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Sigh seriously.. I'm at a fix guys! help me!!
Quite awhile back. My boyfriend of afew years broke off with me..
back then, i was totally devastated,
then came along this guy.
we never really expressed interest in each other, cause when we knew each other.
i was a depressive bit*ch and he said he liked being single.
so being practical, even though my heart falls for him.. as he really is so nice, lovely to be with, we're so similar yet so different. but i just love spending time with him. I just left it as friends, and never dared to say anything..although it drives me crazy! just thinking of him..yet wondering if he likes me too..
he's so weird..
He's this quiet kinda guy at times. the cool reserved dude.
when i was down int he begining of my break up,he accompanied me.
when i got myself almost drunk, he drove in the middle of the night to pick me up and send me home despite he himself not feeling well.
we would accompany each other.
when i had tt bad time..he said he'll take care of me and make sure i'll be fine..
but the thing was..
he never openly expresses interest. he doesnt message me oftent like once a day or sumtin at least.
but instead every few days we would come in contact again.
there was afew period of times he would dissapear. and reappear again, saying he was sent away on an urgent business trip and didnt have time to tell me till he came back.
we would like not contact..and den contact again..on off on off..
its like a turmoul...
recently
we started going out for meals together again.. and afew days later a day out,during the day out
we went out to have fun, play games and so on..thru out the day,
he was looking at me.. staring and smilling at me..
i admit i felt pleased that he was looking at me so!
we went to eat, instead of the usual him seating opposite me like every other guy would usually do. he sat right next to me!
we chat, awhile latter..he opened up to me..cause i noticed after a message or 2, he look disturbed and upset.
he told me that it was about his ex gf..
whom he broke up with..but he still feels it..
but i was like..how can u feel it when u broke up mutually?
he was like he feels like he couldnt live with her, at the same time couldnt live without her..
my god.. i swear my heart tightened so bad at tt moment..
but i managed to smile..give him advice as a friend would..
telling him tt he can get over her and stuff...
i told him he'll be fine..
but he was like.. wat about now?? he still feels the pain.
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basically thats all i could write for now about my sistuation..
i dunno wat to do? or wat to think??
he does things tt might show tt he likes me.. at the same time there are things tt show tt he doesnt..
plus he said he feels for his ex gf as in sumhow hes used to her..
but he doesnt love her..
does he like me somewhat? does he not like me? whats he thinking??
am i picking up the wrong signals??? or does he have at least a little
liking for me as more den a friend??or am i just making myselfd belive those signals were to say tt he is interested???
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thank you guys for all your opinions.
overall. i suppose it says tt he prob isnt into me.
i prob over looked at it.
hes just being a friendly guy.
i suppose that things are better off kept in the dark,
I dun wish to lose his friendship =]
If things were to progress, hey! im a lucky gal.
if not, i prob didnt strike loterry. -
do you mind summaries theem up to 50 - 70 words ?
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lol u horrible... people`s life.. u want summary.Originally posted by Unidentified:do you mind summaries theem up to 50 - 70 words ?
next time before u die, i ask u summarise ur life woes ans sorrows in 50 words. see if u can do or not -
He's a player.
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Interesting conclusion. What made you say that?Originally posted by browniebaobao:He's a player. -
Careful of rebound.
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Pretty obvious it's not her main worry at this point of time?Originally posted by blu_sky:Careful of rebound.
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i wana sleep liao leh.Originally posted by M©+square:Interesting conclusion. What made you say that?
To put it simply.. from her post, and from my intuition.. -
careful not to be his rebound too?Originally posted by M©+square:Pretty obvious it's not her main worry at this point of time? -
Ok good night.Originally posted by browniebaobao:i wana sleep liao leh.
To put it simply.. from her post, and from my intuition.. -
It's obvious she wants him to like her!!!Originally posted by blu_sky:careful not to be his rebound too?
