should i own up?
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warpped concept.Originally posted by browniebaobao:bcos many ple have this mindset..
'de bu dao shi zui mei de'
wat u can't get, is the most beautiful. -
More like our inflated ego...Originally posted by browniebaobao:bcos many ple have this mindset..
'de bu dao shi zui mei de'
wat u can't get, is the most beautiful.
Ya rly.
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thanks guys.
i have decided to keep this from her until there is a proper time to disclose.....
maybe by her birthday ( quite some month later)... maybe we will be friends again.. maybe i would have forgotten her.. god knows. if so, then maybe keep this from her forever bah. -
There's no point owning up. Telling her that the flowers were actually from you is not going to change anything. You have already made your stand clear to her. To her you're probably just a wuss. Pardon me for saying that, but this is what I felt.
Just forget about the whole issue whether she knows or doesn't know or whether you should let her know. She doesn't want to know anyway.
Step back and ask yourself what you really want out of this. Don't say that you're not expecting anything in return and you just want her to be happy. "Wanting her to be happy" is an expectation. And you probably thought keeping yourself by her side, helping her out, sending her presents is going to make her happy? Or are you just clinging on to some hope that one fine day she'll realise someone has been doing so much for her and start to appreciate him? Come on!
If you really like her, go and tell her. And accept whatever that outcome is because whatever it may be, it'll be the best for the both of you.
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fire1980.
If you're female, what kind of guys would leave a good impression on yourself?
Think about it.
I believe, if you dig deep enough, the bottomline will be self confidence. Roughly brownsing through your replies gave me the impression that you are a wuss, you are indecisive, you have no faith in yourself, and you think love is perhaps like what you see in the movies. You're wrong.
Do you consider for sometime what you wanna eat when you're at the foodcourt but can't make up mind? Do you follow others' choices? Do you stand tall and walk straight? Do you look at people in the eye when voicing a contradicting opinion? Do you contradict people in the 1st place? Are you healthy? Do you really take care of yourself? Or are you highly accomodative? Where did you get the idea of giving 99 roses in the first place?
Be confident.
When you gave the roses, say they're from you. Say give me a chance for us to get to know each other.
When rejected the first time, ask why. Ask what is it about you that's not suitable for her. Receive the comments, if she chose to tell you the truth. Say thank you. Depending on how much you want her, decide whether to continue trying, or remain as friends, but know when to give up trying. Either ways, take it confidently. Dun leave messages like "My heart will always be with you forever; You're always be my most beloved even thought you;ve rejected me".
Hope the above are useful to you in the future. At this point of time, she had already given a clear NO to you. Dun be one-sided. Remind as normal friends. Look at other gals. That's what she wants. If not, she'll let you know soon enough.
Life is short, and its NEVER like a movie. -
hi airgrinder.. u r so right, i am just a wuss.
there are things which i wish i can do, but now its still not the right time.
even yesterday she was still ignoring and avoiding me... and its very obvious.
i just can't make myself go look n know other girls, just simply no mood at all.
i only know that i simply like her too much, but my wish/hope is that the both of us will be friends again...
what can i do but to wait and pray now? she doesn't even want to look at me, let alone talk.Originally posted by airgrinder:fire1980.
If you're female, what kind of guys would leave a good impression on yourself?
Think about it.
I believe, if you dig deep enough, the bottomline will be self confidence. Roughly brownsing through your replies gave me the impression that you are a wuss, you are indecisive, you have no faith in yourself, and you think love is perhaps like what you see in the movies. You're wrong.
Do you consider for sometime what you wanna eat when you're at the foodcourt but can't make up mind? Do you follow others' choices? Do you stand tall and walk straight? Do you look at people in the eye when voicing a contradicting opinion? Do you contradict people in the 1st place? Are you healthy? Do you really take care of yourself? Or are you highly accomodative? Where did you get the idea of giving 99 roses in the first place?
Be confident.
When you gave the roses, say they're from you. Say give me a chance for us to get to know each other.
When rejected the first time, ask why. Ask what is it about you that's not suitable for her. Receive the comments, if she chose to tell you the truth. Say thank you. Depending on how much you want her, decide whether to continue trying, or remain as friends, but know when to give up trying. Either ways, take it confidently. Dun leave messages like "My heart will always be with you forever; You're always be my most beloved even thought you;ve rejected me".
Hope the above are useful to you in the future. At this point of time, she had already given a clear NO to you. Dun be one-sided. Remind as normal friends. Look at other gals. That's what she wants. If not, she'll let you know soon enough.
Life is short, and its NEVER like a movie. -
Originally posted by lagrangen:There's no point owning up. Telling her that the flowers were actually from you is not going to change anything. You have already made your stand clear to her. To her you're probably just a wuss. Pardon me for saying that, but this is what I felt.
Just forget about the whole issue whether she knows or doesn't know or whether you should let her know. She doesn't want to know anyway.
Step back and ask yourself what you really want out of this. Don't say that you're not expecting anything in return and you just want her to be happy. "Wanting her to be happy" is an expectation. And you probably thought keeping yourself by her side, helping her out, sending her presents is going to make her happy? Or are you just clinging on to some hope that one fine day she'll realise someone has been doing so much for her and start to appreciate him? Come on!
If you really like her, go and tell her. And accept whatever that outcome is because whatever it may be, it'll be the best for the both of you.
as the days goes by, i think i really clinging to the small little hope.
i dun wan to go up to her and tell her i did so and so for u, it feels like begging...
and i dun want her to accept me, what little chance it is judging from the way she is treating me now, because she pity me...
wat a lousy feeling...