when is the best age to have a bgr relationship?
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lunch time.
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Originally posted by binarynwitz:That sounded... way wrong.
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So....Why do people think i am not ready to be in a relationship because of my mindset ?Just because i don't really socialize much..Just because in the past i used to like someone else ? Or handled things not very well... Why ?
Why should be friends are the ones who judge what you have and do ?
Everybody deserves a chance whether what he has done... -
At 18, the problems usually encountered is pubbing, and drinking. Generally, people of this year wants to have fun, wants freedom. Do you have the maturity to handle such a situation?
I think this had already answered my question... -
Er.. please explain what you're saying.Originally posted by Seth35:So....Why do people think i am not ready to be in a relationship because of my mindset ?Just because i don't really socialize much..Just because in the past i used to like someone else ? Or handled things not very well... Why ?
Why should be friends are the ones who judge what you have and do ?
Everybody deserves a chance whether what he has done...
I don't understand a word of it.
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The younger you are, the better the probability of experiencing emotions and reckless love.
The older you are, the better the probability of controlling emotions and calculated love.
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hmm i dont think she's the type that will have ONS.. she doesnt even go clubbing! she's a pretty innocent gal... i duno.. maybe being j2 next year and the amount of stress posted by a lvls will be hard to cope... but i juz love her very much and i am very sure she is just waiting for me to take the initiative... wat should i do?
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Follow your heart.Originally posted by nooberish89:hmm i dont think she's the type that will have ONS.. she doesnt even go clubbing! she's a pretty innocent gal... i duno.. maybe being j2 next year and the amount of stress posted by a lvls will be hard to cope... but i juz love her very much and i am very sure she is just waiting for me to take the initiative... wat should i do?
GO FOR IT! -
so very defensive. this entity advices u to keep all options open and consider all possibilities.Originally posted by nooberish89:hmm i dont think she's the type that will have ONS.. she doesnt even go clubbing! she's a pretty innocent gal... i duno.. maybe being j2 next year and the amount of stress posted by a lvls will be hard to cope... but i juz love her very much and i am very sure she is just waiting for me to take the initiative... wat should i do?
if u do not take the initiative, please do not commit suicide when a REAL man becomes her bf and takes her home for some hot, noisy and wet fun. -
haha.. so go for it? even at the stake of our a lvls and our futures? btw our love for each other has grown for one year and well its juz as i say... she's making it very obvious hinting me to take the initiative...
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please spare me this "our futures" trash. this entity does not take kindly to short sighted verbal diarrhoea.Originally posted by nooberish89:haha.. so go for it? even at the stake of our a lvls and our futures? btw our love for each other has grown for one year and well its juz as i say... she's making it very obvious hinting me to take the initiative...
being in BGR does not necessarily mean that the 2 of u will flunk your exams. it just mean that u, being the leader in this relationship, will have to control the time of the both of u.
being in BGR does not necessarily mean that u have to go dating all the time. this entity thinks that u all can go out to study together, whether in public or private places, after all the studying, THEN maybe go out and wind down.
and just for your benefit, can u please be a leader (man) and be decisive? understand that the females on this rock does not like undecisive children. -
quote]Originally posted by NotFromVenus:
Even average Singaporean keeps answering to ..........: can you take up the responsibility???
The reply would be
. What responsibility can anybody take other than for themselves anyway?
[/quote]Originally posted by mistyblue:
That's a lot of crazy people out there who do not know how to change. For example, the pampered lifestyle of the Kids nowadays. Parents complain about teachers when childrens play gangsters.
For one's actions. Meaning whatever the chosen path the person takes, he shall not need his parents or anyone else to bail him/her out.
Most young adults and even immature old adults, when they screw up, they run back to their folks and their folks had to settle things for them. For example: My own Brother and his wife had separated cause the wife wanted a divorce. However, back then, my parents told him he only know the girl at most 6 months and wanted to marry her. We asked him to wait but he didn't want. Come divorce, he asked my mom what should he do. He didn't want to take responsibility for his action. Then further more, he didn't take any responsibility for his divorce and custody fight for his child. My father foot all the bills, till today, even the food he eats is paid by my 70+ yr old father who rummage through rubbish for scraps for money. My mom paid for his car installments till she ran out of money for her own medical bills, and she at 70 now, cooks, cleans and wash for his grown up man like his maid. But my brother did not take up responsibility all his life. Now he finds a new girl. I just wonder.
Till this very day, he blames his life and how things turn out on everyone. On the parents for not providing his university education (so many out there work and study because family is poor). He blames his work issues on other people.
You know what is responsibility?
Now, what is actually being responsible? For your own offspring ? Or for your own accountability to conscience? Then, do you want to define Conscience in tangible terms ? How much $$$ is your conscience worth?
Your story tells of how "responsible" for bringing up their kid for their own suffering, if you call that kind of "up-bringing" responsible ? Then you better have everyone follow the "Bible" of being responsible.
