Same problem as one of the forumite!
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Well to all here...
l tink l oso posses a problem similar to one of the forumite starting this topic...
l dare to call up my good guy frenz and tok abt sch wrk and etc, ask them out...joke with them
But to those ppl...that l noe online...nver see be4 or tok be4 de...juz chat in msn and game..then one day...l hav to call them..tell them sumtinz...especially gals...l will be kinda nervous...like mind empty empty de...cnt tink of topics to say...very jialat... is like dun noe y lehz...feel so awkward like that.....
Does anyone noe what is this problem of mine mah? l did ask a guy frenz..whether l am normal or not...he say of coz la...he told me if he were to speak to sumone he had nver spoken be4 on phone...he oso will be nervous...
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get an outdoor sales job..
train u to be able to talk to anyone and be damn thick-skinned -
normal ma.
as long wun get too much in the way, i suppose it'd be fine. -
normal lei...
but at least its only..phone..
just talk like normal n relax..
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l am having a part time job le..dun tink l will want to get another job..summore those sales de...l dun tink l wan...based on commisson to do work de...even gt basic pay..oso damn low..l dun mind go try if the pay is good
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YEAOriginally posted by FireIce:get an outdoor sales job..
train u to be able to talk to anyone and be damn thick-skinned
if not how to get sales..
lie ..lie lie n yes..cheat -
but it's good training.......Originally posted by xShevchenkox:l am having a part time job le..dun tink l will want to get another job..summore those sales de...l dun tink l wan...based on commisson to do work de...even gt basic pay..oso damn low..l dun mind go try if the pay is good -
write down what you wanna say before you call lah...
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if the pay is good like u said..Originally posted by xShevchenkox:l am having a part time job le..dun tink l will want to get another job..summore those sales de...l dun tink l wan...based on commisson to do work de...even gt basic pay..oso damn low..l dun mind go try if the pay is good
who dont wanna ? -
ya...l still dare to tok and tell them the things l wan to say...juz that will be damn nervous lo...haha..l am more used to tok to ppl..that l hav interact quite sumtime..before moving to fone toks...Originally posted by Ito_^:normal ma.
as long wun get too much in the way, i suppose it'd be fine. -
hmm good idea for short converstions but nt long conversationsOriginally posted by udontknowme:write down what you wanna say before you call lah... -
link...n more links..Originally posted by xShevchenkox:hmm good idea for short converstions but nt long conversations
maybe u wanna do a mindmap
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How long is considered long?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:hmm good idea for short converstions but nt long conversations -
same as me lor. i think many many ppl oso lidat.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:ya...l still dare to tok and tell them the things l wan to say...juz that will be damn nervous lo...haha..l am more used to tok to ppl..that l hav interact quite sumtime..before moving to fone toks... -
How to say ah...it is not like l am not confident or wad..it juz sounds weird la..imagine la...that person u nver tok be4 de or see be4 de....
Then if l act as normal...like the way l tok to my good frenz...l tink will frighten them out lo...
l am afraid they cnt tk it..u see....Cuz l will laugh and keep joking ard de... -
i got opposite problem.. i more scared of talking to girl alone face to face then talking to them on the phone
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really ah...then l am relieved....cuz actually this problem do troubles me..u see...l was tinking in my mind..."Hey y like that ah?" Why l so nervous lor..Originally posted by Ito_^:same as me lor. i think many many ppl oso lidat.
Then l began to tink y sum guys so good at this ah? They nt scare...1st time oso dare to call up and chat until so happily..without feelin anything -
so did anyone say they can't take it cuz u keep laughing and joking around?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:How to say ah...it is not like l am not confident or wad..it juz sounds weird la..imagine la...that person u nver tok be4 de or see be4 de....
Then if l act as normal...like the way l tok to my good frenz...l tink will frighten them out lo...
l am afraid they cnt tk it..u see....Cuz l will laugh and keep joking ard de... -
so far dun hav...y ne?Originally posted by Ito_^:so did anyone say they can't take it cuz u keep laughing and joking around? -
different ppl use different attitude to face unknown ppl.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:really ah...then l am relieved....cuz actually this problem do troubles me..u see...l was tinking in my mind..."Hey y like that ah?" Why l so nervous lor..
Then l began to tink y sum guys so good at this ah? They nt scare...1st time oso dare to call up and chat until so happily..without feelin anything
some ppl can talk until the sky turn dark, to cover their nervousness. some ppl juz shuts up.
i abit envious of the former, cuz i usually wld keep quiet. den again, normally, im juz quiet so it doesn't really matter..
and some ppl are simply natural. -
Then why are you so afraid to be yourself?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:so far dun hav...y ne?
Instead, you're hiding away. Which is the first sign of insecurity, a desire for acceptance.
Then how can people accept in neutral proxy when you're unable to be comfortable and accept yourself? -
den it wun happen de la.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:so far dun hav...y ne?
everyone likes a jovial person around to lighten the mood.
juz be urself is best. or at least dats wad i tell myself la. -
I guess its normal bah......
When I spoke to an online friend on MSN, everything seems ok... conversation just flowed like water...
When I met him face-to-face, it seems that there was nothing to talk about. I guess its just the 1st meeting. And, he kept me waiting for 1 hour!
After that, when we met online again, no problem with conversation....
We decided to meet face to face again, and voila, we did not have any problems after our first meeting!
So, just relaxed about the whole thing!
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well l oso envious of the former one...who dun? Actually l did try to told myself it is gonna be fine...be well...but well tinking and doing it practially is two diff things...Originally posted by Ito_^:different ppl use different attitude to face unknown ppl.
some ppl can talk until the sky turn dark, to cover their nervousness. some ppl juz shuts up.
i abit envious of the former, cuz i usually wld keep quiet. den again, normally, im juz quiet so it doesn't really matter..
and some ppl are simply natural.
but tink l improve oso la..last time l dun even dare to initate to call at all..at least l dare now... -
mc square...l really hav been telling to myself...dun be nervous..be relax when toking on fone with ppl that l hav nver see or tok with be4..but l dun noe y..my body keeps reacting in such a manner...Originally posted by M©+square:Then why are you so afraid to be yourself?
Instead, you're hiding away. Which is the first sign of insecurity, a desire for acceptance.
Then how can people accept in neutral proxy when you're unable to be comfortable and accept yourself?
l did tried ...u see....but my body juz refuse it...who dun wan to be able to chat with ppl naturally and jovially...
actually tere r a few factors l noe of myself...l am afraid that sumtime if l am too relax in wad l say...l will offend dao ppl oso...
last time l dun dare to initiate any calls to unknown ppl..but at least l now dare...which l termed it as a 1st step....l really keep tellin myself..hey is alrite la...nthing to be scare and etc...really tried le..