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Even if he does make his move on her, it would be hard to tell if you really likes her, takes her as a replacement, or he merely is a player.Originally posted by M©+square:It's obvious she wants him to like her!!! 
Unless you are ready to get burned, dont play with fire
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Nite nite mango~!Originally posted by M©+square:Ok good night. -
It could be from both sides. Threadstarter, have you forgotten your ex?Originally posted by blu_sky:Careful of rebound.
doko -
Originally posted by dokono:It could be from both sides. Threadstarter, have you forgotten your ex?
dokoOriginally posted by blu_sky:careful not to be his rebound too? -
can explain "rebound" for miiiie plllx000r.....
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Take a rose and pluck the petals. The last one will tell you the answer
Ok, I was kidding.
Clearly (as what was written) he is not in the best state to know whether he still has feelings for his ex or not.
So, are you mentally prepared to be with him until he settle his internal mess?
If you enjoy his company and can tolerate such "mood/emotion swings" then don't think so much and be with him.
If you find this too frustrating now, maybe you like to give him some time alone so that he can figure out his mess?
I guess he may not even have the answer to your question himself - i.e whether he likes you or not. But from the looks of it, he sure enjoys your company. -
Yeah I read that part.Originally posted by blu_sky:careful not to be his rebound too?
doko -
per www.dictionary.com:Originally posted by carlsonxjd:can explain "rebound" for miiiie plllx000r.....
re·bound
on the rebound.
b. after being rejected by another: She didn't really love him; she married him on the rebound. -
x2.Originally posted by Dating Specialist:Take a rose and pluck the petals. The last one will tell you the answer
Ok, I was kidding.
Clearly (as what was written) he is not in the best state to know whether he still has feelings for his ex or not.
So, are you mentally prepared to be with him until he settle his internal mess?
If you enjoy his company and can tolerate such "mood/emotion swings" then don't think so much and be with him.
If you find this too frustrating now, maybe you like to give him some time alone so that he can figure out his mess?
I guess he may not even have the answer to your question himself - i.e whether he likes you or not. But from the looks of it, he sure enjoys your company.
just enjoy the company of each other for time being and try not to rush into things?
you might end up fooling each other's emotion rather then building a long term relationship. Both of you might just get hurt again in the end.
Take it slowly, enjoy each other company. Take it from there. -
I agree with you..Originally posted by blu_sky:Even if he does make his move on her, it would be hard to tell if you really likes her, takes her as a replacement, or he merely is a player.
Unless you are ready to get burned, dont play with fire
thats why i was in a serious fix..
one side i dun wanna ruin the friendship, at another i cant help but have this wishful thinking that how it would might work if we were to be together.
I do wonder about that too..
like how he might fall for me in this state because he might mix love for a need to have someone erase his pain.
thats why i told him..
i would be there and make sure he'll be fine in half a year time.
but then again if u think about it..
ive a serious risk to take.
if in half a year, by then i would know that he's really over her, but then what if his feelings for me developes ito a good friend only? what would i do then???
cause this usually happens when a guy and a girl know each other for a long time..
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hahaha even I thought of that before, that he might just be playing around..Originally posted by M©+square:Interesting conclusion. What made you say that?
but as a player, if he doesnt benefit.
which right now he really doesnt, we don't talk to each other liek every single day( so hes not benefitting emotionally by getting attention or whatever), we don't have an intimate relationship ( not benefitting physically ).
we only go out occasionally and most of the time he pays for everything unless i really insist on paying for my own things like food.
so whats his motive?? every player has a motive to play the game, im no virgin in this topic as ive had friends who are players and pickup artists and so on. every guy who plays has to have a motive..
if hes really a player, whats his??
he isnt bad looking, frankly he looks good, hes got charms, hes got this face that somehow ruggish the i-can-protect-you that kinda look yet at the same time he can really look very vulnerable and sweet.
most of the girls wouldnt mind going for him, infact if he wanted any girl, ive no doubt that if he puts his mind to it, he can have her twirled around his fingers and have his ways with her.
