why some pple mostly girls cut themselves on their hand ?
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THE FOLLOWING POST MIGHT BE TRIGGERING!!!Originally posted by ghimpheng:Mostly depressed or influence from friends doing this help relieve stress
and those who do it for fun or think that it is cool may as well them leave them alone and let them do it since they are so stupid
jk but those who think that it is fun or cool i don't really understand what so cool and fun about that
ok. no matter what the reason is, DO NOT scold them or call them stupid or stuff like that. even if they are doing it cos they think it is 'cool'. chances are, you calling them stuff like that will only piss them off and they will cut more.
and if they are depressed, all the more you cannot scold them or yell at them or call them stupid. the best advice i can give is to show that you care about them and that if you feel that you can deal with it, let them know that you are there for them should they need any help and that they can come and talk to you. if they do not wish to discuss about their cutting but other stuff. just let them talk. a lot of these people just need and want someone who care to listen to them. of course, there are those whom you KNOW cut but hide the cuts. do NOT go up to them to demand to see their cuts or go up to them and the first thing you mention is cuts. try to talk to see if they have any problems. let them know that you feel that they are upset or whatever and that you are concerned. some may respond well. other may just ask you to fark off and shut up or something. if that happens, do NOT pester them. let them be. you may want to try talking to them another time...
of course, there is a lot more to just this. but im not going to write a thosand word post on this...
i have interracted and discussed this topic with a hundred odd people for the past 5 years. so this post of mine will be coming froma cutter's point of view. how they feel and how they want to be treated.
the truth is that CUTTING REALLY DOES HELP! some people want to feel as though they are in control of the pain they feel. (trust me what you are depressed, you are in A LOT of physical emotional and mental pain. it feels as though you hurt inside outside and around you as a friend of mine said)
also, people who cut ARE NOT ALWAYS SUICIDAL! a lot of times when people die by cutting, its an accident. they accidentally cut too deep.
this topic may seem like a small thing. but it IS a VERY complicated thing. i can write a 5000 word essay on this and it still wont cover everything.
care and concern. thats really what you can do... -
I beg to differ...Originally posted by udontknowme:yes it does relief stress.
however i feel that you should use this method as a VERY LAST RESORT
when you really feel that there isnt ANY other way to deal with how with you feel
if it is pain that you want to feel, next time try to get a rubber band and twang it against your skin
if it's blood you need to see, try using a water-soluble red marker to draw on your arm or use red paint
or try to sleep it off
or just go out and take random walks
the terrible truth is that self-injury does help in a certain way
HOWEVER!!!! IT IS ADDICTIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
so try all other methods you can think of before you cut.
Self injury does take your mind off your emotional pains etc... but it should NEVER be considered even as a very last resort.
It is addictive, and it ESCALATES too!!!
beginning it may be using the rubber band, or finger nails, but soon your tolerance of pain will increase and these methods will no longer serve, that's when u start to use more painful and gradually potentially life threatening methods...
pls if you need NEED to vent, go to the beach, SCREAM.... take up kickBoxing...
better yet, figure out what is really bothering you and seek help...
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Originally posted by udontknowme:
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[b]THE FOLLOWING POST MIGHT BE TRIGGERING!!!
ok. no matter what the reason is, DO NOT scold them or call them stupid or stuff like that. even if they are doing it cos they think it is 'cool'. chances are, you calling them stuff like that will only piss them off and they will cut more.
and if they are depressed, all the more you cannot scold them or yell at them or call them stupid. the best advice i can give is to show that you care about them and that if you feel that you can deal with it, let them know that you are there for them should they need any help and that they can come and talk to you. if they do not wish to discuss about their cutting but other stuff. just let them talk. a lot of these people just need and want someone who care to listen to them. of course, there are those whom you KNOW cut but hide the cuts. do NOT go up to them to demand to see their cuts or go up to them and the first thing you mention is cuts. try to talk to see if they have any problems. let them know that you feel that they are upset or whatever and that you are concerned. some may respond well. other may just ask you to fark off and shut up or something. if that happens, do NOT pester them. let them be. you may want to try talking to them another time...
of course, there is a lot more to just this. but im not going to write a thosand word post on this...
i have interracted and discussed this topic with a hundred odd people for the past 5 years. so this post of mine will be coming froma cutter's point of view. how they feel and how they want to be treated.
the truth is that CUTTING REALLY DOES HELP! some people want to feel as though they are in control of the pain they feel. (trust me what you are depressed, you are in A LOT of physical emotional and mental pain. it feels as though you hurt inside outside and around you as a friend of mine said)
also, people who cut ARE NOT ALWAYS SUICIDAL! a lot of times when people die by cutting, its an accident. they accidentally cut too deep.
this topic may seem like a small thing. but it IS a VERY complicated thing. i can write a 5000 word essay on this and it still wont cover everything.
care and concern. thats really what you can do...[/b]
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THX
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you know....most of the really depressed people i know who cut already know of the dangers of this.Originally posted by smudgey:I beg to differ...
Self injury does take your mind off your emotional pains etc... but it should NEVER be considered even as a very last resort.
It is addictive, and it ESCALATES too!!!
beginning it may be using the rubber band, or finger nails, but soon your tolerance of pain will increase and these methods will no longer serve, that's when u start to use more painful and gradually potentially life threatening methods...
pls if you need NEED to vent, go to the beach, SCREAM.... take up kickBoxing...
better yet, figure out what is really bothering you and seek help...
do not start to hurt yourself,... it will only snowball...
screaming and stuff doesnt really help.
and some research has shown that when you are stressed or angry, taking up a sport like kickboxing or football etc will only make you more violent in the future.
most i know ARE already seeing psychiatrists and on medication. and have also been in the emergency room many times...
