Are the moderators here certified?
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but isnt it funny u quoted tis n still asking for appointment? now who is attempting to have r/s?Originally posted by viciouskitty74:why dont we do this.
You, me, at the professional's office.
I let you have the honour to prove my appropriateness and will offer my apologies for my 'unappropriateness' when its confirmed by the professional.
I let you choose the professional. i choose the time.
game? or no honour?
Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Who are the moderators and what is their role?
Long time ago, at other forums. We had moderators who goes around giving advises, asking some gals out and attempting to have relationships with the troubled gals.
Then we had moderators that make use of their standing in the forum. Ie...being a moderator so means must be knowledgeable enough to critisise, heckle & muddle issues to their favours...
How many can swear by their own honour/professions/trainings n this forum? -
why? is devil a male? and he is too good to show up?Originally posted by 798:
But strange that you linked it up.....
Settle privately. as advised by FI. or FI advise is xuete? -
xuete! devil got a date!!!
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Better not tell you-know-who.Originally posted by FireIce:xuete! devil got a date!!!
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yah....but whats the chances devil will stood it up?Originally posted by FireIce:xuete! devil got a date!!! -
like are you highly intoxicated or something?
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just too freezing cold and cant sleep.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:like are you highly intoxicated or something? -
I can't stand cold.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:just too freezing cold and cant sleep.
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its fracking 2 degrees now.Originally posted by DeadPoet:I can't stand cold.
and i dont like to sleep all bundled up in sweaters and fleece pants. -
something elseOriginally posted by Devil1976:Really? How come?
Not because of this topic I hope...?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=239727
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vk in sg?
i tot from ur sig ur in the states. -
ISO9001 FTW!!!! ALL mod should take the course!!
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Hmm. I've read through the linked thread and it's, um, interesting.
Speaking not only as a practicing psychologist but as someone who's worked with abused children for years, I'll come at this from a practicioner's perspective.
I agree with kitty that textbook answers don't really offer much help. However, generalising from personal experiences is precipitous as well, and if the person you're trying to help thinks you're being ignorant, you'll be shoved well behind square one.
The fact is that the motivation for self-harm varies on a case-by-case basis. Yes, some people are just drama queens, and in such cases an REBT approach, such as kitty's SIA girl example, might work. On the other hand, REBT, when used in the wrong situation, can lead to things going pear-shaped very rapidly. For that matter, any approach used in the wrong context will produce detrimental results.
This leads to the point that, as a rule, any competent practicioner would know to perform some proper fact-finding before attempting to generate solutions. Self-harm (or any observed behaviour) is only the symptom, not the problem itself. Fix one symptom and another will pop up to take its place.
The underlying problem also dictates how effective the solution is. The DSM-IV (the diagnostic bible) lists self-harm as a diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. A BPD person would be highly unlikely to have any interest in being a flying waitress for SIA, or any other airline for that matter.
The bottom line is that what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander, and jumping off the mark to close one door isn't going to do any good if the rest of the building's on fire. You always need to make a point to find out what's going on before offering solutions - doing so too early is just a waste of time.
Anyway, for what it's worth (about a hundred bucks by the reckoning of the APS), that's a professional's take on this debate. -
-_-'~Originally posted by FireIce:xuete! devil got a date!!! -
Oh.. Every individual's entitled to their own opinion I think?Originally posted by laurence82: -
Thanks... Pls try to claim from 'admin' of Sgforums if you find that desirable..?Originally posted by Gedanken:Hmm. I've read through the linked thread and it's, um, interesting.
Speaking not only as a practicing psychologist but as someone who's worked with abused children for years, I'll come at this from a practicioner's perspective.
I agree with kitty that textbook answers don't really offer much help. However, generalising from personal experiences is precipitous as well, and if the person you're trying to help thinks you're being ignorant, you'll be shoved well behind square one.
The fact is that the motivation for self-harm varies on a case-by-case basis. Yes, some people are just drama queens, and in such cases an REBT approach, such as kitty's SIA girl example, might work. On the other hand, REBT, when used in the wrong situation, can lead to things going pear-shaped very rapidly. For that matter, any approach used in the wrong context will produce detrimental results.
This leads to the point that, as a rule, any competent practicioner would know to perform some proper fact-finding before attempting to generate solutions. Self-harm (or any observed behaviour) is only the symptom, not the problem itself. Fix one symptom and another will pop up to take its place.
The underlying problem also dictates how effective the solution is. The DSM-IV (the diagnostic bible) lists self-harm as a diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. A BPD person would be highly unlikely to have any interest in being a flying waitress for SIA, or any other airline for that matter.
The bottom line is that what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander, and jumping off the mark to close one door isn't going to do any good if the rest of the building's on fire. You always need to make a point to find out what's going on before offering solutions - doing so too early is just a waste of time.
Anyway, for what it's worth (about a hundred bucks by the reckoning of the APS), that's a professional's take on this debate.
And don't say I say one ok...?
