should I believe or not believe her words?
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Maybe wad cool-gal means was juz to be careful, dun believe ppl so easily, including ur partner and sumtime even ur parents...It is always good to play safe mah, juz to protect urself=)Originally posted by Bontakun:Eh.... why I think da other wae har...?
Trust is paramount to any r/s among anybody. it is also the same fundamental value that builds up any r/s Without trust, many problems will surface and situation may worsen.
To not trust fully is understandable, but isn't that being too hard on you and too cruel to the other person? -
Huh... sure? Cool-gal izzit dat wae...?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Maybe wad cool-gal means was juz to be careful, dun believe ppl so easily, including ur partner and sumtime even ur parents...It is always good to play safe mah, juz to protect urself=) -
Ya to the threadstarter...l tink u mite want to noe the answer from her..but l dun is possible...Most gals dun tell the guys straight in the face abt their feelings and their secrets in the heart...normally at mst she will drop hint to let u ponder and guess lor..Originally posted by Heartzzz:Ha..If u think reasoning is not impt anymore, y in the 1st place will u come here n post ur thread? I guess deep down inside, u wan an answer from her. But i guess the problem is, she will never tell u the answer or truth anymore. She wants u out of her life so bad. It hurts but I went thr something like that b4...
l guess u must hav feel very betrayed..but then..tink of this, do u really want such a gal..she could lie to u..say becos of study then wan break and after a month with another guy...she is indeed contradicting herself...and summore when u call her juz to wish her a mere merry christmas, she added that her bf say hi to u...what is the meaning of this? A form of showing off? From this, l can conclude that she is a childish and not a very good gal...
So actually if u tink...it is good that u and her break liao...u wouldnt want to live with such gal bah...summore l wan to add that..u and her are juz together for 2 months..u shld be able to recover fast..surely no problem de..=) -
haha..l tink so only bah....waiting for her to cfm l am rite not, but if it is wrong, dun come beat me wor..Originally posted by Bontakun:Huh... sure? Cool-gal izzit dat wae...?
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I have been thru a smiliar painful experience as you.
Since they are already together, what can you do?
If you keep thinking why she did that, was she true to you or was she cheating on you etc.. you will only get more hurt and have more hatred towards her/them.
No matter what.. face the music and accept the fact that she is not that into you. -
Very common. Move on! Its just a failed relationship. Many more out there. Believe in fate. You will meet the one someday.
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so wat if she bluff u?Originally posted by m_lancer:I'm feeling kind of lost and upset... wonder if she really meant what she said when she told me that the breakup was due to her studies or was is becoz there was another guy in her heart... Just one month since we broke up and she is already attached... that's why I do not know whether I should believe or not believe wat she told me b4....
impt thing is she wants u out of her life. -
Once bitten, twice shy.
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Originally posted by m_lancer:Me and my ex broke up 2months ago.. till now I m still unable to forget about her.. when she broke up with me.. she told me that she wants to focus on her studies.. she told me we could still be friends...
But we never spoke to each other ever since....
Clinging on to my hope that one day we could be back together.. Till one day which is a month later after we broke up, I discovered she was attached already... I almost went crazy... coz I still remembered the reason we broke up...
Yesterday being christmas.. I msged her a christmas msg.. She replied me.. 'Thanks and merry christmas to me.. and saying that the other guy (I think it's only right for me not to mention his name.. though I dun like that person that much) says hi to me'... At that moment.. I was feeling kind of angry as well as upset.. thinking that is it purposely trying to make me know that she is with him... I have met up with this guy b4 when me and my ex were still together.. He was her best friend... and she told me b4 there wont be a possibilty of them being together..
I'm feeling kind of lost and upset... wonder if she really meant what she said when she told me that the breakup was due to her studies or was is becoz there was another guy in her heart... Just one month since we broke up and she is already attached... that's why I do not know whether I should believe or not believe wat she told me b4....
People can come together for any reasons.... similarly, they can leave the relationship for any reasons.
Reasons are but... just words.
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Hi,Originally posted by m_lancer:Me and my ex broke up 2months ago.. till now I m still unable to forget about her.. when she broke up with me.. she told me that she wants to focus on her studies.. she told me we could still be friends...
But we never spoke to each other ever since....
Clinging on to my hope that one day we could be back together.. Till one day which is a month later after we broke up, I discovered she was attached already... I almost went crazy... coz I still remembered the reason we broke up...
Yesterday being christmas.. I msged her a christmas msg.. She replied me.. 'Thanks and merry christmas to me.. and saying that the other guy (I think it's only right for me not to mention his name.. though I dun like that person that much) says hi to me'... At that moment.. I was feeling kind of angry as well as upset.. thinking that is it purposely trying to make me know that she is with him... I have met up with this guy b4 when me and my ex were still together.. He was her best friend... and she told me b4 there wont be a possibilty of them being together..
I'm feeling kind of lost and upset... wonder if she really meant what she said when she told me that the breakup was due to her studies or was is becoz there was another guy in her heart... Just one month since we broke up and she is already attached... that's why I do not know whether I should believe or not believe wat she told me b4....
First of all, I want to say that I feel very sorry for what you are going through. But I would like help you see things in a more positive light.
First of all, since your gf "walk" with this new guy so soon after breaking up with you, suffice to say, she probably have the intention to be with him when breaking up with you.
Instead of being upset with her for "lying" to you. Why not see things in better light that she didn't want to hurt you by saying she is breaking up with you for that new guy.
