How to Encourage?
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Alright, this isnt really my problem, since I am already done and over with my studies...
But anyway I am teaching now, and one of my students have been doing poorly in his studies. I have given my class 2 exams so far, and he has failed both of them. I asked him to resit the test, but he refused. After that he started missing his classes and when I called him to ask why, he said he has a lot of other things to do.
I told my manager about this and he contacted his parents, who in turn contacted me just now to tell me about his situation. Basically he feels like giving up in his lessons and feel that he will never pass the exams. And his parents said that he has been mixing with the wrong type of friends who told him that education is not important, since a lot of uneducated people also can make it big nowadays...
Now the parents want me to encourage him and talk to him so that his interest in his studies will be renewed
He has been forced to come for his lesson tonight and I guess I have to talk to him about this...but I do not know how to encourage him (I have done that before, but don't think it is really that successful).
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Treat him like a friend. The lessons should still go ahead, but you can try to call him out for an appointment. Then slowly talk to him. Have him tell you what is happening. If he is not willing, then wait patiently. This may take time and more than often, there is more to it than meets the eye.
As long as you do not give up, some day he will realise it and come to you. -
which level? K1 , K2, P1 - P5? S1 - S4?
B or G?
what subject?
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alright.can you try to let him know the importance of education and treat him like a friend first
Do not say any discouraging words to him or it will make the condition worse get him a counsellor if he ever return to school..
How about ..u give him a little gift when he improve in his studies or something?
the most important thing is,get him back to school
hope you are successful in nurturing the young children -
yea...but i dun tink he treats me like a fren...very hard to get them to treat me like a frenOriginally posted by Bontakun:Treat him like a friend. The lessons should still go ahead, but you can try to call him out for an appointment. Then slowly talk to him. Have him tell you what is happening. If he is not willing, then wait patiently. This may take time and more than often, there is more to it than meets the eye.
As long as you do not give up, some day he will realise it and come to you. -
he is a guy...Originally posted by zaxis:which level? K1 , K2, P1 - P5? S1 - S4?
B or G?
what subject?
and anyway he is not young anymore, he is 19
i m teaching a diploma course -
my school doesnt have a specific counsellor...so usually the teachers wud have to be the counsellorOriginally posted by crofty:alright.can you try to let him know the importance of education and treat him like a friend firstDo not say any discouraging words to him or it will make the condition worse get him a counsellor if he ever return to school..
How about ..u give him a little gift when he improve in his studies or something?
the most important thing is,get him back to school
hope you are successful in nurturing the young children
i dun mind giving him a gift, but thing is he is not putting in any effort at all into his studies, can see from the way he did in the exam...
thanks...i will try my best... -
Just be patient and show your concern. Email him or write him a letter loh.Originally posted by rainee:yea...but i dun tink he treats me like a fren...very hard to get them to treat me like a fren -
Diploma in...?
some ppl chose the wrong course at the start and wish to have a transfer -
What subject are you teaching him? Maybe it's the subject nature that he finds difficult to deal with.Originally posted by rainee:he is a guy...
and anyway he is not young anymore, he is 19
i m teaching a diploma course -
Completed NS? or half way thru?Originally posted by rainee:he is a guy...
and anyway he is not young anymore, he is 19
i m teaching a diploma course
is the course of his interest?
part time diploma course?
he sign up course to stay out? (army due to lesson night class) -
diploma in business...Originally posted by crofty:Diploma in...?
some ppl chose the wrong course at the start and wish to have a transfer
i tink he is not interested in studying in the first place, but got forced or sth by his parents... -
GREAT!I am studying that course soon..
a course in business -
his english is not dat good...Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:What subject are you teaching him? Maybe it's the subject nature that he finds difficult to deal with.
actually his english is horrible...can't even form a correct sentence properly...
yet they accepted him into my course, and now I am left with the responsibility of making him pass...
my lecture is in english, the textbooks, handouts, everything is in english...so obviously he is kinda overwhelmed...like how i wud feel if i attend a lecture in mandarin (my chinese is not dat good)
but i do not how to help him to improve his english...cos he shud have attained certain standard before they let him register... -
btw, he is not a singaporean...we are in malaysiaOriginally posted by zaxis:Completed NS? or half way thru?
is the course of his interest?
part time diploma course?
he sign up course to stay out? (army due to lesson night class)
and yea, it is a part time course...he is attending another school sumwhere else...
his parents said he signed up the course cos he was influenced by his fren last time, the fren is currently in the class oso... -
bo pianOriginally posted by rainee:btw, he is not a singaporean...we are in malaysia
and yea, it is a part time course...he is attending another school sumwhere else...
his parents said he signed up the course cos he was influenced by his fren last time, the fren is currently in the class oso...
the only way I help low standard student
hand written copy notes, as him to copy notes from your lesson, every note hand written at less 3 times
because during hand copy he will try to read and write the same time
that will also help him during exam or test. -
lolz...dun think he will make that kinda effort...it is like he knows he is weak, but he doesnt wan to do anything...Originally posted by zaxis:bo pian
the only way I help low standard student
hand written copy notes, as him to copy notes from your lesson, every note hand written at less 3 times
because during hand copy he will try to read and write the same time
that will also help him during exam or test.
so dats y i m at loss on how to motivate him to work harder...
the exam is this coming may btw... -
hand pick or spot pick exam question for him loOriginally posted by rainee:lolz...dun think he will make that kinda effort...it is like he knows he is weak, but he doesnt wan to do anything...
so dats y i m at loss on how to motivate him to work harder...
the exam is this coming may btw...
