Am i thinking too much?
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Sex and the City !Originally posted by macjoe:This sounds very familiar to me - he could reach you but you could never reach him.
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Ask you guys a question.
If there is nothing wrong, since he cant come to visit me, why cant i visit him? -
I guess its tiring for you and him, when are you going to tell him?
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Originally posted by bee_gal:
if he is really in the meeting how to pick up your call? Or if he is in the middle of talking to his client, how to call you?
I know that i cant. In fact all along i knew i cant. i told him that. And he assured me it is juz 2 hours flight away? He can fly in [b]anytime? he stressed. But has that materialised? Honestly, i do not need that. But is it so difficult to addres my concern over an issue more seriously and do something obout it? I can accept him not coming, i can accept him leaving abruptly, i can make sure that i am always contactable even during my sleep, but he cant address my problems seriously? or simply, heant even pick up the call?
Where is the it takes 2 to clap?
Talk are cheap. If words are backed up by action, then they mean something.[/b]
Discuss it with him ba...and ask if he can give in to your demands. If he can't or he says he can but never back it up with action in the future, you know wat you shud do
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If he is so busy with work , would you want to visit him while he is working?Why dont you ask him? Where will he be this weekend?Originally posted by bee_gal:Ask you guys a question.
If there is nothing wrong, since he cant come to visit me, why cant i visit him?
Maybe he is being considerate thinking that he cant take care of you while he is working and wants to concentrate on his work?
Ask mac joe, he will tell you something bad
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yea very strange indeed. wat was the reason he gave u when he said u cant go and visit him?Originally posted by bee_gal:Ask you guys a question.
If there is nothing wrong, since he cant come to visit me, why cant i visit him?
well, another thing u can do is to just drop him a surprise visit. then see what he has got to hide
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rainee, i never call him during meetings. his reason for not unanswering calls are:Originally posted by rainee:if he is really in the meeting how to pick up your call? Or if he is in the middle of talking to his client, how to call you?
Discuss it with him ba...and ask if he can give in to your demands. If he can't or he says he can but never back it up with action in the future, you know wat you shud do
1)battery flat
2)forgot to bring handphone
3)forgot to on ringing tone
4)dozed off (cos later he wakes up again in the middle of the night)
5)talking to some doctors. -
hmm...i tink it is either this guy really bo chap or really has sth to hide...Originally posted by pocari_sweat:If he is so busy with work , would you want to visit him while he is working?Why dont you ask him? Where will he be this weekend?
Maybe he is being considerate thinking that he cant take care of you while he is working and wants to concentrate on his work?
Ask mac joe, he will tell you something bad -
pocari_sweat (yucks the body odor, u smell it? keke), you speak as if every r/s should be saved and i helping to break them. *jesus*Originally posted by pocari_sweat:So i guess christmas eve is off for this couple then. History in making, ending of a relationship in the forum with much help from mac joe 
when bee_gal's a grl and first on a ldr, she should be careful and from what she says about his words and actions, i don't have a good feeling about him.
in a steady r/s, talk and walk should always go hand in hand. when it doesn't, can't take the person's word for anything.
sweating now? keke. -
call him and ask him
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i dont know his home address.Originally posted by rainee:yea very strange indeed. wat was the reason he gave u when he said u cant go and visit him?
well, another thing u can do is to just drop him a surprise visit. then see what he has got to hide
The reason? some "i will be busy, you come oso no use" stuff... -
hmm...sounds quite fishy to me. Does he keep missing your calls? Or just once in a while?Originally posted by bee_gal:rainee, i never call him during meetings. his reason for not unanswering calls are:
1)battery flat
2)forgot to bring handphone
3)forgot to on ringing tone
4)dozed off (cos later he wakes up again in the middle of the night)
5)talking to some doctors. -
omgosh, how can u be in a LDR and not know his home address?Originally posted by bee_gal:i dont know his home address.
The reason? some "i will be busy, you come oso no use" stuff...
Do you have his house phone number? -
Originally posted by bee_gal:Cool off, clear the mind. See what we want.
Not workable?
No offense... but I think your BF is already putting in good effort... Even if a guy is filthy rich, it takes effort to board a plane, check-in into a hotel to see his GF... I think that meant alot already... not to mention it's pretty regular trips right?
But you kept mentioning "it takes two hads to clap"... that I agree...
Not answering calls, or missing calls is pretty common... since he's a business man... as much as you are important to him (as mentioned he has no qualms about expressing how impt you are, how much he loves you etc) he's human too....
Running a business is hard, and unlike the life of an employed, I figure his work probably eats into his personal life as well... It can be terribly draining when the performance of the business and his employees' welfare all rest upon his shoulders... I think, there are times, he just needs his own space and privacy.
Then again, some men don't like to discuss that with their partner... so maybe you really can't tell what's in mind....
Diff people handle diff issues differently... so maybe he's alittle different on how he handles issues and all...
