Let her go if I were you.....you dont want to be a rebound or a subsitute....or at least until she sort herself outOriginally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
Giving her attention and showering her with love is not really dealing directly with the root of her problem...Originally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
yawn.Originally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
this is the best advice....give ur gf more time n space ba....she needs it...Originally posted by cheekycheng:my guess is give the both of u time n space... think thru everything without the presence of each other, maybe u will realize something more about it...
gd luck
u got the same nick as my brother sia.Originally posted by lengkia:agree... get sex den byebye..
if cannot... den other ways.. must make her regret..
she's selfish by doing so to you.. so anything u do later.. ur not the one who's wrong..
keep her by ur side.. body w/o heart also can..
mentally torture her.. make sure if u cant have her others also cant..![]()
Originally posted by browniebaobao:u got the same nick as my brother sia.
if u were my brother, i sure give u a lecture.
Originally posted by lengkia:agree... get sex den byebye..
if cannot... den other ways.. must make her regret..
she's selfish by doing so to you.. so anything u do later.. ur not the one who's wrong..
keep her by ur side.. body w/o heart also can..
mentally torture her.. make sure if u cant have her others also cant..![]()
pls..die..Originally posted by lengkia:agree... get sex den byebye..
if cannot... den other ways.. must make her regret..
she's selfish by doing so to you.. so anything u do later.. ur not the one who's wrong..
keep her by ur side.. body w/o heart also can..
mentally torture her.. make sure if u cant have her others also cant..![]()
its norm la... u jz need to help her forget him lo... bring her to counsellor lo or u tok to her and ask her wats so great abt it lo..Originally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
chill... maybe u havent make enuff impact yet lo...Originally posted by bigdeal:i have already told her we should break up. she only kept quiet. she said she already made up her mind to be with me. she said she tried forgetting him but she cant. i really dunno wat to do to make her feel better. leaving her now and letting her be with the guy will somehow end up the same i assume. sigh, yea, i am so f.ucked right now