Po Tong Ja Lan Right or Wrong?
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100% agree... is morally wrong to woo someone who is attached, no matter if she/he is married or not.Originally posted by angrynor:actually i think thats crap...
even if the relationship is stable, when someone chips in, there is always the chance of being swayed. Its just human nature.
Why go break up some couple?
Would you like it when you are in a good, long relationship and someone comes over and starting wooing your gf/bf like mad?
Wont you be swayed if you are the one being wooed, and the other party is rich/handsome/pretty what so ever?
Bottom line is why go break someone up
even if u love her like u cant live w/o her.. n one day if u finally managed to win her over.. wouldnt u be afraid that another person who is better than u can win her over too? and do u think this kind of gal's characteristic is "right" to be ur long term gf/ wife-to-be? believe in retribution manz... -
Currently, I am not attached yet, but there's this girl who I like in class. Almost everyone in class know about this matter, as once or twice, me and her went out, and some people in class saw us together and spread the news ard.Originally posted by nightlord24:my malay not very gd pls 4give me if i spell it wrongly lol~
Personally i think is ok ,if not married is anybody's game. Anyway i think if you treat your bf/gf good ah you wun be afraid of PTJL. Like my friend's gf will tell him about it if there is some other guy who wanted to woo her.
Want to see everyone's opinion
Recently, a close fren of my in class told me that he like her too. I actually had guessed long ago because he was basically clinging on to her most of the time, and after school will always get her 2 go out to eat with him. It was ard the same time my father and sis were admitted into hospital one after the other, and I was shuttling my way frm school to hospital every day, and basically became less close with the girl. I was just a little pissed that he admitted to me only after having denied he liked that gal many times when I asked him about it. I had told him before that I don't mind him admitting straight in my face that he liked her, but he always denied it, until one day he finally admit. Prior to that, he had liked two other different gals in my class, and on both times, he gave up after failing to win them.
After knowing that he liked her, I kinda kept my distance from the girl, because I felt that the guy is much better than me in many ways, and that he stood a better chance than me in winning her. I know this type of thinking is wrong, but from young I had always been like that. Its hard 2 change. The girl, had on two separate occasions told me over MSN that she felt that she and I had kinda drifted away, and asked me what's wrong. The first time, I told her that it was because I was busy with my father's and sister's matters, while the second time, I told her that it was because the guy was always talking to her, and I cannot find the opportunity to barge into their conversation. She told me to just join in the conversation next time.
A lot of people in my class felt indigant on my part, saying that the guy is wrong to potong jalan, although I personally felt that since she and I are not in a relationship, it is alrite for him to go and fight for his happiness. I myself don't know if its wrong or not, but they say that since he had known long ago I liked the gal, he should have wisely backed off.
I don't know if I am contributing to this topic or not, but I just wanna get this off my chest, because I had been troubled by it. I know that I either back off now, or fight for my own happiness, yet, with each passing day, it seems that I am choosing the former. Should I or shouldn't I? -
Seriously, I don't understand the "karma" issue here. Afterall, you doing it and others doing to you are mutually exclusive events. Even if you didn't do it, there's nothing to suggest someone else wouldn't try to break up your relationship?Originally posted by Cool-gal:its morally wrong.
believe in karma & retribution.
To suggest breaking up another couple could yield someone breaking up your relationship eventually is no different from suggesting you robbing someone would culminate in you being robbed in return... -
Why are you moving backstage and turning weak...? Because you feel he's much better than you....?Originally posted by nanren4ever:Currently, I am not attached yet, but there's this girl who I like in class. Almost everyone in class know about this matter, as once or twice, me and her went out, and some people in class saw us together and spread the news ard.
Recently, a close fren of my in class told me that he like her too. I actually had guessed long ago because he was basically clinging on to her most of the time, and after school will always get her 2 go out to eat with him. It was ard the same time my father and sis were admitted into hospital one after the other, and I was shuttling my way frm school to hospital every day, and basically became less close with the girl. I was just a little pissed that he admitted to me only after having denied he liked that gal many times when I asked him about it. I had told him before that I don't mind him admitting straight in my face that he liked her, but he always denied it, until one day he finally admit. Prior to that, he had liked two other different gals in my class, and on both times, he gave up after failing to win them.
After knowing that he liked her, I kinda kept my distance from the girl, because I felt that the guy is much better than me in many ways, and that he stood a better chance than me in winning her. I know this type of thinking is wrong, but from young I had always been like that. Its hard 2 change. The girl, had on two separate occasions told me over MSN that she felt that she and I had kinda drifted away, and asked me what's wrong. The first time, I told her that it was because I was busy with my father's and sister's matters, while the second time, I told her that it was because the guy was always talking to her, and I cannot find the opportunity to barge into their conversation. She told me to just join in the conversation next time.
A lot of people in my class felt indigant on my part, saying that the guy is wrong to potong jalan, although I personally felt that since she and I are not in a relationship, it is alrite for him to go and fight for his happiness. I myself don't know if its wrong or not, but they say that since he had known long ago I liked the gal, he should have wisely backed off.
I don't know if I am contributing to this topic or not, but I just wanna get this off my chest, because I had been troubled by it. I know that I either back off now, or fight for my own happiness, yet, with each passing day, it seems that I am choosing the former. Should I or shouldn't I?
I think you should 'fight' for her... At least be fair to yourself and to her too... At least give her a chance to choose... By stepping out, you're depriving her of a chance... To choose what she really want...? -
yeah yeah i agree too!Originally posted by Devil1976:Why are you moving backstage and turning weak...? Because you feel he's much better than you....?
I think you should 'fight' for her... At least be fair to yourself and to her too... At least give her a chance to choose... By stepping out, you're depriving her of a chance... To choose what she really want...?