Friendship dilemma...

• NeverSayGoodBye

  3 Jan 07, 11:11

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  If it's her you're more concerned with, I'm quite sure there might be other ways to keep this friend of yours?

  ..... I am certainly wanted to keep this female friend of mine. On what ways? i had posted on above.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  3 Jan 07, 11:14

  Originally posted by FBI:

  seriously i think that he's treating u as a love rival and refuse to speak to u.
  
  how narrow minded he is!
  
  and one thing, he likes her for sure!
  
  and mayb u too!

  ..... Agent FBI, you got it all wrong. According to this girl, she treat both of us strictly as close friend only, i do the same likewise.
• Ito_^

  3 Jan 07, 11:48

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... Agent FBI, you got it all wrong. According to this girl, she treat both of us strictly as close friend only, i do the same likewise.

  scarly he secretly fell in love with u but mus forcefully restrain himself when alone with u.
• dokono

  3 Jan 07, 12:00

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....too hard?? you got softer version? can recommend?
  
  Platonic friendship got different levels you know, some are just buddy buddy type nothing deep, some are so close that people can mistaken both of you are a couple which actually it is not. The latter one is more special.
  
  Well of course you won't let two guys get jealous over you, you married both of them

  Ok, let's say she is ugly and fat but she has the best personality in the world. Would you still be on good terms with her?
  
  doko
• NeverSayGoodBye

  3 Jan 07, 12:02

  Originally posted by Ito_^:

  scarly he secretly fell in love with u but mus forcefully restrain himself when alone with u.

  .....don't make me laugh
• NeverSayGoodBye

  3 Jan 07, 12:20

  Originally posted by dokono:

  Ok, let's say she is ugly and fat but she has the best personality in the world. Would you still be on good terms with her?
  
  doko

  .....I will still be friend with her, if you are a person who value quality friendship, then their physical attributes don't mean a thing. I had known pretty sexy girls before, of course i were attracted to them initially, which guys wouldn't? But after getting to know them, i realised their attitude suxx and posessed rotten personality. The pretty exterior is only an empty shell inside.
  
  Likewise i had known fat and ugly girls, you-see-them-you-wanted-to-avoid- types (no pun intended). If you give yourself a chance to get to know them well, they can be just as pretty on the inside.
  
  Would you go out with a pretty sexy girl that bore you to death? Or a fat and ugly girl that is fun loving and cheer you up?
• Devil1976

  3 Jan 07, 12:23

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....too hard?? you got softer version? can recommend?
  
  Platonic friendship got different levels you know, some are just buddy buddy type nothing deep, some are so close that people can mistaken both of you are a couple which actually it is not. The latter one is more special.
  
  Well of course you won't let two guys get jealous over you, you married both of them

  Hmm...
• Devil1976

  3 Jan 07, 12:24

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... I am certainly wanted to keep this female friend of mine. On what ways? i had posted on above.

  Cool.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  5 Jan 07, 11:30

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Cool.

  ..... You're a cool devil too !
• smudgey

  5 Jan 07, 12:31

  hey,
  
  if this gal pal of yours is really as close a friend as you think. be honest with her.
  
  just tell her that that guy and you just do not get along that well...
  
  she'll understand.
  
  there's no one on earth who can get along with everyone. some ppl after being pals for too long, when someone new comes into the gp, they may not welcome the "intrusion"
  
  just let her know that when she is not around, things are just awkward. do not phrase it in a way where she'll think that she has to make a choice...
  
  when hanging out in pubs u can stay with other gps, go over mingle with her... or also ask her over for a while to mingle with your gp...
  
