apologising.
There is one thing Im not very clear. Your friends like to sleep naked ?Or do they sleep naked when they are drunk? What are their living habits like? I mean you have stayed over at their house for 2.5 years, there must be a lot of story you know. For now, it's best if the guy apologises, assuming he is not drunk. If not, I will advise you to avoid them as much as possible, for the time being.
doko -
Why all men say the same thing? He said he wanted to take the earliest possible flight back to singapore to beat up that guy too.Originally posted by Space1999:beat the shit out of him and tell your friend,
and kick his balls ,
if your bf is too gay to do it
if you need help i ll come over, and beat the shit out of him
a man got to defend his gf honor, talk is cheap -
pang guang zhe qing.Originally posted by blu_sky:Talk is cheap. -
Im not trying to defend this guy. Im trying to defend the marriage. If he is really drunk, then what? I mean, some people really cannot control themselves when they are pissed drunk. Maybe that guy lost form. And notice the wife also sleep naked.Originally posted by Space1999:dude, you seriously think that the husband is by any chance innocent? come on,
he just want sex, and he thinks by showing his lethal weapon he is going to get some action
he should be punished.either way his wife is going to lose
how would you feel if its your gf that was shown that?
its like flasher!
easy for you to say, imagine it s your wife!
On the other hand, he can be very sober. He knows what he is doing. Then you can whack him hard.
That's why the best she can do is not say anything. Anything you say or do will have a karmic effect on the marriage. What if, his wife has a very enjoyable relationship with the husband? If she complained, she might lose both the friendship with both people.
The best blu_sky can do is avoid them. Sit back and observe first before you do anything.
doko -
its juz dat if he wanted sex that is one damm unbelievably stupid way.. unless he is intoxicated or mental.Originally posted by Space1999:dude, you seriously think that the husband is by any chance innocent? come on,
he just want sex, and he thinks by showing his lethal weapon he is going to get some action
he should be punished.either way his wife is going to lose
how would you feel if its your gf that was shown that?
its like flasher!
easy for you to say, imagine it s your wife! -
You are not answering my question. I know you are traumatised. When you look at him, can you feel that he is sober or drunk or just acting sober?Originally posted by blu_sky:Talk is cheap.
Can describe the details?
doko -
I'll give them the benefit of doubt, though I understand it's clearly not up to me to say much.
But your friend, his wife, is also sleeping naked. Most probably, they'd engaged in some sexual activities. If he's really interested in screwing you, I think it's only obvious he wouldn't appear infront of you naked, right? I mean, any guy with an IQ of above 100 would know appearing naked infront of a girl you want to fuck is a 100% guaranteed way to never fuck her.
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Jiang xin bi xin.Originally posted by Ito_^:pang guang zhe qing.
If a man do that to your sister or gf, would you still ask your sister/gf "did you verify if he is drunk" or "did you check if they are used to sleeping naked"?
WTF? -
If a guy is drunk, it makes it ok for him to flash his body to your gf/sister/mother?Originally posted by binarynwitz:I'll give them the benefit of doubt, though I understand it's clearly not up to me to say much.
But your friend, his wife, is also sleeping naked. Most probably, they'd engaged in some sexual activities. If he's really interested in screwing you, I think it's only obvious he wouldn't appear infront of you naked, right? I mean, any guy with an IQ of above 100 would know appearing naked infront of a girl you want to fuck is a 100% guaranteed way to never fuck her.
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I'm goin out now. Lemme ask you guys a qn. Does being drunk make whatever wrong thing a person does right?
So if one day, a drunk man and molested your gf, is it ok? you letting him go juz cos he said "hey dude, im sorry, i was drunk"?
P/S: I do not know if he was drunk. but he went to bed at 1am, his wife went back to sleep at 2:15am and he opened my room door at 3:10am. -
Do what you will, think what you like, I hope you think rationally, please.Originally posted by blu_sky:If a guy is drunk, it makes it ok for him to flash his body to your gf/sister/mother?
doko -
of course not, coz i believe even when one is drunk, he's 30% sober lor.Originally posted by blu_sky:I'm goin out now. Lemme ask you guys a qn. Does being drunk make whatever wrong thing a person does right?
So if one day, a drunk man and molested your gf, is it ok? you letting him go juz cos he said "hey dude, im sorry, i was drunk"?
but for ur case, no evidence wor.
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Let's reverse the situation now.