Being responsible : aka, able to respond to -
many times its more proactive to teach people to respond to situations rather than respond on their behalf. -
A bit harsh, but nonetheless the truth.Originally posted by Ristar:please spare me this "our futures" trash. this entity does not take kindly to short sighted verbal diarrhoea.
being in BGR does not necessarily mean that the 2 of u will flunk your exams. it just mean that u, being the leader in this relationship, will have to control the time of the both of u.
being in BGR does not necessarily mean that u have to go dating all the time. this entity thinks that u all can go out to study together, whether in public or private places, after all the studying, THEN maybe go out and wind down.
and just for your benefit, can u please be a leader (man) and be decisive? understand that the females on this rock does not like undecisive children. -
ok.. thanks for all your advice.. i guess its time for me to BE A REAL MAN... sorry its been 3 years since i fall this deep so ya guess needs some time to activate my old love genes haha
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very well. this one wishes u luck with your coming relationship.Originally posted by nooberish89:ok.. thanks for all your advice.. i guess its time for me to BE A REAL MAN... sorry its been 3 years since i fall this deep so ya guess needs some time to activate my old love genes haha
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Real man....Originally posted by nooberish89:ok.. thanks for all your advice.. i guess its time for me to BE A REAL MAN... sorry its been 3 years since i fall this deep so ya guess needs some time to activate my old love genes haha
All the best anyways. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Real man....
All the best anyways. quite funny. i wonder wus the definition for the real man..? -
I think he just meant:Originally posted by Ito_^: quite funny. i wonder wus the definition for the real man..?
it's time for me to TAKE THE INITATIVE, AND STOP HESTIATING.
But I could be wrong. -
Age does not define maturity or how well u are prepared. If u feel u can cope well with the money to go out with her, buy her anniversary presents, time, attention...etc. Relationship is like an investment and a commitment lah. If u handle it well, it wont affect yr studies. If u feel u are a focused person and someone who does not like emotions affect yr other stuff like work and mood, then u are quite prepared lor
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That's a lot of crazy people out there who do not know how to change. For example, the pampered lifestyle of the Kids nowadays. Parents complain about teachers when childrens play gangsters.
Why Judge how other people Bring up their kids ? So why does it bother if a person goes to his / her family or parents for help...That why it is called family...
Now, what is actually being responsible? For your own offspring ? Or for your own accountability to conscience? Then, do you want to define Conscience in tangible terms ? How much $$$ is your conscience worth?
Your story tells of how "responsible" for bringing up their kid for their own suffering, if you call that kind of "up-bringing" responsible ? Then you better have everyone follow the "Bible" of being responsible.
Being responsible : aka, able to respond to -
many times its more proactive to teach people to respond to situations rather than respond on their behalf.
Or maybe a person like you don't have a family to go to thats why you're saying things so harshly.... -
there's no such thing as "the best age to have a BGR"..
it all depends on individual's thinking.. -
Go for it dude. I made a mistake once of 'waiting until after exam'... sh!t happened.. the girl 'bian xin'. This kind of things cannot wait forever... chop early!
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yup! thanks again to all... i'm gonna start hinting her more and make my move soon... =)
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nice one... i also see my elder sis liddat.. until now so old liao still leeching my parent's money. befoer she go to U, she all day nag say want to go to donnoe which U in Aust. my parents bth then sold 2 properties for her to study U... in the end after she graduate, she say she dun want to find any job related to her studies...she just want to do community service. wth?!?Originally posted by mistyblue:For one's actions. Meaning whatever the chosen path the person takes, he shall not need his parents or anyone else to bail him/her out.
Most young adults and even immature old adults, when they screw up, they run back to their folks and their folks had to settle things for them. For example: My own Brother and his wife had separated cause the wife wanted a divorce. However, back then, my parents told him he only know the girl at most 6 months and wanted to marry her. We asked him to wait but he didn't want. Come divorce, he asked my mom what should he do. He didn't want to take responsibility for his action. Then further more, he didn't take any responsibility for his divorce and custody fight for his child. My father foot all the bills, till today, even the food he eats is paid by my 70+ yr old father who rummage through rubbish for scraps for money. My mom paid for his car installments till she ran out of money for her own medical bills, and she at 70 now, cooks, cleans and wash for his grown up man like his maid. But my brother did not take up responsibility all his life. Now he finds a new girl. I just wonder.
Till this very day, he blames his life and how things turn out on everyone. On the parents for not providing his university education (so many out there work and study because family is poor). He blames his work issues on other people.
You know what is responsibility?
now i'm 18 still first year in poly.. and i'm already finding sponsorship for my own studies or even keeping my grades as A so that can go NTU liao.. i told mum i dun need their support for uni to higher education cos i know if i go U they will sell another 2 properties.. and if they are old.. how they enjoy their life? is it 2 person staying at home eating mee? or is it 2 person in oversea enjoying life using what they earn during their hard days? -
There is no specific age.
It's all about maturity.