hopeless me.. after so many yrs.. still cant forget her...
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......Originally posted by TaeWoon:i read what u all been typing.. thanks.. really appreciate.. it's not ez to walk out of memories... which i think in my this entire life, i will not forget i have such a girl with me before... yah, i tried really tried and still trying to befriend more girls ... but then none cant be like her...
still remember years ago when i lost her... i wrote my ending with her in this forum.. i told myself maybe years later i will be better with my heart healed.
here im back, heart not healed but "dead"... faking so much... tell myself im ok im ok... there's career satisfaction finally.. but what's the use.. no one share the "fruits" with me....
regrets filled up whenever i recall she cried... sadness whenever i recall how her eyes filled with hatred the day she left me...
if only me and her have common friend between us, at least i can try to get her news now...
Sometimes... We just have to learn to live with some regrets in our lives...? -
you shouldnt be living in regrets. instead you should be learning from them . it's never easy to get over someone . but its been 5 years . any wounds should have been healed already . know more female friends . guy friends can do as well . go out with them and have fun . no matter what caused the breakup, who inititated it, how did you break up , its all in the past already . no point going through these memories over and over again . it just makes you relive the past over again . this way you can never move on . just wish the best for your ex , although you cant contact her , but you can still secretly wish the best for her . well i dont think she would want you to be living in such agony either . if she were to know of your state now i think she wouldnt be happy either . so just try to let go . make more friends to fill the gap in you , to at least take your mind off those memories . jiayou (:
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thank you... for all the encouragement...
i realli appreciate ...
i can pour out my blues.. i can see the words ... but.. heart still aching...
very useless i am.. fully aware of it... sometimes i really wonder, why life must be in this way? why cant all be happiness and no such thing as sadness... emotion i can be though im a guy...(im like a ger.. i noe)...
sometimes i wish whenever im going to start a relationship, i can well forsee the future ends in happy endin or sad endin...
dun wish to compul mysf ended up thinking negatively but still i have to walk on this path... -
go look for her and who knows maybe it might be rekindled.
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look for her.. no courages... what sho i say when i call her? .. 5 years ago when she broke up wif me, she told me if i keep on pesterin her, she will let her two elder bros talk to me...
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you also know 5 years ago . . lol . things should have changed by now .Originally posted by TaeWoon:look for her.. no courages... what sho i say when i call her? .. 5 years ago when she broke up wif me, she told me if i keep on pesterin her, she will let her two elder bros talk to me...
if you call her and she still wants to get her 2 elder bros to talk to you , why not ? lol . maybe they can insult or scold or advise you until you wake up and really set your heart on letting go . it may be a blessing in disguise . hahas .
if you dont have the courage to talk to her on the phone , try typing in an email or smsing her . tell her you mean no harm la , just wanna know how she's getting on with life . i believe she wont turn her back on you unless that r/s you had with her was really something she'd rather not recall . jiayou . -
wow. so long lers. i remembered i use4-5 years to forget a guy . Hmm. its so tough but you must have determination!Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now...
Just tell yourself that she's not your right girl and why should you linger on to the past?
Give yourself and others a chance.
Time heals and most importantly move on.
She is moving on le why can't you?
Stop thinking of her le. -
hehehe you echo my thoughts!!!Originally posted by browniebaobao:you have not moved on.. -
hmmmm..... joho.... sounds familiar..... did we meet b4?Originally posted by jOhO:just don't let it eat u up. i guess if u can still build a successful career while being in such angst all the time, u're doing very well. imagine what more u can do if u are "well".
altho u wouldn't believe it, i feel there's always another chance to fall in love. might be a long wait but in the meantime, concentrate on the other parts of ur life.
if ur career is "settled" maybe u could concentrate on other things, take up a hobby, spend some of that money that u have on something that you have always wanted. buy a house, but ANOTHER house, and if u will, get ready everything just for the girl to walk in.
sounds good huh? it's not that hard to do, esp if u have money.
on a last note, i've ever wondered what would happen if a particular ex and i got in touch and were involved again. she's married with twins, so even if the husband's out of the picture i have two kids to worry about. so sometimes, the past should just stay there, if it comes up again, there will be other problems to take care of. we can never really "pick up where we left off".
for me, that "left off" part would be screaming at each other across funan centre level one about 10 years ago...
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hmmm... TS,
you say you moved on, you have not.
don't kid yourself. Ask yourself why is it you missed the years with her so much? what is it particularly that you miss?
is it the feel of having someone there for you? think of the end... was is still that pleasant then? Is it really her that you missed?
