gf keeps thinking abt ex.
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She say that she want to be with you, but how you know if it is a genuine case whereby she likes you and not just want to stick by you just because you're treating her too nice and she's feeling bad about it?
Something you might want to ask her is what exactly does she want. If she is just your gf because she feels bad about you giving her the attention, it is better to be friends, no point in staying with her. It's not fair to you. If not, give her time.
btw, what's with the "his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up."? Are they intending to try and see if she can patch up with her ex or what? Ask her what exactly she wants. Why is she afraid of regret? Could be some issue with her insecurity, if it is, only she herself can deal with it. -
hi all thanks for the input. i decided to stay by her. and also told her if one day she really cant, let me know. i know its gonna be draggy.. i did told her i want to bring her to a conunsoller. she just brush off the idea haa..
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u shld b glad at least she frank with u..Originally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
but her heart is not with u so being together also pointless -
screw her hard before she leaves u.
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You maybe need to show her you are even better than her ex so that she can make up her mind about you and forget about her ex. Show your value as a man, or she will just walk all over you and step over your heart
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Give her time... Show her a new life which you can present to her....Originally posted by bigdeal:hi all thanks for the input. i decided to stay by her. and also told her if one day she really cant, let me know. i know its gonna be draggy.. i did told her i want to bring her to a conunsoller. she just brush off the idea haa.. -
Dumbass....
1st) Dun tell the gerl to break up wif u la...will only confuse her more....
2nd) Gerls are more emotional, they can forgive but never forget....u need to give her support and shower her with more TLC....
3rd) Take things easy....dun force her to make any decision.
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sorry to say that that is a bad sign if your gf is thinking about her ex. speak to her on how this affect you and ask her if she needs time to sort things out, if so you give her time. Later, you could make decision whether to go on with her or not.Originally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
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Give her more time to think and sort out her feelings. Even if u both go ur seperate ways for now, let her know u'll be around (and not just disappear from her life). U can decide whether or not to get back together when both parties have a clear mind.. it'll be easier on both of u tooOriginally posted by bigdeal:Hi, my gf keeps on thinking abt her ex bf. his ex bf frens told her that he is very sad after the break up. initially i told her, that she still can be frens wif him, still can go out together in a group etc..
yesterday she cried, she was reluctant to tell me why, so i mention abt him and after some persistantance from me, she said she cant forget him. she added, she is afraid of regret. i told her to break up wif me.. i was very disapponted and sad.
though we r still togeter AT THE MOMENT. i dunno how long it will last. i dun feel any sense of security honestly becoz we broke and patch before, becoz of that ex. i know she loves him more too.
wat shoudl i do? i make her happy everytime we're together, she knows that. i tried making her stop thinking of him by showering her wif love and attention. is it JUST TOO BAD?
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f*ck her then f*ck her off. girls are so f*cked up; 'i'm being with A but I keep thinking about B' how nice of me.