is he really taking me for granted already?

• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:14

  Originally posted by Icemoon:

  phone conversation very expensive?
  
  skype and google talk kum lan one?
  

  it is not juz money rite? during the first 3 mths, we will try skype if not clear, he will call me. but, msn is good enuff rite? so many people in LDR, also communicating via that rite?
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:15

  Originally posted by Icemoon:

  why not test him?
  
  say there is a guy after you .. see he kan jiong or not.

  yes, he will. but that doesnt mean anything. it is normal for a man to be possessive over his possession.
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:16

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  how do you derive at that conclusion, may i know?

  I also got a gf and i must go work at jakarta once awhile. If my gf kpkb too much I will try to pacify her because she very precious to me.
  
  I think depend on some factor:
  
  1. The guy's character. Is he those bochap fellow?
  2. The girl's character. Easily suspicious? The girl has many guy friends? If yes maybe he doing to revenge.
  3. What job is he doing?
  4. What things you guys talk about, if everytime call den argue I think he rather don't listen loh..
• Icemoon

  28 Jan 07, 13:17

  Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:

  Not everywhere so high tech lah. You try that in a remote part of south africa loh... I'm sure even your hand phone also kum lan one.

  TS mentioned same time zone. Probably china?
• sunny6110

  28 Jan 07, 13:18

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  yes, he will. but that doesnt mean anything. it is normal for a man to be possessive over his possession.

  say got pple wanna date u go shopping this sun
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:18

  Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:

  I also got a gf and i must go work at jakarta once awhile. If my gf kpkb too much I will try to pacify her because she very precious to me.
  
  I think depend on some factor:
  
  1. The guy's character. Is he those bochap fellow?
  2. The girl's character. Easily suspicious? The girl has many guy friends? If yes maybe he doing to revenge.
  3. What job is he doing?
  4. What things you guys talk about, if everytime call den argue I think he rather don't listen loh..

  1. bochap? seems to be rite?
  2. i have many guy friends, but since we started dating, i dont go out with them anymore
  3. business development
  4. no, we rarely argue. we always talk about normal stuff or stuff that makes him very happy.
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:20

  Originally posted by sunny6110:

  say got pple wanna date u go shopping this sun

  want to find quarrel meh? if you, will you be pissed?
• sunny6110

  28 Jan 07, 13:22

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  want to find quarrel meh? if you, will you be pissed?

  then u say got pple jio but U dun wanna go la~!! all the way waiting for Him to come back and msn wif u at home... C he melt anot..
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:24

  Originally posted by sunny6110:

  then u say got pple jio but U dun wanna go la~!! all the way waiting for Him to come back and msn wif u at home... C he melt anot..

  will melt? i think he will go football. That i have resigned to it.
  
  sigh
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:25

  Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:

  I also got a gf and i must go work at jakarta once awhile. If my gf kpkb too much I will try to pacify her because she very precious to me.
  
  I think depend on some factor:
  
  1. The guy's character. Is he those bochap fellow?
  2. The girl's character. Easily suspicious? The girl has many guy friends? If yes maybe he doing to revenge.
  3. What job is he doing?
  4. What things you guys talk about, if everytime call den argue I think he rather don't listen loh..

  i also think a man will pacify his gf if she is very precious to him but....
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:26

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  1. bochap? seems to be rite?
  2. i have many guy friends, but since we started dating, i dont go out with them anymore
  3. business development
  4. no, we rarely argue. we always talk about normal stuff or stuff that makes him very happy.

  Normally no matter what I will give my gf a call, even if I go for a nights out for beer I will also call before that... maybe you 2 can have a standard time to talk with each other. For me I make it 8pm - 9pm.
  
  I don't want my comment make you 2 argue hor.
• sunny6110

  28 Jan 07, 13:27

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  will melt? i think he will go football. That i have resigned to it.
  
  sigh

  psst psst... me dun like football and I got time leh
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:27

  Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:

  Normally no matter what I will give my gf a call, even if I go for a nights out for beer I will also call before that... maybe you 2 can have a standard time to talk with each other. For me I make it 8pm - 9pm.
  
  I don't want my comment make you 2 argue hor.

  no lah... wont argue... that wont solve the problem
  
  but this is very frustrating!
• OO_OO_OO

  28 Jan 07, 13:29

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  yes, he will. but that doesnt mean anything. it is normal for a man to be possessive over his possession.

  oh what the hell..
  
  why're u calling yourself his possession.
  relationships are a matter of commitment, not who owns who.
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:29

  Anyway I normally don't MSN, I think MSN for friends is ok, for lovers I still prefer the traditional call.
  
  Cannot get the same feeling lah with MSN. Oh yes I'm with my GF for 2 years. Normally only get to see her 4 times every month.
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:30

  i juz called him. rang twice then went to voicemail
  
  smsed me back and said in a discussion well, at least this time he got sms me back
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:30

  Originally posted by Icemoon:

  TS mentioned same time zone. Probably china?

  Haha yeah, I also thinking which country.
• nuttawood1990

  28 Jan 07, 13:32

  veronica tan..u must ask urself..job or him important?if think job imptt..u might as well just leave him..dun waste both of ur time..time is precious..if u think he important,,then...u must take more time accompany him..
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:33

  Originally posted by veronicatan:

  i juz called him. rang twice then went to voicemail

  K, try this lah. Ask him what time of the day he prefers for you to spend some quality time on the phone. Make him commit.
  
  If he says 8pm then make it 8pm. Don't disturb him at anytime of the day, ok to send him a ''how are you message'', but no questioning him. Come 8pm - 9pm just await his call.
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:33

  Originally posted by nuttawood1990:

  veronica tan..u must ask urself..job or him important?if think job imptt..u might as well just leave him..dun waste both of ur time..time is precious..if u think he important,,then...u must take more time accompany him..

  har? im not the one bz ler, he is the one ler
• bigmouthjoe

  28 Jan 07, 13:34

  When it becomes a habit, even if he cannot make it at stated time he will inform you one.
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:36

  Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:

  When it becomes a habit, even if he cannot make it at stated time he will inform you one.

  will tat be too rigid for a relationship?
• sunny6110

  28 Jan 07, 13:36

  let him concentrate on his Work... quite irritating de leh lidat...
• veronicatan

  28 Jan 07, 13:37

  Originally posted by sunny6110:

  let him concentrate on his Work... quite irritating de leh lidat...

  you mean me calling him juz now?
  
  no lah, he is not working now. his last words to me on msn at 11:25am are:
  
  d says:
  hey got to go out for a while
  d says:
  talk later?
  
• sunny6110

  28 Jan 07, 13:37

  have faith in ur r/s la... go do ur own stuff... Let the Man chiong... He'll go back to U when he's tired de...