ask him to hand copy question then hand copy answer lo
what to do? this kind rich people must takan abit -
Tell him that INDEED some people managed to make it BIG without much or any cert... But NOT everybody can do that.... Without the cert, if he can't make it BIG through the 'shortcuts' in life, he'll have NOTHING... With the cert, at least he still can DO much even if the 'shortcut' doesn't work... It's like buying an insurance and backup....? And if he doesn't get his cert now, in the future it'll be TOO LATE to REGRET.... There're 2 TYPES of people who 'supposingly' can have a chance to 'make it BIG'... Tell him he can go ASK THEM PERSONALLY... One type is those BIG BOSSES (he might not be able to get too near them)..... The OTHER TYPE is QUITE EASY to talk to... Those ah peks working in coffeeshops... Washing toilets and sleeping on the road... Those type he can go ask for 'advices'....Originally posted by rainee:Alright, this isnt really my problem, since I am already done and over with my studies...
But anyway I am teaching now, and one of my students have been doing poorly in his studies. I have given my class 2 exams so far, and he has failed both of them. I asked him to resit the test, but he refused. After that he started missing his classes and when I called him to ask why, he said he has a lot of other things to do.
I told my manager about this and he contacted his parents, who in turn contacted me just now to tell me about his situation. Basically he feels like giving up in his lessons and feel that he will never pass the exams. And his parents said that he has been mixing with the wrong type of friends who told him that education is not important, since a lot of uneducated people also can make it big nowadays...
Now the parents want me to encourage him and talk to him so that his interest in his studies will be renewed He has been forced to come for his lesson tonight and I guess I have to talk to him about this...but I do not know how to encourage him (I have done that before, but don't think it is really that successful).
Any ideas?
And ask him this final question... If he can't even complete a diploma.. What are the chances that he can 'make it BIG' in this complicated wrold out there...?
Also, maybe he's just lacking in confidence to face his studies... BOOT him UP on that PLEASE!!
Tell him AT LEAST he TRY... There'll still be a CHANCE... CHANCE is what people GIVE TO THEMSELVES and OPPOTUNITIES what they GRAB... End of the day if he couldn't be bothered... You'll still be a teacher, but his future is in HIS OWN HANDS.... -
Johorean metal think slightly different from SingaporeanOriginally posted by Devil1976:Tell him that INDEED some people managed to make it BIG without much or any cert... But NOT everybody can do that.... Without the cert, if he can't make it BIG through the 'shortcuts' in life, he'll have NOTHING... With the cert, at least he still can DO much even if the 'shortcut' doesn't work... It's like buying an insurance and backup....? And if he doesn't get his cert now, in the future it'll be TOO LATE to REGRET.... There're 2 TYPES of people who 'supposingly' can have a chance to 'make it BIG'... Tell him he can go ASK THEM PERSONALLY... One type is those BIG BOSSES (he might not be able to get too near them)..... The OTHER TYPE is QUITE EASY to talk to... Those ah peks working in coffeeshops... Washing toilets and sleeping on the road... Those type he can go ask for 'advices'....
And ask him this final question... If he can't even complete a diploma.. What are the chances that he can 'make it BIG' in this complicated wrold out there...?
Also, maybe he's just lacking in confidence to face his studies... BOOT him UP on that PLEASE!! Tell him AT LEAST he TRY... There'll still be a CHANCE... CHANCE is what people GIVE TO THEMSELVES and OPPOTUNITIES what they GRAB... End of the day if he couldn't be bothered... You'll still be a teacher, but his future is in HIS OWN HANDS....
see his parent did not do their part
but rainee has to double up for his parent just because his parent paid this private school diploma course fees.
who know this family have many square kilometer of rubber tree plantation. or palm oil tree plantation.
in the end use money buy some distance study uni credit, transfer his son over, get some double degree.
then this young enterpriser's will soon award PJK, then PJM, Datuk -
maybe when teaching that class you can try to list the impt parts in point form.... in the simplest english possible?Originally posted by rainee:lolz...dun think he will make that kinda effort...it is like he knows he is weak, but he doesnt wan to do anything...
so dats y i m at loss on how to motivate him to work harder...
the exam is this coming may btw... -
erm i thought you teaching adults? how come your problem like sec school one?
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Where got Secondary 19 yrs old oneOriginally posted by hisoka:erm i thought you teaching adults? how come your problem like sec school one?
may be APSN. Association for People with Special Needs
last time MINDS -
Allowed me to say sumtinz here...eh rainee...sumsort l can understand the student u hav..cuz l myself is actually a very lazy student and always nt very keen or motivated to study de....but however still l will force myself..l am now hanging on to complete my poly studies cuz l noe the importance of having a cert and l dun wish to disappoint my parents..
Actually communication is the key...be patience with him and keeps on toking with him, asking him y like that? And tell him that u will try ur best to help him pass as long as he put in a bit of effort..try motivate him.....Tell him the issue that his parents had come find u for help...and told him lo...to tink of the parents oso..our parents hope us children to receive a good education and then had a stable career nxt time...all they want to see us is to be safe and okie..they dun expect much..tell him that he bear to disappoint his parents mehz? l tink as l grow..l began to tink of nt disappointing my parents and to be true...to make them happy is very easy de =D -
be patient, wait, dun put him down.. help him with his notes abit. dats about it. i think u can't do anything much. teachers and students have that barrier that is impossible to dissolve overnight, if ever at all, and its there for a reason. if necessary, fail him.
i juz wanna say, if somehow he decides to buck up and put in effort, maybe after failing, give him another chance, if you can.