Am i..really foolish?
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we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go... -
No, you are not foolish. You just need more time.Originally posted by darkskies:we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go...
Good that you have seen her with another guy, that can wake you up a little to the brutal truth. Perhaps that can help you move on. Perhaps. -
Maybe not yet....? So...?Originally posted by darkskies:we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go...
Maybe you should realise that it's time for you to slowly let go too....?
Maybe by next time the scene pops up in front of you again years later, you might have even noticed or realise anything
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foolish for wad?
It shows how much u put into ur previous relationship.
Take it easy, someone new will come by. -
You need a massive distraction or escapism
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Just tell them to enjoy it now,cos it wun last.Same script,different cast.
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The way I see it, you're not foolish.
If anything, you took active steps to get over your previous relationship and to live life as normally as possible... to me that's a step in the right direction.
It's just that your feelings for her were more deep-seated than you originally thought. Just continue working on trying to get over her. You soon will get over her fully, trust me.
Good luck.
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if you can forget someone you loved dearly before, then you wasnt in love at all...
no matter how long you take, you will never forget her, but learn to move on to your next r/s
cheers! -
seriously...u should try flirting...or go clubbing...then get to know more friends...then start thinking of those friends instead...
this way works u know... =) -
Erm... different method works differently for different people... Been there, done that.
If you cant let go now, dont force it, the more you try, the more difficult it gets...
Try to allow time to do the healing...
Best wishesOriginally posted by harrymushroom:seriously...u should try flirting...or go clubbing...then get to know more friends...then start thinking of those friends instead...
this way works u know... =) -
Originally posted by darkskies:we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go...
good that you are putting effort to get over her. don't rush and stress yourself too much to get over her in a short time. don't think it is possible to forget, it's going to be there on your mind forever, no way to erase the memory. but if one day you have completely gotten over her, when you see or think of her again, the pain/misery and so on will not be in you at all.
I have learned that to get over a person takes time and one got to go through the process. It defiinitely won't happen immediately. Take heart!! -
dun vex... u really put in lots of efforts dat's y u feel sad now...
but still, time will heal and u will feel pain..
u wont feel sad and dun have to feel sad for the rest of your life..
y spend tis precious min feeling depress??
get a life and find your real purposes in life!
God bless! =) -
sorry i mean time will heal and u will feel less pain... typo
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juz... tihnk bout another gal?
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Originally posted by darkskies:we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go...
When I was young, I was bitten by giant red ants because I was trampling their nest playfully. As I grew older, whenever I see those ants crawling along anywhere, it always reminded me of how painful my little feet were previously - but that doesn't mean I am feeling the actual pain.
Of course, if I were to trample over their nest once again, the chances for me to feel the same pain I did years back is very likely?
Probably because I didn't learn my lesson?
*** Flashback doesn't mean anything because your flashback didn't create the reason for you to do anything about it. It merely reminds you of your ordeal, but it is not a signal to remain stagnant or a reason for not releasing yourself.
You are doing fine. Just continue your effort to evolve yourself. With time, you should be fine.
Cheers -
You'll just need some more time to get over it because i took rather long time to get over it, and it's only when we patched and broke up again, then I got over it. It takes time because the feeling is pretty deep rooted within you. Some forumer who've read my post last year know what I've underwent. All the best to you !
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i think u try too hard... on the surface u may think u have forgotten abt her, but in actual fact, is never that easy to forget someone u deeply in love. just be natural, give urself more time to forget abt her... dun rush...
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sad~~Originally posted by darkskies:we have broken up for over half a year now. i thought i had already gotten over it.
during this period, whenever images of her appeared in my mind, i would immediately think about other things and try to avoid the issue. whenever friends mentioned her, i would change the subject. gradually i started to think lesser, and i became a more positive person. i thought it was all working out...
apparently i was wrong. seeing her together with another guy, hand in hand, appearing right in front of me. but i can't blame fate. singapore is so small afterall. the pain all returned. flashbacks of the past. how she used to hold my hand like she held his.
then i realized, i never really let go...
i can totally understand how u feel..
U have to let go..
move on..
face the fact..
be a man..
do the right thing.. -
In life..
when we are faced with things we dont wish to face.
here are how we go thru in sequence.
- Shock
- Panic
- Anger
- Denial
- Depression
- Acceptance.
uve gotten into the last stage..
uve only a small way to run before u can let go of her, dun give up now..
we all get reminded of the past.its not unusual.
Even until now i miss my ex like crazy..
its always there in my heart but locked away in some part of my head.
i know its there but i enver acknowledge it.
but i still moved on. u need to do that too. cause she aint gonna be urs anymore.
but u can be a strong guy and find sum1 else -
Wow..thanks guys. It feels really warm to see so many of you egging me on. And it sort of gives me some consolation to know that i'm not alone, as many of you have gone through similar situations before.
Feeling much better now already. after reading your posts. Really do appreciate the encouragement ppl) -
Well, at least you know how to get over it, not like someone who keep harping on and on and on.................Originally posted by darkskies:Wow..thanks guys. It feels really warm to see so many of you egging me on. And it sort of gives me some consolation to know that i'm not alone, as many of you have gone through similar situations before.
Feeling much better now already. after reading your posts. Really do appreciate the encouragement ppl) -
*Hugz*
*Pat-pat*
You will be fine... YOU CAN DO IT! -
~ e rays of sunshine are e prettiest when seen between e linings of e clouds ~
So I guess its kind of beautiful to love someone with all your heart...but only able to do that from afar...sad...but very beautiful... -
treat it as memories lor...sure u had gd memories being together...its better to grows old with happi memories den live an old age with regrets..
As the old sayings goes...if u love her u got to let her go...u love someome definiately u wan her to be happy..seeing her with another guy,doesn't mean she didn't cherish you befofe..it only shows that you guys are not fated to grow old together .
Lets move on bah.. -
if u really love before, u will feel the pain ba.
juz hope that u will meet the right girl soon.