Love has no reason?
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i cried incessantly and couldnt think bout anything when i saw that msg from him that he's telling himself to give up on me tho it hurts so bad i tot that's it. but after he called me just before i slept i felt alrite alr,seems like he still isnt now..i dunno how to comfort him..he says how he wish he can just hug me tightly now n never let go..i was melting a lil inside when i heard that..felt like hugging him and saying silly boy..i guess that's the least i could do to ease his pain..i'll meet him to give him a big hug later n hope he feels better..leave the thinking to after that ba..
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See below (ie my signature).Originally posted by smudgey:Hmmm... I'm not saying that he has to take the shlt from her....
but just that, he has been through this, and has to also understand that it is something she has to do before starting another relationship (assuming they want this relationship to last)
I admit my initial statements are a bit too strong....
but If you love someone enough, you'll wait, won't you?
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I got this from a sms when i treated that guy really harshly (which subsequently i regret cos he is still around and he is really nice). now i send these words to you.Originally posted by kuri:i cried incessantly and couldnt think bout anything when i saw that msg from him that he's telling himself to give up on me tho it hurts so bad i tot that's it. but after he called me just before i slept i felt alrite alr,seems like he still isnt now..i dunno how to comfort him..he says how he wish he can just hug me tightly now n never let go..i was melting a lil inside when i heard that..felt like hugging him and saying silly boy..i guess that's the least i could do to ease his pain..i'll meet him to give him a big hug later n hope he feels better..leave the thinking to after that ba..
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Originally posted by blu_sky:Thank you
Time. I know of love beyond time. I only want to know what its like for that between humans.Originally posted by blu_sky:See below (ie my signature). 
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what is love beyond time?Originally posted by Bontakun:Time. I know of love beyond time. I only want to know what its like for that between humans. -
If you need a reason to love someone then it's not love.
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maybe I'm still naive/hopefull towards love.... heheheOriginally posted by blu_sky:See below (ie my signature).
but if the guy i like/love say that to me..... I'll wait..... for how long? that depends on how strong my feelings are for him...
Kuri, i have to say, I don't think it's easy to get over your ex with this guy hovering around you (or vise versa)
To me, if i need to sort out my feelings, i need to be alone...
but if you ask him to leave you alone for some time for you to get over your ex... he MIGHT disappear from your life completely....
In my opinion, It's a risk you'll have to take....
an analogy :
when you are hanging off the side of a cliff, hanging on with one hand, and holding on to your prized possesion with the other,
the only way to survive is to throw your prize possesion over onto the cliff and try to climb up....
but when you climb up, it's true that your beloved item may be picked up by someone else and is no where to be found.... -
Well. We all define time as passing motion according to magnetism. Time is relativeOriginally posted by blu_sky:what is love beyond time?
according to Einstein, so we do things with time as relevance. You know how long is 1 second, 1 hour, 1 day, 1 decade.
Love beyond time (from my own perspective) is love that does not include time. You two could be anywhere yet you two still love each other. The time spent between you two could be short to other people (say 5 min?) but to you two its like an eternity.
Time has no relevance to the love you two have. You could spend years together and still feel its not enough. On the otherhand, you have only few seconds or not even one second to portray your love and it can feel like its there forever.
Even when that person has left you (for reasons unknown), you can still feel the love. The love which is supposedly past once you two are seperated but yet it is there. Its like getting 101/100 for some test. -
If you don't need a reason to love, then what will sustain the love in the future to come?Originally posted by X-men:If you need a reason to love someone then it's not love.
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wOw u just summarised the story.Originally posted by blu_sky:wow... agree.
but i think TS is emotionally attached to him now, and is therefore worried of losing him too.
Accepting him? she is not ready, and is insecured. And if she keeps treating him badly, it is juz a matter of time that he will leave.
Rejecting him now? she cant bear to.
If TS continues this, it is going to be a lose-lose situation for herself.
i wish i could hav met him later. i m not prepared to have met him yet. but now that i hav met him i can't bear to let him go. -
This kind of love is too painful.Originally posted by Bontakun:Well. We all define time as passing motion according to magnetism. Time is relative according to Einstein, so we do things with time as relevance. You know how long is 1 second, 1 hour, 1 day, 1 decade.
Love beyond time (from my own perspective) is love that does not include time. You two could be anywhere yet you two still love each other. The time spent between you two could be short to other people (say 5 min?) but to you two its like an eternity.
Time has no relevance to the love you two have. You could spend years together and still feel its not enough. On the otherhand, you have only few seconds or not even one second to portray your love and it can feel like its there forever.
Even when that person has left you (for reasons unknown), you can still feel the love. The love which is supposedly past once you two are seperated but yet it is there. Its like getting 101/100 for some test. -
How so?Originally posted by blu_sky:This kind of love is too painful. -
did you watch Cold Mountain?Originally posted by Bontakun:How so? -
do you want so much pain in your life?Originally posted by Bontakun:How so? -
No...Originally posted by blu_sky:did you watch Cold Mountain?
