I'm so traumatised...
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Thinking again, I think it's better if we just continue this via PM, or not continue this at all.
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i got to sleep because i have to work , good night. nice talking to you but i doubt i will anymore. thank you for your comments, its been very interesting seek your validation elsewhere. and by the wayOriginally posted by binarynwitz:Yes, I'm still staying under my dad's roof, because I cannot get a house yet. Notice the big legal age slammed?
Loss and death? My mum passed away in February, and I've probably encountered much more than you think I have.
Being fed? Sorry, I'm working part time, daily, just so that I can feed myself, and get myself enough money for Poly. I don't even get pocket money now, though I wish I still do.
CPF? I do have it, but it's so little it's pitiful to even mention (since I've only worked one month).
Driving license, once again, goes into the legal age thing. But what the hell does driving license has got to do with maturity?
Have you been mixing with too many spoilt brats who doesn't even vacuum the floor at the age of 16? You might be getting the wrong image from them, then.
there is more tragedies out there then what you experienced, that is called life and you still have long way to go provided you dont get drunk and run into somebody room and get arrested.
learn dont argue maybe you will go far.
bye forever
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damm it i forgot to say get drunk and get naked!sorryOriginally posted by Space1999:i got to sleep because i have to work , good night. nice talking to you but i doubt i will anymore. thank you for your comments, its been very interesting seek your validation elsewhere. and by the way
there is more tragedies out there then what you experienced, that is called life and you still have long way to go provided you dont get drunk and run into somebody room and get arrested.
learn dont argue maybe you will go far.
bye forever
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Aiyah, it's like I said, people like you never get into their head what others said.
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Lets judge him by his actions not yours.Originally posted by blu_sky:i went to my best friend's plc for our usual drinking session tonite, and as usual, i stayed over.
in the middle of the nite, i heard the door opened and saw her hubby in my room (i have a room there) naked! i ran over to my friend's room and saw her sleeping naked like a log, snoring away. so i ran up the roof. he followed me to the roof! i had to run down, grabbed my bag and dashed to my car and drove off.
How could this happen? We are friends for years... 6 years to be exact. i was their MC on their wedding and witness for their rom. Supposed to be the godmother of their future child. how could this happened?
Now im torn if i should tell my best friend about it.....
1. He was drinking.
2. He was in your room, naked.
3. He followed you up to the roof.
Other than these points, its mostly your drama.
a. Did he have an erection?
Intoxicated people have difficulty achieving an erection.
b. Did he tried to grab you?
You ran here and there, past him?
c. Did he say any thing?
Like "I love you", "I need you".
d. Curiously, you said you have a room there and you "stayed over" as usual.
Do you stay there? or are you an occasional visitor?
Your drama makes him look bad.
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Originally posted by mancha:Lets judge him by his actions not yours.
1. He was drinking. ---> wrong, he was sleeping. he already went back to his room 2 hours ago
2. He was in your room, naked. ----> not enuff?! do you know that exposing your private part to an opposite sex can already constitute outrage of modesty/sexual harrassment? Are you saying, so i shouldnt run away, i should juz wait for him to act on it? to show what he really want before i run away? to lay his 100kg body on my 48kg body before i attempt to run away? Not too late? you think i can escape?
3. He followed you up to the roof. ---> he was naked and grabbed my arm and asked me to drink with him. i told him i go to get glasses. i ran down, to cut the long story short, i escaped.Other than these points, its mostly your drama.
a. Did he have an erection?
Intoxicated people have difficulty achieving an erection. ---> got erection or no erection so what? a man can still molest you even if he didnt erect. Didnt you heard of men with dysfunctional problem still attempt to be close to women?b. Did he tried to grab you?
You ran here and there, past him? --->yes he did. see above.
c. Did he say any thing?Like "I love you", "I need you". ---> WAT DO YOU WANT FROM A WOMAN? TO WAIT FOR THINGS TO BE TOO LATE BEFORE RUNNING? so as to verify the intention of a man who creeped into her room naked in the middle of the nite?d. Curiously, you said you have a room there and you "stayed over" as usual.
Do you stay there? or are you an occasional visitor? I am an occasional visitor.
Your drama makes him look bad.---> Then you tell me. what story could he tell to make him look good?