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Kitty, your answer. Pls let me know when you find it find appropriate to close this thread?
Thanks.Originally posted by Gedanken:Hmm. I've read through the linked thread and it's, um, interesting.
Speaking not only as a practicing psychologist but as someone who's worked with abused children for years, I'll come at this from a practicioner's perspective.
I agree with kitty that textbook answers don't really offer much help. However, generalising from personal experiences is precipitous as well, and if the person you're trying to help thinks you're being ignorant, you'll be shoved well behind square one.
The fact is that the motivation for self-harm varies on a case-by-case basis. Yes, some people are just drama queens, and in such cases an REBT approach, such as kitty's SIA girl example, might work. On the other hand, REBT, when used in the wrong situation, can lead to things going pear-shaped very rapidly. For that matter, any approach used in the wrong context will produce detrimental results.
This leads to the point that, as a rule, any competent practicioner would know to perform some proper fact-finding before attempting to generate solutions. Self-harm (or any observed behaviour) is only the symptom, not the problem itself. Fix one symptom and another will pop up to take its place.
The underlying problem also dictates how effective the solution is. The DSM-IV (the diagnostic bible) lists self-harm as a diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. A BPD person would be highly unlikely to have any interest in being a flying waitress for SIA, or any other airline for that matter.
The bottom line is that what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander, and jumping off the mark to close one door isn't going to do any good if the rest of the building's on fire. You always need to make a point to find out what's going on before offering solutions - doing so too early is just a waste of time.
Anyway, for what it's worth (about a hundred bucks by the reckoning of the APS), that's a professional's take on this debate. -
So why am I named a murderer when I said suicide is an option?Originally posted by Gedanken:You've got to be a real skinflint if you're looking for professional advice on a free forum. -
"dot dot"
this is sgforum!! got certified??
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BTW, post back into the actual thread can you.Originally posted by Gedanken:Hmm. I've read through the linked thread and it's, um, interesting.
Speaking not only as a practicing psychologist but as someone who's worked with abused children for years, I'll come at this from a practicioner's perspective.
I agree with kitty that textbook answers don't really offer much help. However, generalising from personal experiences is precipitous as well, and if the person you're trying to help thinks you're being ignorant, you'll be shoved well behind square one.
The fact is that the motivation for self-harm varies on a case-by-case basis. Yes, some people are just drama queens, and in such cases an REBT approach, such as kitty's SIA girl example, might work. On the other hand, REBT, when used in the wrong situation, can lead to things going pear-shaped very rapidly. For that matter, any approach used in the wrong context will produce detrimental results.
This leads to the point that, as a rule, any competent practicioner would know to perform some proper fact-finding before attempting to generate solutions. Self-harm (or any observed behaviour) is only the symptom, not the problem itself. Fix one symptom and another will pop up to take its place.
The underlying problem also dictates how effective the solution is. The DSM-IV (the diagnostic bible) lists self-harm as a diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. A BPD person would be highly unlikely to have any interest in being a flying waitress for SIA, or any other airline for that matter.
The bottom line is that what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander, and jumping off the mark to close one door isn't going to do any good if the rest of the building's on fire. You always need to make a point to find out what's going on before offering solutions - doing so too early is just a waste of time.
Anyway, for what it's worth (about a hundred bucks by the reckoning of the APS), that's a professional's take on this debate.
This thread is still a question of whether the moderators here has certification to back up their advises and are they infalliable.
$100 to date a professional and devil. I can afford it. -
why not ask that question to all the threadstarters?Originally posted by Devil1976:Kitty, your answer. Pls let me know when you find it find appropriate to close this thread?
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Got airplane, can fly.Originally posted by lageihsif:vk in sg?
i tot from ur sig ur in the states. -
Nope, I've given out more than enough freebies for a single issue. I've covered the key points and anything else is a waste of time.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:BTW, post back into the actual thread can you.
This thread is still a question of whether the moderators here has certification to back up their advises and are they infalliable.
$100 to date a professional and devil. I can afford it.
As for the question, as I've said, it's a moot point. Read my first post again to work out why.
As for a date, it's gonna cost you a helluva lot more than that. The members on the forum who know me personally know that my tastes lean towards top-shelf. -
I understand that there might be some certified moderators... Just take those sensible advice from the serious moderators...
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great....then they can personally introduce me to you.Originally posted by Gedanken:Nope, I've given out more than enough freebies for a single issue. I've covered the key points and anything else is a waste of time.
As for the question, as I've said, it's a moot point. Read my first post again to work out why.
As for a date, it's gonna cost you a helluva lot more than that. The members on the forum who know me personally know that my tastes lean towards top-shelf.
its always good to know who can stand by their words. Or at least willing to back up their words with actual knowledge of a subject with proofs of their profession/trainings & experiences.
And top shelf taste? Raffles Hotel Kobe beef? cigars & wine? Ball room dancing? drifting a Honda Roadster? (You can drift a BMW I will be interested to see! Even go there as your fan club.)