wat to do?
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i knew this gal for almost 2 months. got quite close like talking on the phone everyday and stuff. she's 4 yrs younger than me, and im waiting for JC postings soon.
on v-day i met her n gave her a present and she just just said thanks n said it was cute. then after that it was normal life again like talking everyday and sms-ing and stuff. according to her frens, she was very scared or nervous to meet me. (i dun get it..)
and recently her frens keep asking me if i like her (and this is the most bugging part). and when 3 of us conference, her friend would just directly ask if i like her. i dunno how to response. and guess what. i was being retarded and i just kept quiet on the phone. like as if i wasn't there....
keep denying very tough leh...
actually it's quite obvious that i like her n stuff because i alrdy gave a v-day present. PLUS i msg her good night msg every night n sometimes i will take the initiative to call her. whenever her friends tease her or tells her that it's quite obv that i like her, she wouldn't admit it and always complain to me that her frens are talking crap...
the reason y i keep denying is because i dun think she's ready for a r/s mainly. and....im scared of losing this frenship. u know nowadays...r/s come n go very quickly. like 2 months n boom, nomore. or at most a year or smth.
i dun mind waiting or just stalling or remainding in this "state of courtship" for very very long. is there a problem with going very slowly? because i feel that her friends are already like rushing an ans out of me n claiming tt "she is helping us to get together"...
im confused..
and denying has become very very xin ku for me. -
be yourself.. take it slow.
what about the girl. does she likes you? -
Perhaps she doesn't know also or she's confused like me.
U know like when u know u have feelings but u keep bluffing yourself because u know it's not going 2 be good. she's aware that her parents doesn't approve a BGR.
Im guilty of that sometimes...
She wud confide in me about her problems. Yeah n i know quite abit about her, her life, her family, her friends n she wud like update me everyday about what happen to her. abit strange but she's like more talkative than me..
Her friend says she talks about me the whole day in school...
She's very eager to know about what I talk about to her friend...
I think got more but I forgot liao.
So far quite positive lah. but nothing is 100%... -
Well from what I read...your chances are high.... with the correct nudge and approach, you may just win her heart.
Keep up the pressure but dont over do it....tell her how u feel and assure her that whatever confusion she's feeling..you both will deal with it together...(pls mean it also)
Good luck..hope to hear good news from ya ... Cheers -
Based on surface analysis alone...Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:Perhaps she doesn't know also or she's confused like me.
U know like when u know u have feelings but u keep bluffing yourself because u know it's not going 2 be good. she's aware that her parents doesn't approve a BGR.
Im guilty of that sometimes...
She wud confide in me about her problems. Yeah n i know quite abit about her, her life, her family, her friends n she wud like update me everyday about what happen to her. abit strange but she's like more talkative than me..
Her friend says she talks about me the whole day in school...
She's very eager to know about what I talk about to her friend...
I think got more but I forgot liao.
So far quite positive lah. but nothing is 100%...
It seems like she could be quite interested in you (at least at this point) but her bigger hindrance could be her parents who disapprove of her being in BGR...
Personal advice is to 'strike it while it's hot'... Show much care and interest but need not be pushy... Go mild but don't back down... Of course... You'll need to be mentally prepared to face some of the incoming obstacles if you are to bring this relationship slowly to the next level..? The 1st would likely to be her parents.... The 2nd would be to help her cross the phobia and mental blocks... (if she's really interested in you lah..
)..... And those 2 are probably just the minimal so as we speak... -
To TS:
I'm in the same situation as you are!
OMG, the similarities are freaking me out... Anyway, do you think the 4 years age gap is a big difference? Sometimes, I find myself living in a different world from hers. So how? Go for it? Despite the age difference... -
Yoz dude...
I had been in the same situation before. The gal's friends kept asking me whether I like her or not. The whole school seems to think that we are an item but I denied the 'fact' up to the day when I graduated.
I regretted my decision after so many years.
Go on, dun deny Ur feelings and face the 'truth'.
If she likes you, congrats. If shen dun, move on...