he knows he cant really have his way with me cause im nto the sweet gentle kinda girl. i dun subscum easily to temptations or watever, so whats he doing here?? -
hahaha everytime when u love someone, no doubt u would love that person for a very long time.Originally posted by dokono:It could be from both sides. Threadstarter, have you forgotten your ex?
doko
i loved my ex alot. i gave up alot of things for him. but things didnt work out beacause of many issues, i do miss him from time to time, i know i still love him, i had angered once, cried and went mad once with hurt asking myself why did it fail..
but thats the first few stages of breaking up,
first u hate
then u deny
finally its acceptance.
thats the feeling that everyone has with the aftermath of a lost love.
i still love him with my heart cause he was a part of my life, instead of hating, i chose to feel and accept that u cant force love, if u cant have it.. you just have to either look for it or wait for it to come willingly to u again with someone else.
if u say it was a rebound..
i would definetly doubt it.
cause i know a guy, hes crazy over me, he wants me, he was excactly what i wanted in a man.
he'll call me automaticly everyday at night, out of his own choice.
only wants to spend time with the person he loves 80% of the time, the love of his life comes first.
willing to get me anything i want or desire.
has a great stable income of 6k+ and growing.
but somehow i rejected him. i couldnt feel for him..
if i was in a rebound, wouldnt u say that i would jump straight into his open waiting hand??
why not? its a free gift at my door step for a heart brokened prson.
but i did thinka but it..
sure he loves me, but i dun love him back,its selfish to live that way,
both of us wouldnt be happy.
I'll rather love move than be loved, rather than be loved alone.
loving someone, it brings u a feeling of completion, contentment, without that feeling. u would never realy feel happy.
would a person on a rebound think like that??
i duno myself.. i do have doubts about the way i think, no one is perfect..
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Why don't you take it as returning him a favor then? Even at this point, won't you even consider this out of friendship with him? And just what's wrong with friendship if it so happens to be before a BGR or not?Originally posted by Vindictiv3:I agree with you..
thats why i was in a serious fix..
one side i dun wanna ruin the friendship, at another i cant help but have this wishful thinking that how it would might work if we were to be together.
I do wonder about that too..
like how he might fall for me in this state because he might mix love for a need to have someone erase his pain.
thats why i told him..
i would be there and make sure he'll be fine in half a year time.but then again if u think about it..
ive a serious risk to take.
if in half a year, by then i would know that he's really over her, but then what if his feelings for me developes ito a good friend only? what would i do then???
cause this usually happens when a guy and a girl know each other for a long time..
if attraction doesnt take place, friendship would.
If attraction doesn't take place, naturally friendship COULD... And if you know how to nurture it WELL, I don't see how a FRIENDSHIP could be much in any way LOUSY as compared to a BGR...? -
Hmm... Carefully examine 1st then...?Originally posted by Vindictiv3:hahaha even I thought of that before, that he might just be playing around..
but as a player, if he doesnt benefit.
which right now he really doesnt, we don't talk to each other liek every single day( so hes not benefitting emotionally by getting attention or whatever), we don't have an intimate relationship ( not benefitting physically ).
we only go out occasionally and most of the time he pays for everything unless i really insist on paying for my own things like food.
so whats his motive?? every player has a motive to play the game, im no virgin in this topic as ive had friends who are players and pickup artists and so on. every guy who plays has to have a motive..
if hes really a player, whats his??
he isnt bad looking, frankly he looks good, hes got charms, hes got this face that somehow ruggish the i-can-protect-you that kinda look yet at the same time he can really look very vulnerable and sweet.
most of the girls wouldnt mind going for him, infact if he wanted any girl, ive no doubt that if he puts his mind to it, he can have her twirled around his fingers and have his ways with her.
he knows he cant really have his way with me cause im nto the sweet gentle kinda girl. i dun subscum easily to temptations or watever, so whats he doing here??