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the fact that he was naked and grab your arm already constitute sexual harrasement, you could file a police report, further fact that he went to your room naked!and followed you!Originally posted by blu_sky:
i cant imagine what kind of story he can spin?and why you should be judged?im getting sick of ppl trying to side him to mitigate his situation?
come on guys, the facts are so obvious.
i do think however the act is planned and he might have harbor such thoughts before, which actually made it more scary.
what if he used knocked out drugs and put it in your drinks?
he is a very evil man , you shouldnt see him anymore -
my offer to help your gaybf to kick his ass is still open, pm if help is needed!
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Yes, i do not understand why the victim of any sexual harassment case should be judged! Now that i was not dressed sexily that nite, so you guys cant blame me for dressing sexily, are you guys goin to blame me for my 'drama' for running here and there trying to run away from him (a man who creeped into my room naked in the middle of the night), blame me for not lookin at his dick to see he had an erection!?Originally posted by Space1999:the fact that he was naked and grab your arm already constitute sexual harrasement, you could file a police report, further fact that he went to your room naked!and followed you!
i cant imagine what kind of story he can spin?and why you should be judged?im getting sick of ppl trying to side him to mitigate his situation?
come on guys, the facts are so obvious.
i do think however the act is planned and he might have harbor such thoughts before, which actually made it more scary.
what if he used knocked out drugs and put it in your drinks?
he is a very evil man , you shouldnt see him anymore
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Thanks for your offer. But please stop calling my boyfriend gay cos he isnt. Thank you.Originally posted by Space1999:my offer to help your gaybf to kick his ass is still open, pm if help is needed! -
I agree with Squiggly and Space1999.Originally posted by Squiggly:I totally agree with Space1999... I would have kicke the daylights out of him... no need to explain anymore... he's definitely a SCUM....
At this point now... It's definitely a no-win situation... Cos, we don't even know if her best friend's husband had already said anything to her best friend...
Just curious... throughout the entire chase, you didn't scream at all? I mean, he "chased" you around the house... I'd think most women would have screamed if they are "chased".... Your best friend dead-drunk?
Sounds like you might have to lose your friendship with your best friend... but do what you have to protect your own honour... some women will turn against their best friend because of their husband... and that kind of woman won't let it rest... the worst thing that could happen is your best friend going around labelling you as a "Sl*t", or a "third-party".
I'd rather you be open about the entire thing... spill it... infront of your best friend and her husband... not just one of them... don't ever contact her husband directly...
What if he had spinned another story to my best friend and told her that i 'seduced' him, which is utterly unbelievable cos i m fairly attractive and he is quite big size and he is married(!), by askin him out secretly without my best friend's knowledge, this could be 'his evidence' that i was the one who seduced him.
Or worse, like Space1999 said, he thought i am keen in having an affair with him and thought this secret meeting is a sign of 'green light'?
Either way, it is sh1t for me.
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Agree. What most despicable men will do, is to discredit the other party.Originally posted by Meat Pao:My advice is that whatever happen you must avoid the husband from now on. Just be formal with him and dont get friendly with him in any way. Just keep a distance and keep the contact to a minimum.
It is very likely he will make up excuses to cover himself. All men will do that. Remember when Bill Clinton got caught he made up many excuses, and it's the same with all men. It's impossible a man will admit and embarass himself.
Therefore I see that it is pointless to talk to him or to try understand what actually happened that night. This is because there is a very high likelihood that the main person, the husband, will be making up stories to cover himself. Whatever come out from his mouth will not be truth, but damage control.
Therefore it is useless and meaningless to interview him or talk to him. It is in your interest to not trust him in any way or his explanation, and also in your interest to keep a distance from him.
Regarding your best friend, the wife, hmmm....very hard to say. I think you are the one best suited to know whether to tell her or not, because we dont know her, while you are her best friend who knows her very well for years. So it's up to your judgement from what you know about her and her personality about what to do. Just give yourself more time to think about this carefully.
Best Wishes,
Meat Pao.
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This is what my guardian angel (GA) said too. My GA is a well-respected and wise guy within our social circles. The couple respect him too.Originally posted by Space1999:the fact that he was naked and grab your arm already constitute sexual harrasement, you could file a police report, further fact that he went to your room naked!and followed you!
i cant imagine what kind of story he can spin?and why you should be judged?im getting sick of ppl trying to side him to mitigate his situation?
come on guys, the facts are so obvious.
i do think however the act is planned and he might have harbor such thoughts before, which actually made it more scary.
what if he used knocked out drugs and put it in your drinks?
he is a very evil man , you shouldnt see him anymore
We were thinking, wat gave my friend's husband the guts to do such things when his wife is under the same roof.
Lecherous guts greater than the sky,
Se dan bao tian.