What if blu_sky is a man? And the one flashing is the wife ? And the husband is sleeping naked on the bed.
What do you think will be his response? Im very curious to see all the opinions.
doko -
Start new thread.Originally posted by dokono:Let's reverse the situation now.
What if blu_sky is a man? And the one flashing is the wife ? And the husband is sleeping naked on the bed.
What do you think will be his response? Im very curious to see all the opinions.
doko -
Originally posted by blu_sky:i went to my best friend's plc for our usual drinking session tonite, and as usual, i stayed over.
in the middle of the nite, i heard the door opened and saw her hubby in my room (i have a room there) naked! i ran over to my friend's room and saw her sleeping naked like a log, snoring away. so i ran up the roof. he followed me to the roof! i had to run down, grabbed my bag and dashed to my car and drove off.
How could this happen? We are friends for years... 6 years to be exact. i was their MC on their wedding and witness for their rom. Supposed to be the godmother of their future child. how could this happened?
Now im torn if i should tell my best friend about it..... 
Ok, I have to agree with MCsquare that this is a touchy issue and the best choice might not always be blu_sky telling her best friend about it.
If it was me, I will ask the man out and speak to him in private first, before I make any further decision. I think this should be the first course of action because at least you let the man do the explaination, while you try to uncover if there is already an existing sort of sexual intention or hidden affection behind that exterior 'friendship' or is that seriously an honest mistake.
Try to understand what is going on in his mind at that point of time. Ask him to do that explaination - you will have all the time to make conclusion/s and decision/s later on.
Whether is he seriously drunk or not, it doesn't really matter so much? Because this is like the first time such things happen, therefore I reckon if you could settle between the two of you, it should probably be just the two of you settling it?
This could also be the time to trash things IF all these while, you have been feeling weird about the way this man treats you. You know what I mean? Your womanly instinct telling you something else other than the normal vibes you should be receiving?
Of course, give him a stern deterrence that if something like that happens again, you wouldn't be so polite to 'date' him out for a 'talk' next time round.
Remember, your extreme trauma is not because somebody flashes at you, but because that person is your best friend's husband. It is possible to put that matter behind your head if that incident is indeed an honest mistake and the talk ended in a reasonably, amicably sign off.
Cheers -
Yes, also becos trust has been built and established over all these years of friendship. Other then being my best friend's husband, he is personally a close friend of mine too. You feel betrayal when you encounter such things? Insecurity, cos you cant even sleep in peace. That is where the trauma stems from.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Ok, I have to agree with MCsquare that this is a touchy issue and the best choice might not always be blu_sky telling her best friend about it.
If it was me, I will ask the man out and speak to him in private first, before I make any further decision. I think this should be the first course of action because at least you let the man do the explaination, while you try to uncover if there is already an existing sort of sexual intention or hidden affection behind that exterior 'friendship' or is that seriously an honest mistake.
Try to understand what is going on in his mind at that point of time. Ask him to do that explaination - you will have all the time to make conclusion/s and decision/s later on.
Whether is he seriously drunk or not, it doesn't really matter so much? Because this is like the first time such things happen, therefore I reckon if you could settle between the two of you, it should probably be just the two of you settling it?
This could also be the time to trash things IF all these while, you have been feeling weird about the way this man treats you. You know what I mean? Your womanly instinct telling you something else other than the normal vibes you should be receiving?
Of course, give him a stern deterrence that if something like that happens again, you wouldn't be so polite to 'date' him out for a 'talk' next time round.
Remember, your extreme trauma is not because somebody flashes at you, but because that person is your best friend's husband. It is possible to put that matter behind your head if that incident is indeed an honest mistake and the talk ended in a reasonably, amicably sign off.
Cheers -
Maybe no win win situation. How about cutting loss?Originally posted by Space1999:where got win win situation like this?
tell me if you found one!
just kick his balls -
Originally posted by blu_sky:Yes, also becos trust has been built and established over all these years of friendship. Other then being my best friend's husband, he is personally a close friend of mine too. You feel betrayal when you encounter such things? Insecurity, cos you cant even sleep in peace. That is where the trauma stems from. Then the more you should speak to him in private and listen to what he has to say. It would be easier to question and talk in that sense because you do value this friendship and it would be easier to settle this between just the two of you. I don't think the situation has gone out of hand that it requires you to discuss this with your best friend, if you could possibly settle this yourself.
Cheers -
There is no need.Originally posted by blu_sky:Start new thread.
doko