me still single in my mid 20s
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try to make girl friends in sch or at work still the best way.....or go join clubs outside billiard club or what...and try make friends there
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Your name gives a very different impression of you being a boy
She'll appear someday, or you can try seeking her out...
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i pretty much feeling okay about my life. it is just that in gf life aspect i feel i am really losuy compared to most people... so i need to work on it somehow......Originally posted by wavesofthoughts:my first post in Aunt Agony,
Vietnam women are pretty good, in terms of looks and character.
Most i've met or spoken to (business contacts/frens) are down-to-earth, honest and sincere. coz their life is tough, they appreciate things much more.
buy is a strong word i agree, they're (Vietnam) good women, you just have to find the right girl and give her happiness by treating her right and not expecting tons in return. (i suggest getting virgin in case you worried about HIV)
33 ~ 35 is a good age to get them if fate isn't working for you. hehe
but then january.. how do you look yourself? i would think it matters, as you've gotten dress up and look good to feel good and confident about yourself.
girls generally are attracted to confident guys, inner confidence.
and then.. you really need to chase a girl lor.. haha give her calls or sms to show you're interested in them.. thats my thoughts.
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yo jan maybe it's e way u ask them. too tensed or too serious guaOriginally posted by january:i pretty much feeling okay about my life. it is just that in gf life aspect i feel i am really losuy compared to most people... so i need to work on it somehow......
i have asked women out a few times but mostly rejected...
dun make them uncomfortable, either ask in a casual way (let the gal feel she's juz going out wif another fren) or organise a group outing. -
why do u want to have a gf or get married?
you do not have to, can remain single all ur life -
Rejection is pretty much part of parcels in life.Originally posted by january:i pretty much feeling okay about my life. it is just that in gf life aspect i feel i am really losuy compared to most people... so i need to work on it somehow......
i have asked women out a few times but mostly rejected...
One have to know when to grip on and let go.
You do not need these girls to valuate your worthiness.
Because how worthy you are depends on how you see yourself.
If you think you suck with girls, you probably will suck.
Learn to believe in yourself.
Learn to love yourself.
Then will you learn to love others.
The right one will recognise the " special quality" in you.
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Hmm... maybe let me just sum up the type of guys girls dun like (or rather the types that I dun like myself )
1) Mama's boy - His mama calls him every half hour on his mobile just to check how his date is progressing. Calls pour in after 10pm to remind his darling son to retire home early. He cannot quote a sentence without reference to his own folks. The kind of image he projects is that of a guy without his own opinion, easily influenced by his folks, friends and others. How can a girl be sure this kind of guy would stand up for her in times of needs then? He seems to be a ninny.
2) The Narcissist - This guy values his looks more than a typical vainpot lady does. An accidental ruffle to his hair cause him to blow. He wags his tail when anyone praises him on his looks and breaks away to talk to them becos he finds them more entertaining than his date. His date worries that should a fire breaks out, he would grab his mirror first instead of her.
3) Mr Ulmighty - He talks of his accomplishment at work, how well he's treated his girls, his fav topic (e.g. politics, stock market) and drones on and on except expressing his concerns for you, asking how's your day, what are your fav things. It's always about his abilities, what he's learnt, how knowledgable he is, where he's been. Nothing for you or ON you.
4) Green Eye Monster - Lets loose a menacing look/growl shd any guy toss a glance in your direction. He gets worried to know if you've got any guy friends and ask you not to meet them anymore.
5) The Interrogator - Barely knowing each other for a day, he's asked you where you've been, what you've done, what have you ate, what'll you do the next day, who have you been with, why, how, where, when, who, which? Serious invasion of privacy. Definitely not one out of concern as you can tell from the tone of voice. Which gal wouldn't run?
6) The Ungracious One - Talks with his mouth full (gross!) and spit saliva and rice unto your face unknowingly. In face of traffic, crosses road first leaving the gal to fend for herself without looking back to check on her safety. Does not hold the door for the gal but instead go thru the door first, unknowingly let the door slam in the date's face. When the girl is carrying heavy stuff, does not offer to help carry but instead talk and walk his usual guy speed leaving the girl behind juggling her stuff. If girl drops things under the table, does not offer to help her pick up item. What a guy...
7) Mr Shy - Looks at the floor, looks at the wall, looks at the potted plant, at the wall clock, looks at the cute waitress on your left, looks at the hunk on your right, looks even right down at your boobs. In short, he looks everywhere but at you in your face. How's that for a conversation?
8 ) The Starer - You're eating your food nonchalantly and turns around to find him staring at you almost dreamily. Even so, he does not break off his stare. Freaky.
9) Mr Busy - As you're talking to him, he's busy smsing away. He disappears from time to time to answer his call or make a call. Serious lack of respect for his date.
Any guy guilty of the above charges?
In short, your little actions even during a non-date reveals a lot about yourself and your personality. If even during a normal casual chanced meet you emit vibes that give clues to the above behaviours, you wont seem like an enjoyable date. Girls dun like to be around people that make them feel uncomfortable and uncared for.
Perhaps time to brush up on your social ettiqutte and skills.
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Guys,
Don't be too desperate for girls and allow a girl to put you down. If a girl is ever rude to you even as a friend, don't let her treat you that way. Don't be down there and allow her to insult you or throw any sort of tantrums at you. Shoot back, especially the nice guys.
If ever, she does that to you, be ready to say goodbye unless she apologises. If you are wrong, apologise but don't think she is a girl and you are so scared of saying the wrong thing. Women are humans like you and me. They are not fairies.
There are a bunch of bad and good girls down there, just like there are jerks and gentleman. If you are lucky, grab the good one who likes you. Don't expect that she will make your life happy. Happiness is from within. Even the nicest girl will find problems with you. And don't wait too long for a girl, neither should you let a girl wait for you.
