should i own up?
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Originally posted by R3SsH|n:it doesn't hurt to try one more time..so why not try?
persistence does pay off sometimes...
Of course it certainly doesn't 'hurt' to try one more time, but like a drop of dew into a pool of lake, the ripple effect surely doesn't only limit itself to that one drop, or that one particular try for the matter of fact - it's a chain effect.
In fact, most of the time, a typical man would tell himself he should give himself another try, using the reason you have given above and as MCsquare has mentioned: Only the individual will determine the worth of persistence. This is where he would probably decide to invest more and when he failed the second time round, this time, with the increased liability he has incurred, he would either attempt to pursue a 'break even' or leave with the trauma of greater lost.
Do you gamble? Because yunhaier is a gambler and in gambling, especially when one is on the losing streak, it's difficult to command our emotions to cut loses, especially when one harbour the thought of 'breaking even'. In the end? You probably lose more.
Why?
Because it doesn't hurt to try one more time.
P.S: The cosmic lesson is often not about hardwork because if it's the lack of hardwork that is missing from the equation, then he would probably have succeeded. It's about dealing with rejection and how to channel those energies to evolve oneself.
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tsk tsk tsk. Read my siggy, very are having the same problem except that I havent confese to her yet..Originally posted by fire1980:highly doubt that... if not.. she would not have ignore me still..
sometimes i wish i can just fess up and tell her the truth, but i think its not a good time, since i still pin for her all the time, and doing so would be only hoping that she has a change of heart.
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hmm from wad l see... l tink u shld juz giv up...it is obvious that the gal dun like u..but l dun like the way she do things...even if she dun like u...oso can be frenz mah...what for do until so "JUAN" and act so inmaturely..Originally posted by fire1980:
hi guys/aunts...
quite a silly story, hope u all can forgive forgive.
there is this girl who really dun like me and have rejected me few months ago.
in fact it has got to the stage where she even told me to back off and always ignore me whenever she sees me. primarily my own fault for being too irritating n stuff.
like any 1-sided love i tried to make her feel special on valentines day.. i sold my beloved possession in order to buy her the 99 roses n stuff.
on the day it happened, she even email me asking if they were from me. I felt that I have to lie because 1) i am a coward and is afraid that she will throw everything back at me 2)i dun wan to ruin her happiness that day.
And so I say "No."
I do not know if she is aware (that it was me), but she is still very cold to me, up till this day.
Sometimes I feel like telling her the truth. But why? Perhaps i really want to give up, dun want to keep these little secrets in me any longer. Perhaps I just want things to change.
Of course I hope she will treat me better one day, but that is wishful thinking.
What should I do?
Asking u to back off and ignoring u...who does she think she is? The queen ah? She is like despising u lor...
To TS, Juz ignore her ..and put this matter to rest bah....no matter how much efforts u put in..she wont like u de...dun tink ur case will be like those tv dramas...this is reality..
If the gal dun treat u well...and u keep on treating her well..dun EVER tink that one day she will be touched and changed for the better, treat u better...she will juz became more worse and worst....
NVER EVER HAD SUCH THINKING that a gal who treat u badly and shabbily will change...this is impossible
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What a big waste of money And she doesn't even know it's from you.Originally posted by fire1980:like any 1-sided love i tried to make her feel special on valentines day.. i sold my beloved possession in order to buy her the 99 roses n stuff.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
'Adversity quotient' requires alot of homework, research and studies, ability to see long term and to take risk and lots of common sense(!!!!!!) Of course it certainly doesn't 'hurt' to try one more time, but like a drop of dew into a pool of lake, the ripple effect surely doesn't only limit itself to that one drop, or that one particular try for the matter of fact - it's a chain effect.
In fact, most of the time, a typical man would tell himself he should give himself another try, using the reason you have given above and as MCsquare has mentioned: Only the individual will determine the worth of persistence. This is where he would probably decide to invest more and when he failed the second time round, this time, with the increased liability he has incurred, he would either attempt to pursue a 'break even' or leave with the trauma of greater lost.
Do you gamble? Because yunhaier is a gambler and in gambling, especially when one is on the losing streak, it's difficult to command our emotions to cut loses, especially when one harbour the thought of 'breaking even'. In the end? You probably lose more.
Why?
Because it doesn't hurt to try one more time.
P.S: [b]The cosmic lesson is often not about hardwork because if it's the lack of hardwork that is missing from the equation, then he would probably have succeeded. It's about dealing with rejection and how to channel those energies to evolve oneself.
