Why she behave like dat?
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:Yup. Hope you are doing fine.
They might cancel my nick soon and tell me to re-register if I don't post something.
Come to think of it, 299 posts in 5 yrs sounds embarassing!
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Originally posted by morningbell:Not on speaking terms but she tried to talk to me over some work related matters. I just answer her questions and turn away.
I find it very wierd that she will be affected by the fact that i talk to other gals thats y i was hoping if there is any way to find out if she still likes me. My instincts not very accurate so i dun want to risk asking her cos there is a possibility that it is coincidence that she banged the things.
Read your own post. Even though it might be no coincidence that she banged the things while you were on the phone with other girls, it certainly don't have to mean that she's interested in you.Originally posted by tiredcapricorn:I courted her when she first joined my company. Don't think there is a chance of patching back with her caused i did something quite 'bad'. Won't elaborate here. i did it to make myself hate her. think she hates me as well now.
My company quite small so i will meet her even if i ask for internal posting.
And remember the depression state you were in. Depression is certainly no joking matter. Chances are things won't be anywhere too near to the bright side. I would personally say it's not worth any of the venture at all. -
Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Read this. Though this might not be exactly the picture, but it's probably not too far off from the truth?
Speaking purely base on my instinct. Read this and think about it.
She reacted this way not because she still loves you.
She reacted this way because she could sense that she is slowly losing her grip on you.
After the breakup, your work is affected. Your life is in a mess.
She is sympathetic but at the same time, your plight serves as a much needed “ego booster” for her.
She needs to rebuild her self confidence after a failed relationship. And there is nothing more satisfying to see how much you are affected by it.
Now she can feel that the tide is turning, that loss of power over you frustrates her.
So CuriousOrange is saying that she is sympathetic but seems to be "gloating" over your misfortune at the same time.
Sounds ironic doesn't it?
But most of the time, humans cannot help but react subconsciously to situations presented to them.
What IÂ’m trying to explain to you is a subtle but important difference.
She wants that control she has over you but it doesnÂ’t mean she still loves you.
If you ask her to patch up with you again, she will most probably say no.
Life doesnÂ’t have a rewind button. Get over with it and move on.[/b]
Of course, I would have to add on my personal comment that there're quite alot of facts which you've decided to hold back from us in the 1st place? It won't be quite fair for us to give a proper overall advice for you based on that fact alone. Anyway.. If you feel that all's in the past and you would not like to talk about them anymore, I would respect your decision for that? But in any case, do keep them IN your past?
It would certainly sounds weird and funny if you've decided to let your past comes out and back to haunt you while hiding things from us..? I don't see how much we can really help based on that? -
I can't specify the whole thing. Its a very long story and i can't rmbr all the details.
I will just put it as i told one of the colleagues who is closest to her about some of the things that happened between her and me. I said some things that wasn't so nice about her on msn with this colleague and i then she saw it. Sort of like bad mouthing her and she confronted me over it so chances r she wun forgive me over it.
Anyway thanks for the replies and advice, think i will just ignore her for the time being. Unlikely that i will patch with her but juz c how things work out. -
Badmouthing about her after ya broke off with her?Originally posted by morningbell:I can't specify the whole thing. Its a very long story and i can't rmbr all the details.
I will just put it as i told one of the colleagues who is closest to her about some of the things that happened between her and me. I said some things that wasn't so nice about her on msn with this colleague and i then she saw it. Sort of like bad mouthing her and she confronted me over it so chances r she wun forgive me over it.
Anyway thanks for the replies and advice, think i will just ignore her for the time being. Unlikely that i will patch with her but juz c how things work out. -
That msn incident did not happen 2 months into the relationship did it?Originally posted by morningbell:I can't specify the whole thing. Its a very long story and i can't rmbr all the details.
I will just put it as i told one of the colleagues who is closest to her about some of the things that happened between her and me. I said some things that wasn't so nice about her on msn with this colleague and i then she saw it. Sort of like bad mouthing her and she confronted me over it so chances r she wun forgive me over it.
Anyway thanks for the replies and advice, think i will just ignore her for the time being. Unlikely that i will patch with her but juz c how things work out.
The reason she gave you was that she doesnÂ’t have time for you.
The reason both of you started quarrelling frequently after the first 2 months was because of the differences in personalities. Accept these reasons and donÂ’t dwell further into the matter.
That msn incident is a catalyst, not a cause. The red light in your relationship with her appeared in the first 2 months. You were oblivious to that until now.
The more you dwell on things, the more confused you will be.
The less thought you give this question, the faster you can move on.
I sympathize with your current plight more than anything else. Complication sets in when you have face this person everyday. That is why you requested her to resign.
But out of sight does not mean out of mind.
Try to detach yourself from the possibilities from now on. ItÂ’s all in the mind.
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Welcome back!!!!
Her actions and feelings are hard to comprehend aren't they?
Then do yourself a favor. Don't try to comprehend.
The only thing you need to know right now is that she has a little file box inside her head with your name on it. In that file box, she has already written down "Not suitable"
Even if you can patch up with her, what is inside that file box cannot be erased.
There is actually a possibility she might come back to you. [b]Not because she loves you.
Put it this way, if she is immature enough and doesn't know how to handle what she's feeling right now, she may try to pull you back in. You will be stuck in a loveless relationship.
The easiest way out of the mess right now is to find a gal with a blank file box.
You are a smart lad. I think you will understand.[/b]
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Well, for your peace of mind, dont imagine any scenario just askher for a one last chat. Ask her if she still have feelings and still want to make things work.
If her answer is postive then good for y if not, then you gotta close the chapter and me on. Time will eventually heals only if you dun dwell on it
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Hello Mr Moderator. How has life been treating you?Originally posted by M©+square:Welcome back!!!!