My heart is dead.
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HE DROPPED OUT OF SHATEC. He refuses to take O lvls cuz he says its too tough even though i siad i would give him tuition.Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Since cooking ish his passion, then you should recommand him to get some paper qualification on the related cooking field. Encourage your bf to take up course at shatec lor.
N level --> O Level --> Dip in xxxxxxx
Moreover, in the 21st century, People who without paper qualification will be left behind the society.
Remember : It's never to late to study, and learning is livelong. -
LISTEN. YOU DON'T KNOW ME. If I were materialistic I wouldn't have gone through so much trouble to be with him in the first place. Police were involved, so was the death of my grandpa and me being thrown out of my home.Originally posted by CannyOng:One sentence to describe you. You are a materialistic gal.
U love money, love a capable bf who can support you for a good life!
True love to u is secondary......
Hope next time ,disaster will befall you soon!
Remember! True Love will conquer all..... -
But at the end of the day, u still pick on him cos of his education lvl...Originally posted by Quinsy:LISTEN. YOU DON'T KNOW ME. If I were materialistic I wouldn't have gone through so much trouble to be with him in the first place. Police were involved, so was the death of my grandpa and me being thrown out of my home.
Isn't that true?
In the end ,u want a good lifestyle for yr future family. You can't see a future with u him even he loves u truely cos he cannot earn big bucks. Asky yrself deeply! If he is a CEO of a company and earn big bucks even he is N lvl,will u mind him now? -
Materialistic or not
BItchy or not...
Handsome or not..
Pretty or not..
Poor or not..
Smart or not..
WHO CARES?
You call him ur bf becos of love.
NO more love?
BAI BAI. -
too bad. yet another couple broke off.
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Wah~~~~~~~~~~~~!!!Originally posted by M©+square:
Looks at the nick.
Wah!!!!!!
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At least, his bf should put an effort to make himself better. Is loving someone simple the act of saying "I love you"? If he really loves her, then he should be determined to get what is best for both of them. Show that you are putting in effort.Originally posted by CannyOng:But at the end of the day, u still pick on him cos of his education lvl...
Isn't that true?
In the end ,u want a good lifestyle for yr future family. You can't see a future with u him even he loves u truely cos he cannot earn big bucks. Asky yrself deeply! If he is a CEO of a company and earn big bucks even he is N lvl,will u mind him now?
I don't find what she is asking for unreasonable. Commonlah, there's soooo many more girls that are ALOT more materialistic. She is definitely not one of them. -
Yes, loving someone should include giving the person a good life, but that does not mean that they have to change themselves so much so that they lose themselves. In this instance, if the bf is the complacent sort, and likes simple things in life and wants an easy life, it maybe alot to ask of him to ask him to upgrade himself all the time albeit upgrading oneself is a good thing. If the person wanna change, of cos it should be encouraged. If the person doesnt want, shouldnt force him to become someone he isnt, rite?Originally posted by kheldorin:At least, his bf should put an effort to make himself better. Is loving someone simple the act of saying "I love you"? If he really loves her, then he should be determined to get what is best for both of them. Show that you are putting in effort.
I don't find what she is asking for unreasonable. Commonlah, there's soooo many more girls that are ALOT more materialistic. She is definitely not one of them.
Sometimes in life, some things are just not mean to be.
Plus, TS already does not love him anymore. Love is crucial in a relationship at that stage, no? They are not married and they are still so young, and love is no longer there, would you wanna force them to be together for the next 50 years of their lives in a relationship without love?
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From what you say, it is as though the love is gone. Yet, you are wondering if you should hang on for fear of not able to find someone who will love you as much and perhaps, out of commitment.Originally posted by Quinsy:I told my BF today that my heart is dead and I no longer loved his as much if I do love him at all. I told him of my intentions to date other guys with a higher level of education etc.
I made it clear that I wanted a break up. But he didn't want it.
we passed the day as usual and didn't mention about it until late at night when i was home.
He messaged me and said that he still loved me very much and wants to spend x mas with me and that no matter what he will always love me.
Should I still be with him?
I know I would feel pain if I really leave him. But as they say, duan tong bu ru chang tong.
But I can't bear to break his heart. I keep thinking of being with him for as long as he loves me. Even though I no longer love him.
Love, is a very strange thing.
When one is young, physical attraction plays a major part. As one grows older, other factors like ability to provide becomes important. When these needs are satisfied, then, loyalty becomes important.
Also, does he have habits like cheating, gambling, drinking, smoking or becoming violent? These are factors that might help you to look at relationship objectively.
Most importantly, you know what you want out of a relationship, and I think being aware and taking the necessary steps to have a fulfilling relationship is important.
I take it that both of you are still young. Indeed, if the love is not there, frustration would slowly grows into resentment, and one day, things will erupt.
I think the question is perhaps, if he were to take his 'O' level and continue on his course at Shatec, would you still love him or it does not matter anymore?
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Hmm I think the focus is not on his education level but his lack of desire to improve.
Its not about a guy's education level, but if he is an underachiever who does not have passion to learn and improve in ANYTHING - be it cooking, adventure, studies, work - then I think this person is basically not making the most of his life - and I think it is perfectly justifiable not to want to be attached to someone like this what.
Anyway as long as u dont kid yourself, when love is dead - It is dead. And when it comes to love, I dont believe in 'tuo ni dai sui', if you are sure, be the bitch and end it fast. You can't break a heart painlessly, but you can prevent urself from wounding it over and over and over again. -
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Your bf is so immatured. Break up la.Originally posted by Quinsy:I TOLD him to go look for some other girls and that I no longer love him. He knows. But he's just clinging on.