Good luck!
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why bother looking for a partner here?
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don't be despair. since u mentioned school, i suppose u're still a student somewhr, why not try to know ur classmates first. when u are in work, know your colleagues. a very gd way to enlarge social circle is by joining grp outings..attend birthday parties, school's bash etc..
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actually it's gd to be single..
cus when u r attached, u'll find that lots of problems will arise from nowhere.. -
when you are attached, friends will be forgotten.
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concentrate on getting rich.
not concentrate on gals.
or it will be like putting cart b4 the bull.
if u rich
u will be spoilt for choice.
ok?
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I got an interesting link for you...
It explains the differing standards between men and women, and why if you focus on the wrong things, you'll never attract a good partner.
Check it out: www.laddertheory.com -
relac.. i oso looking. we look together?
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you are very right.Originally posted by killstyle:concentrate on getting rich.
not concentrate on gals.
or it will be like putting cart b4 the bull.
if u rich
u will be spoilt for choice.
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ehh.. do u know SGpork?Originally posted by iLuVpOrKyPiG:you are very right. -
YES !! FIND URSELF ONE !!!!
SDU. -
Yoz bro! Hmm that sounds familiar eh?Originally posted by M©+square:So what are you doing to do about it? -
Hmm it's kind of a vicious cycle... if you never pluck up the courage to ask a gal out, you end up feeling lousy - and the more you feel so, you'll never ever go on a date. Yeah.. so do something about it lor.Originally posted by january:same old story of never had a gf before.....
i seriously dun believe in fate and destiny crap.....
i know its up to me to really improve myself and be more daring to know girls................
but i dun dare to approach girls, ask girls to be friends type... has been waiting for me to become more confident at knowing girls but has not succeed yet....... still feeling envy of others and sad about my plight once a while.....
here is some plans i have thought up. first, is to continue to pressure myself to know girls by approaching girls to be friends in school or outside world ( which i dun dare) the second way is to try to go for dating and social agencies.... fourth is to go and read more dating books and love books.....
last straw is to buy a vietnam wife by age 34( still not sure yet whether 34 is right)
lastly... to all guys who are like me.... dun believe in fate thing..... u got to really take accountability in life...... i noe some pple never do much but still can meet their gf by fate or whatever u call it..... but do u think u will be so lucky like these guys..... there is no free lunch... one has to work if he wants to achieve his goal...
And about that 'last straw', i dunno whether you should even have this contingency in place..... cos to me it seems like you've given up before the battle is even over.
Just my 2 cents.
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Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:
woo, haha looks interesting. but accurate? must get opinion of girls mah!
Hmm... maybe let me just sum up the type of guys girls dun like (or rather the types that I dun like myself )
1) [b]Mama's boy - His mama calls him every half hour on his mobile just to check how his date is progressing. Calls pour in after 10pm to remind his darling son to retire home early. He cannot quote a sentence without reference to his own folks. The kind of image he projects is that of a guy without his own opinion, easily influenced by his folks, friends and others. How can a girl be sure this kind of guy would stand up for her in times of needs then? He seems to be a ninny.
2) The Narcissist - This guy values his looks more than a typical vainpot lady does. An accidental ruffle to his hair cause him to blow. He wags his tail when anyone praises him on his looks and breaks away to talk to them becos he finds them more entertaining than his date. His date worries that should a fire breaks out, he would grab his mirror first instead of her.
3) Mr Ulmighty - He talks of his accomplishment at work, how well he's treated his girls, his fav topic (e.g. politics, stock market) and drones on and on except expressing his concerns for you, asking how's your day, what are your fav things. It's always about his abilities, what he's learnt, how knowledgable he is, where he's been. Nothing for you or ON you.
4) Green Eye Monster - Lets loose a menacing look/growl shd any guy toss a glance in your direction. He gets worried to know if you've got any guy friends and ask you not to meet them anymore.
5) The Interrogator - Barely knowing each other for a day, he's asked you where you've been, what you've done, what have you ate, what'll you do the next day, who have you been with, why, how, where, when, who, which? Serious invasion of privacy. Definitely not one out of concern as you can tell from the tone of voice. Which gal wouldn't run?
6) The Ungracious One - Talks with his mouth full (gross!) and spit saliva and rice unto your face unknowingly. In face of traffic, crosses road first leaving the gal to fend for herself without looking back to check on her safety. Does not hold the door for the gal but instead go thru the door first, unknowingly let the door slam in the date's face. When the girl is carrying heavy stuff, does not offer to help carry but instead talk and walk his usual guy speed leaving the girl behind juggling her stuff. If girl drops things under the table, does not offer to help her pick up item. What a guy...
7) Mr Shy - Looks at the floor, looks at the wall, looks at the potted plant, at the wall clock, looks at the cute waitress on your left, looks at the hunk on your right, looks even right down at your boobs. In short, he looks everywhere but at you in your face. How's that for a conversation?
8 ) The Starer - You're eating your food nonchalantly and turns around to find him staring at you almost dreamily. Even so, he does not break off his stare. Freaky.
9) Mr Busy - As you're talking to him, he's busy smsing away. He disappears from time to time to answer his call or make a call. Serious lack of respect for his date.
Any guy guilty of the above charges?
In short, your little actions even during a non-date reveals a lot about yourself and your personality. If even during a normal casual chanced meet you emit vibes that give clues to the above behaviours, you wont seem like an enjoyable date. Girls dun like to be around people that make them feel uncomfortable and uncared for.
Perhaps time to brush up on your social ettiqutte and skills.
Hope this helps.
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hoo~~rah~~
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ur time will come.
like me i still waiting...near 30 le..