should i own up?
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you should back off or she will treat you like a pest, then its impossible for you folks to even be friends
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No disrespect, but you aren't even making sense and certainly come across as self-contradictory. On one hand, you did everything you did because you pined for her; on the other, you haven't even got the courage to let her know what you'd done for her. Just what exactly are you playing at?Originally posted by fire1980:just want her to feel happy/special...
As things stand, you just seem to be incurring even heavier losses on both fronts - on one side, your gestures of goodwill are not reciprocated/acknowledged; on the other, your efforts are all going in vain because you simply choose to pursue her in silence. It's time you stopped being so noble...
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I agree too. You shouldn't keep waiting for her or else you'll miss alot of nicer ladies out there.Originally posted by Agenda:give up..
there are other nicer girls out there
perhaps if you give her up completely, she would come crawling back.. life is just that sadistic
move on dude
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i dun understand why is so many people asking him to give up and 'let go'. i think maybe he should go all out and fight for his happiness (not to extreme also lah of course) and peservere on...miracles do happen with peserverence.
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so sweet..
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Please do not masquerade spinelessness as romanticism.Originally posted by fire1980:actually i dun really regret it at all... i just a hopeless romantic willing to do anything for someone i love... before i did this i never really expect anything from her in return... -
Tell her that you gave her those roses and if she reject you again..then i think giving up on her would b a better choice
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poor guy...think all the comments left by other users have given u the answer ba...
let go...its possible later in life something else will happen...maybe u will noe her more....
the more u force it, lagi jialat...really...
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thanks for all the comments...
i know i can choose to continue "fighting on," but its very selfish... as someone had said abt the 0.0001%.... i think its very likely she feel very frustrated and irritated about me.
god knows how long i can keep this inside me n not confess to her i did it..
i hope forever..
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Originally posted by walesa:
i sorry for being dense...but what do u really mean by stop being so noble?
No disrespect, but you aren't even making sense and certainly come across as self-contradictory. On one hand, you did everything you did because [b]you pined for her; on the other, you haven't even got the courage to let her know what you'd done for her. Just what exactly are you playing at?
As things stand, you just seem to be incurring even heavier losses on both fronts - on one side, your gestures of goodwill are not reciprocated/acknowledged; on the other, your efforts are all going in vain because you simply choose to pursue her in silence. It's time you stopped being so noble... [/b]
i dun see it as noble.. maybe too idealistic.
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You are a damn fool. Stop, turn back if you cannot accept it.
Be happy. Make decisions that will make you happy. I once felt the same way... until I realised nobody's going to pity me when she gets a boyfriend. I moved on and found my current GF. Happy times...
But hey, cheer up man. Write her a letter, give her a card. DO something that YOU feel comfortable with. Tell her EVERYTHING. And move on. If you can't be Boy-Girl Friends... be regular friends instead. You don't want her to hate you. You'll feel alot worse that way.
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hey man, next time you wanna send 99 roses, instead of sending it to one gal, SPREAD YOUR LOVE to 99 other lovely ladies yah?
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Noble in the sense that you're prepared to mortgage your asset to get her 99 roses, yet not have the courage to admit those roses were from you? You did yourself no favour there(you aren't getting remotely closer to winning her over; neither are you doing your wallet any favours), mind!Originally posted by fire1980:i sorry for being dense...but what do u really mean by stop being so noble?
i dun see it as noble.. maybe too idealistic.
noble would be giving her up altogether. i am not..
Seriously, as some have already suggested, just make up your mind on what you plan to do and stick to your guns. If you wish to move on, then just move on (stop doing things like sending her 99 roses - that can be left to some guy she fancies, not you). Otherwise, if you wish to give this another shot, at least do your darndest to make sure you don't shoot yourself in the foot (it's nonsensical to think any guy would go through the trouble of getting someone 99 roses, yet not have the courage to admit the roses were from him). Last but not least, enjoy whatever you wish to do - it will still be a priceless experience either way. -
silly dude..
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i think it doesn't matter whether she knows or not..
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I believe all of us here are happy to offer encouragement and some pointers so to hear success stories than to give disheartening and negetive comments.Originally posted by mahawarrior:i dun understand why is so many people asking him to give up and 'let go'. i think maybe he should go all out and fight for his happiness (not to extreme also lah of course) and peservere on...miracles do happen with peserverence.
melt her ice mountain!
Offering sound advices requires sufficent facts given. And criterias of success rate is low, unless like you've mentioned - Miracles.
Somehow, it doesn't reflect in this thread. At least i don't see it happening in this case.
AA contributors have good intends, and i believe once again. They have voiced out their views after much critical thinking and reasonings.
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She probably saw right through you the moment you lied.
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don't own up, don't give up... change nothing
own up, give up... change everything
Hello, sorry hor, I don't see how any of that is so.......... important like it is life and death.
This is you big problem in life? You are one lucky dude! Wait until you meet a real problem then you know what problems are. -
Write her a card. Tell her your feelings and thoughts for her all along. In the last line include: "Actually, the 99 roses you got are from me."
If she changed your attitude towards you, there's hope, if not, give up bahh. Good luck pal! =) -
Don't ever be shy when it comes to love !
Tell her -
Life of the young and bored...
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fight for her.. say it's from you.. let her know your feelings.. BE PROUD OF YOUR LOVE FOR HER.. it doesnt matter what she thinks about you.. understand? to love is to HAVE.. if she has the happiness you're giving her, dun you think it's good enough? even if she doesnt want it, you know you've done your best.. you might move her one day.. be proud of yourself my friend.. well if she's attached, den seriously, stop it.. you dun wan to be the kind that pesters a girl even when she's attached.. the feeling sucks for that boyfriend.. besides, you dowan it to happen to you.. be proud of yourself ok? i'm sure you can do it.. someday she will know who loves her best =) jia you!
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quite like my story
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Interesting to see why guys like girls who don't like them yet still choose to like them.Originally posted by spectralizer:quite like my story -
bcos many ple have this mindset..Originally posted by M©+square:Interesting to see why guys like girls who don't like them yet still choose to like them.
'de bu dao shi zui mei de'
wat u can't get, is the most beautiful.