I still think of my ex. I miss us... esp when i get lonely. We got each other. we understood each other, we were there for each other... l loved him. but at the same time i can also remember all the reasons we did not work out...
you have to learn to let go and not just say you are letting go...
it's difficult. but inevitable...
take a day... go to somewhere you can think... go through all your memories of her, the good and the bad....
slowly say goodbye to each and everyone of this memories... mourn if u have to... then go meet friends or go home
from then on, whenever u find yourself thinking about her, about the good times, focus on other good memories that do not include her. good times that do not include her. focus on those... and keep yourself occupied with activities you enjoy...
good luck.... it's not easy... but with determination it WILL WORK! -
memories are meant to be kept in the heart
move on! -
Still no idea, after so many posts why she left you, pick yourself up, why did she leave you? What flaw lies in you? Learn that, correct yourself and you're on the way to resurrection ( in bachelors 101 )
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really feel like what a song of bsb sang: i try to move on like i nv knew u... im awake but my heart is half-asleep... i pray for this heart to be unbroken... but without u all im going to be is incomplete........
today my superior who is ten yrs my senior, asked me why im not hitched yet. think that he tried to intro another ger to me, i shun the idea away. -
If its so difficult 2 4get her...den dun
But try 2 remember e gd times oni...& b fair 2 e other fair-ladies out there
One of them is destined 4 u so if u dun pick urslf up..u'r lettin her down 2
Doesn't seem too fair...does it? -
hmmm... i don't agree with that...Originally posted by pipi & poot-poot:If its so difficult 2 4get her...den dun
But try 2 remember e gd times oni...& b fair 2 e other fair-ladies out there
One of them is destined 4 u so if u dun pick urslf up..u'r lettin her down 2
Doesn't seem too fair...does it?
if you only remember the good, you'll find it even harder to let go. -
at the very least, the two of u shared happy moments together, with sweet memories
treasure it but learn to move on
life is a journey, it ain't gonna stop while u r feeling sorry for yrself -
Remember e good not in a bid 2 let goOriginally posted by smudgey:hmmm... i don't agree with that...
if you only remember the good, you'll find it even harder to let go.
He can't let go after all dis yrs...so mite as well indulge in a pleasantries of those moments -
5yrs is a very long time.. i understand it's hard to forget such long and wonderful memories.. but sometimes it's best for u to let go and move on.. force urself to think that u can win this battle of moving on.. dun think about her anymore.. come on dude, she can did it, so can u..Originally posted by TaeWoon:the more successful my career is, the more lonely i feel.. miss my ex... who's been with me for more than 5 years and who has left me 5 years le..
dont tell me to find another... i cant forget her.. though im moving on... heart died liao.... im just like a living corpse... live for my parents.. work and work and work.. go out with friends... but come home only to find myself everynite thinking of my past.. just like a rewind of video clips..
compulsion leads to non-happiness, i cant compul her to accept me back becos she went too far away le...
i dun even know how's she now... -
Originally posted by TaeWoon:
What have you done to cause so much hatred in her? Reflect back.
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..regrets filled up whenever i recall she cried... sadness whenever i recall how her eyes filled with hatred the day she left me...
..she told me if i keep on pesterin her, she will let her two elder bros talk to me...
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If you are a real b*stard back then. Best is to leave her alone, better for her. Dun hold on to the past, it will never be the same again. -
take your time... take your own sweet time... to forget her... the more you try the more you cannot forget... the more you accept that you will never forget her for the rest of your life... the faster you will forget her... try it.Originally posted by TaeWoon:really feel like what a song of bsb sang: i try to move on like i nv knew u... im awake but my heart is half-asleep... i pray for this heart to be unbroken... but without u all im going to be is incomplete........
today my superior who is ten yrs my senior, asked me why im not hitched yet. think that he tried to intro another ger to me, i shun the idea away. -
Have you heard about the saying?Originally posted by pipi & poot-poot:If its so difficult 2 4get her...den dun
But try 2 remember e gd times oni...& b fair 2 e other fair-ladies out there
One of them is destined 4 u so if u dun pick urslf up..u'r lettin her down 2
Doesn't seem too fair...does it?
If the old does goes how will the new one comes?
Something like that rights?
So for now, don't force or remind yourself to forget her... just march to your own tune.
It sounds easy rights? I've been through it and share it with you... though i'll still kinda remember him but you know its all in the past. they are getting on so well without us so whats the point of lingering to them?
and pipi&poot-poot says One of them is destined 4 u so if u dun pick urslf up..u'r lettin her down 2
... i felt that its right. if you don't pick yourself up, how's the right girl gonna appear in your life? Think about it and through determination you can do it man!