Good Luck dude... -
Wait, u're waiting for JC postings, that makes u probably only 16, not 17 yet.Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:i knew this gal for almost 2 months. got quite close like talking on the phone everyday and stuff. she's 4 yrs younger than me, and im waiting for JC postings soon.
on v-day i met her n gave her a present and she just just said thanks n said it was cute. then after that it was normal life again like talking everyday and sms-ing and stuff. according to her frens, she was very scared or nervous to meet me. (i dun get it..)
and recently her frens keep asking me if i like her (and this is the most bugging part). and when 3 of us conference, her friend would just directly ask if i like her. i dunno how to response. and guess what. i was being retarded and i just kept quiet on the phone. like as if i wasn't there....
keep denying very tough leh...
actually it's quite obvious that i like her n stuff because i alrdy gave a v-day present. PLUS i msg her good night msg every night n sometimes i will take the initiative to call her. whenever her friends tease her or tells her that it's quite obv that i like her, she wouldn't admit it and always complain to me that her frens are talking crap...
the reason y i keep denying is because i dun think she's ready for a r/s mainly. and....im scared of losing this frenship. u know nowadays...r/s come n go very quickly. like 2 months n boom, nomore. or at most a year or smth.
i dun mind waiting or just stalling or remainding in this "state of courtship" for very very long. is there a problem with going very slowly? because i feel that her friends are already like rushing an ans out of me n claiming tt "she is helping us to get together"...
im confused..
and denying has become very very xin ku for me.
She's younger than u by 4 yrs.. that makes her like wat.. 12????
OMG u guys start early nowadays.
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Yeah thats the point. Thats y her parents dun allow u c or rather i dun think she is mature enough to understand anything even if i try to "reason" things with her.
Which i tried to actually.
I couldn't take it anymore and i told her that ive told her friend the answer to her friend's question which is. "do i like her anot?"
I told tt gal, i think she's nice and i wanna be wif her, but the timing is wrong. so i told her lets just wait and see what happens. i asked her for a few months to see how things go. she said ok.
But something strange is that the way i say it is as if she likes me.
She just okay everything i say. It's either she really listens to me, and understand what im saying or she just dunno wat to say..
Im startiing to really drop obvious hints. If she's not dumb she wud probably get what i mean right...which is " i like u, but you're too young/we're not close enough yet/ur parents don't allow, so lets wait abit, and see how things goes"...
U see, im starting not to deny anymore. But im like using reasons. damn....i need a better solution -
pass me her no.Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:Yeah thats the point. Thats y her parents dun allow u c or rather i dun think she is mature enough to understand anything even if i try to "reason" things with her.
Which i tried to actually.
I couldn't take it anymore and i told her that ive told her friend the answer to her friend's question which is. "do i like her anot?"
I told tt gal, i think she's nice and i wanna be wif her, but the timing is wrong. so i told her lets just wait and see what happens. i asked her for a few months to see how things go. she said ok.
But something strange is that the way i say it is as if she likes me.
She just okay everything i say. It's either she really listens to me, and understand what im saying or she just dunno wat to say..
Im startiing to really drop obvious hints. If she's not dumb she wud probably get what i mean right...which is " i like u, but you're too young/we're not close enough yet/ur parents don't allow, so lets wait abit, and see how things goes"...
U see, im starting not to deny anymore. But im like using reasons. damn....i need a better solution
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Ah boi,focus on your studies,the girl 12 yrs old??if my daugther 12 yrs old got bf,i WILL KILL THE GUY
I will think the guy is some pervert who has fetish for little girls.
I will tell my daugther all guys are wolves,only his father me is the good man
Hhahahahahhaaaa -
weeee we're the same age.. anyway i say u should wait as its not good fer u nher to start a r/s now after all she is 12 and shouldn get into a r/s till like sec 2???
her feeling fer u i'm namein it puppy love as shes 12 and it might b the 1st time a "boy" is showerin all thses care and concern on her other then her parents.
anyway WASSUP with a 12 yr old not to flame of anything but come on brudda so many gals our age whom are HOT HOT HOT! plus u'll b goin to JC anyway too many fishs there to tempt u away fomr her.
