hopeless me.. after so many yrs.. still cant forget her...
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the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
you just haven't found another one who is better than her and your heart is close up already so time will heal all wounds
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you have not moved on..
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why are u clinging on your past...? -
ya... move on please..
at least open up ur heart.. make new frens..
go get a life.. dnt just work home family..
widen ur network.. and new friends will come.. new potentials will come..
Good Luck -
tsk tsk tsk.. x2 same here. I am admiring her.Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
She has already moved on. So why haven't you?
I cannot truly say that I understand your pain... but what I can say that staying in the past will do nothing but cause more pain for you.
I suppose the break-up was a painful experience... but whatever happened in the past happened for a reason. It happened so that you can learn how to be a better boyfriend to your girlfriend in the future, and a better husband to your wife.
Don't see the failed relationship as failure on your part... it is only failure if you do not learn lessons from it and do not learn how to move on.
All the best to you.
'Why do we fall, Bruce?
So we can learn how to get up.' -
only time can heal
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just don't let it eat u up. i guess if u can still build a successful career while being in such angst all the time, u're doing very well. imagine what more u can do if u are "well".
altho u wouldn't believe it, i feel there's always another chance to fall in love. might be a long wait but in the meantime, concentrate on the other parts of ur life.
if ur career is "settled" maybe u could concentrate on other things, take up a hobby, spend some of that money that u have on something that you have always wanted. buy a house, but ANOTHER house, and if u will, get ready everything just for the girl to walk in.
sounds good huh? it's not that hard to do, esp if u have money.
on a last note, i've ever wondered what would happen if a particular ex and i got in touch and were involved again. she's married with twins, so even if the husband's out of the picture i have two kids to worry about. so sometimes, the past should just stay there, if it comes up again, there will be other problems to take care of. we can never really "pick up where we left off".
for me, that "left off" part would be screaming at each other across funan centre level one about 10 years ago...
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Orh ok.Originally posted by TaeWoon:dont tell me to find another...
Don't find another...just stay as you are now and continue your search.
Cheers -
I am in the same state as you in the past. I learnt my mistake as well as knowing my ex character. She aint meant for me...
And what I did is to socialise, dun give up hope. Do anything except to think of the past. We dun have infinite live... We must treasure present and move on... -
.... i dunnoe how many times should i say this but.
MOVE ON! -
shes probably laughing at u now... u got success now u should find ur partner or at least reali move on...Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
Umm... you don't want to find a new one, you cannot forget her... Umm... What do you really want?Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
He want her lah!Originally posted by Bontakun:Umm... you don't want to find a new one, you cannot forget her... Umm... What do you really want? So easy leh... -
Really? Liddat den I have to pop da original question I thought of putting here initially:Originally posted by M©+square:He want her lah! So easy leh...
Why did she left you? -
This should be your first question.Originally posted by Bontakun:Really? Liddat den I have to pop da original question I thought of putting here initially:
Why did she left you?
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Don't forget her! Whatever for? "Enjoy" the memories of her.Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
But I dun wanna be so direct mah. I dunno da TS wan comforting or someone to listen to or simply just post for da sake of posting.Originally posted by M©+square:This should be your first question. -
Long time no see dude!Originally posted by jOhO:just don't let it eat u up. i guess if u can still build a successful career while being in such angst all the time, u're doing very well. imagine what more u can do if u are "well".
altho u wouldn't believe it, i feel there's always another chance to fall in love. might be a long wait but in the meantime, concentrate on the other parts of ur life.
if ur career is "settled" maybe u could concentrate on other things, take up a hobby, spend some of that money that u have on something that you have always wanted. buy a house, but ANOTHER house, and if u will, get ready everything just for the girl to walk in.
sounds good huh? it's not that hard to do, esp if u have money.
on a last note, i've ever wondered what would happen if a particular ex and i got in touch and were involved again. she's married with twins, so even if the husband's out of the picture i have two kids to worry about. so sometimes, the past should just stay there, if it comes up again, there will be other problems to take care of. we can never really "pick up where we left off".
for me, that "left off" part would be screaming at each other across funan centre level one about 10 years ago... -
You dun live for your parents, you live for yourself. The true is you have not get over it. Just your best, meet more female friends.Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
long time, jOhO~!Originally posted by jOhO:just don't let it eat u up. i guess if u can still build a successful career while being in such angst all the time, u're doing very well. imagine what more u can do if u are "well".
altho u wouldn't believe it, i feel there's always another chance to fall in love. might be a long wait but in the meantime, concentrate on the other parts of ur life.
if ur career is "settled" maybe u could concentrate on other things, take up a hobby, spend some of that money that u have on something that you have always wanted. buy a house, but ANOTHER house, and if u will, get ready everything just for the girl to walk in.
sounds good huh? it's not that hard to do, esp if u have money.
on a last note, i've ever wondered what would happen if a particular ex and i got in touch and were involved again. she's married with twins, so even if the husband's out of the picture i have two kids to worry about. so sometimes, the past should just stay there, if it comes up again, there will be other problems to take care of. we can never really "pick up where we left off".
for me, that "left off" part would be screaming at each other across funan centre level one about 10 years ago...
was juz thinking abt u last fri..
coz i went to Chijmes with my dear and frens..
first time i went there, it was with u guys~
hope you are doing well.
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i read what u all been typing.. thanks.. really appreciate.. it's not ez to walk out of memories... which i think in my this entire life, i will not forget i have such a girl with me before... yah, i tried really tried and still trying to befriend more girls ... but then none cant be like her...
still remember years ago when i lost her... i wrote my ending with her in this forum.. i told myself maybe years later i will be better with my heart healed.
here im back, heart not healed but "dead"... faking so much... tell myself im ok im ok... there's career satisfaction finally.. but what's the use.. no one share the "fruits" with me....
regrets filled up whenever i recall she cried... sadness whenever i recall how her eyes filled with hatred the day she left me...
if only me and her have common friend between us, at least i can try to get her news now... -
Originally posted by TaeWoon:i read what u all been typing.. thanks.. really appreciate.. it's not ez to walk out of memories... which i think in my this entire life, i will not forget i have such a girl with me before... yah, i tried really tried and still trying to befriend more girls ... but then none cant be like her...
still remember years ago when i lost her... i wrote my ending with her in this forum.. i told myself maybe years later i will be better with my heart healed.
here im back, heart not healed but "dead"... faking so much... tell myself im ok im ok... there's career satisfaction finally.. but what's the use.. no one share the "fruits" with me....
regrets filled up whenever i recall she cried... sadness whenever i recall how her eyes filled with hatred the day she left me...
if only me and her have common friend between us, at least i can try to get her news now...
Who says it's easy? Nobody says it's easy.
But is that excuse good enough not to move along in life?
If you do have that wisdom to understand discern that, it doesn't matter how many girls come into your life - you are just acting like a kid when mummy refuse to buy that particular toy; lying on the floor, kicking your feet and throwing your hands all over, hoping that somehow, you will get what you want.
You see, nobody can make you move on if that isn't what you want to do.
Eventually as time passed naturally, you will probably realised that there's no way she could return... and like that kid who couldn't get what he wants - you will still succumb to the power of time and move along.
The difference is that all these while when you have decided to remain where you are, you have probably wasted much of your emotional self when you actually do have a choice to LEARN from your previous relationship and empower yourself spiritually.
You make you own choice in life, you live with what your choice dictate.
Cheers -
To tink i tot i was hopeless.. u are 2.5 times worse den me. Be a man. Get a grip of urself n move on. I'm not sure whether she's worth it but definitely she doesnt think so. Reality is harsh, accept it n move on.