We did explored that maybe, juz maybe, they are in cahoots, like what we read in the papers, where the wife helped the husband trapped women and raped them. But this is all too scary... we chose to think that they are not such bad people. -
Well you could make a police report if you think it is serious. All the talk isn't going make things go away and the friendship is never going to be the same no matter what.
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Police report? what is the objective of make a police report? where is the evidence? My words against his words?Originally posted by mayday80:Well you could make a police report if you think it is serious. All the talk isn't going make things go away and the friendship is never going to be the same no matter what. -
that could be a possibility, maybe thats the only way to keep her husband by her side?that would explain his incredible guts to try to do that whilst the wife is in the house, and to chase you ?wowOriginally posted by blu_sky:This is what my guardian angel (GA) said too. My GA is a well-respected and wise guy within our social circles. The couple respect him too.
We were thinking, wat gave my friend's husband the guts to do such things when his wife is under the same roof.
Lecherous guts greater than the sky,
Se dan bao tian.
We did explored that maybe, juz maybe, they are in cahoots, like what we read in the papers, where the wife helped the husband trapped women and raped them. But this is all too scary... we chose to think that they are not such bad people.
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he revealed his true face to you , luckily you found out before its too late,. and i still say
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Ya, she ever complained that they have bad sex life, or non-existent sex life.... he doesnt seem to be very keen in their sex life or spicing their sex life.Originally posted by Space1999:that could be a possibility, maybe thats the only way to keep her husband by her side?that would explain his incredible guts to try to do that whilst the wife is in the house, and to chase you ?wow
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ahhh,Originally posted by blu_sky:Ya, she ever complained that they have bad sex life, or non-existent sex life.... he doesnt seem to be very keen in their sex life or spicing their sex life.
he is eating outside , if you get what i mean..i bet he is getting all his actions outside from paid sex, or whatever kicks he can get. a normal men you see will ask for sex from their spouse..unless he already has shot his bullets elsewhere
once the sex is gone..the passion is gone...sigh
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But you know what is the scariest part? Juz a few hours ago, when we were drinkin and chatting, they were saying how much they loved each other, how much he loved her....Originally posted by Space1999:he revealed his true face to you , luckily you found out before its too late,. and i still say
kick his fat ass!
she was complaining that how come i get all the flowers, presents and surprises from my boyfriend, when she had nothing from him during their courtship. And he reassured her cos he is thinking long term with her, not juz these short term thingy, how much he loves her....
but juz a couple of hours later, this happened!!!
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im sorry but if he is not gay , he would have gone there and kick his ass!and normal man would have done so, for man this is the ultimate insult!Originally posted by blu_sky:Thanks for your offer. But please stop calling my boyfriend gay cos he isnt. Thank you.
im sorry , i been through this before and my anger at that time was overwhelming and was only quenched when he was on the ground after the beating i gave him.
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Yes, i get what you mean.....Originally posted by Space1999:ahhh,
he is eating outside , if you get what i mean..i bet he is getting all his actions outside from paid sex, or whatever kicks he can get. a normal men you see will ask for sex from their spouse..unless he already has shot his bullets elsewhere
once the sex is gone..the passion is gone...sigh
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he is a very evil man, im pretty sure he already have all this pre planned.Originally posted by blu_sky:But you know what is the scariest part? Juz a few hours ago, when we were drinkin and chatting, they were saying how much they loved each other, how much he loved her....
she was complaining that how come i get all the flowers, presents and surprises from my boyfriend, when she had nothing from him during their courtship. And he reassured her cos he is thinking long term with her, not juz these short term thingy, how much he loves her....
but juz a couple of hours later, this happened!!!
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i had not told my bf the whole truth. i juz told my bf that my best friend's husband appeared in my room in the middle of the night, minus the naked part. he is overseas, i dun want him to worry. will tell him when he is back.Originally posted by Space1999:im sorry but if he is not gay , he would have gone there and kick his ass!and normal man would have done so, for man this is the ultimate insult!
im sorry , i been through this before and my anger at that time was overwhelming and was only quenched when he was on the ground after the beating i gave him.
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pls tell when the fightfist starts i want to be there to see an evil beast gets mauled.Originally posted by blu_sky:i had not told my bf the whole truth. i juz told my bf that my best friend's husband appeared in my room in the middle of the night, minus the naked part. he is overseas, i dun want him to worry. will tell him when he is back.
i hate sex offenders!Their horniness can cause so much damage to a person life and its really traumatic to the victims. i personally see the scars and its terrible.