To Effectively break of wif him:
Dun answer his phone calls, Dun read his sms, Dun bother to meet him, Dun read
his e-mail, Delete his contact on MSN, Disintegrate all the gifts he gave u, Threaten to jump down the block if he come your house, Shout "MOLEST" if he approach u, Pee on the letters he wrote to u......
NOT tell him "look for some other girls."
Some guys is chi ink bu chi ruan de . Your girly way of breakup dun work, try the Boy's style. Sure work.
Force yourself to be firm although it is very hard to do so. If not he think u "say say" nia and harbours thoughts to get u back. If he continue to think too much, he will become a Psycho stalker (Grrr) 1 day. Dun let him waste his life away thinking of getting u back again.
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Would you hire an N lvl holder to be the CEO of your company?Originally posted by CannyOng:But at the end of the day, u still pick on him cos of his education lvl...
Isn't that true?
In the end ,u want a good lifestyle for yr future family. You can't see a future with u him even he loves u truely cos he cannot earn big bucks. Asky yrself deeply! If he is a CEO of a company and earn big bucks even he is N lvl,will u mind him now?
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Can ma maybe his N'level all get 101 / 100 marks. . . aiya actually it's what you love about him and not what u wan him to be. just my 2 cents worth
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He can start his own business. Anyway, that's beyond the scope of this discussion.Originally posted by shade343:Would you hire an N lvl holder to be the CEO of your company? -
i believe no1 can survive on love alone, bread is essential.Originally posted by CannyOng:But at the end of the day, u still pick on him cos of his education lvl...
Isn't that true?
In the end ,u want a good lifestyle for yr future family. You can't see a future with u him even he loves u truely cos he cannot earn big bucks. Asky yrself deeply! If he is a CEO of a company and earn big bucks even he is N lvl,will u mind him now?
dun tell me a ger can stand a guy with no ambitions, when 40 yo, have no car, no house, no money, eat restaurant only one per year and had to go dutch.
i'm a guy, and i agree a ger sld go for some1 who can give at least a decent finiancial support, meaning the ger can at least live w/o the fear of no money to pay house, no money to eat.
how you noe TS bf love her truly? just becuz he afraid to let go? if he TRULY love her, he sld UPGRADE himself, not just stay there becuz HE IS AFRAID and SCARED of studies of updating himself.
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Everyone here is rite. To summarise everything dat has been discussed: juz leave him since u no longer love him. Both of u will experience the pain now but it will all be over soon, juz like when u wake up frm a nightmare. Dat way, u can find someone better by your own standards, and he can find someone hu loves him a lot more than u loved him. Dun ever lead him on by allowing him to cling on to sth dat does not exist. Dat wld hurt a lot more, believe me.
By the way, juz curious, since u say u stopped loving him already, then why do u say dat your heart is dead(frm your thread topic name)? I thought u haf moved on already?
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stop dreaming, pls wake up...Originally posted by CannyOng:Remember! True Love will conquer all..... -
Love cannot buy rice.
Rice cannot buy love, but rice can buy companionship. -
i think you are contradicting urself, you already give an example of how she will not mind his education lvl if he is a CEO.Originally posted by CannyOng:But at the end of the day, u still pick on him cos of his education lvl...
Isn't that true?
In the end ,u want a good lifestyle for yr future family. You can't see a future with u him even he loves u truely cos he cannot earn big bucks. Asky yrself deeply! If he is a CEO of a company and earn big bucks even he is N lvl,will u mind him now?
so the thing is not really about his education lvl, but his capability or at least his attitude towards life and improving himself.
O'level dun try and Shatec he dun want to study finish, u will be with such a person if u're a girl? -
Originally posted by Dating Specialist:
Kloudiia! Surprised! How come you are here?
Hello everyone
This is my first post here.
Anyway, to the original poster, I'd like to ask you -
How do you know your heart is dead? What are you experiencing right now?
Does your bf has any plans to further his education? What kind of problems do you face with the gap in your education levels?
[b]Sincerely
Kloudiia Tay [/b]
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some guys juz need a push la... be firm with your decision and let him know about it.
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If u are very sure your heart is dead.....then its high time u left him.Take a long break away from him,go away alone for a holiday or something.Should u drag on this relationship.....i am afraid at the end it is going to be much more for painful than it already is.......Whatever your final decision is,i wish u well.
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Yeah, and the thing is, I've been asking him to upgrade himself for a better future for both of us but he constantly gives me the excuse of "if you love me you will accpet me for who I am even my parents can't change me". =.=Originally posted by kheldorin:At least, his bf should put an effort to make himself better. Is loving someone simple the act of saying "I love you"? If he really loves her, then he should be determined to get what is best for both of them. Show that you are putting in effort.
I don't find what she is asking for unreasonable. Commonlah, there's soooo many more girls that are ALOT more materialistic. She is definitely not one of them.
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I've told him that if he truly loved me he would continue to upgrade himself and as it is, he is unable to pay for his own stuff. I've told him to save up, not splurge, take better care of himself and quit smoking. All that he gave excuses not to try to achieve. True, he cut down on smoking- but only when I'm with him. whenever he goes clubbing and starts drinking, he starts chain smoking again.Originally posted by ejb:i believe no1 can survive on love alone, bread is essential.
dun tell me a ger can stand a guy with no ambitions, when 40 yo, have no car, no house, no money, eat restaurant only one per year and had to go dutch.
i'm a guy, and i agree a ger sld go for some1 who can give at least a decent finiancial support, meaning the ger can at least live w/o the fear of no money to pay house, no money to eat.
how you noe TS bf love her truly? just becuz he afraid to let go? if he TRULY love her, he sld UPGRADE himself, not just stay there becuz HE IS AFRAID and SCARED of studies of updating himself.
since you say love conquer all, then sldnt the guy UPGRADE himself if he TRULY love TS?
I expressed my desire to help him achieve things but he turned them down with excuses. I can't stand it.