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there are many problems that comes along the young HOT HOT HOT gal. but its up to the individual la. not my place to judge.Originally posted by 2e3:weeee we're the same age.. anyway i say u should wait as its not good fer u nher to start a r/s now after all she is 12 and shouldn get into a r/s till like sec 2???
her feeling fer u i'm namein it puppy love as shes 12 and it might b the 1st time a "boy" is showerin all thses care and concern on her other then her parents.
anyway WASSUP with a 12 yr old not to flame of anything but come on brudda so many gals our age whom are HOT HOT HOT! plus u'll b goin to JC anyway too many fishs there to tempt u away fomr her.
juz remember to wear condom!
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IS SHE A SCHOOL GIRL??????????
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She's definitely too young for a steady relationship. It really might be just a crush or puppy love that you have for her.
Whatever it is, make sure you think it properly through and discuss with her if she's also interested in going steady with you.
You are just at the age where many confuse or mistake certain feelings as "love". Things will be very different when you become bf/gf. -
Both still young what... Maybe just go for a more 'innocent' kind of love relationship...? But yeah.. Anyway, it should be quite VERY HARD to convince her parents....Originally posted by fatslob:Wait, u're waiting for JC postings, that makes u probably only 16, not 17 yet.
She's younger than u by 4 yrs.. that makes her like wat.. 12????
OMG u guys start early nowadays. -
Before anything else. Ask yourself these questions.
A) Would you benefit from the relationship/period of courtship?
B) Would the girl benefit from the relationship/period of courtship?
C) Do you want this to turn into a puppy love kind of relationship?
D) Which would benefit you and the girl more. Staying in the courtship period/ going into a relationship.
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i was thinking of the same thing.Originally posted by fatslob:Wait, u're waiting for JC postings, that makes u probably only 16, not 17 yet.
She's younger than u by 4 yrs.. that makes her like wat.. 12????
OMG u guys start early nowadays.
lol...
too young.... -
Sorry to sound bad but there're many factors that the relationship (if you do get into it) will not last.
1) She's too young
2) You just knew each other for 2 months?
3) It could be just your raging male hormones at work.
At 16-17, it's common for many to want to "experiment" with BGR. Peer pressure might also push you to want to get attached asap. -
eh i dun think theres a need to convince the parents la, they wont listen or accept anyway IMO... just keep it between the 2 of u n enjoy... gd luck
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What is your problem actually? I read and read and I can't find any problem to help you solve.Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:Yeah thats the point. Thats y her parents dun allow u c or rather i dun think she is mature enough to understand anything even if i try to "reason" things with her.
Which i tried to actually.
I couldn't take it anymore and i told her that ive told her friend the answer to her friend's question which is. "do i like her anot?"
I told tt gal, i think she's nice and i wanna be wif her, but the timing is wrong. so i told her lets just wait and see what happens. i asked her for a few months to see how things go. she said ok.
But something strange is that the way i say it is as if she likes me.
She just okay everything i say. It's either she really listens to me, and understand what im saying or she just dunno wat to say..
Im startiing to really drop obvious hints. If she's not dumb she wud probably get what i mean right...which is " i like u, but you're too young/we're not close enough yet/ur parents don't allow, so lets wait abit, and see how things goes"...
U see, im starting not to deny anymore. But im like using reasons. damn....i need a better solution -
lol . take it slowly man . the main problem i see here is the part about her friends . talk to them . tell them they should stop asking all those qtns in front of both of you . explain to them if they really mean the best for her , they should just stop at it and not create pressure on the both of you .
as for her , why not try talking to her . let her know your feelings for her , and try to know what she's thinking about . respect her decision , and let her know you understand . if she doesnt want to go into a r/s , accept it and move on . if it's meant to be , the both of will get together eventually yea . -
omg i just read the age part . she's so young ! -.- why are you interested in such a young girl in the first place . okay nvm that . but i really feel that she's too young for a r/s . if you really mean good for her , then you should really stay by her as a friend and be there for her . at her age now it's easy to get cheated by boys =\
at least wait until she's abit older before considering about a r/s alright . she should be focusing on her studies at 12 . PSLE year you know . =\ -
if both of you are not ready for a relationship, be it in terms of thinkings or feelings, then just go out as close friends.
in your case, "striking the iron while it's hot" might not be a good thing. go slow and her nature take it's course.
you ask when is the right time to confess your feelings? you'll know when the time comes. -
12?! super xmm.. omg..