Missed chances......
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Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
I kept thinking about her and couldn't sleep at times just remembering the day's events spent with her. I could spend my entire days just looking at her lovely face.
But alas, I lost myself and started acting uncharecteristically. She got scared I guess and before I knew it, she was with someone else. There were even friends who after knewing she was attached, asked out loud,"What about him?" Which was referring to me.
She's changed boyfriends since then, and I can see she's really found joy with her current boyfriend. I'm really happy for her and I'm glad the guy can look after her welll, and I would think better than me.
But till today, I still wonder to myself on late nights about what could have been. I still think about the things I should have done and the things I shouldn't or rather should have said.
We stayed friends even after I confessed to her and I really thank her for that. Close friends even and I was really glad because I thought I'd lost a dear friend. But we've drifted apart since then and she has her own life now and I have mine. But like I said, I still think about our short time together and I ask myself,why? -
you remind me of myself.
just that i've moved on and i'm glad i didnt get together with her. cos looking back, she's not the one for me. -
Lovely Miss J,
I still think about you and miss you still.
I know I shouldn't but it's against my will.
My feelings for you still linger,
And I still think of our time together
I want to say to you I love you,
but that privelege is not my privelege due.
I wish you best in all that you do.
I wish he does good in looking after you.
Miss J, Miss J, I care for you still. -
If anything I'm glad she's not with me, because I think she would be happier with someone else instead of me.Originally posted by OO_OO_OO:you remind me of myself.
just that i've moved on and i'm glad i didnt get together with her. cos looking back, she's not the one for me.
And I just can't help sometimes but to think of her, and still wonder what would have happened if I took my chance instead of blowing it.
I thought I'd moved on, I thought I was ok. But when occasionally I see her, or hear about how she is and what she's been doing. I can't help but want to continue to see her and talk to her. To share her hurts and burden, and to be there to look after her.
Till now even when we do occasionally meet, I still feel different around her. -
Hey SumOne, you sound like a nice guy. Don't get too emotional over her, well at least it did happened, smile because it happened.
You never know what your future chances are when you take it again with her, all the best ^^ -
Whats gone is gone. Regret solves nothing. At least we learned something out of those missed chances.
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don't linger in the past....
while you are mulling over "missed chances", new and more potential chances maybe just passing you by....
dont live in the past.... focus on NOW... -
What you did to her?Originally posted by SumOne:Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
I kept thinking about her and couldn't sleep at times just remembering the day's events spent with her. I could spend my entire days just looking at her lovely face.
But alas, I lost myself and started acting uncharecteristically. She got scared I guess and before I knew it, she was with someone else. There were even friends who after knewing she was attached, asked out loud,"What about him?" Which was referring to me.
She's changed boyfriends since then, and I can see she's really found joy with her current boyfriend. I'm really happy for her and I'm glad the guy can look after her welll, and I would think better than me.
But till today, I still wonder to myself on late nights about what could have been. I still think about the things I should have done and the things I shouldn't or rather should have said.
We stayed friends even after I confessed to her and I really thank her for that. Close friends even and I was really glad because I thought I'd lost a dear friend. But we've drifted apart since then and she has her own life now and I have mine. But like I said, I still think about our short time together and I ask myself,why?
Ya, same too.
I asked myself, why, too. -
you asked why?
it is cos God wans you to meet someone else, who is right for you -
Originally posted by SumOne:Lovely Miss J,
I still think about you and miss you still.
I know I shouldn't but it's against my will.
My feelings for you still linger,
And I still think of our time together
I want to say to you I love you,
but that privelege is not my privelege due.
I wish you best in all that you do.
I wish he does good in looking after you.
Miss J, Miss J, I care for you still. -
you just need to get over it
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Too late for me also
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why u so no confidence one...haiz...
*shake head -
There was this one gal in secondary school. I have liked her since the very begining. Having total no confidence in myself, I never approached her. Not just that, my shyness is to a new level. I avoided her and her group of friends. I am very active type of guy. Doing pretty well both in academic, sports and scouts. So not talking to their group really seems as if I dislike them. But the truth is, I really like one of them just that I too shy to start a conversation or anything.
Years passed. Leave school went to Uni and grad. During my Uni time, I wrote letters to her, but never once have the courage to post it. I have no news of her as well. But constantly think of her. It still continues till today.
What I try to say is this. As I had briefing introduce just now, I never get to know her cause I am too shy that time. Thus, I never know if this gal is suitable for me. Just that the feeling for her is very strong. And the fact that I never know her, the mystery of this gal just enhance the feeling. And that feeling convert to "regret" for what I never did when I had the chance.
