Are u a loner in the office place?
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I recently changed job, and the culture here is to lunch in , alone in the cubicle / eat with their ex-colleagues / gather at a table talking about their children 24/7. I choose not to eat at the table, because its irritating hearing "my child did this, my child did that". I just feel so old.
All the talk is work related, and although they are nice helpful people, I just feel so alone.
My previous job was very different in terms of job scope, so I am wondering if most office jobs are like this? In view that my job does not need interaction with others, its like I can sit at my chair whole day w/o talking
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I think that explained everything. Take your time. You can sit at your chair the whole day doesn't mean you can't move your butt up and take the initiative to have a chat with other colleagues? Provided you settle your work at that moment.Originally posted by sheri:I recently changed job, and the culture here is to lunch in , alone in the cubicle / eat with their ex-colleagues / gather at a table talking about their children 24/7. I choose not to eat at the table, because its irritating hearing "my child did this, my child did that". I just feel so old.
All the talk is work related, and although they are nice helpful people, I just feel so alone.
My previous job was very different in terms of job scope, so I am wondering if most office jobs are like this? In view that my job does not need interaction with others, its like I can sit at my chair whole day w/o talking -
So u sit alone with internet access?
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Yeah man I know how you feel. I'm the youngest where I am too.
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oh yeah, they talk about their kids all day long
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maybe its time to get married.
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Err...recently as in more than 6 mths. Sometimes I think is it that hard to find someone with common topics / interest / is it my problem. But actually among themselves , they either dun tok / is about complaining their job / tok about children.
Yes...haha I sit alone with internet access. The only people I communicate with these days are via forums, or my friends (also seldom). -
I don't really talk that much with my colleagues too..? Just chat when we've got time and also things to share...Originally posted by sheri:Err...recently as in more than 6 mths. Sometimes I think is it that hard to find someone with common topics / interest / is it my problem. But actually among themselves , they either dun tok / is about complaining their job / tok about children.
Yes...haha I sit alone with internet access. The only people I communicate with these days are via forums, or my friends (also seldom).
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yes i am .. but i feel ok with it .. maybe get use to not talking
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sigh
last time i work office
every meal i ate alone
coz i am the youngest
no topic to talk
dun wan to tok too. -
To OP,
Your situation is quite common.
Work is really different to uni/school, where everyone is the same age and has similar interests.
Mine is like that too- everyone is married.
Maybe you can arrange to have lunch with other friends now and then. That's what I do.
Or if you have other offices around, slowly make friends with other people in the area. -
Originally posted by sheri:I recently changed job, and the culture here is to lunch in , alone in the cubicle / eat with their ex-colleagues / gather at a table talking about their children 24/7. I choose not to eat at the table, because its irritating hearing "my child did this, my child did that". I just feel so old.
All the talk is work related, and although they are nice helpful people, I just feel so alone.
My previous job was very different in terms of job scope, so I am wondering if most office jobs are like this? In view that my job does not need interaction with others, its like I can sit at my chair whole day w/o talking Think about it positively, sometimes it's good to be alone. To be alone, one can escape unnecessary office politics and enjoy peace. If people in the office aren't talking things relevant to you then if you join them it may like what we say in Chinese - wa bu tou ji ban ju duo! -
my office different, full of guys my age (majority men actually) but during lunch i chose to hang out with aunties.
Aunties: oi young girl must hang out more with young ppl la...always with us aunty u also become aunty wor! -
actually hor, if u observe those office workers eating together during lunch - it's quite obvious that some are together just because they have to, not that they like each other or have something in common to talk about. after talking about bo liao stuff, they will keep quiet and eat their food. some people are just too afraid to be seen eating alone so they stick to a group for convenience.
as for me, i dun really care. it's better i get some peace and quiet for that 1 hr of lunchtime -
Originally posted by snoopii:actually hor, if u observe those office workers eating together during lunch - it's quite obvious that some are together just because they have to, not that they like each other or have something in common to talk about. after talking about bo liao stuff, they will keep quiet and eat their food. some people are just too afraid to be seen eating alone so they stick to a group for convenience.
as for me, i dun really care. it's better i get some peace and quiet for that 1 hr of lunchtime agree with u! 
I love lunch alone or with friends working near. Think I hv offended my other colleagues already they kept volunteering to buy lunch for me so we can lunch in the office. But that's not me to lunch in the office. 1 hr lunch is precious tome, I wanna do and eat things I like! -
I notice that guys can often eating alone and don't talk. But ladies must have someone to eat meals with. Its a gender thing
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Yeah loh eat alone or not nvm,it the job pay that i mind
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if you dont eat with them they will say you are anti-social.
it is obvious from the lunch group who is with who.
office politics. -
i remember reading an article which says that japanese office ladies have such a phobia of being seen eating alone, that they would rather starve.Originally posted by crispylips:I notice that guys can often eating alone and don't talk. But ladies must have someone to eat meals with. Its a gender thing
i can believe it, because my ex-colleague used to frantically book people for lunch at least 1 hr before lunchtime. -
Some of my male collegues do that too. Seems to judge that as a popularity thing
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life is so meaningless...we get concern n worrid abt this sort of things...can't juz every1 be friendly with on another with minimal "polictics" ...
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I now NS work as clerk.Then my new collegues also not friendly one.Never automatic call me go eat with them.How to break into their group ?cause we like dont have common topics and interests like that.Isit i new guy that why they dont talk to me or because they not close to me yet?Am i thinking too much or is there other people like me?
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my colleagues talk about their children too.
but i spend most of my time making fun of them
when i DO think about it. yes, i'm getting older. but i certainly don't feel it when i'm teasing them.
it all depends really. some people make friends really quick, some don't.
there's something that u all can surely talk about, your evil boss -
people are nice only if and when there are no conflict of interest.Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:life is so meaningless...we get concern n worrid abt this sort of things...can't juz every1 be friendly with on another with minimal "polictics" ... -
maybe because you are new guy. some people do take time to warm up to new people. it depends on the culture too. in a culture which is full of politics, people tend to be suspicious of those whom they don't know too well yet, because of backstabbing, gossip, etcOriginally posted by Sakuragi86:I now NS work as clerk.Then my new collegues also not friendly one.Never automatic call me go eat with them.How to break into their group ?cause we like dont have common topics and interests like that.Isit i new guy that why they dont talk to me or because they not close to me yet?Am i thinking too much or is there other people like me?
my office culture is similar to yours. so don't fret, you are not alone