Missed chances......
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Let this strengthen your resolve to seize new opportunities. I'm also wondering how you behaved 'uncharacteristically'. -
speaking about missed chances...
ive had this crush since primary school, still thinking about him on and off for so many years, even till now, seems like i cant get over this crush. after primary school, we went to different secondary school. i tthought he'll live in my memory from then.
saw him again in jc and the old feelings are rekindled. i never told him about it. dont wish t jeopardise the already distant acquaintance we share.
i just hope that i dont regret it later -
Don't be disheartened. My gf and I started out as friends first.
Originally posted by jaydunkfull:speaking about missed chances...
ive had this crush since primary school, still thinking about him on and off for so many years, even till now, seems like i cant get over this crush. after primary school, we went to different secondary school. i tthought he'll live in my memory from then.
saw him again in jc and the old feelings are rekindled. i never told him about it. dont wish t jeopardise the already distant acquaintance we share.
i just hope that i dont regret it later -
Heys...
U have the same scenario as me, man...I had a crush on my sec sch classmate back in 1998..she was very special, friendly and the kind whom u like to be with..we always talk over the phone..then in 2002, when in poly, I confessed to her n she said it was alrite, can be frens..but as years passed, our contact became minimal. She`s now attached. She`s in my frenster list. She moved house and nvr told me her new no..I wana give her bday present last Nov, she just kept quiet..I suggest a meetup with old mates, also she kept quiet. But u know what the weird thing is? When I msg her thru frenster asking how she is and all,she would reply..talking abt other casual stuff, she would reply also..but come to meetup n give bday gift, she keep quiet. Strange huh?
Up till now, I still think of her..I really cannot get my mind off her. I swear if I ever bump into her on the streets, I`ll be brought down to my knees. But I duno if she is still friends with me..there was one time, I think I got a bit crazy, telling her that if she finds me irritating, she should just delete me off her frenster list. And nope, she did not delete me. I dun even dare to click on her profile n I`ll have to turn off the pics option to send a msg to her..its been 9 years but the feeling is still there..and who could have guessed tat my 1st crush would be a non-Malay?
So bro, to get over it, like me, I`ll have to keep myself busy...I`m a musician and I play my guitar a lot plus go jamming with mates...but honestly, the sudden thought of her would always have me drifting in some other place.
I wish for the both of us to meet our suitable soulmates in the future..:p
All the best..
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it's all Destiny ba..
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Personally, (maybe it's the pragmatist in me speaking) I've never ever had regrets when it comes to things like that.
At the end of the day, I can only have regrets over missing out on something whose worth I'm well aware and certain of. In short, I don't see myself having regrets over things for which I do not know what I've missed out on. -
My story started out fairly similarly .. n ended up in regrets .
I met this gal in jc after 3mths , initially it was my fren whom got to know her. Hwever after 3mths , he was posted out to other jc , thus losing contact. For me , i didnt got to the jc in the 1st 3mths n onli got to know her later.
I started out as a "spy" to help my fren jio her . Strangely enough , me n the gal hit it off so well tat i cant nv had the same feeling with any other gals ever
again.
We would talk everything under the sun over the phone everyday , even during exam periods. My feelings for her grew deeper n deeper , but i had no intention to betray my fren , whom was secretly liking her even in other jc.
But this gal is too popular , she had many suitors n even a stalker. There r fond memories of hw she called me n me rushing down to orchard rd to save her from a date she had nv agreed, OR hw i fend her off the stalker in the mrt all replay in my mind occassionally .
But all she took is 1wk to got attached with this guy . Deep inside i was shattered n sad. If it was my fren i would hav jus brushed it off .. but it was another guy , a total stranger who invaded .
Then once in a routine chat in irc , she suddenly confessed to me , saying she had liked me b4 , n on the other hand i confessed too . IN conclusion we called it brotherly -sisterly love .
Very much up to nw , years hav passed , she had jus gotten into her 2nd rslp in uni , whilist i hav to serve ns . The fond memories lingers , leaving sweetness n bitterness . I managed to keep in contact with her , but i dont know hw much can this rslp last .
Our paths in life may nt cross anymore
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You can't live your past again and you can only choose to shape yourself...Originally posted by SumOne:Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
I kept thinking about her and couldn't sleep at times just remembering the day's events spent with her. I could spend my entire days just looking at her lovely face.