Yes it is painful in a certain sense, and frankly speaking, I rather not have this. Its just that human emotions are fleeting and convictions not as strong as it is. Besides, we are mortal. We have to face death someday... -
Yes, me too. There is only so many years we can live, why for a 5 min or 5 years, live the rest in memory (and agony?)?Originally posted by Bontakun:No...
Yes it is painful in a certain sense, and frankly speaking, I rather not have this. Its just that human emotions are fleeting and convictions not as strong as it is. Besides, we are mortal. We have to face death someday...
This kind of love, i rather not have it.
Cold mountain. Story of a love beyond time, not logical love. Very touching. i teared and teared without me knowing ( i found it quite unbelievable) when jude law and nicole kidman finally met. And in my opinion, not-worth-it love. i rather not have. let this kind of love remains in the movie. -
So... wat's Love actually??
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that's sweet yet painful.Originally posted by Bontakun:Well. We all define time as passing motion according to magnetism. Time is relative according to Einstein, so we do things with time as relevance. You know how long is 1 second, 1 hour, 1 day, 1 decade.
Love beyond time (from my own perspective) is love that does not include time. You two could be anywhere yet you two still love each other. The time spent between you two could be short to other people (say 5 min?) but to you two its like an eternity.
Time has no relevance to the love you two have. You could spend years together and still feel its not enough. On the otherhand, you have only few seconds or not even one second to portray your love and it can feel like its there forever.
Even when that person has left you (for reasons unknown), you can still feel the love. The love which is supposedly past once you two are seperated but yet it is there. Its like getting 101/100 for some test.
remb when he told me a few days ago that if one day i decided to leave him i could never come back to him he said once his love for somebody has been transformed to another form of love it could never revert back. just like he "loves" his ex in that he geninuely wishes her the best in life despite her betrayals but wants no contact with her and using the cliche if we would both fall into the sea analogy he'd save me first then figure out how to save his ex.
he asked me if i felt okie after he mentioned that i told him i did and i really did. that's why i was really stumped at his reaction ytd at the mention of my ex. but the difference is that he wasnt upset when he/me mentioned his ex. mayb he felt really terrible cos he thinks i still miss my ex he's really worried that i will run back to my ex or smt leaving him stranded in despair. -
Say the person suddenly "died"? Or the person, for a greater good, has to leave you? There are different ways to love someone. There are many kinds of love too. Selfish ones, mutual ones, unconditional ones...Originally posted by blu_sky:Yes, me too. There is only so many years we can live, why for a 5 min or 5 years, live the rest in memory (and agony?)?
This kind of love, i rather not have it.
Cold mountain. Story of a love beyond time, not logical love. Very touching. i teared and teared without me knowing ( i found it quite unbelievable) when jude law and nicole kidman finally met. And in my opinion, not-worth-it love. i rather not have. let this kind of love remains in the movie.
I am curious what kind of love I will give to the woman of my life. I certainly hope its not the sad type.
Read my siggy.Originally posted by sunny6110:So... wat's Love actually?? -
"love actually"? it is a movie!Originally posted by sunny6110:So... wat's Love actually?? -
if i can choose, i rather the simple, sweet love.Originally posted by Bontakun:Say the person suddenly "died"? Or the person, for a greater good, has to leave you? There are different ways to love someone. There are many kinds of love too. Selfish ones, mutual ones, unconditional ones...
But such simple things are always so hard for me! haha! -
I could understand how he felt when the relationship was dictated by a 3rd party's advice/word.Originally posted by kuri:i know u meant well..i didnt know he would take it so badly n hurt him so much..but he said if a frd's opinions can affect me so much then he means nothing to me.he asked how would i feel if he had done the same to me and that his frds been telling him a relationship with a 20/21 yr old isn't going to work out should he listen to them?
i say i wouldnt be so worked up then i kept quiet cos i know my immediate answer would hurt him more and would perhaps spell the end of us.
indirectly, bbb is the trigger.
Not being able to forget your ex is one thing, which is understandable. Being listening to a outsider's advice and acting on it with his knowledge is another thing altogether.
Recognise what the problem is and rectify it.
Cheers || Most Guys lose it because they lack - Patience || Women...What do you understand about men? -
Yes, simple things are really that hard eh? Because its so simple that we complicated such simplicity and can hardly believe its simple in the 1st place.Originally posted by blu_sky:if i can choose, i rather the simple, sweet love.
But such simple things are always so hard for me! haha! -
Originally posted by blu_sky:if i can choose, i rather the simple, sweet love.
But such simple things are always so hard for me! haha! That is, if we have the choice to choose how we want to love and how we want our partner to love us.
Cheers
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haha! i guess this is the TS's bf's agony too. he muz be thinking "why cant it be simpler!?"Originally posted by Bontakun:Yes, simple things are really that hard eh? Because its so simple that we complicated such simplicity and can hardly believe its simple in the 1st place.
hehe...