is he really taking me for granted already?
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i smsed him ytday afternoon, asking him if he think he is beginning to take me for granted. called me 1/2 hour later but i was attending to a customer, couldnt talk. called him 2 hours later during my dinner break but he was in a work thing. he didnt call me last night.
this morning, saw him in msn. chatted for a while, but he didnt mention about the sms at all. is he really taking me for granted?
Allow me to present you a better perspective of what happened?
Eg
11pm fri nite, i was out with my friens and he smsed me
him: im goin to sleep
me: good nite, have a good rest ok? sweet dreams
him: wat are you doing:
me: goin to watch movie
him: with who?
me: with amy, cindy, catherine and their boyfriends. hows ur day darling?
no reply liao
next day, sat morning 9:30am he called my mobile
him: wat time you got home
(didnt even say hello)
me: how come u din reply my sms last nite?
him: i slept liao.
him: wat time you got home?
me: 2am
him: oh so fun ah
me: ok lah. watched movie.
him: got to go. talk to you later
then no call from him anymore the whole day
5pm, i smsed him: do you think you are beginning to take me for granted?
6pm he called but i was attending a customer, picked up a call and told him i cant talk. called him during dinner break but he said he working. but later oso never reply.
this has been happening for 1 mth liao. everytime call me, ask wat he wants to ask, then hang up. when i called/smsed him, he is always bz
is this normal? not taking for granted? -
How long you 2 together?
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hard to say, either he is, or he forget, or he is lazy to explain.Originally posted by veronicatan:i smsed him ytday afternoon, asking him if he think he is beginning to take me for granted. called me 1/2 hour later but i was attending to a customer, couldnt talk. called him 2 hours later during my dinner break but he was in a work thing. he didnt call me last night.
this morning, saw him in msn. chatted for a while, but he didnt mention about the sms at all. is he really taking me for granted? -
are u the distracted girl b4??
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3 monthsOriginally posted by bigmouthjoe:How long you 2 together?
i asked that qn cos he sometimes wont reply to my sms or return my call. sometimes he will call me, and then say he bz liao, cant talk. but he doesnt call back. i know he is busy with work, but... it wouldnt take alot to return a sms or call rite? is that taking for granted? -
any opinion to contribute for this thread?Originally posted by sunny6110:are u the distracted girl b4?? -
you know what will kill a relationship very quickly?
a suspicious mind...
think about it.. -
Oh.. ok...Originally posted by veronicatan:any opinion to contribute for this thread? U maybe over-sensitive... Y dun u ask him again?? 
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i know that is unhealthy or harmful for a relationship. but looking that the facts, he is always not free to sms/return call and when i asked that qn, he doesnt reply, is that a sign of taking for granted. i know people in relationship should be understanding tat partner are busy and etc, but isnt relationship also about making time for each other? as it is, we only talk when we have the time. for the past 8 days, we only talked 3 times in msn cos we 'run' into each other coincidentally. the fact is, i have been waiting in front of the laptop for him to go online. yes, btw, he is posted overseas to work for 3 mths, 1 mth has passed. he is now overseas. and there is no difference in timezoneOriginally posted by the Bear:you know what will kill a relationship very quickly?
a suspicious mind...
think about it.. -
I think it will do both of you good if both of ya can communicate, know what is the factor to to reinforce a strong bond between each other. Merely 3 months of r/s and such prob surfaces, wat will happen if this r/s isnt properly managed and wat will the result be?...
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Ohh... long dist relationship now ar??
dun ask him that question again har... dun do anything now lo... wait for him to come back then c how... too early to judge... too far oso,.. -
he's not overseas for vacation, he cannot be at your beck and call.. work must be done..
and hey.. if you were not able to reply to him immediately because of your work, don't expect him to do exactly the same thing for you...
i think you need to think about what you want in a relationship.. seems like you want everything for you, and he must jump through hoops.. -
Originally posted by ptw:I think it will do both of you good if both of ya can communicate, know what is the factor to to reinforce a strong bond between each other. Merely 3 months of r/s and such prob surfaces, wat will happen if this r/s isnt properly managed and wat will the result be?...
yes, maybe i will do it later. he is going to play football in the afternoon. guess i can only talk to him later? but later i think he will be busy with work.Originally posted by ptw:I think it will do both of you good if both of ya can communicate, know what is the factor to to reinforce a strong bond between each other. Merely 3 months of r/s and such prob surfaces, wat will happen if this r/s isnt properly managed and wat will the result be?...
Dont talk to him now and wait for him to come back? but how is it goin to be like? for eg this morning. i ran into him in msn. chatted about 20 min. the he said he gotta go out for a while, chat with me later. That was 11:25am, now 1 pm. i dun think he is coming back.Originally posted by sunny6110:Ohh... long dist relationship now ar??
dun ask him that question again har... dun do anything now lo... wait for him to come back then c how... too early to judge... too far oso,..
how would you feel if you were me? -
in my relationships...
fone conversation is rare....
why u so bothered about the lack of it?
3 mths le...
honeymoon period over alr....
then u shld start getting used to it. -
But i still think can reply, work is busy but still can do what, only 1 minute. But it is expensive if he keeps replying leh... overseas leh.
Which country is he in now? Some countries damn expensive siah.. -
no, i dun expect him to reply immediately. but he doesnt reply at all. like last nite, i called him at 9pm and he said he is doing some work thing. we hung up. he din call me last nite nor this morning.Originally posted by the Bear:he's not overseas for vacation, he cannot be at your beck and call.. work must be done..
and hey.. if you were not able to reply to him immediately because of your work, don't expect him to do exactly the same thing for you...
i think you need to think about what you want in a relationship.. seems like you want everything for you, and he must jump through hoops..
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I'll disregard and do my own stuffs lo... today sunday leh... nice weather... CNY coming... wanna go shopping??Originally posted by veronicatan:Dont talk to him now and wait for him to come back? but how is it goin to be like? for eg this morning. i ran into him in msn. chatted about 20 min. the he said he gotta go out for a while, chat with me later. That was 11:25am, now 1 pm. i dun think he is coming back.
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but in our first 3 mths, he will call me everyday for hours (yes, i oso the type who dun like to talk on the phone) even when he was overseas. (he has to go overseas 1 or 2 weeks every mth.Originally posted by missqi:in my relationships...
fone conversation is rare....
why u so bothered about the lack of it?
3 mths le...
honeymoon period over alr....
then u shld start getting used to it.
but what is a relationship if there is no communication or effort to communicate? -
you jio-ing me ah?Originally posted by sunny6110:I'll disregard and do my own stuffs lo... today sunday leh... nice weather... CNY coming... wanna go shopping?? -
ya la~!! so obvious u cannot see ar??Originally posted by veronicatan:you jio-ing me ah?
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Yeah I think really taking you for granted...
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phone conversation very expensive?
skype and google talk kum lan one?
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Not everywhere so high tech lah. You try that in a remote part of south africa loh... I'm sure even your hand phone also kum lan one.Originally posted by Icemoon:phone conversation very expensive?
skype and google talk kum lan one? -
how do you derive at that conclusion, may i know?Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:Yeah I think really taking you for granted... -
why not test him?
say there is a guy after you .. see he kan jiong or not.