But alas, I lost myself and started acting uncharecteristically. She got scared I guess and before I knew it, she was with someone else. There were even friends who after knewing she was attached, asked out loud,"What about him?" Which was referring to me.
She's changed boyfriends since then, and I can see she's really found joy with her current boyfriend. I'm really happy for her and I'm glad the guy can look after her welll, and I would think better than me.
But till today, I still wonder to myself on late nights about what could have been. I still think about the things I should have done and the things I shouldn't or rather should have said.
We stayed friends even after I confessed to her and I really thank her for that. Close friends even and I was really glad because I thought I'd lost a dear friend. But we've drifted apart since then and she has her own life now and I have mine. But like I said, I still think about our short time together and I ask myself,why?
I've got my own fair share of such regrets too... But I often just tell myself.. What I've gave up on my own is just what I've given up on... Besides... What you didn't live through probably couldn't be that bad even if it tries to....??
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Sometimes love just pass people by..
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i too think the same way.... im glad if he's not wif me... he would be happier wif someone else instead of me...Originally posted by SumOne:If anything I'm glad she's not with me, because I think she would be happier with someone else instead of me.
And I just can't help sometimes but to think of her, and still wonder what would have happened if I took my chance instead of blowing it.
I thought I'd moved on, I thought I was ok. But when occasionally I see her, or hear about how she is and what she's been doing. I can't help but want to continue to see her and talk to her. To share her hurts and burden, and to be there to look after her.
Till now even when we do occasionally meet, I still feel different around her.
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I have a similar feeling before. but missed is missed. I just try not to miss another again! =P
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Yes.Originally posted by godzillaliu88:got pic of the girl? -
Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:What you did to her?
Ya, same too.
I asked myself, why, too.
I'm sorry, I won't be sharing what exactly I did or didn't do as it might reveal who I am and I don't ever want a chance whereby she or anybody else who might know me would know I still can't get over it.Originally posted by Kuali Baba: Let this strengthen your resolve to seize new opportunities. I'm also wondering how you behaved 'uncharacteristically'.
Basically, I guess she didn't like what she saw, and I maybe should have explained to her that I wasn't acting my normal self then. I was kind of nervous around her then (I still kind of am, but I've learnt to hide my feelings now). -
Hi all, thanks for listening to my whiny little story, and I appreciate all the advise and all those who have told me I should move on, give myself a chance with somebody else. I'm really thankful for the advice and I agree it's what should be done.
But after what I say next, some of you might either consider me even more beyond hope. Or, you might even despise me and look down on me.
After she had rejected me, I did try to move on and like some have said, give myself a chance to be with someone else. I've been into two relationships since then and up till now, I still kind of feel more for her.
I never used either of the two as replacements and I treated and respected them on their own. But during the course of these two relationships, I still feel different around this girl who rejected me and I found myself still doing things for her that I wouldn't for my other female friends (but she was a close friend afterall).
I know some might call me a b@stard or whatever, but I want to say that not once was I ever unfair to my ex-gfs. The relationships did not fail because of any past feelings I had for Miss J. I gave my all into both relationships. Maybe it's because they failed that I know think that I may have gotten it right with her all the way. I'll never know if that is true.
But she's happy now and I doubt even if I were to barge back into her life would I stand a chance. Friends we will be for sure.
And now when I'm alone, instead of thinking about my two past relationships, I think about her. I know I should have gotten over her by now and I know I should move on with my life. I make the effort to do so.
But on nights like this when my mind floats, I can't help but think about her and wish that things had turned out differently. -
I've come to accept that maybe these feelings for her will never go away. And maybe like an ex-gf, in my heart she can never just be another girl. In fact, she is more so than my ex-gfs.
I will still love the next person that comes along, I will still give her my all. I will still respect her, honour her and cherish her. Whoever that new girl may be.
But like I said, Miss J will never just be another girl in my past.
This will forever be my own personal secret, and will still weigh on my heart. But no one will know and no one can tell. Making this secret forever mine. -
The power of 'What if(s)'Originally posted by SumOne:If anything I'm glad she's not with me, because I think she would be happier with someone else instead of me.
And I just can't help sometimes but to think of her, and still wonder what would have happened if I took my chance instead of blowing it.
