Aft break up.. we've became strangers..

• Chris1988

  28 Jan 07, 01:46

  one word. jialat.
• huy

  31 Jan 07, 16:03

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  i can't imagine if were at my 1st love wedding dinner..
  i might go insane..
  i might drink a lot..
  i might get drank..
  i guess..
  
  and i will sob..
  in slience..

  i might not even attend at all..
• huy

  31 Jan 07, 16:10

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  why??
  meet up with her last nite..
  used to be so closed..
  but now, i feel that we are jus like total strangers to one another..

  it normal la.. i rem when i broke off with my bf last time, we also become strangers.. i delated his numbers, throw away all the stuff he gave me.. once he msn me, and we both boast bout how well our life is without each other.. very fake... he hopes that we could remain as fres but i wun even wan to see him or tok to him now..
  
  now he got a new gf. once again, i block his msn, change my number without telling him.. so from now onwards, i wun have any connections with him and i don ever wan to see him anymore..
• lonestar86

  3 Feb 07, 00:10

  Originally posted by huy:

  it normal la.. i rem when i broke off with my bf last time, we also become strangers.. i delated his numbers, throw away all the stuff he gave me.. once he msn me, and we both boast bout how well our life is without each other.. very fake... he hopes that we could remain as fres but i wun even wan to see him or tok to him now..
  
  now he got a new gf. once again, i block his msn, change my number without telling him.. so from now onwards, i wun have any connections with him and i don ever wan to see him anymore..

  really that serious??
  i dun think there's a need to be so serious..
• smudgey

  3 Feb 07, 00:17

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  really that serious??
  i dun think there's a need to be so serious..

  for some there's no need to be so jue....
  
  but for some.... it's their way of moving on.....
  
  
• lonestar86

  3 Feb 07, 00:20

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  for some there's no need to be so jue....
  
  but for some.... it's their way of moving on.....
  
  

  i believe still can keep in touch..
  still can be frenz..
  
  but the feeling will be very strange..
  
  perhaps..
  getting hell out of one another's life might be a gd idea..
• universe

  3 Feb 07, 02:10

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  i can't imagine if were at my 1st love wedding dinner..
  i might go insane..
  i might drink a lot..
  i might get drank..
  i guess..
  
  and i will sob..
  in slience..

  Haha...you are 21 right, from ur nick.
  
  Well i can say i matured alot. A couple of more relationships might do the trick
  
  But still love is a complicated thing..nv touch unless you are real certain that she is e one. Even then, it is still dangerous..because you don't know that whether she likes you anot.
  
  
• huy

  3 Feb 07, 09:36

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  really that serious??
  i dun think there's a need to be so serious..

  it that serious.. u nv noe how hurt i am..
• xShevchenkox

  3 Feb 07, 10:09

  Originally posted by universe:

  Haha...you are 21 right, from ur nick.
  
  Well i can say i matured alot. A couple of more relationships might do the trick
  
  But still love is a complicated thing..nv touch unless you are real certain that she is e one. Even then, it is still dangerous..because you don't know that whether she likes you anot.
  
  

  yea l agree....anyway l tink that love is sumtinz that is cannot be guranteed secure one...when u are touching it...u must oso be prepared to fail oso...maybe if u dun hav high expectations for the r/s, if the breakup occurs in future..u mite nt feel so bad afterall
• lonestar86

  3 Feb 07, 22:01

  Originally posted by huy:

  it that serious.. u nv noe how hurt i am..

  i totally understand how u feel..
  i understand the pain..
  it's unbearable..
• leddy

  3 Feb 07, 22:29

  Originally posted by huy:

  it normal la.. i rem when i broke off with my bf last time, we also become strangers.. i delated his numbers, throw away all the stuff he gave me.. once he msn me, and we both boast bout how well our life is without each other.. very fake... he hopes that we could remain as fres but i wun even wan to see him or tok to him now..
  
  now he got a new gf. once again, i block his msn, change my number without telling him.. so from now onwards, i wun have any connections with him and i don ever wan to see him anymore..