Seeing your extreme "reaction", it is understandable, that she sort of tell you a white lie so that you can have your pride.
As for her telling you that she is with the new guy, she is probably saying that so that you will "give up on her". She already had given up on you... so you should just close the book on her and move on.
She broke up with you to be with the new guy, isn't this more noble rather then trying to double time you and him? so in a way, she seemed like a nice person.
You should deep inside your heart wish the two of them well. As for you, you shouldn't take things too personally, a r/s needs mutual affection and attraction, maybe she is just not the one for you. Why not wait and seek out another lady that feel for you the way you feel for her....
Try to be positive, and you sound young, there are more opportunities down the road.... -
sound??Originally posted by spencer99:Try to be positive, and you sound young, there are more opportunities down the road....
hmm.. shd be type young -
Had a similar experience. But mine was an outright zaosai. What I see from your ex is that she has a integrity problem. Distance yourself from her. YOu'll cut down your agony better. Go and indulge yourself in a new hobby. Study hard. You got your driving licence? If not go get one. Or upgrade your licence. Enough money to spend? If not go find some work to do.Originally posted by m_lancer:Me and my ex broke up 2months ago.. till now I m still unable to forget about her.. when she broke up with me.. she told me that she wants to focus on her studies.. she told me we could still be friends...
But we never spoke to each other ever since....
Clinging on to my hope that one day we could be back together.. Till one day which is a month later after we broke up, I discovered she was attached already... I almost went crazy... coz I still remembered the reason we broke up...
Yesterday being christmas.. I msged her a christmas msg.. She replied me.. 'Thanks and merry christmas to me.. and saying that the other guy (I think it's only right for me not to mention his name.. though I dun like that person that much) says hi to me'... At that moment.. I was feeling kind of angry as well as upset.. thinking that is it purposely trying to make me know that she is with him... I have met up with this guy b4 when me and my ex were still together.. He was her best friend... and she told me b4 there wont be a possibilty of them being together..
I'm feeling kind of lost and upset... wonder if she really meant what she said when she told me that the breakup was due to her studies or was is becoz there was another guy in her heart... Just one month since we broke up and she is already attached... that's why I do not know whether I should believe or not believe wat she told me b4....
Have you neglected your friends when you were attached? Then its time to compensate your friends.
Join more social activities. You'll realise that there're lots of better girls out there. This move worked for me. It also worked for my ex boss who's also a good friend of mine. It also worked for other people. It will also for you. You have nothing to lose when you jettison a girl who jilted and lied to you. -
Will try to stay positive.. yup.. got a driving license..
Thanks for all the replies and advises
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I would say she is just lying to you. want to focus on studies is just an excuses to leave you and join the guy.
They might have already seeing each other before your break up. Its cruel but its the fact.
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Ok. I am a guy, but i want to say something in "defence" of girls.
It is not easy to initiate a breakup. And for the guys who bad mouthed girls, when you have a gf but meet another girl that you want to be with, what will you do?
Will you tell your gf straight out that you are leaving her for another girl?
Or will you be concerned with her "feelings" and come out with some crap excuse so save her pride? -
Woah... If seriously I met someone else "whom I wanted to be with" while having a partner, I seriously rethink my commitments to my GF because I have already "broken" the fundamental relationship ties with my GF.Originally posted by spencer99:Ok. I am a guy, but i want to say something in "defence" of girls.
It is not easy to initiate a breakup. And for the guys who bad mouthed girls, when you have a gf but meet another girl that you want to be with, what will you do?
Will you tell your gf straight out that you are leaving her for another girl?
Or will you be concerned with her "feelings" and come out with some crap excuse so save her pride?
One of the reason why I still remain single till now is because I want to make sure the next person I decided to be with (and she also agree to share her life with me) will be the person I wanted to be with, not anyone else. So... should such situation comes up where there is another woman who possess such values, my bond with my GF will still be strong and no other woman can shake that r/s. -
but what l tink is..if u hav already decide and make ur choice liao..
Even if u c better gal or maybe ur dream gal..u shld not be thinking of breaking with ur current gf...it is abt loyalty and moral..u see -
my advice to u now is DUN look for another girl. make sure u DUN...Originally posted by m_lancer:Me and my ex broke up 2months ago.. till now I m still unable to forget about her.. when she broke up with me.. she told me that she wants to focus on her studies.. she told me we could still be friends...
But we never spoke to each other ever since....
Clinging on to my hope that one day we could be back together.. Till one day which is a month later after we broke up, I discovered she was attached already... I almost went crazy... coz I still remembered the reason we broke up...
Yesterday being christmas.. I msged her a christmas msg.. She replied me.. 'Thanks and merry christmas to me.. and saying that the other guy (I think it's only right for me not to mention his name.. though I dun like that person that much) says hi to me'... At that moment.. I was feeling kind of angry as well as upset.. thinking that is it purposely trying to make me know that she is with him... I have met up with this guy b4 when me and my ex were still together.. He was her best friend... and she told me b4 there wont be a possibilty of them being together..
I'm feeling kind of lost and upset... wonder if she really meant what she said when she told me that the breakup was due to her studies or was is becoz there was another guy in her heart... Just one month since we broke up and she is already attached... that's why I do not know whether I should believe or not believe wat she told me b4....
cos when u tink dat u've forgotten her, and b ready for the next rs, ur heart is not and u'll treat the next girl as a sub.
so pls dun. remain single now.
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Hopes the other guy ditches her and she comes crying for you while you are in bed with this super pretty girl...what a way to get back!!!