  It heartens me to see that there's guys out there who actually believe in platonic friendships. i have a couple of close guy friends (i'm so lucky to have them ) but not many. most guys start to think "does this gal like me?" if our friendship developes...
• dokono

  5 Jan 07, 12:35

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  hey,
  
  if this gal pal of yours is really as close a friend as you think. be honest with her.
  
  just tell her that that guy and you just do not get along that well...
  
  she'll understand.
  
  there's no one on earth who can get along with everyone. some ppl after being pals for too long, when someone new comes into the gp, they may not welcome the "intrusion"
  
  just let her know that when she is not around, things are just awkward. do not phrase it in a way where she'll think that she has to make a choice...
  
  when hanging out in pubs u can stay with other gps, go over mingle with her... or also ask her over for a while to mingle with your gp...
  
  It heartens me to see that there's guys out there who actually believe in platonic friendships. i have a couple of close guy friends (i'm so lucky to have them ) but not many. most guys start to think "does this gal like me?" if our friendship developes...

  Any chance they are your close friends because of the way you look?
  
  doko
• smudgey

  5 Jan 07, 12:38

  Originally posted by dokono:

  Any chance they are your close friends because of the way you look?
  
  doko

  i don't look that great....
  
  most of these great guy pals of mine have seen me in my worst states!!!
  
  i don't even have to make up when going out with them... hehehe (shhh.... cannot let the mushygang gals hear this!!)
• dokono

  5 Jan 07, 12:43

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  i don't look that great....
  
  most of these great guy pals of mine have seen me in my worst states!!!
  
  i don't even have to make up when going out with them... hehehe (shhh.... cannot let the mushygang gals hear this!!)

  You don't look that great? We need a peekture to determine that statement.
  
  But great enough to let these pals get close to you haha. You don't wear makeup coz you look good enough I suppose.
  
  doko
• smudgey

  5 Jan 07, 12:47

  Originally posted by dokono:

  You don't look that great? We need a peekture to determine that statement.
  
  But great enough to let these pals get close to you haha. You don't wear makeup coz you look good enough I suppose.
  
  doko

  hahaha
  
  anything i say can be twisted around to suit what u want it to mean...
  
  well believe it or not,
  
  i'm not ugly. i'm not beautiful. i'm just an ordinary gal with normal looks.
  
  i don't believe looks play a part in friendship. if so it can only be shallow friendship not great friends
• dokono

  5 Jan 07, 13:03

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  hahaha
  
  anything i say can be twisted around to suit what u want it to mean...
  
  well believe it or not,
  
  i'm not ugly. i'm not beautiful. i'm just an ordinary gal with normal looks.
  
  i don't believe looks play a part in friendship. if so it can only be shallow friendship not great friends

  Great.
  
  doko
• NeverSayGoodBye

  6 Jan 07, 22:46

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  hey,
  
  if this gal pal of yours is really as close a friend as you think. be honest with her.
  
  just tell her that that guy and you just do not get along that well...
  
  she'll understand.
  
  there's no one on earth who can get along with everyone. some ppl after being pals for too long, when someone new comes into the gp, they may not welcome the "intrusion"
  
  just let her know that when she is not around, things are just awkward. do not phrase it in a way where she'll think that she has to make a choice...
  
  when hanging out in pubs u can stay with other gps, go over mingle with her... or also ask her over for a while to mingle with your gp...
  
  It heartens me to see that there's guys out there who actually believe in platonic friendships. i have a couple of close guy friends (i'm so lucky to have them ) but not many. most guys start to think "does this gal like me?" if our friendship developes...

  .....After some hard thinking, i will join other group and come over to talk to her once a while, i will ignore that guy from now on. She will definitely notice my new behaviour and let her ask me, then i tell her.
  
  If you are this girl, what is your reaction if i tell you that your close buddy is treating me very badly behind her back? It is very obvious that he doesn't respect you at all. Am i right to say that?
  
  .....Plantonic friendship is possible when both party value each other and make clear that there is nothing more and nothing less in the friendship. So that when both care for each other, there won't be any misunderstanding. I think both girls and guys the same, sometimes show too much caring, feeling of affection can arised, that's when the situation gets pretty messy.