Rather than to look at everything he did not do... why not focus on why you love him in the first place? Doing the "tit for tat" when he don't answer your calls isn't gonna help...
If you really love this man, then you must be ready to accept him as he is... and when you get to talk to him or spend time with him, treasure them...
Being understanding is not just keeping quiet... it is really accepting it, which means you won't feel a pinch or uncomfortable when you say "it's ok" but in actual fact you still feel that slight anger... disappointment is ok... but if you feel you are "bottling it up"... something's not right... cos you are not accepting it...
Cheer up... things may not be as bad as it seems... Don't let your insecurities take away your happiness... -
I had suggested that before, twice actually. Reply for why it is a bad idea:Originally posted by pocari_sweat:If he is so busy with work , would you want to visit him while he is working?Why dont you ask him? Where will he be this weekend?
Maybe he is being considerate thinking that he cant take care of you while he is working and wants to concentrate on his work?
Ask mac joe, he will tell you something bad
1) the place i wil be is a lousy place, very backward, even i dont want to be there, i will be in a lousy mood
2) i will be too busy to meet you too, no point coming. -
He had never once picked up my call, rainee. That is why i am making so much noise.Originally posted by rainee:hmm...sounds quite fishy to me. Does he keep missing your calls? Or just once in a while? -
get his home address and drop him a surprise visitOriginally posted by bee_gal:He had never once picked up my call, rainee. That is why i am making so much noise.
or can also get his house phone and drop him a surprise call
best if u dun use ur normal number -
Even when he missed all calls? by that i mean he didnt even once pick up the phone when i called even though he is at home.Originally posted by Squiggly:
No offense... but I think your BF is already putting in good effort... Even if a guy is filthy rich, it takes effort to board a plane, check-in into a hotel to see his GF... I think that meant alot already... not to mention it's pretty regular trips right?
But you kept mentioning "it takes two hads to clap"... that I agree...
Not answering calls, or missing calls is pretty common... since he's a business man... as much as you are important to him (as mentioned he has no qualms about expressing how impt you are, how much he loves you etc) he's human too....
Running a business is hard, and unlike the life of an employed, I figure his work probably eats into his personal life as well... It can be terribly draining when the performance of the business and his employees' welfare all rest upon his shoulders... I think, there are times, he just needs his own space and privacy.
Then again, some men don't like to discuss that with their partner... so maybe you really can't tell what's in mind....
Diff people handle diff issues differently... so maybe he's alittle different on how he handles issues and all...
Rather than to look at everything he did not do... why not focus on why you love him in the first place? Doing the "tit for tat" when he don't answer your calls isn't gonna help...
If you really love this man, then you must be ready to accept him as he is... and when you get to talk to him or spend time with him, treasure them...
Being understanding is not just keeping quiet... it is really accepting it, which means you won't feel a pinch or uncomfortable when you say "it's ok" but in actual fact you still feel that slight anger... disappointment is ok... but if you feel you are "bottling it up"... something's not right... cos you are not accepting it...
Cheer up... things may not be as bad as it seems... Don't let your insecurities take away your happiness... -
agree
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When he missed your calls... what is that first thought in your mind? Do you doubt him? Do you think he is galivanting with another woman? Do you think he's out having fun? Do you think he's not picking up cos he's no longer interested in you?Originally posted by bee_gal:Even when he missed all calls? by that i mean he didnt even once pick up the phone when i called even though he is at home. -
i find it quite weird he did that...Originally posted by bee_gal:Even when he missed all calls? by that i mean he didnt even once pick up the phone when i called even though he is at home.
Think you need to conduct some "checking up" on him...well, just to protect urself since you are faraway from him...
Do you know any of his frens? -
ah...pocari_sweat's a businessman and a guy. Thought i read earlier on, was a gal. so guy or gal? -
its all about missed calls
just make it simple
break up
you dont trust him
the foundation of the relationship is not there anymore
break up -
make it simple and short
send him an email
we are done. i dont trust you anymore.. -
Why weird leh? I think there are just times you also want to have some time to yourself right? I don't know about others... but there are times, I will leave my phone in my room and just do what I like to do (eg, read papers, watch tv, play game, read a book etc) just to rest and forget about the stress at work... and seriously, i hate answering phones after work...Originally posted by rainee:i find it quite weird he did that...
Think you need to conduct some "checking up" on him...well, just to protect urself since you are faraway from him...
Do you know any of his frens?
And i also missed my BF's calls quite a few times when i am at home, cos i was soooo tired, i dozed off infront of the television...
If need to "check-up" on him, then might as well give up on the relationship already... he is in country X and she's here... how often and how much can she check?
Knowing friends also no point... they are HIS friends... you think they will tell the truth? And seriously, which man like his GF to go round asking HIS friends what he's been up to? bee-girl... please don't do this.. this is one of the ways you can double-cross yourself...