my brother smoke inside his room
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i have a brother, an addictive smoker. he is always hiding in his room smoking. though there is no direct contact as he always close his door, however the whole living room is infested with the cigarettes smell whenever he does that. I can smell it even though i close my door as well.
I have had several big fights with him over this, but he jus dun realise he is making the whole family suffer his second hand smoke. as he usually smoke in the late nights, so my parents are usually asleep and they dun realise but when i went into their room, i can smell it as well.
i am tired of quarrelling with him, everytime i scold him, he will jus scold me back and tell me to shut up. i also dun wanna wake my parents up with our fights. i have told my parents about this. they are concerned too but they could do nothing about it. each time he will jus tell them ok ok, but still he never stops.
my biggest worry is that all of us are in big risk of getting lung cancer though my family dun smoke.
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install smoke alarms in the pretext of safety
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Draw a yellow box and indicate a smoking area.
No la, seriously, u should try and talk to him and try not to quarrel. If he doesn't listen, ask ur parents to cut his allowance so that he cant purchase ciggies.
Cheers.
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Tell him to smoke outside the hse. His smoking habits shldnt be at the expense of others well being.
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i bet he wont go out n smoke even when everybody tells him toOriginally posted by shade343:Tell him to smoke outside the hse. His smoking habits shldnt be at the expense of others well being. -
but still at least he make the effort to go to the room and smoke rather than in the living room smoke rite?
ur brother already quite good liao..sum ppl nt zi dong ...house anywhere oso smoke de...
Hmm perhaps u can suggest to ur brother ..if he want to smoke..smoke out of the windows lor...if not go outside and smoke..tell ur parents to say him a bit...and l tink it helps
whenever l wan smoke..l smoke outside de...not at home..as parents dun allow and hor l dun wan them to noe..
dun wry so much la...nt that easy tio lung cancer de -
steal his ciggies and sell it to NUSSuperstar.
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my downstairs neighbours like to smoke at their kitchen window too and i really hate it when the smoke rises and float into our kitchen and bedroom window
the whole family downstairs smoke so our kitchen and bedroom are filled with smoke almost every night
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u overestimate him le, smoking in own room is nothing to do with effort. he hardly steps out of his room, his room is like his whole house. it dun requires any thinking on his part to lit up a cigarette. what i am asking for is at least some consideration for his own family members who cant tolerate cigarette smell and second hand smoke.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:but still at least he make the effort to go to the room and smoke rather than in the living room smoke rite?
ur brother already quite good liao..sum ppl nt zi dong ...house anywhere oso smoke de...
Hmm perhaps u can suggest to ur brother ..if he want to smoke..smoke out of the windows lor...if not go outside and smoke..tell ur parents to say him a bit...and l tink it helps
whenever l wan smoke..l smoke outside de...not at home..as parents dun allow and hor l dun wan them to noe..
dun wry so much la...nt that easy tio lung cancer de
every time i tell him to go out to smoke, he will jus tell me to shut up. as for my parents, sometimes he will scold back, esp if its my father who scold him, then sometimes on a good day, he will say "ok! stop nagging!"
though sometimes he will guai guai go out and smoke, but it never lasts. he will always go back to his old ways. and the cycle resumes.
the cancer part, i dun wanna take risk. and also i believe its quite possible when u are inhaling second hand smoke every day.
is it so hard to spare a thought for others? esp its your own family. -
hahahaha good one!!!Originally posted by CKeer:Draw a yellow box and indicate a smoking area.
Cheers.
C.K -
no use, he is working. and he spends it all on cab fare, ciggies and soccer bets that he sometimes have problems paying bills.Originally posted by CKeer:Draw a yellow box and indicate a smoking area.
No la, seriously, u should try and talk to him and try not to quarrel. If he doesn't listen, ask ur parents to cut his allowance so that he cant purchase ciggies.
Cheers.
C.K -
Oh that is bad...but since he dun wan to change..l suppose there isnt much things u can do...like they say old habits are hard to change.Originally posted by Vel Vel:u overestimate him le, smoking in own room is nothing to do with effort. he hardly steps out of his room, his room is like his whole house. it dun requires any thinking on his part to lit up a cigarette. what i am asking for is at least some consideration for his own family members who cant tolerate cigarette smell and second hand smoke.
every time i tell him to go out to smoke, he will jus tell me to shut up. as for my parents, sometimes he will scold back, esp if its my father who scold him, then sometimes on a good day, he will say "ok! stop nagging!"
though sometimes he will guai guai go out and smoke, but it never lasts. he will always go back to his old ways. and the cycle resumes.
the cancer part, i dun wanna take risk. and also i believe its quite possible when u are inhaling second hand smoke every day.
is it so hard to spare a thought for others? esp its your own family.
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Insulate his room
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ask him to open the window whenever he smokes.
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put a black and white photo of him, a bowl of rice in front and three burning ciggys on the rice.
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get him to smoke outside of the house.
my bro also smokes in the toilet or in the living room when he tot no one knows.. but his sister, me, has a very sensitive nose.. so i will ask him to smoke outside, even if his fren is at home, i also dun give face wan. coz i know If i give in to him once, he will take it for granted. if he smokes, i rather dun breathe than to sniff in all the smoke. -
the only thing is to close his door, open his window wide and smoke, that is if he dont want to step out the house....
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urm, health issues aside, he already made the effort to smoke inside his room and not blow the smoke into your face
what you probably smelled is the lingering odour, not the smoke itself -
Originally posted by Ito_^:put a black and white photo of him, a bowl of rice in front and three burning ciggys on the rice.
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Good Idea. must cry until very chee cham. hold a fake funeral.Originally posted by Ito_^:put a black and white photo of him, a bowl of rice in front and three burning ciggys on the rice.
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i understand old habits hard to change, but if some old habits are affecting other people in a bad way, then shouldnt u do something about it? esp if we are talking about health issues.
i am not even asking him to quit smoking. smoking is part of his life, not mine, nor my parents.
why make it part of ours when all we want is to rest well after a hard day's of work? why enduring his second hand smoke has now become part of our lives?
how to show him that his act is utterly selfish? -
How old are you and him?Originally posted by Vel Vel:i understand old habits hard to change, but if some old habits are affecting other people in a bad way, then shouldnt u do something about it? esp if we are talking about health issues.
i am not even asking him to quit smoking. smoking is part of his life, not mine, nor my parents.
why make it part of ours when all we want is to rest well after a hard day's of work? why enduring his second hand smoke has now become part of our lives?
how to show him that his act is utterly selfish?
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read up on how to get people to quit smoking?
http://www.hpb.gov.sg/hpb2/Quit4Life/asp/fac/fac002.asp
u cant just go in and throw reasons
use stronger message
i know my friends quitted after their relatives got cancer
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Dear Vel,
I can understand your concern for your bro and your family members. But I hope you are old enough to realize that your brother too is a human being, and has a right to choices. He made a choice to smoke, did it in his room, not infront of you or your parents out of respect. What more you want from him?
Don't discriminate against your brother just because he is a smoker. He's human too, and everybody's got a vice, one or another. I know you care for him, but love him for who he is too. -
ya lo..at least ur brother is not like Nus_superstar who keeps on promoting cigarettes and smoking