Telling her now means nothing. Cause I never know the her back then and I am not sure the her now will be the one for me. The lesson I learnt from the whole deal.... not to have any more "regret" in life. There are things that must be done while you are at that stage. Grasp the moment, life the moment, cherish the moment....
Easier said than done, still trying my hardest... -
What for regret when you yourself know it is already too late to change...
What you can do is to look forward and believe that you will meet someone else who will be more perfect for you. -
Perhaps there is an innate desire to make things right in all of us. The reason why this feeling linger is not important. Don't dwell on it too much
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how ur know u miss the chance. maybe u still have chance. Stay positive. Left it to fate. At least , u and her are good friends.
or maybe u find someone better. Let nature take the course. =P -
i know how u feel
when u think back about the memories..its so bitter and yet sweet at the same time -
-slap forehead-
Move on. Moaning over Missed Chances will just end up you miss more chances cos you fail to recognise the present for its real worth.
Don't know, maybe I am a very pragmatic person. Rarely think about the past in this sense. Regret is not productive. -
Literally,
Next please.
You are still stuck in the past because u havent found someone to replace her. hopefully, someone will appear soon. -
I was in the same situation as you. Through my personal position, I met a woman very frequently. We talked and chatted very, very much - job, carreer, study etc. She was extremely interested in me (up to today, I still don't know why she was so attracted to me).Originally posted by SumOne:Lovely Miss J,
I still think about you and miss you still.
I know I shouldn't but it's against my will.
My feelings for you still linger,
And I still think of our time together
I want to say to you I love you,
but that privelege is not my privelege due.
I wish you best in all that you do.
I wish he does good in looking after you.
Miss J, Miss J, I care for you still.
The more she shown interest in me, the more I got scared. I was scared because I was working full-time and studying part-time then. I don't want a committed relationship at that point. I wanted to go slow but she wanted to go fast. The worst things was, this woman was hotly after me for almost two years before she gave up it all up (I'm not bluffing). She disappeared without a trace.
Many years later, our path met again. It was so uncomfortable to see her again. All the mixed feelings creeped up to me. Feelings which I thought I never have or feelings which I can kept under controlled.
I talked to her, wanting to find out all the 'whys'. I finally got all my answers and they upset me too.
I found that she took my attitude very badly. Even as we talked, after so many years, she said "I know you never like me", which was not true. I just can't handled too many things at one time. In her frustration and anger, she resigned from her job, disppeared, than got herself married as fast as she can to the next available man (match marriage, I believe).
She was not two-timing me because I knew she was spending all her hopes and attentions on me. All these up to the date, the date where I cool everything (the date I can still remember) - the date I cool things was the date she disappeared.
She was such innocent, sweet and gentle woman. I am now feeling guilty and bad because if she married a bad man, I had an indirect role in infuencing her choice.
I wish I did not played a role in her choice of husband. I wish she did not spent those times on me if fate has not meant us together. I wish she has spent enough time finding out who her husband really was before she married him. I wish I did not play a role which resulted in her quick marriage.
Now I really know the meaning "men are from mars and women are from venus". -
reminded me of the past too.. -
Aiii... -shake head-
I dated someone who could not forget his past rship. He was attached for many years but girl left him due to his inability to commit. After that, he had other relationships and it was almost 6-7 years after the first relationship i met him.
Was with him for almost 3 years. Spent the first 1-2 years trying to 'convince' him that the PAST is the PAST. MOVE ON. By the 3rd year, I was discouraged, and simply tired of it. I dont need someone to make me feel like I am someone he is simply 'settling' on.
So, I moved on. And walao eh, I realised its got nothing to do with me or the ex-gf. Its just HIM. he only lives in the past and only when the girl leaves him, then he will begin to treasure. I can only shake my head in disbelief.
That's why I say MOVE ON. why live in the past? Unless you intend to make action towards rectifying it, or else forget it. Over means over liao loh.
As for feeling that your choices 'affected' someone else's decision, in the end we are all adults lah. Unless you 'cheated' by lying, betraying, intentionally hiding - or else its fair play. If you were honest throughout - and the person is a sane, intellectually and socially developed adult, then they too are responsible for their own choices. -
this is exactly what is happening in my life right now... except i have yet to confess to her. and we are still studying in the same school.Originally posted by SumOne:Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
i'm glad there's someone who shares my sorrow -
got pic of the girl?
chill bro. i bet there are still girls out there who you will some how like.
it's hard to say. love.. you'll never know!