Worrying of my gf past...
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u cant judge girls as first hand or 2nd hand. ur little brother sure is 21st hand.
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what to do? rewind back into the past meh?
the only thing you can do now is to accept it. try to change the way you think. if your love for her is true, then you'll probably be able to get over it.
if it's lust, then i guess it's because you ain't getting any sex from her right? -
If you truely love her then should accept her for her past mistake for at least she have the gut to tell you... Furthermore if you are uncertain then i advice you to give up this relationship ... Now the question lie u whether can u accept her past and love his for she was? Don't drag till married...
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if every guys like u.. then die.. how many virgins left out there? love her for her body? or her?
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u dun want her, u give me lohz.
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Put it this way.. i'll probably agree with u tt if i were in ur position.. i'll be affected as well. But if i really do love her, i'll look beyond tt. I'll accept her for who she is now, and not before.
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Do you really love and bother so much about her body?Originally posted by James1:Though I had been with my gf for about 4 months, and I was struggling to forget about her past, she told me that she and her ex had did uncountable times of heavy petting or sex at her place, what I mean uncountable was like 3 to 4 times weekly without failed and you know as a bf of hers, I felt I was having an 2nd hand stuff, you guys get what I mean? How to forgo her history? Had any one of you had the smiliar situation as me? Thanks in advance...
If you do, then learn to RESPECT IT.... -
siao.
stardee dun stardee. -
tink she's making u jealous onli?
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If you cant sit with the truth, walk on.
If you treat her like a tarnished good, dump her cos its pointless to continue.
Sooner or later, problems will surface.
Change your mindset, or be chased off.
Shes not infected with any diseases right?
Shes not screwing ard with others right?
Did she betray you now?
She loves you for what you are?
If so then what do you love her for?
When the problems get too much to bear, its the end of the line for both.
Only results in dissolution -
ask urself this question
Do u love her for who she is or do u love her for her body? -
body lah. stil nit to ask one meh.
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u abit straight forward hor?Originally posted by Hello Kitty:body lah. stil nit to ask one meh. -
why u like that one??? since she already tell you about her past means she love you mah.
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i agree with TS and Gackt. if i were TS i too will be affected by this issue. maybe TS feels that he shouldn't give his virginity away to a girl who has lost hers. it just isn't fair for him.
once or twice maybe can forget. 4 times a week and its termed as countless
ex-boyfriend or ex-sexbuddy? anyway TS like the others said, if you really love her you got to accept her for what she is now. though it might be hard but you got to do it. its either you break or you accept.
just be wary if she is those who gets boyfriend for sex or gets boyfriend for love. -
i think some things are better left unsaid. There is no need to go into so much detail and cast a shadow over the relationship. Well, wat is said cannot be unsaid.Originally posted by Chris1988:i agree with TS and Gackt. if i were TS i too will be affected by this issue. maybe TS feels that he shouldn't give his virginity away to a girl who has lost hers. it just isn't fair for him.
once or twice maybe can forget. 4 times a week and its termed as countless ex-boyfriend or ex-sexbuddy? anyway TS like the others said, if you really love her you got to accept her for what she is now. though it might be hard but you got to do it. its either you break or you accept.
just be wary if she is those who gets boyfriend for sex or gets boyfriend for love.
As much i think there really arent so many virgins around, i believe TS is entitled to want what he wants. but TS needs to know that there really arent so many virgins around, unless he is prepared to 'groom' a gf from a very young age or get a 'certified' virgin wife from overseas. Then again, even with the certificate, one cant be too sure.
As for chris1988's advice to TS, i think his worry is groundless. -
agree with blu_sky...Originally posted by Chris1988:i agree with TS and Gackt. if i were TS i too will be affected by this issue. maybe TS feels that he shouldn't give his virginity away to a girl who has lost hers. it just isn't fair for him.
once or twice maybe can forget. 4 times a week and its termed as countless ex-boyfriend or ex-sexbuddy? anyway TS like the others said, if you really love her you got to accept her for what she is now. though it might be hard but you got to do it. its either you break or you accept.
just be wary if she is those who gets boyfriend for sex or gets boyfriend for love.
and also what the diff between once or twice to 4 times a wk? is not the no of times that matters.. that is aldy the past.. if TS cant take it.. one or twice.. is still the same.. the fact is.. she is not a virgin.. and she had sex with her ex.. b4 TS..
everyone have their past.. if u dun want to let things go beyond.. the next gf.. pls ask if she is a virgin 1st. and make sure u dun hv sex with her till the marriage nite... -
ya lor it is REALLY a treasureOriginally posted by Patrik:Hahaha.
Virginity has lost its value.
If u still can find a virgin girl out there,its a treasure. -
If the girl's virginity matters so much to you that you can just let go of the relationship, I don't think you really love the girl enough leh....... Don't think you have enough maturity to handle these matters of the heart yet leh....
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l tink those ppl that say abt loving the gf...then shldnt care abt whether she is virgin or not...but had u all tink what if this happen on URSELF
Of coz...it isnt ur problem...that is y u all can say until so easily...wonder what if u are in the shoe of TS...
Well sum ppl juz can dun care abt it and dun mind such things...but to sum ppl they mind....
u cannot say that the TS is being narrow minded here...or he nver love the gal enuf...ya....but in the end..if he mind..he juz hav to make the choice by himself
For me..l am a virign and l do mind whether my gal is virign or not..if she is not..more or less..l wont want de...l juz cnt accept the fact.. -
That is y...the gals...must be smart and not be so native to hav sex with guys when they are young..cuz sum guys do brand gals that hav been fcked before "dirty" and that gal is not "worth to be with them"(especially if the guy himself is a virign)
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Values....i guess many are disillusioned with what is truly important in life.
Guys especially. -
No more treasures only pawnshops these daysOriginally posted by Komon:ya lor it is REALLY a treasure -
i wonder how your gf will feel if she finds out that this is what you really think of her- 2nd hand STUFF.
meh. i don't think you even really love her.
you're so narrow minded. -
How will u feel if ur bf told u he had sex with alot of gals and alot of times?Originally posted by suss.adele:i wonder how your gf will feel if she finds out that this is what you really think of her- 2nd hand STUFF.
meh. i don't think you even really love her.
you're so narrow minded.
U really cnt blame the TS for being narrow minded...