I thought I'd moved on, I thought I was ok. But when occasionally I see her, or hear about how she is and what she's been doing. I can't help but want to continue to see her and talk to her. To share her hurts and burden, and to be there to look after her.
Till now even when we do occasionally meet, I still feel different around her.
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Hopefully I will not be revisiting this thread or these feelings again anytime soon. It's only on sleepless nights like these that these feelings hit me like a tidal wave. I don't even know what I'm typing at times.
Physically tired but yet sleepless, nights like these are just such a drag.
thank you all for listening to me whine. peace to all and hope everyone had a good valentine's. -
Haiz.... Yes. The power of 'what if(s)'. Nothing happens in reality by it, but it can really mess up your mind. Stupid, irritating 'what if(s)'.Originally posted by M©+square:The power of 'What if(s)'
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It could be devastating to some.Originally posted by SumOne:Haiz.... Yes. The power of 'what if(s)'. Nothing happens in reality by it, but it can really mess up your mind. Stupid, irritating 'what if(s)'.
But it gives hope. To many, it might be the will to live by.
Gotta learn to deal with it.
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SumOne..
Hmm, your tale sounds very familiar..
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I was in somehow almost the same predicament as u. Took me so long to get over. it's very tough to get over someone who is one in a million. I blamed myself, couldn't forgive myself, I had let him down, I missed the many oportunities. Believe me though I have gotten over I still think of him.Originally posted by SumOne:Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
I kept thinking about her and couldn't sleep at times just remembering the day's events spent with her. I could spend my entire days just looking at her lovely face.
But alas, I lost myself and started acting uncharecteristically. She got scared I guess and before I knew it, she was with someone else. There were even friends who after knewing she was attached, asked out loud,"What about him?" Which was referring to me.
She's changed boyfriends since then, and I can see she's really found joy with her current boyfriend. I'm really happy for her and I'm glad the guy can look after her welll, and I would think better than me.
But till today, I still wonder to myself on late nights about what could have been. I still think about the things I should have done and the things I shouldn't or rather should have said.
We stayed friends even after I confessed to her and I really thank her for that. Close friends even and I was really glad because I thought I'd lost a dear friend. But we've drifted apart since then and she has her own life now and I have mine. But like I said, I still think about our short time together and I ask myself,why? 
Sometimes when you miss the boat there may not be another very good boat coming along!! Sad!! -
I think you kept thinking abt her instead of your past two gfs because you have never had her?
She was never in your life to answer the question,"What if we have gotten together?"
maybe because of this lack of closure, she is always on your mind... -
I hate nights like this.
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Think what it could have been all you want. Just continue to look for "sumone"Originally posted by SumOne:Do you ever still mule over failed chances to be with somebody or chase after somebody? Do you still think about what might have been if only you had gotten it right then? Do you still get angry with yourself at blowing a chance?
It's been years for me already, this friend of mine from school last time. She was a nice girl, popular, friendly, pretty. Most of all, she seemed comfortable around me. We had some common friends, so it was quite easy to meet her and we attended a lot of lectures together.
My friends and her friends were actually trying to match make us, and even people who didn't know us well expected us to be a couple. My friends had even said,"She's a good catch and she seems like your type of girl."
I kept thinking about her and couldn't sleep at times just remembering the day's events spent with her. I could spend my entire days just looking at her lovely face.
But alas, I lost myself and started acting uncharecteristically. She got scared I guess and before I knew it, she was with someone else. There were even friends who after knewing she was attached, asked out loud,"What about him?" Which was referring to me.
She's changed boyfriends since then, and I can see she's really found joy with her current boyfriend. I'm really happy for her and I'm glad the guy can look after her welll, and I would think better than me.
But till today, I still wonder to myself on late nights about what could have been. I still think about the things I should have done and the things I shouldn't or rather should have said.
We stayed friends even after I confessed to her and I really thank her for that. Close friends even and I was really glad because I thought I'd lost a dear friend. But we've drifted apart since then and she has her own life now and I have mine. But like I said, I still think about our short time together and I ask myself,why?
Remember that "thinking" is always so much more wonderful than real-life.
At least now you have good thoughts when you think of her. If she was not meant for you and you broke up after dating. You will still be thinking of her but it might be only evil thoughts.