Originally posted by browniebaobao:
If i were TS, I would have the urge to beat him up too..
but nope.. ever since my dad has left this world..
i wish i wish.. i wish i had another chance to talk to him nicely, hug him and tell him I love him..
No matter what he did to you and your family.. he's the one who gave you life.
I have a buddy.. his dad also kept a woman outside.. for years.. the mum was always waiting for him to come home.. and prentending that she dinoe anything.. my buddy refused to talk to him ever since.. and they used to be very very close..
Few years have passed.. finally he returned home.. left that woman.. but not long after, he met with an accident, broke his leg, suffered serious injuries and is still in a coma right now. My buddy travelled in and out of JB just to visit him despite of her busy work schedule.. and it really hurts me when I saw the scars on her wrist.. she must have attempted to cut her wrist many times before..
TS, be there for your mum. When her husband is always not around, she can only rely on her children. Have you ever asked your mum why is she waiting? Bcos she still treats him as her husband or because of her children? If he ever lays a finger on you or your family again, make a police report ba. You dun use violence to deal with violence. Let the law teach him a lesson.
Be strong ya.. your mum and family still needs you. And no matter what, do not try to end your life or do silly things that will break your mum's heart. And if you need someone to talk to, dun hesitate to call the helplines.
I'm sure if your dad's here, he would've have been proud of you =)
I know he's my dad,
Thats why it holds me back not to do anything drastic.
but my heart hopes no hope for such man anymore,
because there is a void in my heart from young which i always fear this man.
No love at all.
I'm always there for mum, but I've been working and such,
a busy schedule keeps me away from my mum.
My brother, has no mind of his own,
Smoking at the age of 17 now.
I don't know what to say.
He's always looking for trouble,
Sigh...
Originally posted by alegna_t13:
Take out a PPO against your dad the next time he lays a finger on you or your family.
Let him noe that you guys are not his punching bags and that you have growned up le.
Hopefully it will deter him from ever thinking of harming you and your family again
How or what is PPO ? could you explain it ?
Originally posted by apples:
Do u know when and why ur father behaves this way? Have ur mum told u?
Try to reflect back on the happenings in ur family in a quiet serene place like a park. Going along with ur mum should help too. Break away from ur current routine and have a simple outing to a park or even downstairs or any place that u guys are comfortable with and have a heart to heart talk on the family matter.
You can discuss things like what happened to ur father?
Do ur all still want him back?
Do ur all still want to help him?
Do ur all think ur father still wants the family?
What should u guys do?
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While u guys are unhappy. Ur father is probably also a very unhappy person and for him, his way of venting out his anger is through violence. And dun be afraid to use those very useful counseling numbers from Devil 1976.
Things are done and considered,
I've not abandon options,
If not i wouldn't have been that helpless.
Thanks for the advice though...
I know what happened to him,
No his way of venting frustration was gambling.
Somehow, I just know I never want to step into a shadow of this man.
Thanks for the advice people.. really gratefull for all the replies..
I'm getting enough attention lately.....
I say it would be difficult for anybody for that matter, to view their dad as 'bane' or simply intolerable. Dad is probably the first person we learn to respect in life and of course, if he doesn't earn the respect from his children, it spells much trouble for their bonding.