  I think you are right, sometimes you need to do that to really move on with your life, esp if your feelings for him was geniune. If it's just one of fling, it's no big deal, still can be friends. But if it was serious, and losing that person can be very painful. Some people are meant to be friends, others bf/gf.
  
  Even till today, 6 yrs later, I haven't been able to get involved in a relationship with a girl again. I'm wary of committment issues, and haven't been able to find a girl I can really relate to.
• lonestar86

  3 Feb 07, 22:38

  Originally posted by leddy:

  I think you are right, sometimes you need to do that to really move on with your life, esp if your feelings for him was geniune. If it's just one of fling, it's no big deal, still can be friends. But if it was serious, and losing that person can be very painful. Some people are meant to be friends, others bf/gf.
  
  Even till today, 6 yrs later, I haven't been able to get involved in a relationship with a girl again. I'm wary of committment issues, and haven't been able to find a girl I can really relate to.

  my feeling for her is definitely geniune..
  no doubt abt tt..
• godbowenX2

  4 Feb 07, 02:22

  1 word for u Song Bo ?
  
• lonestar86

  4 Feb 07, 16:16

  we haven't contact aft our last meeting..
  tt was abt 2 wks ago..
  
  i guess she wanna forget abt me and move on..
  for me..
  i can move on, but i dun think i can forget abt her..
  never..
• smudgey

  4 Feb 07, 16:30

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  we haven't contact aft our last meeting..
  tt was abt 2 wks ago..
  
  i guess she wanna forget abt me and move on..
  for me..
  i can move on, but i dun think i can forget abt her..
  never..

  take time to grieve now...
  
  but don't wallow...
  
  surround yourself with your friends..... you have no idea what a relief it is to have your friends with you distracting you and helping you through this time...
  
  call them.
• lonestar86

  4 Feb 07, 16:36

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  take time to grieve now...
  
  but don't wallow...
  
  surround yourself with your friends..... you have no idea what a relief it is to have your friends with you distracting you and helping you through this time...
  
  call them.

  i prefer to face this alone..
• smudgey

  4 Feb 07, 16:40

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  i prefer to face this alone..

  not impossible, but more difficult...
  
  still it's wiser to expand your circle of friends...
• X-men

  4 Feb 07, 17:17

  Not everyone can be friends with their ex.
  
  A female friend of mine can BUT not her ex. She thought he could so continues to go out with her ex who in turn makes life miserable for her
• walesa

  4 Feb 07, 17:42

  Originally posted by xShevchenkox:

  yea l agree....anyway l tink that love is sumtinz that is cannot be guranteed secure one...when u are touching it...u must oso be prepared to fail oso...maybe if u dun hav high expectations for the r/s, if the breakup occurs in future..u mite nt feel so bad afterall

  This is one of life's biggest paradoxes IMO and in fact, it applies to more than just relationships.
  
  If you're prepared to fail and not commit yourself fully, you'd in all probability reproach yourself for not having done more should things go wrong(and needless to say, chances of things not working out would invariably be higher in this instance). Then again, if you went all out and still failed, you'd still find it hard to bear the brunt of your failings.
  
  Hence, this begs the question : would you really want to lead a stable and indifferent life whereby you neither experience the extreme ecstasy nor despair? Or would you prefer to give everything in all your pursuits so that you live a life with as few regrets as possible(at the expense of encountering many more downs than if you were to adopt a passive approach, of course)?
• huy

  5 Feb 07, 14:33

  Originally posted by leddy:

  I think you are right, sometimes you need to do that to really move on with your life, esp if your feelings for him was geniune. If it's just one of fling, it's no big deal, still can be friends. But if it was serious, and losing that person can be very painful. Some people are meant to be friends, others bf/gf.
  
  Even till today, 6 yrs later, I haven't been able to get involved in a relationship with a girl again. I'm wary of committment issues, and haven't been able to find a girl I can really relate to.

  ya.. at least u can understand.. it like if i didn;t do such extreme, drop all connections with him, i will nv forget him.. and i cun go on life like that..that is my way of doing things. fres say i heartless. but i really have no choice cos i really nid to move on..
• Sakuraflower

  11 Feb 07, 16:08

  well, it is normal after break up , become strangers.
  
  But also can be friends after a period of time.