Worrying of my gf past...
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juz appreciate she didn't say she wasn't female.
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Feeling abit of such unbalanced is a norm, i would say....Originally posted by James1:Though I had been with my gf for about 4 months, and I was struggling to forget about her past, she told me that she and her ex had did uncountable times of heavy petting or sex at her place, what I mean uncountable was like 3 to 4 times weekly without failed and you know as a bf of hers, I felt I was having an 2nd hand stuff, you guys get what I mean? How to forgo her history? Had any one of you had the smiliar situation as me? Thanks in advance...
Can't imagine how unbalanced or uncomfortable can u get if she said she was pregnant before and aborted it....
No one's perfect...if u can't learn to "Kan Kai", think it'll be fair that you shldn't be with her... -
okie i may have sounded weird before but well..
just put yourself in TS shoes..
TS girlfriend: i'm no longer a virgin and i had sex with my bf many times before we broke up.
TS (still a virgin): WHAT?! [thinks: you're telling me you had sex many times and expect me to get over it?]
it will definately be a blow for TS especially when he's a virgin himself. but given time he's bound to come with a decision. either move on and accept it or break and hopefully find the treasure.
and yes i do agree tt there aren't many virgins around nowadays. we're progressing towards a new generation
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so fast got gf again?
everytime see u posting abt gf..
if u cannot accept it, then no point being together.
if u sleep with other girls, will that make u USED also?
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This post made my day.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
x2.
I always believed that such knowledge are best kept private - really wonder why would she tell you. And if you cannot take such truth at face value, you should also avoid asking, if that's where the conversation led... to the truth of her past.
You dated her, being oblivion to her past, and fell in love. Now that you knew her a little more, you felt like you are being compromised. When love juxtaposed chastity, it seemed that a piece of membrane has more consideration than love itself.
If you cannot look beyond the subject of virginity, then I guess your love is probably worth just as much.
And if you decide to treat her any lesser than before, I suggest you give this relationship up because with such narrow mindset, it will likely to haunt you forever. Although you have the right to desire a virgin mate if you are one yourself (otherwise you are just another hypocritical, typical-MCP guy), [b]I think it's also fair for her to want a man who appreciate her for who she really is and love her as a complete entity and not selective in nature.
Cheers[/b]
especially for a girl.. no matter how many times ur bf tell u he wun mind, also dun talk abt ur ex and those intimate stuff that u did with him/them. -
break loh.
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I dun think TS said that he's virgin?
virgin or not.. it still depends on individual..
i feel that everyone has a past.. and since it's already past, then it should be passed. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:x2.
especially for a girl.. no matter how many times ur bf tell u he wun mind, also dun talk abt ur ex and those intimate stuff that u did with him/them.
Dun mention about the sexual events, even the time, the places they have been or went to.....even little single things which their bfs had bought for them before that they're wearing now when with you, there'll be still a string of unbalanced & uncomfort... -
Agree. dont understand why people like to talk about their exes, unless they cant get over them.Originally posted by dcx:
Dun mention about the sexual events, even the time, the places they have been or went to.....even little single things which their bfs had bought for them before that they're wearing now when with you, there'll be still a string of unbalanced & uncomfort... -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:x2.
especially for a girl.. no matter how many times ur bf tell u he wun mind, also dun talk abt ur ex and those intimate stuff that u did with him/them.
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Most painful is when you hear them complaining about them and yet, things are just meant for you to find out that she is still actually communicating with them....Originally posted by blu_sky:Agree. dont understand why people like to talk about their exes, unless they cant get over them.
Even worse, promise you that she'll break contact with them, but kenna let you find out she didn't..... -
so honest.Originally posted by dcx:
Dun mention about the sexual events, even the time, the places they have been or went to.....even little single things which their bfs had bought for them before that they're wearing now when with you, there'll be still a string of unbalanced & uncomfort...
guys that say "dun worry, i dun mind.. i only care about the present etc..."
at the back of their mind, he will remember de lor.
then u see whether he will treat u differently. of course not all, but like TS, he will surely go thru a mental struggle.. if can put it this way..
then one fine day he might ask u "since u did it with ur ex, y not do it with me?"
then u will regret. -
u dun agree ma?Originally posted by Devil1976: -
dun worry, i dun mind = i dun wan to think of the worst cases, i.e. sexual/intimate moments/things he has done for you before....(Yet, still at times wanna know....Originally posted by browniebaobao:so honest.
guys that say "dun worry, i dun mind.. i only care about the present etc..."
at the back of their mind, he will remember de lor.
then u see whether he will treat u differently. of course not all, but like TS, he will surely go thru a mental struggle.. if can put it this way..
then one fine day he might ask u "since u did it with ur ex, y not do it with me?"
then u will regret. ) -
simi me?Originally posted by dcx:dun worry, i dun mind = i dun wan to think of the worst cases, i.e. sexual/intimate moments/things he has done for you before....(Yet, still at times wanna know.... )
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Ya... me disillusioned... -________________-Originally posted by M©+square:Values....i guess many are disillusioned with what is truly important in life.
Guys especially.
Used to tink the world is beautiful, then I was shown the ugliness of thee world.
Nature is beautiful though. -
the world is beautiful..Originally posted by Bontakun:Ya... me disillusioned... -________________-
Used to tink the world is beautiful, then I was shown the ugliness of thee world.
Nature is beautiful though.
it's the humans and things happening that are ugly. -
The "world" I refering to is not exactly the "world" you toking abt.Originally posted by browniebaobao:the world is beautiful..
it's the humans and things happening that are ugly.
Dun worry, its juz me freaking out.
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Have you considered the advantages of a non virgin girlfriend?
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Most importantly....how much do u love her?
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what is past is past.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:How will u feel if ur bf told u he had sex with alot of gals and alot of times?
U really cnt blame the TS for being narrow minded...
how would YOU feel if your gf told you that she minds about your past if you had s*x countless times with your ex gf, when all you want is to start afresh with her? -
experienced no good meh?
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strange.. he didnt even replied once
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ya... what past had passed.. what she had done is with her ex bf, out of love.. and not some ONS...Originally posted by suss.adele:what is past is past.
how would YOU feel if your gf told you that she minds about your past if you had s*x countless times with your ex gf, when all you want is to start afresh with her?