Mm need advices here.
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I'm just wondering..
Do u tend to live your life on what u want out of ur life or adopting the kind of the lifestyles or even hobbies of ur fellow friends whom u come into contact almst everyday?
What if one day, suddenly, get sick of this the kind of life ( your friends have been having ) and realise that it isn't what you want?
My Dilemma is by adopting the kind of lifestyles that my friends have, one gets to foster stronger and deeper relationships. However, it could also restrict my growth.
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I think u are the type where you are easily influence by your friends. Maybe try to have a mindset of your own?
For me i have only one goal in life which eventually shape my lifestyle. So i think it boils down to whats your ultimate aim in life. -
live ur own life lah
u dun owe ur frens anything, they dun owe u anything
u oso dun need to live in their shadows
it's u and wat u want to do, like to do and able to do
of cos, u may share some common interests with them but u dun have to be led by others.....
gotta be more confident of urself and try to find ur own niche -
What kind of growth are you talking about?Originally posted by Isis:I'm just wondering..
Do u tend to live your life on what u want out of ur life or adopting the kind of the lifestyles or even hobbies of ur fellow friends whom u come into contact almst everyday?
What if one day, suddenly, get sick of this the kind of life ( your friends have been having ) and realise that it isn't what you want?
My Dilemma is by adopting the kind of lifestyles that my friends have, one gets to foster stronger and deeper relationships. However, it could also restrict my growth. -
hmmmmmm......Originally posted by Isis:I'm just wondering..
Do u tend to live your life on what u want out of ur life or adopting the kind of the lifestyles or even hobbies of ur fellow friends whom u come into contact almst everyday?
What if one day, suddenly, get sick of this the kind of life ( your friends have been having ) and realise that it isn't what you want?
My Dilemma is by adopting the kind of lifestyles that my friends have, one gets to foster stronger and deeper relationships. However, it could also restrict my growth.
I'm confused!
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live your own life, as thats your life! but that shldnt restrict u from having friends.. likewise.. your friends shldnt be a restriction to your life...
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be yourself
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yeah that what i have been doing...
but i have a fren whom i cared alot for.
She kind of like psycho me to join her in doing certain things which i don't enjoy.
and i feel lately, we have drifted. -
don't be propaganda by her decide what is right for yourselfOriginally posted by Isis:yeah that what i have been doing...
but i have a fren whom i cared alot for.
She kind of like psycho me to join her in doing certain things which i don't enjoy.
and i feel lately, we have drifted. -
then perhaps she is not a fren at all......Originally posted by Isis:yeah that what i have been doing...
but i have a fren whom i cared alot for.
She kind of like psycho me to join her in doing certain things which i don't enjoy.
and i feel lately, we have drifted. -
You care for her, but she got care for you? You should let her know you dun really enjoy doing certain things with her.Originally posted by Isis:yeah that what i have been doing...
but i have a fren whom i cared alot for.
She kind of like psycho me to join her in doing certain things which i don't enjoy.
and i feel lately, we have drifted. -
i think human are complex beings, so is this friend.Originally posted by Bontakun:You care for her, but she got care for you? You should let her know you dun really enjoy doing certain things with her.
She cares for me in some ways but on the other hand, not every time.
Probably, she feels lonely becos' no one share her same interests.
In reality, we do make friends with people whom share the same interests, don't we..? -
Care to elaborate?Originally posted by Isis:She kind of like psycho me to join her in doing certain things which i don't enjoy. -
live ur own life, but also be considerate to other people. preserve your identity, but not isolate yourself.
like practising taji lidat one.
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Well, I am not sure what are her interest and those which you not really keen on doing. However since you 2 value this relationship, sure there must be a way to sort out this issue. Whatever the case is: you never let another person's lifestyle influence yours. You have a life that is suited for you and no one else.Originally posted by Isis:i think human are complex beings, so is this friend.
She cares for me in some ways but on the other hand, not every time.
Probably, she feels lonely becos' no one share her same interests.
In reality, we do make friends with people whom share the same interests, don't we..? -
MmMm.. I feel quite disheartened with our friendships..
Next time, im gg to choose the right person to be closer friends with.
It isn't just one or two things ( i'm not gg to details here). Basically I just feel some peer pressure here.
Anyway i think we are quite mismatched as friends, in terms of character, personality and the way we see things in the first place.
As such, perhaps some friendships come and go. Some friends i should treasure more and some i shouldn't? since we are drifted and i kind of getting tired over it.
And perhaps she don't value it like i do?, probably i'm gg to let it go then. -
Huh .... Same old problem. I start a social club to enjoy but give up after 2 yrs and 40k....
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Don't be disheartened. Some friendships are never meant to go further than you wanted. You can still be friends with her though. Maybe see her less often?Originally posted by Isis:MmMm.. I feel quite disheartened with our friendships..
Next time, im gg to choose the right person to be closer friends with.
It isn't just one or two things ( i'm not gg to details here). Basically I just feel some peer pressure here.
Anyway i think we are quite mismatched as friends, in terms of character, personality and the way we see things in the first place.
As such, perhaps some friendships come and go. Some friends i should treasure more and some i shouldn't? since we are drifted and i kind of getting tired over it.
And perhaps she don't value it like i do?, probably i'm gg to let it go then. -
yeah i guess that we can still be friends. I'm disheartened cos i put in some feelings into the friendships and feel partly hurt. Perhaps she was also fumming over some matters which i don't know of.Originally posted by Bontakun:Don't be disheartened. Some friendships are never meant to go further than you wanted. You can still be friends with her though. Maybe see her less often?
i hope she thinks the same way too- that we can still be frens.
I might see her later and i don't know what is her reactions and attitude towards me. But i'm not gg to worry abt it now.
To all > Thank for the advises and replies.
sincerely,
isis -
Peace. And may the FORCE be with you. Or you can release it in the toilet.Originally posted by Isis:yeah i guess that we can still be friends. I'm disheartened cos i put in some feelings into the friendships and feel partly hurt. Perhaps she was also fumming over some matters which i don't know of.
i hope she thinks the same way too- that we can still be frens.
I might see her later and i don't know what is her reactions and attitude towards me. But i'm not gg to worry abt it now.
To all > Thank for the advises and replies.
sincerely,
isis
Please dun kill me! I am innocent!
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-__________-"Originally posted by Bontakun:Peace. And may the FORCE be with you. Or you can release it in the toilet.
Please dun kill me! I am innocent! -
For all the nastiness of FI, I see the warmer and sensible side of her from her response. I second her view wholeheartedly...............!
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haha...I tot I was stupidOriginally posted by smudgey:hmmmmmm......
I'm confused! 
....but I am really confused too. Lucky not alone hehe.
if you are refering to interest => I think I am the type who do wat I want (not wat interests my friends). I mean interests is a personal thing rite, have means have dun have means dun have. So ends up I sign up for lessons, ALONE. But can meet like-minded people, so is good.
if you are refering to life-style => ya the friends can influence one a lot. In my previous job, the colleagues all very competitive. So slowly I also become more competitive. -
If you're a copycat, you're a nobody. -
I am an idiot... Every time I see you, I am reminded I supposed to get the book from you.............Originally posted by Parka: If you're a copycat, you're a nobody. 