Cheers [/b]
Experience(good ones) is definitely a powerful aid.
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give up la..dun make her feelings for u evolve from dislike to hate...wait no more friends
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well u may see that it is not working...
But as what u have just describe, she notice u... and even call ur hp...
u just waste ur chance....
then hahaha...
wish u good luck!
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she did not called me, she merely email me.Originally posted by Sakuraflower:well u may see that it is not working...
But as what u have just describe, she notice u... and even call ur hp...
u just waste ur chance....
then hahaha...
wish u good luck!
as long as she is happy that day, its well worth it. that was my intention after all...
i just have to keep telling myself that she probably know one day (if she didn't know yet), and whatever actions she choose to do (continue to ignore, bo chup), I will have to accept.
if not, she will feel very... how do i say.... and I certainly don't want someone I like to feel very sad/frustrated/angry because of me.
the best thing i can do is to pray for her happiness every night... and the strength to stop myself from contacting her anymore. -
TS the 99 rose how much you pay for it?
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it was worth 3xx++....Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:TS the 99 rose how much you pay for it? -
Uou should give it to another girl that you appreciate you act....
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Yaya quick TS, go demand the flowers back before they wiltOriginally posted by soulwinner:Uou should give it to another girl that you appreciate you act....
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own up and tell her that you won't bother her anymore.
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I hope you learnt something from this experience LOLOriginally posted by fire1980:it was worth 3xx++....
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Originally posted by fire1980:it was worth 3xx++....
wow.. thats alot of $$
i dont even spend 30 bucks on girls -
isn't it as good as subtly asking her for something in return?Originally posted by stellazio:own up and tell her that you won't bother her anymore.
If i really dun wan to bother her anymore, i shd just keep quiet and leave her alone, which is what i am doing.
it just that my heart always have this longing that i have to fight against. -
actually i dun really regret it at all... i just a hopeless romantic willing to do anything for someone i love... before i did this i never really expect anything from her in return...Originally posted by choco B:I hope you learnt something from this experience LOL
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I could feel the pain when you sell away your beloved possession.Originally posted by fire1980:it was worth 3xx++.... -
If I got gf, I would spend my everything with her.Originally posted by ifish:
wow.. thats alot of $$
i dont even spend 30 bucks on girls
but now I dont have any girlfriend -
what purpose does it serve sending flowers but not letting her know it was from you?
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just want her to feel happy/special...Originally posted by iLuVpOrKyPiG:what purpose does it serve sending flowers but not letting her know it was from you? -
The problem is that he has tried many 'one more time' sss already...?Originally posted by R3SsH|n:it doesn't hurt to try one more time..so why not try?
persistence does pay off sometimes...
Of course, by 'logical thinking' the chance is always there.. But it's really just that the chance likely to be 0.00001% or less that people often fail to see..?
And BESIDES... They often think 'nothing to lose' right? WRONG. The 'loss' would be the receiving party's end... They'll just get more and more frustrated and irritated... So the next time people claim they love someone else and is willing to do so much and so.. They should really remember they're sacrificing the 'wellness' of the person they've 'CLAIMED' to 'LOVE'... -
Doing nothing now. Need not even walk away... Just FORGET about the WHOLE THING and slowly let the past behind you...?Originally posted by fire1980: hi guys/aunts...
quite a silly story, hope u all can forgive forgive.
there is this girl who really dun like me and have rejected me few months ago.
in fact it has got to the stage where she even told me to back off and always ignore me whenever she sees me. primarily my own fault for being too irritating n stuff.
like any 1-sided love i tried to make her feel special on valentines day.. i sold my beloved possession in order to buy her the 99 roses n stuff.
on the day it happened, she even email me asking if they were from me. I felt that I have to lie because 1) i am a coward and is afraid that she will throw everything back at me 2)i dun wan to ruin her happiness that day.
And so I say "No."
I do not know if she is aware (that it was me), but she is still very cold to me, up till this day.
Sometimes I feel like telling her the truth. But why? Perhaps i really want to give up, dun want to keep these little secrets in me any longer. Perhaps I just want things to change.
Of course I hope she will treat me better one day, but that is wishful thinking.
What should I do? -
Duely noted and well agreed with this point.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:remove all traces of her from yourself...
delete msn...phone contacts...gifts for her...emails...messages...everything...
it will definately help u forget her...
Though in the initiation phase of this change, you will feel very hard and that you will blame urself for the worthless effort or silly efforts... but pay this in mind, you learn something that money can't buy.
Just don't repeat it again! All the best! -
Live and let die~~~