Friendship or Girlfriend
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you took my answer!Originally posted by mystee:hmm... portrait yourself as someone who is looking for a long term r/s (eg. hus). how to do so? maybe u can try and communicate with those potential guys 1st. make sure u got the hint clearly to them, for those guys who are not commited to settle down, wont dare to step further to this r/s cos they will be afraid that u are hard to shake off. & also, thru' communication, u can roughly judge how that person is like, but of cos not 100%.
another way is... noe the right person at the right place & time. trying to generalise here... no offence to those cluber... how many guys who ask for no. in a club is looking for a long term r/s? hence, i think is impt to mixed with the right kind of friends.
but mystee's right, know them first, take ur time, unlike most couples, VERY young couples just date on impulse, just caring for the outer side while not thinking about the inner side, thus causing more sadness in the aftermath i.e. unplanned marriage, unplanned pregnancy, breakup which lead to suicide, depression and more.
everyone wants to have a gf/bf becos they see one on the streets and envy comes... but hey, humans are born to envy too -
well which guy dun tink abt having sex with their love ones ne? and l admit l do think of dirty things at times but this is normal mah..l am a guy, cnt probably go against human nature...but the problem is l wont ask my gf for sex de...cuz l respect her and l dun wish to let her regret and leaving her frightened after the session...those guys that asked u for sex are juz b@stards who nver think for ur feelings and juz focusing on themselves only..and is good that u noe their intentions mah, noe their true colors and get away from them..Originally posted by huishan:haiz sometime i really feel very confusted that whether i should find a bf or jus stay single and wait for m fate come..bt whenever i tink of that..when valentines day come..when i walk in e road..i wil saw many couple walkin here n there behind of mi n infront of mi..they tokin to each other v mussy word n many mussy action..walau...wa biang..y cant they repect us single women? sigh..bt smetime when i saw all my fren gt bf or married alr..i oso feel hapi 4 them..n i oso wish that i cn hav a bf too..to love mi dote mi care mi n concern mi..bt all e guy i mit is jus wan sex n nt serious to mi n is jus play play wan..no guy wil cherish n treasure mi as their gf...am i reali look like loose gal? cheap gal? y guy always treat mi like dat..haiz guy is treat mi too unfair alr..btw cn anyone giv mi sme advices n comment in my q tat i ask u all? tks alot..guy n girl oso can giv mi advices n comment..welcom all..tc n hope to heard frm all of u soon..
anyway huishan dun wry...nt every guys is like that as u claim..wan sex and nt serious to u n is juz play play de...there are nice guys ard too who love their gf and treat them seriously ..juz that u haven met the right type of guys...
And lastly life has always been unfair de..this is the cruel reality that everyone hav to face
Dun tink that negatively...shld look and tink postively mah...no bf jiu no bf lo..enjoy singlehood for the time being =) -
If you are looking for the warm fuzzy feeling in your heart of having being loved and to love, by all means go chase. What I am looking at is something different. I don't want to simply go "play play" with a relationship. I am looking for something long term, perhaps "eternal".Originally posted by soggy87:but some said if you liked that girl, chase her then say. If she got feelings for you and you dun chase, you will regret.
If you believe you will regret if you do not try, then don't make yourself regret. Go do it.
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hmmm....
i think it's a balance...
cos if we only have one without the other.... you'll still feel incomplete.... -
is there such thing as "more than friends less than couple"?
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Yes... Which is why its we have to sort out and decide what we wanted or look for in the first place. Friendship? More than friendship? Something else?Originally posted by ifish:is there such thing as "more than friends less than couple"? -
ideal situation is u can manage both friends and girl friend
if u have friends but no girl friend its not too bad
having no friends and no girlfriends
thats not good -
see if you are serious in your gf or not
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No disrespect, but shorn of one's mortality, name me a certainty in life.Originally posted by mayday80:you sure dota beats hanging out with girls, or dating or having a meaningful relationship? Even the worst relationship would have started with some wonderful moments in the beginning. Plus you never know which relationship will work or fail till you're in it and you tried making it work. It'll be real sad to see a guy playing dota for a decade and not even try to get into some meaningful relationship.
There's a risk to everything and I'm not sure if everyone would prefer a failed relationship to playing dota. -
check ypur heart... GF need both parties to be committed... Friend can share ur problem and need less committment.. If u want a gf to brighten up ur life u will be more tired....