A LOT of cutters DO know what they are doing. in a srewed up sense...
but when you are mentally unstable, you are REALLY screwed up. there is no way to explain this. but...well...this is just how it is...
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should take up Counter-Strike : Condition Zero and vent your anger there shoot shoot bang bangOriginally posted by popikachu:you should take a look at my hand too...
it is really a good way to relief stress...
i cant find any other method...
also a good way to vend your anger...
at least you fel the pain and know when to stop better then cutting other people right?
the pain divert your attention thus that the so called relieve stress that what I think of
should not cut la == got other ways to relieve stress -
you have to realize that it is not JUST because of stress
if it is just stress, it will probably be A LOT A LOT easier to help them
usually its got to do with people who are mentally imbalanced
when it is because of mental imbalance, it is A LOT more complicated
simple methods which you use to relief stress most probably wont be able to help those who are severely depressed
sorry. really.
i am NOT trying to be negative or anything
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Agree.Originally posted by udontknowme:you have to realize that it is not JUST because of stress
if it is just stress, it will probably be A LOT A LOT easier to help them
usually its got to do with people who are mentally imbalanced
when it is because of mental imbalance, it is A LOT more complicated
simple methods which you use to relief stress most probably wont be able to help those who are severely depressed
sorry. really.
i am NOT trying to be negative or anything
this is the truth... -
no much comment about what udontknowme said...
yup its real addictive... just like smoking...
first cut is like first cigerrete...
you will urge for the second one...
it is so addictive that you wont even know why you cut yourself sometimes...
or you would just cut for fun...
i also agree that most of the people who cuts really dont want other to bother them why they cut...
they prefer to be left alone about the cutting thing as if they really want other to help, they wont resort to cutting...
yup, thats what i know about myself... -
Basically they cut their hands cos most of their friends cut it when they had a break up but they still loves their ex alot.Originally posted by ghimpheng:how to stop them from doing that ?
And they thought by cutting their hand, they'll not feel the pain in their heart that much le which is so wrong lahs.
Maybe we can try to tell them not to do it cos it's no point hurting themselves cos of someone who don't even care about them? -
Stop acting like a big fark because you are a diehard MUFC fan that is anti-Chelsea.Originally posted by trendz:It is not the hand, it's the wrist you dumbf*ck!
and kids like you who induldge in infatuation with 'em drove 'em to desperation once they caught a glimpse of your f*ckface I guess. -
ghimpeng do u do that whenever CHELSEA lose a match??
no hard feelings -
Pls stick more closely to the topic people...
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one word to explain it all.
emo.
both genders btw. -
rubbishOriginally posted by gigabyte14:one word to explain it all.
emo.
both genders btw. -
Are you a Man Utd faggot? Better be ABU like 798.Originally posted by ErikaChioBu:ghimpeng do u do that whenever CHELSEA lose a match??
no hard feelings -
of course not this is a very silly question dohOriginally posted by ErikaChioBu:ghimpeng do u do that whenever CHELSEA lose a match??
no hard feelings -
i know that you are super anti-chelseaOriginally posted by trendz:It is not the hand, it's the wrist you dumbf*ck!
and kids like you who induldge in infatuation with 'em drove 'em to desperation once they caught a glimpse of your f*ckface I guess.
but you are making yourself look stupid here so please stop it and stick to the topic -
Some idiots can even get a high from a cut due to endorphines but I remember that the body does limit the amount produced.
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People... Pls stick more closely to the topic thanks... I old liao... Pls don't make me repeat so many times and vomit blood....
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I can't imagine getting high from feeling pain. Eww.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Some idiots can even get a high from a cut due to endorphines but I remember that the body does limit the amount produced.
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Telling you what I know of the body's biochemistry.Originally posted by iveco:I can't imagine getting high from feeling pain. Eww. -
agreeOriginally posted by p0pc0rn:i asked those girls and they said they are depressed and they wouldn't feel any pain. my friend said they're psycho.
why resort to this method of reliefing depression? aren't girls supposed to be vain and afraid of scars?
moreover some girls who cut until it bleeds and took photos then upload to friendster, blog etc.
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you can get high on anything ... its only whether u want to or not
hey, there are even ppl getting high sniffing cow dung
its all in the mind =)
when ur mind is all in a flurry, your heart aches and all you can see is a maelstrom of confusion around you, its amazing how numbingly satisfying a self-inflicted wound can take your mind off the already present pain
actually there are alot of reasons, but this is the only one i can think of haha
>.<
oh and btw i DONT do deliberate physical self mutilation for the record
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oh and for those who choose to show it?
my take on it is that they want those pictures to contribute to their identity and image of them portrayed to others... its not really very nice to go straight up to someone and tell them they cut themselves
its more like, "if someone like you has actually bothered to come to my site to find out about me, maybe you should also know that such a thing is happening to me and i am in turmoil"
hey who knows, mayb some of them might even think it increases their attractive factor coz it shows that they wanna be loved...
>.<
oh and abt why there are alot more girls than guys?
girls have alot of hormonal fluctuations that severely affect their mood
which could result in some of them becoming more emotionally sensitive than most other guys, making some of them more prone to depression and even go on to self mutilate =)
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i heard of a girl cut her wrist when she was only in P3
use 4 letter word and hokkien vulgar words and what not, boast only she can kick the boys she want and no one can do anything to her etc etc etc haizzzz..
recently she was found having ciger in her bag at P6.....what will she be doing next???? -
They are merely crying out loud for attention.
and thats the most popular way to commit suicide as shown in the movies mar.
These youngs girls watched too much tv.. to start with, the blood clots way too fast at the wrist..
if they cut throat, it defeats their purpose.