agree with you. trust is the one of the most impt factor in a relationship.Originally posted by smudgey:hmmm....
actually although it hurted to hear it, and i cried hearing it....
I'm glad he told me.
cos to me honesty is the best policy.... and i was glad to know that i could trust him to tell me something that most guys would keep from their gf....
That brings me to another thought. Would you like to be the 'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?Originally posted by smudgey:hmmm....
actually although it hurted to hear it, and i cried hearing it....
I'm glad he told me.
cos to me honesty is the best policy.... and i was glad to know that i could trust him to tell me something that most guys would keep from their gf....
Originally posted by thickskin23:Now i am still trying to get over that girl but at times i find myself at the mrt station waiting to just catch a glimpse of her.
Yup, I MAY be able to forgive my guy if he cheated....Originally posted by mystee:agree with you. trust is the one of the most impt factor in a relationship.
i Believe a balance must be established here....Originally posted by blu_sky:That brings me to another thought. Would you like to be the 'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?
101% Agree! We have the same mind ya..Originally posted by smudgey:i Believe a balance must be established here....
but i prefer more of the latter than the first....
but that is just me.
hehehe ya lorOriginally posted by mystee:101% Agree! We have the same mind ya..
Have you ever had any crush or infatuation before?Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
seriously duno y u fear knowing she "block" u.. since u have aldy decided? and shldnt u delete her in your msn?Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
Balance. when one demand even to know a state of mind (note: no action has been taken to betray. in fact, prompt action has been taken to rectify the situation), is that still called a balance?Originally posted by mystee:101% Agree! We have the same mind ya..
of course she might have blocked you! you tell people you toyed with her feelings, and you still expect her not to block you?Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
hmm I think it is cos you feel like you are being neglected by ur gf that your mind keeps straying to think about the other girl in your life?Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
the word "balance" is from your question to smudey.. that i m 100% agree to. <'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?> Who dont like to be adores and protected? but in a relationship, to me, trust is most impt, hence i agree to her saying the latter one is more impt, if i have to choose one only.Originally posted by blu_sky:Balance. when one demand even to know a state of mind (note: no action has been taken to betray. in fact, prompt action has been taken to rectify the situation), is that still called a balance?
u cant have the best of both worlds, now dat u decide to stick to ur current one, so be it.Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
Originally posted by mystee:Thats why if i were a guy, i will never tell. Anyway, thoughts i may not be able to control, it is my action that i can control. if despite my fleeting thoughts, i choose to stay faithful, and be resolute about it and put that into action, i dun think why i should be penalised for something that i have not done.
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the word "balance" is from your question to smudey.. that i m 100% agree to. <'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?> Who dont like to be adores and protected? but in a relationship, to me, trust is most impt, hence i agree to her saying the latter one is more impt, if i have to choose one only.
Another thing is... "swaying of heart" to me... is aldy a kind of betray....[/b]
+1Originally posted by mystee:the word "balance" is from your question to smudey.. that i m 100% agree to. <'protected' girlfriend whom your bf absolutely adores and want to protect, or would you like to be the one whom he shares everything with, including things and thoughts of his that hurt you?> Who dont like to be adores and protected? but in a relationship, to me, trust is most impt, hence i agree to her saying the latter one is more impt, if i have to choose one only.
Another thing is... "swaying of heart" to me... is aldy a kind of betray....
yes, me too.Originally posted by choco B:If I were the girlfriend, and the TS really did what he posted, strictly no more than that, I'd rather not know. That is IF he is able to get over the girl and sort out what he wants. 1mth vs 7years.....
difference in opinions ba....Originally posted by blu_sky:Thats why if i were a guy, i will never tell. Anyway, thoughts i may not be able to control, it is my action that i can control. if despite my fleeting thoughts, i choose to stay faithful, and be resolute about it and put that into action, i dun think why i should be penalised for something that i have not done.
Yes, women may say, but in your mind you already 'swayed'. Thats why i say, dont tell her.
Being too busy to spend time with you.. Is that part of the reason why you swayed in your opinion?Originally posted by thickskin23:Its hard to get over just like that, apparently my whole life had changed for the past 2 weeks. I dare not to sleep at night, i find myself attracted to crowded places as i dun want to think about both her and my gf.
I refrain myself from using the computer as i dun want to see "her" name in msn and the fear of knowing that she "block" my name just to avoid me.
The worst thing is my gf is busy rushing a work project that she had no time for me even though i insist i can wait for her to knock off from work. I try fetching her from work but after a few times she just said she prefer to meet me once a week till her project is finished.
what's with this seven year itch thing ... my gf always brings this upOriginally posted by rainee:maybe he got the 7 year itch
but seriously, I think it is cos he has been neglected by the gf. So ought to sit the girl down and have a good discussion with her...maybe just hint to her that he has been feeling attracted to other girls since she has not been around?